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Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage. Joining us for a conversation about sex is our dear friend, a licensed marriage and family therapist whose specialization in graduate school was sex therapy, Laura Dugger.In this episode, Laura talks about how sex makes everything better. Wait until you hear the research! With honesty, vulnerability, and a solid dose of fun, Josh and Christi's interview with Laura includes:The hidden benefits of sexHow to talk to your spouse about sexReasons for, and how to, schedule sexIndividual differences when it comes to sexThe God-given purpose of sex in marriage We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformListen to this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/NzgcDR013P0RESOURCES MENTIONED BY LAURA DUGGER: Listen to the Savvy Sauce Podcast! hosted by Laura Duggerhttps://thesavvysauce.com/Dr. Jennifer Konzen podcast episode: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzenhttps://shorturl.at/mPQvW Visit The Art of Intimate Marriage Website: Access to Dr. Konzen's book, podcast, sex therapist training, and a marriage video series.https://www.theartofintimatemarriage.com/Listen to Dr. Douglas Rosenau podcast episode: Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenauhttps://shorturl.at/EfLZ8Read A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau: A guide to enjoying God's gift of sexual intimacyhttps://amzn.to/4cMWVfk Listen to Dr. Michael Sytsma podcast episode: Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsmahttps://shorturl.at/A2pHOListen to Francie Winslow podcast episodes: Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1https://shorturl.at/Mx9Iw Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2https://tinyurl.com/bddr6b58 Listen to Drs. Clifford and Joyce Penner podcast episode: Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Pennerhttps://tinyurl.com/5n897dpn Time stamps:(0:38) Introduction(3:31) An introduction to Laura Dugger(6:00) Laura’s journey into becoming a sex therapist(8:15) Disclaimer about the sex conversation(9:33) Specific ways sex makes everything in your life better(11:28) Biblical foundation for sex(15:45) Addressing body image(21:11) Healthy ways to have conversation about sex(27:30) Common differences in couples(31:08) Purity culture, pornography, and rewiring our brains for healthy connection(33:35) Talking about desire discrepancy and scheduling sex(38:27) Testosterone in women and best time of day for sex(40:40) One piece of advice for husbands(42:44) One piece of advice for wives(44:54) How to know when to reach out for outside support(49:00) The last word

Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.Difficult conversations in marriage are inevitable. Whether it's parenting, sex, holidays, work schedules, or in-laws, all couples deal with "an elephant in the room." How can we best show up in these conversations? In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to talk about hard things in marriage.  Here are some highlights: How to identify your motive when starting a hard conversation and why it’s important.How to set the tone in your conversations.      How to respond to your spouse without flipping your lid.Ways to lead with a team approach and an "us against the world" attitude with your spouse.We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/WQjPuCAACfkTime stamps:(0:15) Introduction(5:21) Hard topics we have in our marriage(6:25) Hard topics: In-laws, holidays, kids, sex, insecurity, habits, schedules, money, faith(9:50) The dance of being offended and flipping into defensive mode(14:56) Defending our idols at the expense of the relationship(18:12) Picking a fight when you need attention(20:03) 1. Start with connection(21:30) 2. Set the tone(23:35) 3. Lead with a team approach(23:24) 4. Own your part(25:00) 5. Come with the solution, not the problem(25:30) How to pray and bring the authority of heaven into the conversation(29:00) We, therefore, I…are you in?(31:15) Subduing division and praying goodness into conversation

Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.What is emotional safety? And how do you cultivate an emotionally safe marriage? In this episode, Josh and Christi define and describe emotional safety, talk about what an elephant is in marriage, and how to be your true self in hard conversations with your spouse.They talk about:Approaching conversations in love rather than fearHaving an "us against the world" mindsetHow to talk to your spouse about feeling emotionally safeWe hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/PWqMTfAmFWQMarriage Coaching with Josh and Christi:https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Time stamps:(0:55) Introduction(3:42) What is emotional safety?(6:48) Evaluating emotional safety in your marriage(11:45) How emotional safety plays itself out in marriage(13:40) Addressing elephants in marriage(14:30) Why we numb and avoid each other(15:48) Introducing safety back into the system(21:18) Emotional safety and relationship with God(21:48) Practical ways to reset nervous system even if your spouse is not on board(24:30) Disclaimer on physical safety(24:58) Continued ways to reset nervous system and introduce safety(27:24) Talking about sex in marriage(31:05) The hope and practical ways of introducing safety back into the marriage(35:25) Taking fear out of a marriage conversation, no matter the topic

Welcome to episode 1 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.  Have you and your spouse ever looked at each other and wondered, "Who did we marry?" Lewis Smedes once said, "My wife has lived with at least five different men since we were wed—and each of the five has been me." It's amazing how much we change: sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better.  In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about the various "seasons" we go through as individuals and how those "seasons" influence our marriage. They also talk about practical ways to enter into your spouse's world in the good, bad, and ugly.  They talk about:  How to prioritize what's going on within your spouse's heart more than what's going on between the two of youWays to empathetically step into your spouse's worldPractical ways to dream with your spouse and offer affirmation  We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/MtMd2VDX9eI  Time stamps:(0:43) Introduction(4:10) The versions of Josh that Christi has been married to(7:57) The single most important decision we make in this life(8:50) How we regulate each other in marriage to get healthy(11:35) The only way you’re going to help your spouse grow(14:30) An example of how to honor your spouse and change yourself(18:40) How our faith influences how we treat our spouse(20:32) Another example of honoring your spouse(22:41) How to affirm and receive affirmations from your spouse(24:29) Embracing curiosity, mystery, and dreaming together(28:24) Navigating the seasons of marriage(31:15) Subscribe to weekly devotional(32:00) Practical exercise for moving forward together(34:55) Getting to the “why” of the interest in the other person

Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. As a parent, what are we truly aiming for? What really is the goal of all this stuff we put into a bucket called “parenting?” And, at a deeper level, have I thought about how my own spiritual journey influences how my children live out their faith and find purpose for how they live their lives? Does this matter to me as I think about how I’m engaging the task of “parenting?”In this episode, Josh talks about what he's learning from his own spiritual journey right now and proposes a developmental spiritual growth model for fathers and mothers that moves us from a journey of being self-focused (fear) to others-focused (joy). They are:Becoming (internal healing and growth).Present (external presence where others feel seen).In community (inviting others into our journey).Show Notes: Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/wMDPVC6BDsc Time stamps:   (0:50) Introduction of topic  (3:28) What really matters when it comes to raising our kids?(6:15) What’s warring against us in raising our children?  (7:08) Josh tells story of a revelation he got and how it’s shifting how he fathers(10:30) Fear, gratitude, and the neurobiology of our experiences based on Philippians 4(14:25) How are we experiencing Jesus in the here-and-now?(15:55) What happens when we pay attention to every detail and person we encounter(18:20) How the study of heaven influences how we parent and interact with others(19:50) Brennan Manning’s insight on true-self versus false-self  (23:40) Introduction of the three stages of spiritual development of a parent(24:14) Stage 1: “Becoming”(28:30) What is the will of God for our lives?  (30:45) Stage 2: “Present”(32:55) Stage 3: “In Community”  (34:30) The types of people we surround ourselves with

Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. In this episode, Christi talks to Josh about honor, our identity as parents, and how the tension of letting our yes be yes and our no be no. This conversation was unscripted and heartfelt, as Christi got to the heart of how Josh sees his role as a father.  Josh and Christi talk about: What it means to honor up and cast vision down through the generations  How to level up what you've been given from your parents without living in denial about the holes that were left from your upbringingLetting your yes be yes and no be no and how to show up for our kids in a way they feel seen  Show Notes: Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home: https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Order a copy of Jon Tyson's book, The Intentional Father: https://amzn.to/3KUyrVQ Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/HAK-G8a5VTg Time stamps:(1:02) Introduction(4:30) Fruitfulness comes with a cost  (6:30) What Josh's dad gave him(9:24) Fatherhood and identity(11:02) The lack of regret when we say yes to our kids (12:12) Honoring our parents  (14:50) Honor doesn’t live in denial (15:00) Why it's important to return blessing to our kids  (18:18) The lesson Josh learned about generational blessing from his grandfather and what each of us can take from it(22:45) Josh talks the greatest lessons he's learned from mentors through the years(24:45) Honor up; cast vision down  (26:56) Josh talks about the vision he has for his family and how to view identity as a parent(30:08) Jesus addressed idols of the day  (32:20) What is your most difficult hurdle as a father right now? On showing up well for our kids  (35:23) As a father, I’m aiming for this one thing...

Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about the single greatest thing to being a better parent. Part of it may have to do with how we greet one another coming in the door, a conversation you don’t want to miss! Through the lens of Christi’s own healing journey, she shares in-depth about what makes her a better mom and what she now sees as the goal of parenting.  Some highlights include: The single greatest thing that’s made Christi a better momWhat the primary goal of parenting really is (and it’s not what you think)Why less is more when it comes to parentingHere are timestamps for each of the topics:  (3:38) What we can learn (and not learn) by how our dogs greet us as we come through the door(10:45) Why teachability matters, especially when looking for a spouse(13:28) The art of giving an appropriate apology  (16:17) Christi discusses what she found to be the single greatest thing to be a better mom(20:18) Christi discusses how she views time with the Lord when it's all hands-on deck with the kids(21:30) Fighting the religious spirit(22:35) Practical ways to get time with God in the mundane moments of the day (28:41) Conversation related to therapy, coaching, and spiritual direction  (30:03) Why does it feel like everyone else talks about Jesus but I don't feel like He's with me?(31:53) What Christi knows now that she wishes she knew when she first became a momShow Notes: Click here to download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series.https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignupLadies, register now for Tender & Fierce! Special pricing ends June 28.http://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceMen, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! Click here.https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformWatch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/Ui9fJqr1QbI

Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.*Note: We originally titled this episode On Motherhood, Healing, and Finding Your Voice. However, we changed the title after the recording because the content is about becoming a calmer parent, and whether you're a mom or dad, the journey to become calmer is for all of us. In this episode, Josh interviews Christi on her 17-year journey of chronic pain and how the healing journey of her physical pain surprisingly taught her things about herself that emotionally helped her become calmer and more present with her kids. Some highlights include:How to overcome difficult seasons of our lives and embrace the gradual process of healingDiscerning between internal or external influences keeping us living in fight or flight modePractical ways we reconnect back to ourselves and how that can help us be a calmer presence for our childrenThe importance of paying attention to what your body needs in small doses  Here are timestamps for each of the topics:(3:23) Honoring Moms(3:54) Josh + Christi’s revealing conversation about how they communicate(7:07) Christi sharing the importance of her finding her voice and sharing what people need to hear(8:06) How our voice is a light on a hill, carrying the Kingdom of God with us wherever we go(9:30) The importance of Mother’s Day and the fuel that Mother’s Day should be for a mother (11:20) Why being told she was “calm” meant so much to Christi and the influence the body has on our emotions(14:40) Christi shares about her 17 years of chronic pain and what she’s learned about how God speaks to us through our bodies(18:15) Why the body cannot heal in a constant state of fight or flight, and how to recognize whether our hurriedness is coming from internal or external influences(20:45) How Christi got “calm” and practical ways become calmer(25:30) How our child's needs can feel unsafe to us, and how to calmly respond to our child's needs instead of reacting to them(30:11) Honor your journey of healing, no matter where you're at on that journey(31:57) Encouragement and a blessing from Christi for where you’re at in your journey right nowShow Notes:Click here to download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series.https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce! Special pricing ends June 28.http://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceMen, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! Click here.https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformWatch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/DvhMoVpUs20

Welcome to our first Summer Series! This is episode 1 of a 5 part series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. In this episode, we address how we can enter into our child's world and build their emotional resilience. We outline 4 pillars that help us lay a foundation for our kids to manage their emotions, connect with Jesus, and feel seen.Here are timestamps for each of the topics. (00:52) Introduction to the Summer Series(1:41) Recap of upcoming FAH happenings (3:31) The state of mental health in kids (8:55) What are the pillars for kids to build emotional resilience? (10:43) Pillar #1: Emotional Safety(18:10) Pillar #2: Learning What the Bible Says(20:29) Pillar #3: Focus on Who You're Becoming(25:45) Pillar #4: Find What Helps Your Kids Feel SeenShow Notes: Click here to download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignupLadies, register now for Tender & Fierce! Special pricing ends June 28.http://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceMen, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! Click here. https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformGet a copy of the Famous at Home book. Click here.https://amzn.to/3yHJheSWatch this episode on Youtube by clicking here. https://youtu.be/-JlA3HlWWhs

What if we stop focusing on problems and cultivated the solution? That’s the question driving a major shift happening with Famous at Home. Josh + Christi are together this week for a behind-the-scenes look at the last few months—the prayer, the wrestle, and the surrender.  In this episode, Josh + Christi talk about the “why” behind the shift, the new offerings coming out as a result, the summer podcast series’, and a new rebrand unveiling this fall!Here’s a timestamp for each of the various topics:  (3:45) The philosophical shift and blueprint of Famous at Home from solving problems by being the solution.(7:20) How the first launch of Tender & Fierce is going and what’s coming up for it this summer.  (11:55) The shift of Famous at Home and how Tender & Fierce is the tip of the spear leading the way both online and in-person.(16:04) The background story of how we surrendered Famous at Home and the upcoming rebrand and mission.  (23:57) Josh shares where his heart is and what he’s been working on behind the scenes for husbands and fathers.  (29:07) What we learned through years of coaching and how we’re shifting to a new way of serving families for greater impact and momentum.(36:36) Josh revisits what he’s working on for men and why transformation happens not through content but through relationship.(39:30) What’s coming up this summer for the Famous at Home podcast. Three mini-series’ with downloadable PDF’s for your small groups, family, or personal development:  The series’ will be on the following topics: Series 1: On Becoming Great Parents Series 2: Cultivating an Emotional Healthy MarriageSeries 3: Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment for Your Home (43:43) What the NEW Famous at Home podcast will look like beginning this fall! (45:53) A brief but thrilling MyKidsEQ update.(48:11) Why there might be a new outro to the podcast and how that outro fits the new shift.  Show Notes: Sign up for next Tender & Fierce by clicking here:https://www.famousathome.com/offers/w9RKKZybInterested in the men's discipleship community with Josh? Click here: https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform