Outlier's Edge Podcast with Niiamah Ashong

Focus on continual success: The story of the two-finger handhold... #notanimposter #storytime #mytrailblazerjourney #worldjoy

Hi! My name is Niiamah Ashong and I’m an imposter... https://niiamahashong.com/tribe

How to give the worst presentation of your life! (it’s easier than you think!!) --- I’m currently enrolling for 2 programs that start in January 2020 for which I’m incredibly proud and excited. I want to give you an opportunity to join us and immerse yourself in the unique communities of practice we create so you can experience and bring all of you to your life, work, and impact. 1) Trailblazer Oasis This program is for people who know that they are unique and different from other people AND want to leverage more of who they are to lead themselves and others to the next level of impact. A Trailblazer is someone who is willing to go through the risky, uncertain, and uncharted wilderness in order to make the path easier for others in future. The Oasis is your haven from it all to rejuvenate and recalibrate amongst a group of peers who challenge, champion, and change with you along your journey. You have a purpose, a mission, a message, and a vision of a future that is distrinct from the past. You aren’t interested in simply improving the status quo - you’re looking to transform the status quo towards a possibility few even realize. You have already been playing a "big game" in the eyes of other people in terms of impact, influence, and income, but you know that there is the next league you want to play at (and are having trouble consistently showing up that way). The Trailblazer Oasis is a Community of Practice specifically designed to help you authentically and powerfully lead others to a higher level of impact by up-leveling yourself in ways that are in integrity with you, your values, and your unique talents. We address the three most common challenges we find holding Trailblazers back - being misunderstood, being misaligned, and being mistaken that they are alone and need to do it a certain way to be successful. By the end of this 9 month Community of Practice, you’ll have transformed in several areas including: + Your Vision + Your Strategy + Your Mindset + Your Unique Talents + Your Energy + Your Tribe + Your Leadership + Your Next Level + Your Impact + Your Visibility + Your Support + Your Story + Your Platform + Your Message + Your Profit Individual clients who have gone through their personal Trailblazer Oasis program have seen results including: + Sharing their message to a 500-person audience within 1 mknth + Being featured on a TV show (and now...) + Hosting their own TV show + Launching their first group program/course + Posting their first Live videos + Enrolled high-level corporate clients + Organizing their first online communities + Speaking on panels and podcasts + and much more While these results are great, what makes this program unique is that each person is ACTIVELY CREATING THEIR VERSION OF THE FUTURE TODAY! They aren’t waiting to get their message out. They aren’t held back by the sheer size of their vision. And they aren’t wasting energy creating things that aren’t aligned with their vision because of someone else’s system. Instead They are creating the impact they want to see in larger waves in the future with the world they are in and are getting opportunities to take it to higher levels and more people at an Exponential rate. WARNING: If you choose to join us, please be aware that some goals might come faster than you had expected. And others may not come at all, in service of something more aligned with what you truly want to create. I am an expert at supporting people in creating community, impact, and transformation through their unique personality. The Trailblazer Oasis is limited to 10 Trailblazers and is starting in January 2020. This is designed as a group of peers, so you can join by invitation, referral, or application only If you are ready to take your unique impact to the next level, then we should talk. Send me a message and we can explore from there. 2) Unapologetically You This program is all about practicing how you can Be More You for you. At

Listen to the full episode here https://empjoyment.com One week into reclaiming and owning exactly who I am (and have always been)

Welcome to "Too much" May! Yesterday at a dinner with my wife and two of my best friends in Singapore, I got triggered and triggered hard. I found myself feeling misunderstood, angry, and confused in the moment right in the middle of an otherwise amazing dinner. I am grateful to have done enough work to recognize being in the triggered state, but I was completely in its grasp as I fought to be understood and shut down conversations in order to try and protect myself from further pain. What caused this? Someone at the table said something along the lines of “BUT Nemo that’s YOUR style. You’re A LOT!”. The capitalization is how I heard it in my head. And how that translated to me was that I was being dismissed, shunned, and my accomplishments minimized because of my ability to do and be different. It turns out after talking through the incident further, it wasn’t at all the intention (no capital letters involved). Rather than trying to diminish me, the comment was meant to raise me up and shine a light on some of the awesomeness that was needed to show up in my own style. I just couldn’t hear it. It simply didn’t compute. There was just one way for that statement to be interpreted in my mind at the time. And it was to my own detriment. When I woke up this morning, I no longer felt misunderstood, angry, or confused. Instead, I felt embarrassed. Embarrassed for my behavior. Embarrassed for my wife for having been a witness and at times a target on it. Embarrassed as a leader of Outliers, Pioneers, and Mavericks for not having the presence of mind and emotional capacity to not get triggered. I have an amazing wife though and through an early morning reflection with her, I felt a new emotion: happiness. Happiness because yesterday had exposed a blind spot that I was unaware of: I have a low capacity for receiving and seeing myself as “a lot” or “too much” in a positive way. Happiness because with that awareness I could actively begin the work that I lead my clients through to Discover-> Embrace -> Leverage -> Appreciate new elements of my uniqueness to capture the value in it. So, I’m not trying to *accept* that I am too much. Nay, I am taking it further. I want to be celebrated and valued for being too much. I’m often afraid that I am playing too small. I can see how I’m trapping myself under a “too much” ceiling. It’s time to break down and break through. I know it’s possible and it’s my next level of growth. So I hereby declare this “Too Much May”. I am actively coming from a place of being, doing, and having too much and finding the positive gifts in all of it. “Too much” is my filter this month. Demi Langford-McConkie said it best: “It’s either Too Much or not at all”. — How you can help: If you want to participate or help with this, you can do so by sharing your own experiences with feeling too much along the way AND the gifts that come from it. You can also call out times when I am coming off as being too much for you. Be as specific as possible. Heads up, I won’t be apologizing for it or express gratitude . Instead I will simply say “You’re Welcome”. And leave it at that. This is my practice. I choose to be visible in service of myself and others. Game on! https://nemoashong.com

What Support do you Need to Acheive your Next Level (Live Coaching Nemo Ashong)

5 hidden traps that have kept me from playing at my next level Outsights from session 2 of the Next Level Masterclass. ---an invitation --- I have decided to open up the doors to the Masterclass beyond my list to create an opportunity for people who are serious and craving to play a bigger game. Https://niiamahashong.com/nlm I can offer this easily because each session is a live experience where we work on your fears, desires, challenges, and possibilities to get you playing into your next level now. This is not for everyone by design. Come if you are ready to play at your next level or you are tired of settling for your current level. Don’t come if you aren’t interested in doing the work - I’ll find another way to serve you later.

Lonliness. It’s the hidden cost to being a leader, being unique, playing at my next level, and honestly just plain old being myself. It’s the payment to enter higher realms of impact, growth, and contribution that I have been hesitant to pay. It’s a fact of choosing to belong to yourself first. If you play it all out, the best way to stand out is to be yourself because there’s only one of you out there. There’s only 1 in 7+ BILLION PEOPLE who is you. Of course it’s going to be lonely! I honestly didn’t get that until 5 mins before sharing this here. The path to being yourself, to experience true and wholesome freedom and security, to make your highest impact, and to influence and lead change in your world is inherently lonely. And the story I tell myself is that "being lonely means being unloved." The cold hard truth of it is that at the level of allowing myself to be me in the world, I’m actually finding that: a) I love myself more (and I think I’m legit awesome) b) I love and have the capacity to love others more and c) I am loved by others more. I’m going to unpack c) more because that’s the external result I internally craved and the external ceiling I keep bumping into. I am loved by others "more". 1) "More" through the lens of "Scale": There absolute value of people who love me continues to grow daily. And it directly ties/ feeds back into my capacity for love. The greater my capacity for love, the more love comes my way. 2) "More" through the lens of "Depth": This is one of the thing I’ve been fighting for in my life recently. Where Scaled Love speaks to being "well-known", Deep Love speaks to being "know - well". The people who choose to love me, choose to do so for the true and unapologetic me as I currently am and as I am becoming. There’s no more "code-switching". I’m not burdened by having to diminish myself in order to make others feel safe. I am not drained by having to be multiple things to multiple people - and then keeping each part of my life compartmentalized for sake of being exposed (this one came fastest for me to be). I don’t have to be a "chameleon" and change who I am to match your world. Instead, I welcome you to my world. I welcome you as you are and as you are becoming. I welcome you to be courageous and thrive beyond safety. I welcome you to be in integrity with yourself. Whole, complete, and unapologetic. Everyday I create a world where we can be unique together. Where we can be authentic together. Where we can be lonely together. Where we can simply BE together. My name is Nemo Ashong. Most people see me as personable, friendly, joyous, and so much more. And what they don’t see is that on the inside I’m lonely. What I now know is that feeling alone, being alone, and feeling lonely isn’t a good or a bad thing. It comes down to the stories I tell myself. And I’m choosing to listen to stories that bring us all together - as seperate, unique, and legit awesome people who can be as one, not in spite of but because of what makes us different. Here’s to being more you everyday because you are the difference. Game on! (Special thanks to Hayden Lee, Luisa Molano, and Chris Joseph for helping me embrace something that I thought was holding me back rather than helping me forward)

“You don’t have to fight for the best when you are willing to be the only.” Reclaiming my power with Being Lonely. Lesson from Sapa, Vietnam

Meta time: a live about going live There’s a reason why I choose to go live and to create videos. It’s not because of Facebook reach. Most people aren’t even awake when I go live. It’s because it’s one of the most effortless ways for me to get my thought leadership out in the world. No one gave me permission and even if the “reach” went down, I would still choose to leverage this medium because it’s a natural vehicle for me. And I get 100X relative value from it: 10X the results of most people for 10% of the energy. (Now it’s math time: 10/0.1=100) Some of my clients leverage in-person dinners, others podcasts, others speaking, some blogging, others recorded live workshops, and some choose word of mouth /referrals. Discover it. Embrace it. Leverage it. And Appreciate it’s value by getting better at it. What’s your 100X thought leadership vehicle?