The Kevin Miller Podcast

I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “If you could get insight and help into an area of your personal health and wellness, where would it be? What would you ask?” The responses were very candid and covered a wide range of issues. So many, we are doing two parts to this Q&A. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this Q&A episode we go deep regarding hormones, nutrition, and screen time. We, is myself and my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. On that note, while not everyone can get in to see him, I frequently hear about new patients working with him who heard him here on the Self-Helpful podcast. You can connect with him at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at info@truelifemedicine.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we think of great relationships we inherently think of being such a great and attractive person that others are just drawn to us. I think we are errantly programmed in grade school where it literally is a popularity contest. If you’re big or strong or pretty or a star quarterback, you are voted homecoming and prom royalty. This doesn’t work in the real world where we grow up and actually want to feel connected to people and if someone can’t do that we don’t care what their skills and looks. Think of the people in your life you feel cared for by. What is the common denominator? They listen to you. They care about your life and opinions. You matter to them. So do you want more or better relationships? They don’t come from telling people how great you are. They come from listening to others and helping them feel great about themselves. I’m with Renée Marino for part 2 to walk and talk through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. In part 1 we hit on the key message from her book, Becoming a Master Communicator. Renée is a Broadway star and played the lead female role in Clint Eastwood's, Jersey Boys. She knows…communication. I discuss her personal relationship values she led off with just this...listening. Her goal is to be what she calls, a "complete listener." Listen in to hear how she defines this. She shares her recent efforts with inner child work. Her health and wellness goals center around being a powerful communicator with herself and giving focus to her self-worth, and the dangers in her career if she tied her identity and worth to the casting directors opinion of her. At the end in asking Renee about the things she does just to give herself joy and inspiration, she cites dancing, and singing, and you get a treat, as she gives us a stanza from "Someone to Watch Over Me." You can get Renee’s book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of the day, at the end of our life, what matters is meaningful relationships. What purpose in living would you find if you woke up tomorrow as the only person left on earth? Now, what makes up healthy relationships? Think about it. It's communication. A car will go nowhere if it doesn't have wheels. The wheels of any relationship, is communication. And like any skill, we aren't just naturally an expert. Communicating well is a learned skill. Would you like to increase the health and success of your relationships? There is no better way to do it quickly and effectively than learning how to communicate better. So in this show I'm with Renée Marino. Renée is a bonafide Broadway star, singing, acting, and dancing in West Side Story, Pretty Woman, and Jersey Boys. Her lead role in the latter caught the eye of Clint Eastwood who took her from the stage and cast her for the lead female role in his film, Jersey Boys. Renée's livelihood is communicating. She must connect with and move the audience, and she's a master. Following the film, Renée turned her attention to the professional and personal world and is showing us the heart and skill of real communication. The kind that does just what Renée does on stage, on film, and in her personal life...truly connects us with others in a meaningful way that moves them to engage with us. We start talking about her growing up in New Jersey in an Italian American family where communication was their love language, taking her first steps on stage, and even into her marriage to an introvert and how they honor each other's styles of communication. As you'll quickly hear, I don't know that I've ever connected and resonated more with a guest on the show, which attests to Renée's skill of connecting through communication. You're going to enjoy this. Renée has culminated her methodology of communicating in her book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" which you can get anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We tend to think of our brain as a static tool we use for our life, not as a muscle we can grow and increase the capacity and ability of. We’re talking about increasing the power of our brains, something we can all do. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. We will address behavioral problems like ADHD, cognitive decline like dementia and alzheimers, and even traumatic brain injury. The first part of the show is relevant for us all, then we get into those specific pathologies. Pathologies that are primarily treated symptomatically with the perception that wherever the brain is, is where it will remain and decline and the best we can do is use pharmaceuticals to try and slow things down or mask them. We have far better news and testimonials to the true possibilities. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine yourself stepping onto a tennis court, golf course, or dance floor for the first time and immediately having correct form and performing perfectly. It’s a dumb concept as we all know it’s impossible. To even be decent requires a good bit of training and practice. Now think of all the relationships in your life. Did you have training in how to relate well? Did you practice specific relational tactics and techniques in order to be a great listener, conversationalist and expertly hone your personal relationship skills? It’s doubtful. To make matters more challenging, we actually, all, had some poor relationship skills taught to us so we come into all relationships with some poor and unhealthy form. To start improving we must first audit ourselves. This is part three of my series on Nedra Glover Tawwab and her brand new book, Drama Free. In this episode I’m joined by my frequent co-host, and brother, Jared Angaza. Yep, full blood brother and different last name. I asked Jared to join me because he’s done so much work in his own relational journey and he understands the challenges, and the benefits. We really give focus to the need and opportunity of getting clear on your relational dysfunctions. Even in the absolute best of families with great love, acceptance, and support, there are no perfect people. And as you are imperfect, you will likely adopt unhealthy perspectives around some relational concepts regardless. So getting your learned and adopted dysfunctions on the table is the first step in you having drama free relationships, as Nedra is leading us. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. You can find her on Instagram where 1.6M people are following her relational guidance. And find her new book, Drama Free, anywhere. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a renowned and prolific therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab habitually sits with patients who are suffering today from decisions they made yesterday, last week and decades ago. So when I asked her where she’s most at risk for jeopardizing her own mental health, she shared it was in not caring for her future self. I think we can all relate to that. I’m back with Nedra to talk about her Values, Motives, and Habits. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert who celebrities and 1.6M people on Instagram turn to for relational guidance. Her new book is called Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. In this episode we start off with spirituality and Nedra talks about her efforts to find peace in her busy, taxing days. Nedra said she finds kindness very spiritually fulfilling. Relationships is her area of expertise, you can catch her on Red Table Talk talking with Jada Pinkett Smith and her family on how to set boundaries. In addition of course to having healthy boundaries, Nedra gives focus to each relationship and really considering what she wants the relationship to be like and being aware of her expectations. Regarding health and wellness she tries to eat clean and exercise but unashamedly loves candy. In her work and increasing success she is looking at how to better scale her business. With money she questions what is enough and is keen on having more conversations around money. And last with personal interests she shares how she is a very aesthetic person and finds great joy in deciding how she'll dress and present herself on any given day and she finds great joy in creating beautiful and calming environments, whether it's her office, home or yard. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you don’t really like your job or a person you’re in relationship with, the negative thoughts unconsciously affect your actions and behaviors and you end up sabotaging things and you make everything worse. Friends, this is a primary culprit in your efforts to be fit and well. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and I want you to think about these words; Food. Dieting. Exercise. When you read or hear those words, what feelings arise? Excitement or dread? Pride or shame? Guilt? We find so many people desiring to improve their health, get fit, and lose weight, but there are often negative feelings about these very things that sabotage their efforts. This show is about being aware and getting them on the table, so to speak. Not to eradicate them however. As you’ll hear in the show, often these feelings have roots back in childhood our young adulthood and they run deep. Maybe you can truly overcome and erase them. But we believe more immediate overcoming can be had by figuring out how to manage the negative feelings and move beyond them even as they still exist. Thus awareness and management is our primary objective. As Functional Medicine is a root issue methodology, this topic is foundational to your journey to wellness. I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our recent episode series was regarding the longest scientific study ever on happiness, which showcased that our greatest source of happiness comes from relationships. Yet our greatest struggles are often in relationships, so that is where we are going now. If you are in relationship with anyone, you likely have some, or a lot of unhealth in the relationship. So I’ve brought an expert. A year and a half ago I had Nedra Glover Tawwab on the show for her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace. This was a look internally at ourselves and shoring ourselves up for good relationships. Now Nedra has a brand new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. We dig deep into the relational issues that we all tend to just settle for and expect we have to endure long-term. Or we allow to actually destroy a relationship. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Her expertise is in helping people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. This is why I had her on the show, boundaries and relational assertiveness have never really existed in me. Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show and her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice. When I had her on the show 1.5 years ago she had 500k followers on Instagram. Today she has ove 1.6M who are tuning in for her relational counsel. I’m honored to have had her back for a long journey into the hard relational issues we seldom reconcile. This is a hopeful episode. A note, after the 1 hour mark we get into some sensitive topics I don’t think you’ll want to miss. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The results of the longest scientific study on happiness showed us the primary source for our happiness, today and over our life, is relationships. Obviously not the bad and toxic relationships, but the good, healthy and fulfilling ones. Which of course then begs the big question of what makes a good, healthy, and fulfilling relationship? This is part three on Robert Waldinger and a peer discussion on the study he shares in his book, The Good Life. My co-host is Tom Ziglar. Tom is CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar, the legend who inspired us that all we do is second to the relationships we have. Opening this discussion on the topic of what makes good relationships and Tom said, trust. I’d ask you to think of your best relationships and consider the level of trust, but in truth, the concept may be more apparent when I ask you to think of your most strained relationships and ask if trust is at the root of the issue? I suspect you’ll find it is. So for us then, a key understanding is what does and does not create trust in relationships? What you’ll find out is there are many thing we unknowingly do and don’t do that erode our trust with others and create relational downfalls. Listen in to get informed. Find Robert Waldinger’s book, The Good Life, anywhere you get books. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stress is depicted as the devil of our time. Everyone is stressed out and suffering from too much stress and the thing we want most as a culture is less stress. Our levels of anxiety are at an all time high as if it was a wartime scenario and the pathological manifestations continue to skyrocket. The thing is, however, stress itself isn’t a bad thing. It’s the body’s appropriate response to pressure and tension. The stress of working out and exercise is desperately needed by our bodies. It’s what makes us stronger and/or helps us maintain our strength so we don’t atrophy. But we stress our muscles and lungs, then recover. We can’t stay in a constant state of stress. Mentally is no different. When we are stressed mentally it’s not necessarily a bad thing. In a moment of crisis or challenge it’s the body’s way of dealing with the issue. And then, we need to recover. And there are often times when we are in a state of stress that in health, we should actually be a good bit more calm about. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, to discuss the good and bad of stress. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices