Pure Desire Podcast

Addiction can be challenging to wrap our head around. What is addiction? How did this happen? Why me? Robert Vander Meer is on the podcast today to discuss the image and behavior of a cyclone and how this metaphor is helpful in understanding how and why addiction shows up in our life. RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Bob Newhart “Stop It” VideoCyclone of Addiction (from Pillar Six, Lesson One of Seven Pillars of Freedom)Pure Desire GroupsPure Desire CounselingFASTER ScaleThree Circles ToolEscape PlanRecovery Action Plan GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Matt Dobschuetz, host of Porn Free Radio and founder of Recovered Man, is back on the show today! Today, we talk about edging—non-relapse behaviors that follow our addictive patterns. We talk about what qualifies as edging, how to become more aware of any edging behaviors, the importance of check-ins with our community or group, and how to address these behaviors when we see them.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Pure Desire GroupsThree CirclesFASTER ScalePorn Free RadioRecovered ManSeven Pillars Of FreedomThe Compassionate WarriorUnraveled GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Helping the next generation is not only about teaching what NOT TO DO. It also includes teaching them what TO DO. On today’s episode, we’re joined by Barb Winters, founder of HopefulMom.net and author of Sexpectations. Barb talks us through her experience in helping her children break free of pornography addiction and equipping them with the tools they need for healthy relationships. Barb speaks from her personal experience: as a parent not knowing where to start and now an expert in the area of equipping parents to help their kids.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Sexpectations (Barb’s Book)Barb’s Website GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

It’s here—a NEW group resource for single women!What does it look like to live sexually healthy as a single woman?Today, authors Heather Kolb and Ashley Jameson join us to talk through our new resource for single women, Authentically You.They talk through who is the target audience, what makes Authentically You unique, the differences between this new resource and other resources we have for women, and much more! RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Behind the Mask (Recovery Resource for Student Women)Unraveled (Recovery Resource for Married Women)Authentically You (Recovery Resource for Single/Unmarried Women)GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

“Separation” is usually a swear word for church folk. This is understandable when it’s done wrong. But separation can actually be a healthy tool used for the restoration of a marriage. Today, we’re joined by a Pure Desire Clinician, Eileen Fagan, who defines a healthy or “therapeutic” separation and the benefits it can give a struggling couple. We talk through natural hesitations or fears with marital separation, when NOT to separate, and the importance of professional help and support in marital separations. RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Safety Action PlanRecovery Action Plan For AddictsGet Started: Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin An Online Group GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

When Christians are faced with the word “addiction,” there can be a significant reaction against something we don’t see clearly in Scripture. The word “addiction” doesn’t naturally seem to fit into our theological framework. Today, we’re joined by author and speaker, Ben Bennett, to give us a new framework for reconciling addiction and theology. We explore how Scripture speaks directly to addiction, how to integrate psychology and theology, and how the recovery and healing journey can enhance our faith in Jesus.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Free To Thrive (Book) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

The term “mental health” can be fuzzy. Are we talking about anxiety? Depression? Something more? All of the above? Ben Bennett joins us today to talk about the connection between viewing pornography and mental health issues. Ben speaks of porn’s role in his personal battle with depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideations and how recovery impacts our mental health, our faith in Jesus, and our ability to follow Him.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)FASTER ScaleSeven Pillars of FreedomUnraveledOnline GroupsLocal GroupsUnwanted (Book)Two Roads (John Lynch)Pure Desire CounselingFree To Thrive (Book) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Shari Chinchen, Pure Desire Clinician, discusses healthy communication for couples on the recovery journey. Topics include training kids for healthy communication, importance of keeping communication a priority, and techniques for effective dialogue. The podcast also explores the impact of communication patterns on relationship longevity and balancing grace and truth in relationships.

Many men who’ve been through the Pure Desire recovery process have asked, “What’s after Seven Pillars of Freedom?” Well, today’s episode is all about answering this question. Clinician and speaker, Robert Vander Meer, joins us to talk about our new resource, The Compassionate Warrior (to which Robert contributed). We talk through what this resource is, how it helps men see their life and recovery through the lens of “story,” and how it helps create a lasting legacy of health.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)The Compassionate WarriorSeven Pillars of FreedomHero With A Thousand Faces (Joseph Campbell) GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

Today, we get to hear from Robert Nelson and Annie Burt (staff members at Faith Chapel in Billings, Montana). Robert and Annie talk us through their journey of implementing Pure Desire groups and resources at Faith Chapel. We talk through initial hurdles, challenges they’ve faced, the fruit they’re seeing from their efforts, and lots in between.RESOURCESFull Episode Video (YouTube)Betrayal & BeyondUnraveledSexual Integrity 101Conquer Series (Soul Refiner)Seven Pillars of FreedomGroup Leader TrainingFearless SeriesImmanuel Garraway (Church Relations Specialist)ConnectedPure Desire CounselingFree ToolsHave PD Come SpeakPure Desire Summit GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)