The Kevin Miller Podcast

Many of you listening to this show are at or nearing the midpoint of life. The rest of you will be there before you know it. This show is geared to blow away a myth and massive problem we live within our culture. We churn and grind away to achieve and provide...and as we age we just try to buckle down and keep it going as long as we can, or as long as we feel we have to. ⁣⁣This is a message to say..."Whoa! Stop! You've totally got it wrong! You don't want to keep doing what you've been doing. Rather you want to evolve, graduate if you will, to a new and well earned second half of life. One where you move from learning and innovating and amassing, to...leveraging all you've learned. The former leads to burnout and grave dissatisfaction, the latter to the greatest joy and fulfillment life has to offer. ⁣⁣My guest, researcher and expert on this topic is Arthur Brooks. Arthur went from being a professional French horn, to earning degrees online that landed him as a think tank president amongst Ivy League scholars, which you'll hear was an embarrassment to him for a while, to today being...OK, this is long...the William Henry Bloomberg Professor of the Practice of Public Leadership at the Harvard Kennedy School, and Professor of Management Practice at the Harvard Business School, where he teaches courses on leadership, happiness, and social entrepreneurship. He is also a columnist at The Atlantic, where he writes the popular weekly “How to Build a Life” column. ⁣⁣Brooks is the author of 12 books, including the 2022 #1 New York Times bestseller From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life, which is my focus for this series. A recent Harvard Magazine article labeled Arthur as, "The Happiness Revolutionary." Somehow between his content and his personality Arthur has become a massively influential guy who is now called on and cited by people such as Oprah, the Dalai Lama and The White House. ⁣You're about to hear him school us in how our first half of life is spent leveraging fluid knowledge, and that our brain is created for this. But around the midpoint of our life, our brain has less ability for fluid knowledge and transitions to great ability in crystallized knowledge. If you are aware of and embrace this, you will find great peace and continue progress instead of feeling you are in a race for time to keep up the initiatives and pace from the first half of life.⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I staunchly believe perception is everything, and regarding our health and wellness and concerning the concept of exercise, there is a paradigm shift we can enact with ourselves that works wonders. The word exercise does not create positive feelings in most people. It sounds like a chore. The point is movement and we have to “exercise” because for most of us, our daily life does not require much of any utilization of our lungs and muscles and joints. But I want you to consider the term…athlete, and why you may want to strive to adopt it. ⁣⁣This is our Functional Friday episode where we tend to our physical and mental capacity to support us in our desired goals and achievements. Here is my setup; If you join a painting class, you might share with others that you paint. But if you do it daily or weekly and keep it up for years and get proficient, when do you refer to yourself as an artist? You don’t have to do it for money to be an artist. The literal word artist is defined as, a person who produces paintings or drawings as a profession or hobby. There you go. If you produce paintings as a hobby, you are an artist. My home contains many pieces of furniture I made out of raw aspens on our land and when people see it, they often say, “I didn’t know you were an artist!” ⁣⁣⁣So with exercise. The definition is, a person who is proficient in sports and other forms of physical exercise. I find a lot of people who engage daily in some fitness activity call themselves athletes. And I think it’s great. I was a professional athlete, as a pro cyclist. I got paid. Not much. But today I don’t have pro status or a racing license. But I ride my bike or run almost daily. I do push ups, or dips or pull ups most days. I call myself an athlete. It’s not what I do, it’s another role I’ve embraced. If you engage in a physical activity and become proficient in it…proficient, defined as competent in doing something, you can adopt the label of athlete. It’s not a chore you try to do, it’s a role you fulfill. Regarding this idea, I asked our audience on Facebook this question, “Do you think of yourself as athletic?” Over 80 comments came in that brought up some interesting issues. I truly hope it inspires you to further embrace your athletic self and from that, your long term fitness and wellness.⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m wrapping up my series on Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. Our focus is on friendships, but vastly elevating them from mere peripheral benefits, “if we have time.” A point I’m expounding on in this series is we don’t need friendships to survive. We need them to thrive. So if thriving is your goal, this is a vital topic. Normally on this part four episode, I briefly discuss lessons I’m learning or grappling with from the series we’ve done. ⁣⁣Here, I take a detour. Instead of my solo commentary, I brought two dear friends into the studio with me to talk candidly about how we’d been doing friendships, the value we had been receiving, and…how we could do them better. Main focal points that surfaced were the need to protect and enhance friendships, just like we do our health and money. ⁣⁣My friends and co-hosts are…two guys at the top of their field in just those areas, health and money. Randy James. Who you hear often as my co-host on the Functional Friday episodes. Randy is a medical doctor and functional medicine expert. People pay him out of pocket to get to the root issues of their problems and not simply prescribe a medication to a symptom. Randy and I have lived in the same town and been friends for over a decade, growing our kids together, adventuring together, and we partnered together in a business six years ago and have shared offices ever since. Some weeks we are together 5 days in a row, sharing lunch on the back deck of the office. Find him at truelifemedicine.com. ⁣⁣My other dear friend featured in this episode is Patrick Johnson. Randy and I met Patrick together four or five years ago and found a kindred spirit in health and wellness, adventuring, family, and spiritually. Patrick is a personal, fiduciary financial counselor who works with very high net worth individuals. But Patrick goes way beyond that. He’s become a unicorn in his profession because he goes deep with clients into maximizing the overall wealth of their life, no different than Randy. Or me. Patrick was a professional river and mountain guide; seminarian; organic farmer, and he’s an author. He leads a large group of men in Colorado on epic adventures. You can find him at WellthPartner.com. We all spend a lot of time together. We live within a two mile radius of each other. We go on big adventures together. So coming together to discuss the topic of friendships just felt too legitimate to me. ⁣⁣You’re about to hear a different start to an episode, as again, we are literally sitting side by side in my studio together, and we start off sharing a beverage together, just as we do when tailgating in the mountains after a big adventure. Props to Patrick for this tradition. He knows how to instigate inspiring environments. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends, when I first started writing my new book, What Drives You, I sat down with some influential people to get their stories. I wanted to know what took them from, wherever they started, to realize the significant achievements that landed them on my show. ⁣⁣Dr Benjamin Hardy is a favorite guest of mine, he's a prolific writer of best-selling non-fiction in the self-help space because he's a great writer, of great research. His books, Willpower Doesn't Work and Personality Isn't Permanent are foundational messages I come back to time and time again. ⁣⁣Not long after I signed my book deal, I had Ben on my podcast, which was called The Ziglar Show at the time. He had shared a tidbit of personal story that grabbed my attention...so I brought him on to dig in. What he shared violated much of what I'd previously thought about drive and was a great depiction of what I'd learned and was writing in my book. ⁣⁣Ultimately the story here is what I used as the lead off story in chapter one of my new book, What Drives You, which is just now coming out. Ben's story is an incredible depiction of a primary myth I bust, of some people being driven and some people not. Even some having more drive than others. It's just not true. Listen in to hear more. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are two options for gaining the valuable relationships you want and need to have a rich, fulfilling existence. Before I tell you though, there is a foundational assumption that must be met regardless, and we actually didn’t address it in this episode, so I want to cover it here. ⁣⁣You must have exposure. I find many people who lack friendships also don’t get much exposure to people, and especially new people. I won’t belabor this but I’ve found the absolute number one way to achieve this is get in groups of kindred spirits. Take an interest you have and get around other people with that same interest. ⁣⁣And coworkers may not fit. Working at the same place is not the same interest. Neither is family for that matter. I’m talking to literally know what you are interested in, curious about, inspired by, and find other people who are as well. After that…the two options for accumulating valuable relationships are either instigating them, or, making friends with an instigator. ⁣⁣This is Part 3 of my discussion on Laura Tremaine host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of her most recent book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. My focus is on the friends everyone needs, women and men. ⁣⁣To round out our discussion I invited Brianna Brown Keen on to co-host the discussion. Brianna Brown Keen is an accomplished actress, appearing in more than 20 feature films and 30 television shows. Along with being a present day, working actress, Brianna has produced an initiative and book called Manifesting Your Mission where she guides entrepreneurs, including a lot of people in show business, in making true progress toward your goals. ⁣⁣Brianna is a relationship instigator, and we talk about what this looks like. But if you hear Brianna and feel you are not a fit for being an instigator, then I want you to hear your focus is to befriend…an instigator. Find a Brianna in your life, even if it’s as a paid part of a community or mastermind as Brianna leads. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we look back on who we were five years ago, even more so 10 years ago, we recognize ourselves as very different people today. Yet today we think who we are is really…who we are. But in five years you’ll look back to yourself, right now, and realize how much you’ve changed. ⁣⁣So think to what was normal for you five or ten years ago? What was normal, that you don’t do at all now? If you are growing and evolving, things will have changed. So…how about today? What is normal to you right now, that doesn’t have to be? That for your best wellness, probably shouldn’t be? ⁣⁣The power is in realizing we as people have such a hard time shifting from what is normal to us right now. What is normal is comfortable. It’s secure. To change it requires decision-making, discipline, and to a great degree it’s simply a hassle. And we live lives with little margin and a hassle, even a seemingly little hassle, feels like a big obstacle. ⁣⁣This is our Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we discuss some of the normal maladies that have been normalized in our culture. Not because they are ok, but we’ve just made peace with them. If you want long-term wellness, this is not a good peace. But changing them for the better is not ultimately that hard, it’s just that initial shift to create a new normal, that once we do…is fairly easy. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends, many of you have listened to this podcast for many years. You’ve listened to me dig into the stories and messages of over 200 of our world’s most profound and important influencers in the self-help space. You listened as I hosted The Ziglar Show and went from 50,000 listeners to over 300,000, then as we transitioned to the Self-Helpful show and grew to over 600,000 listeners. We’ve had over 60 million downloads and are ranked in the top 1.5% of all podcasts on the planet. ⁣⁣So first…thank you. Along the way of this journey, you’ve heard some of my own story and much of my own perspective on self-help. With the size of my audience I had been approached about writing a book, but it wasn’t until a couple years ago I felt driven…to actually write one. What Drives You: How to Discover Your Unique Motivators and Accelerate Growth in Work and Life, published by McGraw Hill, releases May 10, 2023 on Amazon, and you can pre-order now. ⁣⁣While it’s popular to offer bonuses and incentives to pre-order, because it helps with Amazon rankings, I’m going to refrain for now. At the end of the day, the bonus is you find something in the book that elevates your experience of…everything. Of life at large. ⁣⁣In this episode I’m going to briefly tell you what the book is intended to offer you. I give big focus to two primary myths we have about drive. Then I lead you through the key areas of life, the same ones I lead every guest through, and guide you to creating healthy and strong drive in each area.A great premise to the book is the endorsement on the back cover from Jordan Harbinger, host of the Jordan Harbinger Show which often ranks in the top 50 of all podcasts in America, ⁣"Everyone is enamored with habits, but having good habits assumes you have the core motives and drive to create, implement, and sustain them. What Drives You is really the prequel to habits, as it helps you establish your why, which is what actually drives what you will and won't ever do.⁣ This book should be required reading for anyone desiring to actually improve themselves." You can go find What Drives You by me, Kevin Miller, on Amazon right now, and for insight on the book, stay tuned and I’ll give you a tutorial on what you can expect to gain from it. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In my experience with myself, and with others, when we seek out another human we do so like a heat-seeking missile. We seldom, if ever…stop. And ask what we are wanting from the interaction. Often it’s merely transactional. Sometimes this is ok, in the workplace especially. But even then, whenever we want the best and most from someone we will serve them and ourselves well if we connect. And we can connect best with them when we again, pause for a moment, and connect with ourselves. How are we feeling about us? How are we feeling about the person we are about to approach? What are we wanting from the interaction? I’m back with Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of her most recent book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. As you heard us cover in part one, friendships are, or can be, our life source. Here we continue the conversation as I walk with her through her Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life fulfillment. It’s on the topic of relationships where Laura cites she works to connect with herself before she can connect with others. We dig into that, and cover other subjects. Spiritually Laura talks about coming to Christianity, and today fully embracing Jesus, but not the religion of Christianity, which I sure can relate to. Her health and wellness is a challenge and she shares how she came to a place and realized she’d lived her entire life from the neck up, and really has to work at caring for her body, as she cares for her mind. Regarding mindset I asked Laura where she needs to watch out most, and she said she can tend to “Catastrophize” everything. On an interesting note, her husband Jeff is a television and film director, producer, and screenwriter and is best known for co-creating the reality stunt show Jackass with Spike Jonze and Johnny Knoxville. June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i tGo to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know relationships are ultimately what we desire most. This is where we get the most happiness and fulfillment. Yet we generally don’t make friendships a priority, and as you’re about to hear, there is a high chance you have been doing friendships…wrong. This episode is intended to give you a new perspective on how to look at friendships, and go about them, and get clear on what you are hoping to get from them. ⁣⁣My guest is Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures before pursuing writing full time. She writes primarily to women about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. But her new book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, got my attention. ⁣⁣I appreciate Laura’s focus on women, but I recognized the need for this message on Friends is relevant to everyone. To me. My primary interest that you’ll hear us dive into is how we tend to put way too much pressure on one or two friendships, like our spouse or a best friend, and a main point of Laura’s book is how our relational needs are meant to be filled by multiple friendships. ⁣⁣But another significant topic we cover is what friendship is really supposed to be about. It’s not just for fun and support, but literal guidance and counsel, and few of us are allowing friendships to be this for us. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all spend a lot of time listening to wise counsel. Getting guidance. Gleaning great information and trying to apply it to our lives. Sometimes however, what is most inspiring is simply to hear from others on the same journey we are. The good, the bad and the ugly. Which is ultimately, hopeful. ⁣⁣I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “What area of your health do you feel good about and what area do you not?” What followed were many personal testimonies of strengths and weaknesses in everyone’s personal wellness pursuit. ⁣⁣Some of the deficits and struggles cited and discussed were on the topics of hydration, weight, exercise, alcohol, and more. We also delved into more complex issues of cholesterol, biotoxin illness, chronic fatigue, mental health and the all encompassing reality that the answers for our individual health are just that…very, very individual. ⁣⁣June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices