

Charting Toward Intimacy
Ellen Holloway
Looking for answers to the questions you don't want to Google? Not sure where to get help when your sexual life is on the rocks and everything the secular culture has to offer is only making things worse? Welcome to Charting Toward Intimacy where you learn to actually enjoy and desire good, holy sex with your spouse. Hosted by Ellen Holloway, Catholic Sex and Intimacy Coach.
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Apr 7, 2025 • 15min
How Do I Find Time For Sex? | Ep. 215
Check out our courses and guides at Vinesinfullbloom.com/coursesIn this episode Ellen addresses the common concern of finding time for sex in the midst of busy modern lives filled with jobs, kids, and various commitments. Ellen emphasizes that we find time for what we prioritize, comparing the scheduling of sex to the commitment of attending Mass. She encourages listeners to evaluate their weekly activities, prioritize sex, and follow through on these priorities to enhance their marital intimacy. Ellen suggests practical steps, including scheduling and hierarchical prioritization, and reassures listeners to trust in God's provision of time and capacity.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

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Mar 31, 2025 • 31min
How Do I Figure Out What I Want? | Ep. 214
In this discussion, Kathleen Chavanes, a semi-regular co-host with insights on Catholic intimacy, explores the complexities of expressing sexual desires within marriage. She emphasizes effective communication and shares personal anecdotes on navigating difficult discussions with partners. The importance of setting the right mood for intimate conversations is highlighted, along with the power of positive thinking. Listeners are encouraged to embrace imagination as a tool for enhancing intimacy and managing sexual arousal.

Mar 24, 2025 • 7min
Feeling Distracted? Try Storytelling | Ep. 213
Need help getting in the mood for sex. Your answer is the getting in the mood guide, right hereEllen discusses the challenge of staying present during sex and introduces the concept of storytelling as a helpful technique. She clarifies the difference between storytelling and role-playing, emphasizing the importance of maintaining the dignity of the act in accordance with Catholic faith. Ellen provides examples of how couples can use their imagination to create engaging scenarios and memories to enhance intimacy. She also mentions a new guide available for more tips on getting in the mood using imaginative and morally appropriate methods.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Mar 17, 2025 • 31min
It's Actually Not Okay to Read Romance Novels and Watch Bridgerton | Ep. 212
Check out the Getting in the Mood Guide Here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the appropriateness of Catholic women consuming romance novels and PG-13/R-rated media like Bridgerton and Game of Thrones. They explore the potential negative impact such content can have on brain chemistry, intimacy, and marital relationships. The hosts offer practical advice on recognizing and eliminating detrimental media from one's life, emphasize the importance of using one's imagination positively, and recommend using spiritually enriching content like Song of Songs to foster intimacy. They also introduce a forthcoming 'Getting in the Mood' guide to help women find morally acceptable ways to enhance their marital intimacy.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Mar 10, 2025 • 14min
That's a Really Hard Sell | Ep. 211
Get the FREE Foreplay Foundations Course right here!In this episode, Ellen discusses the challenges of communicating and embracing the Church's teachings on Natural Family Planning (NFP) and marital intimacy. She reflects on a personal conversation with a family member who acknowledged that NFP is a 'hard sell.' Ellen delves into the difficulties of living out these teachings, the role of suffering in the Christian life, and how enduring these challenges can ultimately lead to spiritual growth and redemption. She encourages listeners to remain steadfast in their faith and commitments, despite the inherent struggles.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

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Mar 3, 2025 • 29min
Fight for Connection | Ep. 210
Kathleen Chabanis, a semi-regular co-host and insightful voice on relationships, dives into the crucial topic of marital connection. She discusses how intentionally cultivating habits, like prayer and connection rituals, can rejuvenate intimacy. The pair emphasize small acts, such as cuddling and evening walks, as essential to combat disconnection. They highlight that persistence in these efforts, likened to daily prayer, can yield powerful transformations in relationships. Tune in for strategies to enhance your sex life and foster deeper bonds!

Feb 24, 2025 • 17min
What if I Just Don't Really Like Sex? | Ep. 209
Get the FREE Foreplay Foundations Course Here!Ellen addresses common questions and concerns about sexual desire within marriage. She discusses the significance of sex as a renewal of wedding vows and as a way to image the Trinity, emphasizing the importance of intentionality and respect toward the sexual union in marriage. Ellen explores how apathy towards sex can harm relationships and underscores the holy and essential nature of sex within a Catholic marriage.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

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Feb 17, 2025 • 29min
Lovemaking with Monica and Renzo Ortega | Ep. 208
Monica Ortega, co-host of the To Become Family podcast and co-author of 'Lovemaking,' joins her husband Renzo to share insights on intimacy in marriage. They discuss the importance of communication and openness, especially for newlyweds. Personal stories highlight the struggles many couples face early on, while their book aims to foster dialogue about sensitive topics like sexual intimacy. The duo emphasizes that emotional connection can enhance physical relationships, offering guidance to strengthen partnerships.

Feb 10, 2025 • 41min
Who Told You That Sex Should Be Effortless? | Ep. 207
Transform your sex life with 7 essential conversations - Get Let's Talk About "It"Ellen and Kathleen tackle the common misconceptions about sex and intimacy within marriage, particularly the idea that sex should be effortless. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses

Feb 3, 2025 • 7min
Is Making Out OK While Abstaining? | Ep. 206
NEW Course Let's Talk About "It" is available NOW!Ellen addresses the question of whether it is okay for couples to make out while trying to avoid pregnancy during the fertile window. She explains the role of sexual arousal in preparing the body for sex and discusses the potential physical and emotional discomfort of arousing each other without the intention to have sex. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses


