Famous at Home

In 2011, Pastor Davey Blackburn moved from South Carolina to Indiana to plant a church with his wife, Amanda. By late 2015, coming back from a staff retreat, Davey and Amanda were feeling encouraged and seeing the church beginning to establish roots. A few days after that retreat, Amanda, who was also pregnant with their second child, was caught up in a home invasion and shot three times. Their son, Weston, who was in his crib at the time of the invasion, was left unharmed. Unfortunately, Amanda died the next day, four years to the day they planted the church.The details of how God showed up, and what emerged out of the pain, was remarkable.Davey joins the show this week to discuss the trauma he endured, his journey toward healing, and how his newly blended family prioritizes being famous at home.What came out of his story is a ministry called Nothing is Wasted. He shares how this ministry began and the purpose behind it: Helping people partner with God to take back their story to find purpose in their pain. They match people all over the globe with someone who also went through a similar pain.In this episode, Davey talks about:
His own grief journey following the murder of his wife and unborn childHow to walk through our own trauma and how Jesus shows up in the middle of our storyWhat he means by “running towards the roar”Why not to look at triggers as the villain, but an invitation by God into deeper healingHow he and his wife Kristi blended their familiesHow they parent through the lens of, “Is this a trauma response,” or “Is this normal childlike behavior?”Show Notes: Text NIW to 66866 for a teaser of the Pain to Purpose devotionalCheck out the Nothing is Wasted podcast and coaching resources: https://www.nothingiswasted.com/The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutLadies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/9DfMUdsy71o

In our fast-paced Western culture, it’s too easy to run to the next “thing” and dismiss the meaning of the previous activity, event, or season. But is this healthy for our souls? Take breastfeeding, for example. Or sending your kids off to kindergarten. Or for your kids, leaving their grandparent's house after an extended vacation. Perhaps moving to a new house. Every one of these moments are beautiful, but also have an end, a transition that includes a goodbye. In this episode, theologian and professor Amy Davis Abdallah joins us to provide a framework for putting meaning to all of the life transitions we experience on a daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly basis. The author of Meaning in the Moment: How Rituals Help Us Move Through Joy, Pain, and Everything in Between, Abdallah describes how rituals can shape our family and form the hearts of our kids.In this episode, Amy describes:The meaning and purpose of a ritualHow we’ve embraced cultural rituals, yet rarely think of them for our own lives Simple ways you can create rituals for your kids to honor life transitionsHow simple rituals can help us hold grief and joy at the same timeShow Notes:Order a copy of Meaning in the Moment by Amy F. Davis Abdallahhttps://amzn.to/3UbfNi7 Gentlemen, apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here:https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

This episode has so much purpose, content, and hope for families. It could even serve as a homeschooling study for your kids. Jordan Raynor says, “Most Christians spend more time thinking about a one-week vacation than they do thinking about eternity…but it inevitably will lead us to settle for these wishy-washy half-truths about heaven.” Raynor goes on to explain, “Here’s why it matters we as adults and parents get this (truths about heaven) right. If we get this right, our kids’ hope for the future will be so much more real and so much more concrete, and their purpose in the present will become so much richer.”If you want a theological education for your kids as it relates to finding their purpose, this episode is absolute gold.If you’re struggling with whether your work has eternal impact, this episode is for you.If you’re looking for a biblical framework for how to set a family vision for building for the Kingdom of God, Raynor provides the path forward.In Jordan’s new book, The Sacredness of Secular Work: 4 Ways Your Job Matters (Even When You’re Not Sharing the Gospel), Raynor defines the terms sacred and secular and why it matters for us, and our children, to understand them. In our conversation, he addresses parents and kids through this lens and cites Charles Spurgeon, who once said, “For the Christian, nothing is secular, and everything is sacred.” Raynor encourages us: “Imagine the freedom if every child understood that when the Holy Spirit is in them, everywhere they go is sacred.”Here are some hot topics we discuss:Your life and work are a vehicle for bringing God eternal pleasureYour life and work matter for eternity because it’s how we earn rewards and eternal treasuresYour life and work matter because through them you scratch off the thin veil between heaven and earthHow you can leverage your life and work to the instrumental end of making disciplesShow Notes: Order a copy of The Sacredness of Secular Work by Jordan Raynor: https://amzn.to/3SngaorGentlemen, apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023:https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartThe MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here:https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutLadies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFzWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/luYGDw6oExM

We live such busy lives that we rarely take the time to evaluate how our kids are experiencing us, their parents, in the environment of our homes. In this episode, our two oldest kids join me (Josh), as I ask them questions about how they experience our parenting. As you listen, our hope isn't that you focus on the content as much as you do the essence of the conversation, so that you, too, can take its format and implement it with your own kids to see what you learn about they experience you.Here are some highlights:Our kids share where they see us doing well as parentsOur kids share where they see we could be doing betterWe also talk about Straub family rhythms, our current stressors, and insights into our weekly family meetingOur kids share with us what they most need from us as parentsBeyond the content of this episode, take the essence of it with you to ask similar questions of your own kidsShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023!https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartThe MyKidsEQ Spring 2024 Cohort launches March 4! Sign up here:https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutInterested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form:https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterestOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFzOrder a copy of Imagine Heaven by John Burke:https://amzn.to/3Hkdf9U

In loving memory of our dear friend, mentor, and father figure, Bill Lokey, we're concluding our 4-part series on the Heart of Leadership (originally recorded in 2020). When we lead, we influence the culture. Whether the culture you're cultivating is at home with your kids, or it's at work, how you show up has a ripple effect on the environment around you.Bill Lokey joins Josh for the final episode in our 4-part series on the Heart of Leadership to talk about the heart of your environment: at home and at work. In part 4, Bill and Josh talk about:The game of spiritual mathematics in relationshipsWhy healthy culture starts with understandingHow we can enter into the stories of those we lead and loveThe multiplying power of making our world smallerWays to cultivate healthy culture both at home and work Show Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023!https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartSign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutInterested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form:https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterestOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

In loving memory of our friend, mentor, and father figure, Bill Lokey, we're in the middle of a four-part series, recorded in 2020, where Bill shares insights on leadership, connection, and trauma.In part 3 of our 4-part series, Bill talks about how trauma influences our heart, soul, and how we lead.Here are some highlights:Why we tend to feel like impostersThe definition of trauma and how it shows up in how we act toward othersThe subtle traumas we may have never labeled as suchHow trauma influences our relationshipsWhy we tend to medicate our trauma and what we use to medicateThe power of feelings in healing the pain from our pastWhy it's so difficult for us to face shame and trauma as an adultPractical ways to face our trauma and show up for those we leadShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023!https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartSign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutInterested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form:https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterestOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

In loving memory of our friend, mentor, and father figure, Bill Lokey, we're releasing this four-part series, recorded in 2020, to share with you again Bill's insights on leadership, connection, and trauma.Bill joins Josh for part 2 of our 4-part series, and this week, we talk about something we all tend to struggle with: meaningful connection and how we show up with those we love.In part 2, Josh and Bill talk about:The barriers to meaningful connection and how we can overcome themShame as a bad motivator for changeHow to silence shame so we can connect deeply with othersHow self-medicators keep us from intimacyWhat it feels like to spend time with someone who really likes youHow to show up for someone you really like spending time withSpiritual disciplines for meaningful connection with GodShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023!https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartSign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutInterested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form:https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterestOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

This past year we lost one of our dearest friends and mentors, Bill Lokey. As we close out the year, we were listening back to some of his wisdom and gold nuggets and thought it would be a tremendous gift to re-release a series we did together in 2020. He was a gift to us, and his insights, wisdom, and influence will continue to echo across generations, no doubt. In his honor, we're releasing this four-part series, recorded in 2020, to share with you again his insights on leadership, connection, and trauma.In part 1 of the series, we begin with the heart of leadership. Because no matter our stage, we lead people. As a parent, you lead your kids. As a spouse, you lead your husband or wife. At work, you lead your employees, congregants, soldiers, clients, and teams.How would each person you lead describe your ability to connect to their reality? And how much do we pay attention to those realities versus focusing solely on our own? As Bill describes, the quality of how well we lead rises or falls on our inner world. And the people we lead, feel it. In this series, we cover The Heart of Leadership, The Heart of Connection, The Heart of Trauma, and The Heart of Your Culture.In this first episode, Josh and Bill talk about:What makes a person a leaderWhat happens when we feel like we're not enough or don't have what it takes to leadWhy we have a tendency to focus more on reputation than characterWhat happens when your stage is ripped out from under youHow to transition well as a leader when bad things happenWhat it means to grieve and why it's critical for how we leadShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023!https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartSign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkoutInterested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form:https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterestOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Did you know that the English word "priority," when it came into the English language, stayed singular for 500 years? Not until the 1900's did we make it plural. As Greg McKeown suggests, the result is quite dangerous. When everything is priority, nothing is priority.As we evaluate our overwhelmed schedule, this one simple exercise has helped us cut through the noise. What is the priority (singular)? This evaluation has led us to make some intentional adjustments, which Christi shares on this week's episode.Here are some takeaways:Practical ways to simplify an overwhelming scheduleHow to not only give yourself permission to do less, but other people around youThe preciousness of time and how we won't get these years back with our kidsWhy Christi is taking a step back and what that looks likeShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, February 26-29, 2024:https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartOrder a copy of 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experiencehttps://amzn.to/47YdliYInterested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form:https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterestThe MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort is officially open for registration! Cohort begins February 5, 2024!Click here to sign up!Order a copy of Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown:https://a.co/d/ek1OaMAOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFzWatch this episode on Youtube!

In honor of Christi's birthday, Josh talks to her about what this milestone means and how she's processing the feeling of entering a new decade of life. Christi shares valuable lessons she's learned over the last several years, what she plans on leaving behind, and what she wants to bring with her into her 40's.Here are some takeaways:Christi's practice of learning to release a high achieving mindset and just let herself "be"How to discern if you're living in your true authentic self, or from your false selfHow refreshing it is for everyone around you, when you can be real and let go of what others think of you, or what you think others think of you.The upside down kingdom of God, and how He makes significant what the world finds unpopularShow Notes:Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheartOrder a copy of 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experiencehttps://amzn.to/3R92zRdOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFzListen to this episode on Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/famousathomepodcast