Famous at Home

Make no mistake, we live in a matrix. And the bar set by Western culture for raising children is deceptively low. As parents, we do everything we can to give our kids an advantage. But is more parenting “knowledge“ really what we need? Are child outcomes really better today than they were 10 to 20 years ago? In this episode, we continue season 6 on Relational Intelligence in Kids by offering a new, yet ancient, paradigm for raising our children -- a paradigm that removes shame, grants God-given purpose, and breaks us free from the matrix.  Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:13 What is the bar we’re setting for our kids?3:02 Is more parenting “knowledge” really what we’re missing?8:00 What makes KidsRQ unique11:43 Why thinking, feeling, and relating at the same time is where growth happens14:50 A vision for kids beyond the Western matrix18:20 Raising “living letters” to the world25:00 How life and fruit can grow from our emotions Show Notes:Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.com Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Kids are vulnerable, and vulnerability longs for safety. Perhaps it’s no wonder Jesus tells us to become like little children. Over time, our hearts grow hardened.In this episode, Josh describes what children need, and talks about the “why” behind the new KidsRQ (Relational Intelligence) curriculum. *Note: This is a continuation from last week's episode Cultivating Relational Intelligence in Kids Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:20 The vulnerability and dependence of a child9:40 The presence of Jesus in our healing journeyf11:50 KidsRQ curriculum layout and experiential exercises16:35 Get in with a free trial of KidsRQ Show Notes:Sign up for a free trial of KidsRQ! https://www.kidsrq.comJoin KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

We all want to raise emotionally intelligent kids. Even more, we want them to be spiritually alive. For us, that’s what relational intelligence is all about. An overflow of experiencing the relational gospel of Jesus.As we begin season 6, we’re covering relational intelligence in kids. In this episode, we start by introducing a brand new initiative called KidsRQ!Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction3:00 The shift from emotional to relational intelligence7:56 Kevin Wallace joins the show to talk about the creative journey14:30 What is KidsRQ?19:06 Emotion regulation and increasing rates of anxiety and depression in kids23:18 The key components of KidsRQ Show Notes: Join KidsRQ at the Founding Members rate: https://www.kidsrq.com If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutDownload NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Christi and Josh talk about the nervous system, childhood wounds, and why the motivation behind our spouse’s anger or criticism is deeper than we often give them credit for.If you’re looking to have an understanding of your pain cycle and how to cultivate a deeper sense of emotional safety in your marriage, this episode is for you.Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction1:15 Christi and Josh update on life this summer6:15 Josh shares what’s coming for season 67:50 Introduction to the emotionally safe marriage 10:40 Your spouse’s motivation in the pain cycle18:30 The nervous system, childhood wounds, and your pain cycle29:17 A practice for interrupting your pain cycle and seeing your spouse 32:25 Learning what feels “safe” for you Show Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutDownload NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

The Tender & Fierce cohort is coming up again this fall! As we find ourselves sitting in between seasons on the Famous at Home podcast, we are replaying an interview with Christi about what it means to awaken the tender & fierce parts of your heart.In this interview, Christi talks about how Tender & Fierce got started and answers questions about the Tender & Fierce cohort. She also shares how to awaken the tender and fierce part of who you are, why it begins with curiosity, and how it is enhanced through community.Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction4:50 The genesis of and meaning behind Tender & Fierce 10:46 What you can expect from Tender & Fierce17:24 Who is Tender & Fierce for?19:10 Why a Tender & Fierce retreat? 22:05 How to awaken your heart to be tender & fierce Show Notes:  Sign up for the Fall 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here.https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutFor more information about the Tender & Fierce Cohort, click here. https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceIf you’re interested in a marriage coaching cohort or intensive, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageDownload NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Think about the deep neurobiological connection happening in your brain as you walk into a room and encounter someone who lights up at your presence, and the fulfilling sensation of knowing that person is beaming from the inside out with only one message, “I am so glad to be with YOU!” Without relational joy, there is no relational intelligence. Instead, relational joy is the antidote to the numbing out of our hurried lives because you walk around with a sense of knowing you are seen and loved.As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, Josh provides what he calls the “JOY STARTS framework”—four principles and corresponding practices spelling the word JOYS to jumpstart relational joy in your life and in the lives of those around you. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction & Review of Season 54:54 Moving from self-protection to experience life-giving relationships6:27 How our senses are tied to relational joy11:38 What relational joy feels like13:11 Introduction to the JOYS STARTS Framework13:50 Joy is found in the face - practices that increase facial delight21:40 Our brains are built for connection - practices for sharing joyful moments25:02 You return to joy, not just peace - practices for redeemed conflict resolution and resilience30:51 Set rhythms of joy - practices for daily joy rituals33:32 Practices for building relational joy in a screen-saturated worldShow Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Sam Jolman says, “Talking to your children about sex should be likened to having 100 one-minute conversations.” As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins us once again, this time to talk about how to help our kids script a narrative of romance. In this episode, Sam shares profound insights on age-specific ways to talk to your kids about their body, why it’s important to follow their questions, and how to cultivate a value-based, not a fear-based conversation. In the end, the goal is to help our kids experience awe, not live in shame. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:19 Sam Jolman joins the show!3:10 Talking to kids ages 0 to 66:40 A profound insight on shame and glory12:09 Talking to kids ages 7 to 1220:50 Moving from fear-based to values-base conversation with your kids24:40 Talking to teens30:10 The difference between arousal and lust 33:20 Preparing our kids for marriage40:02 Innocence, not naivetyShow Notes: Get Sam Jolman’s book The Sex Talk You Never Got. https://amzn.to/4kflULX If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Sam Jolman says, “The realm of evil hates your sexuality… [and] tries to, as quickly and as early as possible, join shame to your sexual story.”As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins us to talk about sex in marriage. Shame wreaks havoc on intimacy and relational connection, keeping us isolated and feeling alone.It was never intended to be this way. Author of The Sex Talk You Never Got, Sam offers a refreshing, pure, and healing perspective on how to discuss, heal, and redeem intimacy with your spouse.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:39 Sam Jolman joins the show6:04 Shame and the assault on sex13:09 The human body created for pleasure19:54 Song of Songs and the deep “knowing” that is the bedrock for intimacy24:17 How to have the conversation of sex with your spouse32:33 The role of kindness and compassion in the healing of your story37:51 Talking about playfulness, safety, and sex with your spouseShow Notes: Get Sam Jolman’s book The Sex Talk You Never Got: https://amzn.to/4kflULX If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

How well do you manage your relationship with the screen? How would your spouse describe how well you manage your relationship with the screen? What about your kids?As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss screen time and its effects on our nervous system. We share some sobering statistics about screens and hope by the end you honestly evaluate the answer to the question, “What role does the screen play in the quality of my life?”  Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 3:20 How do you relate with your screen? 8:57 Screens and the nervous system 12:12 Dopamine, screens, and temper tantrums 19:00 Multitasking, nervous system dysregulation, and attunement 27:20 Inattention in children’s television shows32:29 Becoming relationally intelligent with screensShow Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Forgiving others can be complicated. Especially when you’ve been hurt deeply by those you love the most.As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the reality of forgiveness, why it’s so complicated, and a helpful process for forgiving others. We also offer a beautiful story of deep forgiveness in marriage as a model and a path forward. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction to forgiveness and why it matters 3:16 The reality and process of forgiveness 7:50 The people we have to forgive 10:22 The complicated beauty of forgiveness 17:32 An example of forgiveness in marriage 21:30 The grace of our own forgivenessShow Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome