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In this episode of The A to Z English Podcast, Xochitl and Jack discuss the following question: Are you good in stressful situations or do you freak out? Transcript:00:00:01JackWelcome to the A-Z English podcast, where Jack and Social take you on a journey from learning the basics to mastering the nuances of the English language. Our podcast is designed for non-native speakers who are looking to improve their English skills in a fun and interactive way. Each episode covers a wide range of topics.00:00:23JackFrom grammar and vocabulary to slang and culture to help you navigate the English speaking world with ease.00:00:35JackWelcome to the A-Z English podcast. My name is Jack and I am one of the hosts of the podcast and I'm here with my co-host, social and today we're going to do a question and we'll answer the question for you. The question is, are you good in stressful situations or do you?00:00:54JackFreak out and social. Why don't you define freak out for our listeners out there in case they don't know what that means?00:01:02XochitlSpeak out is like completely start panicking and lose your ability to think things through rationally and you kind of become a liability for yourself.00:01:14XochitlAnd everyone around.00:01:15XochitlYou in a special.00:01:18JackYeah, if you freak out, just lose your lose, your cool. We say in English, right. You kind of, you kind of go crazy, you freak out.00:01:28JackLet me see here. Are you good in stressful situations or do you do?00:01:32JackYou usually freak out.00:01:35XochitlI was just thinking about this the other day because I was watching a Netflix show where like their plane crashes into a lake or some like huge lake in Alaska and like.00:01:47XochitlThe guy starts freaking out and ends up like.00:01:51XochitlRuining everything by opening the plane door and like the water, all rushes in and like girls, like really feel like she's had her head on straight.00:02:01XochitlAnd keeps thinking rationally and and me personally, I think it probably is going to depend on the situation, but I tend to. I don't like freeze. I tend to go into action and I was trained that way from an early age because my parents only said.00:02:23XochitlNo one else is gonna. You have to assume that no one else will do anything, so you have to. If you see someone bus or head open on the sidewalk or something, you have to assume that no one else is going to call the ambulance. You need to call the ambulance like you need to get it together. So because my parents kind of really put that in my head.00:02:36JackRight.00:02:44XochitlFrom an early age, I feel.00:02:46XochitlI it really stuck and I do kind of always like react quickly in a bystander situation or like a personal crisis.00:02:56XochitlYeah. I appreciate my parents for that because I learned about the bystander effect in psychology and.00:03:01XochitlA lot of people.00:03:01XochitlWill literally just stand by and stare and not do anything.00:03:04JackRight. What is the? How would you describe the bystander effect? I think that's a good, good one for our listeners to learn.00:03:12XochitlBystander effect is like, let's say that you see a car crash and the person stumbles out of the car and it's like bleeding everywhere and there's a big group of people all staring, but no one is calling the ambulance. No one.00:03:24XochitlIs coming in.00:03:24XochitlTo help, and the reason for that is because.00:03:28XochitlWe all like there's a psychological principle.00:03:30XochitlWhere we think someone.00:03:31XochitlElse is doing it or is going to.00:03:33XochitlDo it so we kind of freeze collectively.00:03:37JackRight. Because I think the guy next to me is going to call 911. He thinks I'm going to call 911.00:03:42JackOr 119 whatever.00:03:44JackYour country, you're in and.00:03:45JackNobody does it. So it's like you got.00:03:47XochitlYes. And then in two weeks, so they're all.00:03:49JackA whole group of people, yeah.00:03:51XochitlWaiting for someone.00:03:51XochitlElse to do it, yeah.00:03:52XochitlYeah. Hope you're just standing around.00:03:54XochitlSo how about you, Jack?00:03:55XochitlAre you good in stressful situations?00:03:57XochitlOr do you tend to panic?00:03:58JackI think so. I think I'm. I think I'm pretty good in, in stressful situations. The funny thing is I do suffer from panic. I get panic. I have panic disorder.00:04:10JackAnd I I don't mind sharing that with the the listeners out there. It started, yeah, it started in 2006, but they it never happens in stressful situations. It only happens in like normal situations where we have this.00:04:13XochitlYou get like panic attacks.00:04:27JackThis this expression in English or or condition or whatever we call it fight or flight right? It's like when you feel actually it's there's three right it's fight freeze or flight.00:04:39JackAnd so, in a stressful situation, do you fight, do you, or do you take action? Do you freeze?00:04:45JackOr do you run away?00:04:47JackAnd me, I would get into these, you know, because I I have this condition, I would feel that.00:04:57JackFear the the the fight, the the, the fear feeling of the feeling of fear. But it would be just in a normal situation. So. But The funny thing is it's it's very odd.00:05:09JackOr ironic? Is that in really stressful situations?00:05:15JackI'm actually pretty cool.00:05:17JackI'm pretty chill. I don't freak out. Uh, I had a a pretty.00:05:22JackBig car accident a few years ago.00:05:25JackAnd I remember.00:05:27JackLosing complete control of my car on the freeway, I was hit by a truck.00:05:32JackAnd I went.00:05:33JackAll the way across the freeway, sideways and smashed into the retaining wall totaled my car.00:05:42발표자I was pretty.00:05:44JackKind of. Just like in shock, but I I I didn't start screaming or yelling or jump out of my car or run around. I was just very much like, OK, let's do an assessment. Wear arms and legs. Do I have my arms? Do I have my legs? Yes. Am I in pain? No, I'm not. Dude, I have my seat belt, you know, saved my life.00:06:04JackAll those things I was able to.00:06:06JackKind of in that.00:06:08JackDo an assessment and see where I was and I was actually thinking very clearly. I think maybe it has to do with the adrenaline in your body is it's kind of allows you to to to it. It's like a it's like a shot of energy. And so in that situation I thought I played it pretty cool and so.00:06:28JackIt wasn't until maybe like one or two hours later, when I kind of freaked out a little bit, but in the moment of stress, I'm actually pretty good. I'm pretty dependable and I take.00:06:40XochitlJack, I have kind of a theory and a question related to that theory. Did you grow up like around a lot of stress or like stressful situations and stuff like that? Like, did you?00:06:54JackOhh that's a good question. Uhm, no, actually, you know.00:06:57JackI grew up in a pretty.00:07:00JackI'm trying to think like.00:07:02JackDid I have a lot of stressful situations?00:07:05JackNo, no. I would say I grew up in a pretty sheltered, you know, pretty, pretty, you know, pretty sheltered existence. You know, with the caring parents, you know, they were they they were watching out for us, but they were giving us enough.00:07:21JackYou know, room to invent, you know, find adventure and and have fun. So I didn't really experience a lot of stress as a young person.00:07:31XochitlThat's interesting. I definitely feel I experienced like a lot of stress and trauma in my younger years.00:07:39XochitlAnd I think that that is why.00:07:43XochitlI'm like, chill in high stress situations, but kind of also suffer from like anxiety and soul part. And just like normal everyday situations. Because I feel that my brain was primed to see like stress.00:08:03XochitlAnd intense situations as normal.00:08:10XochitlThen whenever I'm in a relaxed, calm environment for too long, I get like really anxious because I think it's like my brain's like, OK, where's what's?00:08:20XochitlThe danger here?00:08:22XochitlI think that's weird.00:08:22JackThat's funny. I'm the same.00:08:24JackWay. I'm like we in English. We say I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's like nothing is scarier for me than no crises occurring at any moment. If I'm crisis free.00:08:38JackThen I'm just in a state of waiting for the next horrible thing to happen, and I'm just waiting. Always, like, OK, what's things are too good right now? They're too good. Something bad needs to happen, and it's it's just such a like it's it's such a a kind of negative way of.00:08:58JackYou know, we just talked about the power of positive thinking.00:09:00JackI think that's like the.00:09:01XochitlRight.00:09:03XochitlPower of negative thinking and the fact that.00:09:04JackThe power of negative thinking.00:09:05JackYeah, like that's it, it does. It's just like it's it and my brain is just, you know, I can't change it. I'm just, I'm just that way. And so yeah, very simple situations. I'm like, I I have panic. And yet in the most stressful situation, I'm.00:09:14XochitlRight.00:09:23JackCool as a cucumber.00:09:24XochitlYeah, it's like you were expecting that to happen. Yeah. I think there's, like, a lot that goes into it. I think it can either be that we grew up in a in an environment that was very like tumultuous, which for our listeners who don't know, it's like a really chaotic or intense environment.00:09:42XochitlAnd I think another thing is that for our survival.00:09:46XochitlWe have, like you know, Caveman brain. Those our brain in a.00:09:51XochitlWay like we have evolved and developed.00:09:55XochitlOver hundreds and thousands of years, but at the same time, I think there's still parts of our brain that are primed to.00:10:06XochitlSearch for danger because we did not always have the kind of comfort that we do now, like the kind of comfortable life or safety that is so widespread these days.00:10:16JackYeah. When we lived in the forest or on the Savannah, you know where there were large cats and things like that. You know, our ancient ancestors, it was good to be always on alert. Cause you're like lying cheetah, you know, like a wild boar.00:10:35JackWe we were the.00:10:36JackOnes that survived.00:10:37JackYou know, and the the, I think the problem is that we we're we're we're very much like attuned our brains are attuned for a hunter gatherer kind of lifestyle.00:10:50JackYeah. And we, but we live in a mode.00:10:53JackAnd, you know, comforts, you know, we live in the modern comforts of of modern society. And so.00:11:01XochitlAnd I I do.00:11:02XochitlThink that a lot.00:11:03XochitlOf the way that our society is structured now, just like leads our anxiety to get worse in a lot of ways because we're a lot more isolated than previous generations. We have a way more hectic work.00:11:20XochitlSchedule and life.00:11:21XochitlWork life balance and previous generations did.00:11:24XochitlAnd we exist in a society where we're all connected to social media constantly, and I'm not one of those social media haters. Oh my God, I don't like.00:11:33XochitlPeople like that, I do.00:11:35JackUmm, no, I I use it. It's very.00:11:37JackUseful for our podcast, you know.00:11:38XochitlYes, awareness of all the bad things happening all the time through social media is something that.00:11:47XochitlIs not good for mental health.00:11:49JackYeah, no, I we're inundated with like, sorry, I'm using big words here. Inundated means we are our minds are filled with images and headlines of all the tragedies across the entire world of which there are many. And I don't think that's a healthy thing that we're. I don't think we.00:12:09JackWere supposed to.00:12:11JackKnow everything.00:12:13JackEverywhere, all at once. You know, it was when I was a kid, it was like, you know, my neighborhood news. That's what I would get, you know, the newspaper, the local news. Now we just get, like, I can if there's something bad happens, you know, on the other side of the globe, you know, I hear about it. The.00:12:33JackIce caps are are melting the UM, you know, the sea level is rising. There was an earthquake here and a tsunami over there, and a tornado over.00:12:43JackHere and a hurricane.00:12:44JackAnd over there, and it just feels like the world is collapsing and it's just like maybe it's always been that way. But there's we're just getting more information, and I'm not a climate change denier. I certainly accept climate change here. I just want to make that clear. But I just think that we're not meant to know everything.00:13:04JackAll at one time.00:13:05XochitlIt can be too stressful, especially when we don't really have anything we.00:13:08XochitlCan directly do about it.00:13:10JackRight.00:13:10XochitlYeah, it does get overwhelming.00:13:14XochitlSo yeah, let us know, Jack, what was the?00:13:19JackNo. Yeah, yeah, I'll. I'll help you. OK. Our website, our website is A-Z, englishpodcast.com.00:13:26XochitlNo, no, no. What's the ending? The.00:13:30XochitlTo let us know whether you're.00:13:32JackOhh let us know.00:13:33JackWhat you think on our uh, on our our website?00:13:38JackIs that what you mean?00:13:38XochitlNo, they they what was the original topic?00:13:44JackOh, oh, yeah, yeah.00:13:46JackYeah. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, OK?00:13:48JackOh, yes, so let me help you with that, OK.00:13:52JackOK.00:13:53XochitlSo funny, you should almost leave. This is funny.00:13:56JackWell, maybe I will. OK. Yeah. We forgot our topic cause soch and I are, we'd love to chat. Are you good in stressful situations or do you freak out?00:14:00XochitlLadies with sloopers?00:14:06XochitlWe both forgot the topic. All right, let's. Yeah, I'm really laughing, OK?00:14:08JackYou're freaking out now.00:14:14XochitlLet us know.00:14:15XochitlIn a comment at A-Z englishpodcast.com.00:14:19XochitlShoot us an e-mail or join our WhatsApp group and shoot us an e-mail at AZ englishpodcast@gmail.com and let us know whether you are good in stressful situation or whether you tend to freak out. 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In this episode of The A to Z English Podcast, Xochitl and Jack discuss three common synonyms for the word "intelligent:" smart, bright, and cunning. Podcast Website:https://atozenglishpodcast.com/a-to-z-quick-tips-29-3-synonyms-for-intelligent/Social Media:Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/671098974684413/Tik Tok:@atozenglish1Instagram:@atozenglish22Twitter:@atozenglish22A to Z Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/theatozenglishpodcastCheck out our You Tube Channel:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCds7JR-5dbarBfas4Ve4h8ADonate to the show: https://app.redcircle.com/shows/9472af5c-8580-45e1-b0dd-ff211db08a90/donationsRobin and Jack started a new You Tube channel called English Word Master. You can check it out here:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2aXaXaMY4P2VhVaEre5w7ABecome a member of Podchaser and leave a positive review!https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-a-to-z-english-podcast-4779670Join our Whatsapp group: https://forms.gle/zKCS8y1t9jwv2KTn7Intro/Outro Music: Daybird by Broke for Freehttps://freemusicarchive.org/music/Broke_For_Free/Directionless_EP/Broke_For_Free_-_Directionless_EP_-_03_Day_Bird/https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/legalcodehttps://freemusicarchive.org/music/eaters/simian-samba/audrey-horne/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-fluent-mind-esl-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The hosts discuss the concepts of being chill and uptight, exploring the challenges of interacting with uptight individuals. They clarify the distinction between being chill and uptight, highlighting the struggles of high-strung people. The differences between being chill and uptight are explored, along with the benefits and downsides of both approaches. The hosts analyze the pros and cons of being too chill or too uptight, emphasizing the potential for being taken advantage of or experiencing excessive stress.

In this episode of The A to Z English Podcast, XOchitl and Jack discuss the following question: Are you a night owl or an early riser? Transcript:00:00:01JackWelcome to the A-Z English podcast, where Jack and Social take you on a journey from learning the basics to mastering the nuances of the English language. Our podcast is designed for non-native speakers who are looking to improve their English skills in a fun and interactive way. Each episode covers a wide range of topics.00:00:23JackFrom grammar and vocabulary to slang and culture to help you navigate the English speaking world with ease.00:00:36JackWelcome to the 80s English podcast. My name is Jack and I'm here with my co-host social. And today we are going to answer a question and discuss the question. And the question is, are you a night owl or an early riser and social? Maybe you can.00:00:54JackJust help define our terms a little bit here what is a night owl?00:00:59XochitlA night owl is a term for someone who is more active at night because we see that owls, they're birds of prey and they tend to be more active in the nighttime hours. So and I know someone who is, like, groggy in the morning and not focused in the morning and then they feel really productive and they feel alert later into the evening.00:01:19XochitlAnd night.00:01:20XochitlHours, right?00:01:21JackRight. And what what's an early?00:01:24JackRiser then how would you describe an early riser?00:01:27XochitlEarly riser is the person is a morning person like a typical person who wakes up in the morning energized and ready to.00:01:34XochitlNo, but they usually start nodding off into the evening hours and they can't stay up and they can't stay alert right past, you know, maybe like 9:00 PM.00:01:47JackYeah, at 9:00 PM, you see their, their eyes are droopy and their their head starts falling forward.00:01:56JackOK, So what about you? Are you?00:01:57JackA night owl or an early rise?00:02:00XochitlYeah, I am a night owl for sure. I think when I was little when I was a little kid, I was famous in my family for being an early riser and I was like, insufferable, basically because I would go and wake up my parents and cry their eyes open and say that it was time to wake up.00:02:20XochitlBecause I could see the sun rising, which is like 5:30 AM.00:02:27XochitlAnd I was just so excited for the day to start. Isn't that so funny? Like, I would just. I was so excited I couldn't contain myself. And and and then.00:02:38XochitlWhen I got into my.00:02:39XochitlTeenage years, I definitely became a night owl, but my parents got some payback and they never let me sleep in, so I had really truncated sleep hours.00:02:47XochitlWhen I was a teenager, which was so bad for my mental and physical, and now I'm definitely a night owl, still I go through phases where I'll wake up early and.00:02:59XochitlLike go to.00:02:59XochitlSleep early but.00:03:01XochitlIf I'm left to my own devices and I don't have a routine, I just naturally tend to be in.00:03:05발표자Yeah, well.00:03:07XochitlHow about you, Jack?00:03:09JackI was a night I well, when I was younger. So in my 20s in my teens, I was 100% a night owl. I just.00:03:20JackIn English we say I.00:03:21JackI didn't want to give up the ghost.00:03:24JackAs we say.00:03:25JackRight. And so I just, I would just fight sleep, you know, like it was just a battle. So I would stay awake as late as I could and I would fall asleep with the TV on watching something at 1:00, two, three in the morning.00:03:41JackBut then.00:03:43JackI couldn't wake up. I did not want to wake up. I was always late for school. Always I would.00:03:51JackI would sell.00:03:51JackMy soul to the devil for an extra 5 minutes of sleep. Basically in the morning like I would do anything for 5 minutes more of sleep and.00:04:03JackWell, suddenly in my 30s, I don't know.00:04:05JackIt's just an age thing, I think.00:04:08JackIt just flipped.00:04:09JackAnd I started waking up early and earlier and earlier, and I would get up at six, six, you know, 530-6630, something like that. I would just kind of, we say, putter putter around the House, you know, everyone else is sleeping. My daughter's sleeping. My wife is sleeping. And I would just, you know.00:04:28JackKind of walk around with my coffee and in my bathrobe and and just, you know, watch a little bit of news, read the paper.00:04:37JackWhatever. And so I just turned into an old man, basically in my 30s, and now I'm. I'm kind of an early riser. So yeah, that's what I am.00:04:48XochitlDo you like those, like moments of silence early in the morning before your wife and daughter? Get up. I'm not saying you don't like to spend time with them, but I'm just saying, like those moments of, like, total alone time. Like, is that one of the reasons you like to get up early?00:05:03XochitlDo you?00:05:04JackI think so. I think that's I think that is like a.00:05:06JackBig a big added benefit. Maybe that's the whole reason that they do it. I think. I think I think it's very common for men to start to wake up early and and just kind of putter around the house and you feel like you're.00:05:22JackYeah, it's, it's, it's almost like a a flashback to when you were single or something to a time where you had less responsibility. You weren't, you weren't.00:05:33JackYou weren't responsible for.00:05:35JackThe safety and well-being of a family and so you, you kind of feel like, oh, this is what freedom felt like, you know, it's just just for a.00:05:39XochitlRight.00:05:44JackMoment and then.00:05:45JackYou have. Then you remember you're like, ohh, OK. I have a family. They start waking up you, everybody becomes active and they start making breakfast and stuff. But for those, that one.00:05:55JackHour where you just get up. Really.00:05:57JackEarly you do kind of feel like.00:05:59JackThe whole.00:06:00JackYou. It's your Kingdom.00:06:02JackThis is all.00:06:02XochitlRight.00:06:03JackMine for one hour. Yeah.00:06:04XochitlThat's nice. I think that's one of the reasons I used to stay up really late in college. I would step into like 4 in the morning or five in the morning and it's because like 4:00 AM was the perfect hour because 3:00 AM. It's like people are still partying 5:00 AM.00:06:21XochitlThose psychos who get up and like run.00:06:24XochitlLaps at 5:00.00:06:25XochitlIn the morning.00:06:27XochitlBut at 4:00 AM.00:06:28XochitlThere's no there's like the no one there. Like just the few people who had it in them to hang in there until. And so it's really quiet and really peaceful. And I remember I really enjoyed that because.00:06:41XochitlIn America, when we go to college, we stay on campus like in dorms usually. And because of that, you have like roommates, and there's a bunch of people living in your dorm building. So, like, you have a bunch of neighbors, kind of.00:06:57XochitlAnd it can get really noisy.00:06:58XochitlThing and stuff like that. So I felt like I had the same kind of peace and freedom that you feel waking up at like 5:00 AM, like 4 and staying up until 4:00.00:07:07JackYeah, yeah. And and and in my, you know, in my teens, in my, in my.00:07:12Jack20s I was the guy that would stay up till 4:00. You know, I I.00:07:16JackJust thought like.00:07:18JackSomething exciting is going to happen, so I better stay awake as if like.00:07:22XochitlRight.00:07:23JackYeah, it's a, it's a big.00:07:25JackLike FOMO kind of feeling. I I was a FOMO person. A fear of missing out.00:07:33JackSo I'm going to stay up all night in case something interesting happens, and I'm not going to miss it. And nothing interesting ever happened. Nothing good ever happens that nothing wholesome happens at 4:00 in the morning.00:07:45XochitlNo, usually not.00:07:47JackNo and and I never. You know, I didn't. I didn't miss anything and there was no reason for me to stay up that late. But it was just a, a kind of I've always been.00:07:57JackI've always had a fear of missing out, even when I was a kid, I wanted to know what are my parents doing in the living room? What are they watching on TV? Like why am I going to bed at 8:00 when there's still things happening and I it really drove me crazy. So I think in my teens in my 20s.00:08:15JackI wanted to get revenge.00:08:16JackYou know, for all the stuff.00:08:17JackI missed out on.00:08:19JackWhen I was a.00:08:19JackKid. And so I went the whole other direction, which was not a healthy choice either. So I think now it's much better. I get like 8 hours of sleep and I wake up at a a good hour and go to sleep at A at a.00:08:33JackThat hour.00:08:34JackAnd yeah, relatively healthy.00:08:38XochitlYeah. All right. So if you're a night owl or a morning person, an early bird, let us know in a comment on A-Z, englishpodcast.com shoot us an e-mail at AZ englishpodcast@gmail.com and join our WhatsApp group and we'll see you guys next time. Bye bye.00:08:55발표자Bye bye.Podcast Website:https://atozenglishpodcast.com/a-to-z-quick-chat-95-are-you-a-night-owl-or-an-early-riser/Social Media:Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/671098974684413/Tik Tok:@atozenglish1Instagram:@atozenglish22Twitter:@atozenglish22A to Z Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/theatozenglishpodcastCheck out our You Tube Channel:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCds7JR-5dbarBfas4Ve4h8ADonate to the show: https://app.redcircle.com/shows/9472af5c-8580-45e1-b0dd-ff211db08a90/donationsRobin and Jack started a new You Tube channel called English Word Master. 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The hosts explore the impact of positive thinking and the law of attraction, delving into the role of privilege and circumstances in maintaining a positive outlook. They discuss the harm of solely focusing on positive thinking and the importance of recognizing luck and privilege in success. The discrepancy between hard work and financial success is also explored, challenging common beliefs and highlighting unfairness.

Learn the correct usage of 'literally' and 'figuratively', explore the misuse of 'ironic', and understand the difference between 'bemused' and 'amused'. Discover examples and relatable situations while engaging with the hosts through audience participation.

Jack and May discuss whether they'd prefer a partner who can cook but can't clean or a neat freak who can't cook. They debate cooking preferences and cleaning aversions, sharing thoughts on trying new dishes and contemplating ordering food to avoid cooking and cleaning. The speakers also delve into partner preferences in regards to cooking and cleaning.

The hosts explore the debate of whether people are born good or bad, considering the influences of nature and nurture. They discuss the consequences of bad decisions and the potential for personal growth. The complexities of human nature and the possibility of transformation are examined.

In this Quick Tok episode of The A to Z English Podcast, Jack is joined by May, Layla, Hendrick, and Salimeh. The five of them discuss the following Would you rather? question:Would you rather live in a world where everyone is always happy or always honest? Transcript:00:00:01JackWelcome to the A-Z English podcast, where Jack and Social take you on a journey from learning the basics to mastering the nuances of the English language. Our podcast is designed for non-native speakers who are looking to improve their English skills in a fun and interactive way. Each episode covers a wide range of topics.00:00:23JackFrom grammar and vocabulary to slang and culture to help you navigate the English speaking world with ease.00:00:33JackWelcome to the A-Z English podcast. My name is Jack and I'm one of the hosts of the podcast. However, I am without social today, but do not fret because I've got some wonderful friends with me. I've got selime from Iran. I've got Leila from Saudi Arabia may from Malaysia.00:00:53JackAnd Hendrick, from Indonesia, guys.00:00:55JackHow you doing today?00:00:59HendrickGood. Alright, I'm doing good.00:01:02JackOK, I'm doing pretty well actually I'm doing. I'm doing good. Yeah. And what I've got for you today, we're going to do a would you rather episode? And so I'm going to read you a. Would you rather question and then we'll go in a circle and I'll let you guys answer however you want to.00:01:02SalimehThanks. What about you?00:01:22JackAnd then I will share.00:01:23JackMy answer as well, so here is the.00:01:26JackWould you rather question?00:01:28JackWould you rather live in a world where everyone is always happy?00:01:36JackIn a world where everyone is always honest.00:01:42JackThere we go. So let's start with. Well, May is the one who came up with this one. So I'm going to give may the 1st crack at.00:01:44MayThis is.00:01:52MayThis is interesting. This is an interesting question for me. I will definitely go on.00:02:05MayFor me if.00:02:08MayEveryone in this world is honest means.00:02:14MayThere is no lie, no unfaithful, no doubt so.00:02:20MayIf all this situation, everyone.00:02:24MayI don't have to feel.00:02:26MayBeing cheated or being betrayed. So everyone will certainly live happily.00:02:34JackOhh so you think honesty will lead to happiness?00:02:35MayYeah, for all this.00:02:37JackSo maybe you're trying to have. You're trying to have your cake and eat it too, huh? You want to have it both ways, happiness and honesty.00:02:38MayYeah, because the.00:02:46JackThat's a very may answer.00:02:50JackAlright, good. Good. I like it. I like it. OK, we'll go on a circle here. We'll go to Hendrick next. Hendrick, what do you think? World of happiness or world of honesty?00:03:02HendrickSo for me, I think I would rather to choose.00:03:06HendrickTo live in the.00:03:07HendrickWorld, which is the people, are happy because. Yeah, I mean like what we are looking for in this life is that happiness, happiness is the number one. Yeah, I mean like.00:03:22HendrickAs as long as we are happy, I mean.00:03:26HendrickLike that's good.00:03:28JackOK. Even always happy though, even if something bad happens, you're happy.00:03:34HendrickExactly. That's the worst.00:03:35JackAll right, all right. He's sticking to it. He's sticking to his guns. All right. One for honesty, one for happiness. Let's jump over to selime. What do you think? Would you rather live in a world where everyone is always happy or everyone is always honest?00:03:52SalimehAnd then I would like to live in a world where people are always honest, because as I mentioned, honesty is being honesty can bring happiness and our kind of, you know, realistic person. So if you still if now people.00:04:10SalimehHonest with each other and I really appreciate this personality of all people. So unlike happiness too. But if something happened, bad thing happened in the world, then people still are happy. This is kind of awkward. So I don't like. I don't like this.00:04:25SalimehSo yeah, I'm.00:04:26SalimehDefinitely with honesty.00:04:29JackI mean, these are two kind of very strange choices, right? Like if you get in a car accident and you're like, thank you for.00:04:34JackHitting my car. I'm so happy, you know.00:04:37MayYou can't. You can't be laughing at that woman, right?00:04:45JackBut what about? OK, I'm going to give.00:04:47JackI'm going to give Salima a hard time because this is her first.00:04:49JackTime on the show.00:04:50JackSo alright, husband and wife wife says, do I look, do you like this dress? And I don't like the dress.00:05:01JackBut I have to live in.00:05:02JackA world of honesty.00:05:04JackIs that? Do I tell the truth?00:05:07MayYeah, definitely it's.00:05:08SalimehOK, after you say you're the honest answer, you know the husband, they can have fives. It's.00:05:16MayOK.00:05:19JackRight.00:05:21SalimehYeah, the normal thing, you know the my life.00:05:21JackOK, OK, alright.00:05:25JackI don't. I don't like that dress. Yeah, I don't like your. You're bald. You know that? That's what she could say to me or something, you know. OK, Layla, let's, let's hear your.00:05:36JackYour answer here.00:05:39LaylaIn my opinion, I would rather have to be in in the world with the honestly.00:05:47LaylaYeah, because in case everyone is honest.00:05:53LaylaThat will help each other with us to improve ourselves because we will know other mistakes from others. They already will tell us we do mistakes or do something not appropriate. Something like.00:06:10LaylaLike that. But in case we live in a world in a, in a world, in a world, how people there are heavy, they will never help to develop our community and we will just think that we do the right thing, but we in reality.00:06:30LaylaWe don't do it so with honestly, maybe some people will will not like.00:06:40LaylaThat, and maybe they will get upset about it, but eventually, honestly will be the good way to to reach the the good results and to be in a good community. And I think as the.00:06:59LaylaAnd the main mission we will be happy eventually because of our honesty.00:07:06JackOK, OK. So just like really pure honesty leads to to happiness. Alright, here's my I'm on the fence. This is a really tough one, actually. This is really tough because I'm not sure I like either world. I might. I might. I wish there were, like a third choice that I could live in.00:07:26MayWhat's your choice?00:07:28JackOK, well here's here's my problem with the world of happiness. If you have. If you have only happiness.00:07:35JackCan happiness exist if there's only happiness? Do you know what I mean? Like I only feel happy because sometimes I feel unhappy.00:07:44JackLike if I always feel happy, then happy is like my normal state, right?00:07:49JackAnd so then it becomes boring. And so you never get to really enjoy anything because life is always like a roller coaster ride or a theme park or something, right? You're just always happy.00:08:02JackHowever, like Layla said and uh.00:08:06JackAnd may and Selime mentioned.00:08:08JackIf people are always honest with me sometimes.00:08:11JackI don't want.00:08:11JackTo hear the truth.00:08:14JackYou know what I mean? Like.00:08:16JackWe say in in English we have an expression called. Ignorance is bliss, which just means like not knowing is is happiness, you know. And once you learn something, then you can't unlearn it. And so.00:08:31JackThat way that can really make you unhappy too. But if I'm going to be honest, no pun intended with my answer.00:08:40JackI have to say I agree with Layla may and selime that I think honesty living in a world where everyone is honest is better than living in a world where where everybody is always happy, because that would be a crazy that would be awful. That might be hell.00:08:59MayDon't you?00:08:59MayI mean, I don't think that situation will happen. Yeah, anyway, because that doesn't make sense.00:09:09MayWe went like laughing every day 24/7 without any sadness or any, you know, anything incomplete that will never happen. There must be some excitement.00:09:22JackYeah, I agree.00:09:25SalimehIt's like, yeah, it's like bunch of crazy people just gathering and laughing, you know, actually.00:09:30LaylaThis is.00:09:33JackIt is scary. It might be like a horn.00:09:38JackYeah, people are dying.00:09:39JackAnd everyone's just.00:09:40JackLaughing and yeah, they're they're so happy.00:09:45MayMakes sense?00:09:46JackYeah, I I think it's kind of like the do you guys know the yin Yang Yin Yang sign? You know, it's like a circle and then there's like, kind of a squiggly line through the middle. It's a it's a Chinese symbol. It's a circle, but it has the yin is the is in the top and the Yang is the bottom. The Yin Yang sign.00:10:04JackSome some of our listeners might know what what I'm talking.00:10:07JackAbout I think you know.00:10:08HendrickYeah, it's.00:10:09SalimehI've heard.00:10:10JackYeah, you can't really have happiness without sadness. I don't think one can exist without the other. It's they're two sides of the same coin.00:10:20JackBut a world of honesty, I think is possible if everybody decides we're going to be honest with each other, brutally honest. At least we know how what people are thinking. And so I think that would be a better choice. Yeah.00:10:34MayYeah, at least we can still see a smile on someone's face.00:10:40SalimehWhen we tell the truth.00:10:42MayYou know any self the person on the other side know that we don't. We are.00:10:47MayNot lying to that.00:10:49JackThere's too it could be.00:10:49JackLike, hey, I like that shirt. I like that dress. And then you feel good.00:10:53MayThat we.00:10:54JackAnd you know they're.00:10:55JackHonest. They're not just, they're not.00:10:56JackJust shining you on.00:10:57JackThey're telling you the truth, yeah.00:10:57MayYes, even if the clothes doesn't look look nice. Maybe you can replace the sentence and leave it.00:11:07MayAnd if you wear blue dress, it will look better on you compared to this red event.00:11:18JackIt looks good on you.00:11:18LaylaWe could.00:11:19JackThough, yeah, there you go. OK.00:11:21MayRephrase the sentence.00:11:23JackThere you go. OK.00:11:24SalimehPsychologists usually recommend that you know, instead of using the negative sentences, you can change that to a positive way. So it's more you know.00:11:34SalimehEffective and better for communication.00:11:35MayWe provide a suggest.00:11:36MayAnd on top of the site just complaining, I mean just what should we say? Condemning you offer a suggestion?00:11:37발표자OK.00:11:38발표자Yeah, yeah.00:11:46JackRight, and being honest doesn't mean you have to say something every time either. My mom used to.00:11:51JackSay if you don't.00:11:53JackIf you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at.00:11:56LaylaJust. Yeah, just.00:11:56JackAll that's what my mom told me.00:12:01JackBut in the happy world, Hendrick, in Happy world, everyone is a little bit crazy and cuckoo. Do you want to revise your answer or are you going to stick with your your answer?00:12:11MayOK.00:12:12HendrickOh no, I'm. I'm still sick with my answer. Yeah, I I still want to live in the happy life. That's what I want it because I think, yeah.00:12:19HendrickSometimes you know.00:12:20HendrickLike being honest, it's also, you know, hurt people's feelings. It's not just always about, like, being happy also. For example, like when you tell someone that you don't like.00:12:32HendrickHim or you don't like her? And I think that people.00:12:37HendrickThe people that say that the thing the people wanna, you know, like like other thinking and maybe yes, they'll start, you know, like depressed because you know, like how people just because these people like I really know that, you know like people.00:12:56HendrickI mean like other people don't like him. Yeah.00:13:00JackYeah, it'll hurt. You'll hurt people's feelings for sure. If you're. If we're always honest. But.00:13:06JackHonesty is the best policy as we.00:13:08JackSay in English.00:13:09JackSo all right, there we go. I think honesty wins the day today. Honesty is the winner, the clear winner. Hendrick, we still love you. It's OK. Even though you're wrong. I'm just kidding. Yeah. How's the?00:13:22JackLove you guys.00:13:23MayAre you feeling happy now?00:13:25HendrickYeah, I'm happy.00:13:28JackGood, good. OK. Well, I'm happy because I got to hang out with you guys so. And that's the. And I'm being honest and I'm happy. So there we go. All right.00:13:37LaylaThey are too.00:13:39LaylaHappy and honest.00:13:40JackListeners out there. What do you think about this? Would you rather live in a world where everyone is always happy, or a world where everyone is always honest? Let us know what you think by sending us an e-mail at A-Z, englishpodcast@gmail.com or leave a comment on our website A-Z englishpodcast.com.00:14:00JackAnd don't forget to join our WhatsApp group. We've got great things happening in the WhatsApp group, lots of different groups. What do you guys think about the multiple groups like the news?00:14:10JackGroup and the.00:14:11JackI don't know what there's so many right.00:14:14SalimehAnd my my favorite one is the only version.00:14:18SalimehI'm more active in like I love that.00:14:21JackYou'd like to, but yeah, I.00:14:22SalimehLike steak?00:14:23SalimehOK. Yeah, I like speaking. I'm too lazy to write and I hate grammar. I'm selling things. So yeah, now I'm working on the part of my says that I'm better. So speaking either I prefer speaking so I'm more active in the only voice in school. This is a test.00:14:39JackOnly voice. And actually, that's my new habit, is to only reply in voice notes. Now because I'm so lazy, I've got fat thumbs. I can't type very fast. I make a lot of mistakes.00:14:46MayYeah. Yes, like I notice that you prefer voicemail. Sorry. Voice not these days.00:14:55JackYeah. Yeah, it's it's a pure laziness. It's just pure laziness. So.00:15:00JackYeah, I have.00:15:00JackTo leave voice notes. All right, well, like I said, listeners out there, if you want to enjoy conversations with this group right here, these guys are really active in the WhatsApp groups. Join our WhatsApp group. We'll move you into the main group.00:15:16JackAnd you can even join two weeks of free online zoom lessons with yours truly. I'm the teacher in the group, and you can join VIP status if you want to continue past those two weeks for just $10 a month.00:15:30JackSo it's a, it's a great deal you get.00:15:34JackWhat are we up to 16 lessons?00:15:35JackA month now.00:15:36MayYes, including Sweden. Sweet, I think.00:15:37JackYes, yes.00:15:41MayWe get 20.00:15:43JackI think it's 20.00:15:43JackI think there are 20 classes. If you if you count the student LED class on Tuesdays, so Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. Yeah, it's fantastic. It's a great deal and.00:15:54JackIt's all on online.00:15:54SalimehIt's various topics.00:15:56JackVarious topics, yeah, we we had a a wild conversation yesterday.00:16:00JackSo yeah, anyway it's it's great fun in there and guys, thank you again for joining me. I really appreciate it. And we'll see you everyone next time. Bye, bye.00:16:13MayBye bye.Podcast Website:https://atozenglishpodcast.com/a-to-z-quick-tok-39-always-happy-vs-always-honest/Social Media:Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/671098974684413/Tik Tok:@atozenglish1Instagram:@atozenglish22Twitter:@atozenglish22A to Z Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/theatozenglishpodcastCheck out our You Tube Channel:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCds7JR-5dbarBfas4Ve4h8ADonate to the show: https://app.redcircle.com/shows/9472af5c-8580-45e1-b0dd-ff211db08a90/donationsRobin and Jack started a new You Tube channel called English Word Master. 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In this episode of The A to Z English Podcast, Jack uploads an interview he did with Nisha from the You Tube channel Talk with Nisha.https://www.youtube.com/@NishaSingh-dh6wsTranscript:00:00:01JackWelcome to the A-Z English podcast, where Jack and Social take you on a journey from learning the basics to mastering the nuances of the English language. Our podcast is designed for non-native speakers who are looking to improve their English skills in a fun and interactive way. Each episode covers a wide range of topics.00:00:23JackFrom grammar and vocabulary to slang and culture to help you navigate the English speaking world with ease.00:00:30JackI'm glad that you reached out so quickly to have me back on your channel. Thank you so much. I appreciate it.00:00:37NishaThank you so much. Yeah. OK, great. How is going your channel, your podcast channel and your YouTube channel? It's great.00:00:49JackOur our YouTube channel, English Word master, we just released a common European framework of reference test. Do you do you know CEF?00:00:59JackThe A1A2B1B2. So we just released a a test on there which is popular. So if any listeners out there want to you know test their ability like to see what level you are you can go to English word master and.00:01:17NishaIf anybody want to talk the English level, OK so.00:01:23JackYeah, I think it's it's quite useful. It's.00:01:25JackJust it's on YouTube, but you can.00:01:26JackYou can give yourself a score. You can check your own answers.00:01:30JackAnd you can.00:01:30JackSee like what your you know approximately what your level is. If your A1A2B1B2 it's kind of a nice nice tool and the podcast is going really well.00:01:44JackThey're just. I released one new episode every.00:01:46JackOK. And so?00:01:48NishaRight.00:01:49JackYeah, we've had really, really fun conversations with some of our students. And then also with my Co host. So sometimes I record with my students. Sometimes I record episodes with my co-host. So yeah, there's kind of mixed mix there.00:02:07NishaAnd how is your experience with the having conversation with the Indian guys actually on YouTube channel? You're a YouTube channel?00:02:15JackYes, I talked to, I talked to someone named changing and I talked to another person. I I can't. His name escapes me at the moment.00:02:26JackIf you uh.00:02:28JackI know that he posted our interview. It's great talking to I I really like talking to Indian people in general. I find the the conversation is very pleasant and positive. It was. It was really good, good conversation and they.00:02:49JackBoth of the all the, all the interviews I've done, everybody speaks English really well, so have to change my yeah, I.00:02:58JackDon't I don't.00:02:58JackHave to adjust my speech? I just speak normally and everybody seems to understand me and and I can understand them. So yeah, it's.00:03:08NishaIt's very good actually.00:03:11NishaBecause if you if you're speaking.00:03:13NishaAnd you're you're Speaking of way, actually, which is very natural for you. Maybe I would not understand you very well way.00:03:26JackI I try I try not to. You know, I try not to modify my my speech too much, even when I'm teaching, because I feel like students need to listen to real speech. I think that's important because in the real world, no one is going to.00:03:45JackModulate their their language. They're going to just speak normally. And so I think good for students to kind of hear that and and to get used to listening to real natural speech. So I try not to do too much like what we call teacher talk.00:04:03JackYou know, teacher talk.00:04:04JackIs like.00:04:06JackYeah, very.00:04:08NishaThose person those you had a conversation rather included me with actually, those are the learners actually they are learning this language, they are not experts actually. And Amara is an expert in this language. But so many people, I think Chandra also is a learner. He is not a good at his English.00:04:28NishaBecause they're learners. I I also had a conversation with him with the Chandan.00:04:34NishaSo because.00:04:37NishaSo because the these are the callers, they are the Youtubers as well as and they are learning this language because they are facing the difficulty difficulties because this language is not their native language they it's a there is second language actually.00:04:57JackRight, right. And the thing about the thing with chinden is that he?00:05:02JackHe's very self, very much self-taught like he.00:05:07JackHe's he he taught.00:05:09JackHimself how to speak English, which I think is really amazing. You know, when people are are just kind of, I mean actually everybody that I talked to is kind of self-taught all all of the YouTube channels.00:05:22JackIn in the circle that been doing interviews with.00:05:26JackI think they're all the same people that you, you know, I think as well everybody's story is kind of the one of being self-taught. It's like one day you decided I want to learn English and you went on the Internet, you found books, you found, you know, YouTube channels.00:05:46JackAnd you just did it by yourself. And that's really amazing.00:05:50JackTo me. So yeah, sorry, go.00:05:53NishaAhead, actually one thing, if I want to ask you about the Indian people, what is the one best thing for Indian actually because you had a conversation with the people with the Indian people. So what do you think about?00:06:12JackOh, I mean I the what's the best thing about Indian people? I think it's it's got to be the politeness. I mean I I just find that like you know, Indian people are so polite and so gentle. You know, the way that they you the way that you guys reached out to me and asked me to.00:06:32JackCome on to your your YouTube channels was so respectful and so polite and so.00:06:38JackMind and generous, you know, open, open minded and open hearted. So I think that's that's my that's the one thing that I really noticed is true for everybody that reached out to me was just how how kind and polite and and respectful everybody is #2 my favorite thing about India.00:06:59JackIs not.00:07:01발표자 4The bread? None.00:07:04NishaHow can you probably in India, we called it in chapati, chapati actually.00:07:11JackYes, I'm sorry. I'm probably using the Western word. Yeah. Yeah, because you have the best food in the world. It is amazing. So.00:07:19NishaOf you.00:07:20NishaHave you heard Indian food?00:07:22발표자 4Oh yeah, yeah.00:07:23JackYeah, I've, I've. You know, I've never been to India before. I've never had, like authentic Indian food. But I've there's there are Indian restaurants here in Korea that I love. And so my, my wife and my daughter, we go there often.00:07:38NishaYeah, so which?00:07:39NishaPapers. Do you like most in Indian? Which Indian food do you like most?00:07:45NishaThat's a good.00:07:46JackI mean, I think it's it's got to be I I every time I go I try.00:07:51JackA different Curry.00:07:53JackSo I think Curry and then the bread that you're, you know, the the bread you're talking about together is most wonderful. It's just perfect. It's just heavenly. Yeah, it's amazing.00:08:05NishaHave you have you tried the Dal, Dal, Lincolns like? Have you tried anytime Indian?00:08:13JackOh, yes, yes, yeah, it's it's kind of like a chickpea similar, right, similar similar to. Yes. Lovely outfit. Yeah, it's it's wonderful.00:08:19NishaYeah, yeah, yeah.00:08:25NishaIt makes it makes South Korea also so many Indian restaurants.00:08:29JackYeah. Yeah, it's really good.00:08:32JackIt's really healthy and it's good like source of protein for if you're like vegetarian or something, so it's already.00:08:39NishaAnd I'm a non.00:08:41NishaVegetarian also I can eat fish and I can eat.00:08:45JackI'm not. I'm not.00:08:46JackVegetarian either I I eat, I eat meat and and and chicken and and.00:08:51JackAll the good stuff but.00:08:54JackI know that there are some vegetarians and and some of those dishes are really.00:09:00JackThey're really good if you're a vegetarian, you can still.00:09:02JackHave a lot of.00:09:03JackChoices in, yeah.00:09:06NishaYou you are a good cook also because those are.00:09:09발표자 4No, no, that's.00:09:11JackTerrible. I just go to a restaurant and and order it. My my wife is a good cook. Her mom is a good cook as well. So she. But she she makes really good Korean dishes.00:09:26NishaOK, so from if we talk about Indian culture like cooking and Indian kitchen three times in the morning, afternoon and at night time, breakfast, lunch and dinner, we cook three times in a day.00:09:46NishaAny Indian, every Indian Indian house? Actually, it makes it three times.00:09:53발표자 4That's that. I can't.00:09:57NishaYou also make the tea time. Food makes the three times.00:10:02JackYeah. Well, no, we we usually eat together one time in, in the evening.00:10:07JackBecause my wife.00:10:07JackAnd I are both.00:10:08JackWorking for lunch time, so we're at school.00:10:12JackAnd wrecked and for in the morning I I usually don't eat breakfast. I'm just a breakfast eater. So I I eat in the afternoon.00:10:12NishaOK.00:10:17발표자OK.00:10:23JackSo eat dinner together, yeah.00:10:26NishaYeah, yeah.00:10:28NishaYou you forgot the one thing about the Indian Indians actually, which is Indians are very hard worker.00:10:35JackYes, that's true. I I I failed to mention that, but it is absolutely true, absolutely.00:10:42JackReally true hard workers, beautiful culture, great food and very kind and and polite. So yeah, I I I really need to visit your country. I think it's it's amazing.00:10:57NishaYou, you, you, you, you. I think you should visit India. You can stay at my home no problem.00:11:05JackThat's a very generous offer. Thank you so much. Yeah.00:11:10NishaYeah. So, like, should we talk about the topic or we just have a general conversation?00:11:22JackWhichever you prefer. I I'm open to to anything, so yeah.00:11:27JackYou said you wanted.00:11:27NishaOK.00:11:28JackWhat topic was marriage? Is that what?00:11:30발표자 4You want to talk about?00:11:32NishaNo or any general conversation. If you want to ask anything about India, so you can ask me.00:11:39JackYeah, well, I guess I'm. I'm I'm assuming that you are a really good cook, do you?00:11:47JackWhat are? What are your special what?00:11:51NishaRather than me, my daughter is daughter-in-law, is very good cook. Actually. She makes a very good fish and she make a Afghani chicken and lots of things. She she cooks very well actually.00:12:06NishaBut I'm also a good cook.00:12:09JackYes, I I thought that that's really nice that you have. Do you, do you have a, are you close with your with your?00:12:15JackDaughter-in-law.00:12:19JackDo you? Do you have a close?00:12:21JackRelationship with your daughter-in-law.00:12:25JackThat's great. That's great.00:12:26NishaYeah. You know, in Indian culture, in Indian culture, we are living a we I am living in a with a three generation me, my son, my daughter-in-law and my in laws also we just live late together in a in a in a single home.00:12:47JackYeah, that's that's still the.00:12:49JackTradition, right in in India.00:12:52NishaYeah, but nowadays nowadays, you know, it's not like that culture actually it becoming nuclear family. So everybody have to go some, some, some places because because of their work.00:13:07NishaIf they are doing a work, any other company, they have to move other city. So that's the reason. Like my elder my younger son is living in in Mumbai because he is doing his job in Mumbai so. So it depends on the their work actually which type which kind of work you are doing.00:13:26NishaSo it's a depend on your work. So my elder son is a businessman, so he just live with us. He lives with us and my father-in-law. He is a 90 years old. And he also he is with us actually. So we are three patients live together.00:13:44JackThat's amazing. Generations together under one household or under one roof. That's amazing.00:13:51발표자 4That's great.00:13:53NishaYeah. And he if you talk about our relations, like, my relation with my father-in-law and my allows with a very good, very good understanding with with each other and if I talk about my daughter-in-law. So she is actually working. And she's also very good.00:14:12NishaAnd healthy and happily, we live together.00:14:15JackYeah, in in Korea, it used to be multi generational in homes. We used to live together, but it's really changed a lot in the last few decades because of what you mentioned before about that. You know you have to go find where the work is so.00:14:35JackIf you if your job is in Seoul, in the in the capital city.00:14:40JackAnd your families in the countryside, you cannot live at home. You have to move to.00:14:44JackThe city find an.00:14:45JackApartment and so a lot of families are are kind of split apart because of because of jobs, because of the of career, yeah.00:14:58NishaIt is happening in India.00:15:00NishaI told you know it is same actually whenever person doing a job or some other cities and you have to there actually like like Indian like South Korean marriages culture so there people prefer to most prefer to law.00:15:20NishaManagers, they get to prefer law marriages or arranged marriages. Culture also is there.00:15:28JackYeah. Ohh sorry one more.00:15:30JackTime. Could you repeat the question?00:15:32JackI I didn't.00:15:32NishaActually I want to ask that any if I talk about any South Korea, what type of culture is there like mostly people like to get hay law marriages.00:15:45NishaOr prefer to arrange marriages, you know, arranged marriages.00:15:49JackYes, yes, yes, that's a good that's.00:15:52JackA great question.00:15:53JackYeah. Usually I would say like I actually, I've never heard of an arranged marriage in Korea's. I know that the most I would say.00:16:07JackAlmost all of the marriages here are.00:16:11JackThrough like dating, you know? So. But but there's. But it's different than America. I'll, I'll try to separate the the three countries a little bit. So in the United States we we do a lot of dating is just you just look for a partner and you you go out and mingle and and either in church or.00:16:31JackIn a club or in a?00:16:34JackSchool. You know, university. You might meet somebody and then you you date for a while, a long time, six months, a year or a year and a half, and then you you might get.00:16:46JackIn Korea, it's very similar to the United States, except in Korea, the family sometimes will try to help by introducing the the daughter or son to other people, so they'll try to like they'll there's actually a a whole industry of matchmaking.00:17:05JackIn Korea, where they're the company, you.00:17:07발표자 4Pay a company.00:17:09발표자 4Yeah. So.00:17:10NishaHappening like II was so then this actually this type process is doing in India also there is a special companies matchmaker companies like shop.com Wedding Elite weddings or like those companies.00:17:27NishaIs doing work actually.00:17:30NishaWhich is South Korea and India. Is this similar culture it means.00:17:33JackIt's I think it's it's got a similarity to.00:17:36JackIt I mean the the.00:17:38JackThe thing in in Korea the the.00:17:41JackThe If you.00:17:42JackIf you come from a wealthy family.00:17:44JackThen the the parents want to introduce if they have a daughter they want to introduce their daughter to a doctor or a lawyer or, you know, a or something like that. If they have a son, then they want, you know, the the the wife should be from.00:17:44NishaOK.00:18:04JackA good family. So there that's very important.00:18:06JackYou know kind.00:18:07JackOf arranging it a little bit, not fully arranged. You know, marriage, but kind of partially arranged. A little bit kind of introduced kind of kind of nudged a little bit pushed, you know you 2.00:18:20JackAnd and get together.00:18:20NishaOK.00:18:22JackWhat I've noticed lately in in Korea is that.00:18:27JackI would say most of it's more like more like American style nowadays. You know, most mostly just a lot of couples will just meet through school. University is a place where people meet. People will meet by group friends, you know, group of friends getting together and then they'll they'll.00:18:47JackIntroduce each other. It's just very, very natural, you know, kind of ways of that. People meet. And I I think the the more kind of arranged or or partially arranged you know.00:19:02JackMarriages are kind of.00:19:03JackAre are kind of of the past.00:19:06JackI think kind.00:19:07NishaOf yeah, yeah, I I got it actually before they got married because it's a partially arranged marriage. You are saying that like in South Korea, I'm not talking about the America. Actually America marriages is a different system.00:19:24NishaIt's a very different way actually, right?00:19:27JackIn America, it's very much like, well, our our culture is very, very strange, like in, in a way, it's, it seems kind of cold because.00:19:36JackWas when we turned 18 or 19. You know, when we graduate from university, our parents like get.00:19:41발표자Out of the.00:19:42발표자 4House go live on.00:19:45JackYou know, get out.00:19:45발표자 4Of here you're done.00:19:47NishaThank you very much. I like this process this this system. I like this very much actually. You know, Indian people just just some become like 606555 years and just in this this age he dependents on their parents.00:20:06NishaActually, his parents, he would be 90 years, but they take care about their their son.00:20:13NishaLike my husband right now, my husband is 56 years old, right? And my father-in-law is 90 years old, but he is still takes care of my husband so much, so much. So this affection is very good. But, you know, sometimes the people don't become responsible.00:20:33NishaAt so I like this culture in a US because they become responsible at every age. Actually it's good.00:20:43JackThat's I think there are good parts to all of the all of the differences, like every country's got like some good parts. And I I think it's good to go off and and take care of yourself because you learn how to be independent and self-sufficient. You learn how to take care of.00:20:59JackYourself, but I think we also.00:21:02JackCan get a little bit too much.00:21:04JackDistance between families so that we we are neglectful of our of our parents. And I think I what I like is the the closeness of the Indian household. How close those relationships are.00:21:21JackWhen it comes to dating in American culture, I would say, you know you, you meet people where we we meet people is usually at work or at school. Those are the big places, but it's very much like the parents are not involved really. It's more of like later when you're dating.00:21:41JackThen you introduce your, your girlfriend or boyfriend to your parents, but it's at first it's just, you know, you have to find your own way.00:21:50JackBut I think a lot, you know, even in.00:21:52JackThe in the recent past in America.00:21:55JackThere were, you know, like very wealthy families that want to act with another wealthy family. And one way to connect is by the the children marrying. And so those kinds of arranged marriages. Again, it's not, it's not really an arranged marriage, but they're it's kind of partially arranged those.00:22:16JackWe're common and I think it still happens. You know, sometimes today.00:22:20NishaWhich fields attend their marriages?00:22:24JackYeah. I mean, it's not it. And what what do you what about in, in in India like do they still have fully arranged marriages? Is that still common?00:22:33NishaWhen I talk.00:22:34NishaAbout when I got married at that.00:22:36NishaTime I was.00:22:37NishaOnly 1920 years old only and.00:22:42NishaI'm talking about 30.00:22:43NishaTwo years ago, I got married, actually. Wow.00:22:48NishaYou know, I I got married totally. Each marriage at that time, even I didn't saw my husband. I didn't see my husband at that time before marriage, I didn't see my husband. It was very wondering actually, but actually it's a Indian culture. But nowadays it's also totally changed.00:23:08발표자 4OK.00:23:08NishaBefore when like I got my son married. So he it did marriage also he arranged marriage. But you know they they had a meeting 4 or 5 * 4 capability they get to understand to each other it would be better for their relationship.00:23:29NishaActually, so they are in Norway nowadays. In India, people getting getting, getting in love marriages evenly arranged, marriages also doing. But most probably 70% it is doing arranged marriages.00:23:45JackOK. And you know the the thing that I I learned, I heard this, I don't know if it's true, but you can correct me, but arranged marriages are about at just as successful or more successful statistically than non arranged marriages, right? Like you you would think like in an arranged marriage.00:24:05JackAs an American I would think Ohh they must get divorced really often. You know that would be my my assumption my guess, but it's not true. The arranged marriages are oftentimes very successful marriages.00:24:17NishaThank you.00:24:24NishaYeah, it's true. So in America, in America, people believe in it. If the people do the get the arranged marriage they were, they would be successful, they they would be fail. You were talking about.00:24:25JackAnd so yeah, which is to us, it's counterintuitive.00:24:45JackWell, no, we I, in my mind like I we we would think that like arranged marriages are fail more often.00:24:55JackBut I I.00:24:56JackDon't think it's true. It's not true. I think that arranged marriages are.00:25:00JackActually, just as successful as non arranged marriages.00:25:07JackWhy do you? Why is that? Why do you think that is? Like what? Why does it work the way it?00:25:12NishaYeah, I'm telling you, actually, what happened in in India, in India, what happened in I2 people don't get married. Two families get married. They become a relationship with within the two families, you know. And after marriage, the bride.00:25:32NishaGoing to live within the year was actually so sometime, you know, the the after the marriage, the bride and groom both are boys and girls. Both are.00:25:43NishaYoung and they are young blood and sometimes they have an argument with each other and if at that moment if there is some another person like me and sometime, you know my daughter and son having some issues with the.00:26:03NishaPersonal topic, actually, every time I make them understand that it's not a good, it is not good for you that that one is not good good for you. So maybe that that thing make works. Actually these things work work actually maybe any layer below.00:26:22NishaThat the marriage marriages is more successful rather.00:26:26NishaThan low marriages.00:26:28JackYeah. Yeah, that's the. That's what's so interesting is that they're often they're successful. They they're arranged, marriages work and so.00:26:36JackI think you.00:26:36JackKnow as a as a, as a young person in America when I was, you know.00:26:40JackGrowing up, we we you know.00:26:43JackWe would hear about that. You know, they have arranged marriages in in other countries such as India and we would, you know, say wow, that's that that's that can't work. That's impossible. How is that possible? But now as a, you know, looking looking back as a 46 year old.00:27:02JackI can.00:27:02JackSee that like.00:27:05JackYou know there there's other ways of doing it that are just as valid and as long as both, you know, families and both parties are are fully committed to it. They can make it work. So yeah, it's it's really fascinating. It's an interesting topic for me because I just, I don't know very much about it, to be honest.00:27:25JackKind of ignorance so.00:27:26NishaWhere you know Jack.00:27:27NishaNowadays, India in India also marriages the the divorce rate, increasing day by day.00:27:36NishaAlso, the people, the young couple, they most probably like to live a separate family and now a generation don't have much patience.00:27:49NishaAnd they they they don't adjust. They don't want to adjust to each other. So day by day in India also whether it is a long marriage or arrange marriages.00:28:01NishaDivorce rate increasing. I don't know what is the reason behind that. Maybe lack of patience, lack of adjustment. You know, in Indian marriages, most probably women adjust in the marriages.00:28:18JackYeah, that's really fascinating. I'm I'm. I'm glad you brought that up because I think I think that it your your point about people not being patient is really, really true, because even in my own, in my own experience, my wife is Korean. I'm American. And so there's a lot of opportunity for us to misunderstand each other.00:28:40JackWhen we first got married, but we were both patient people, so we understand like, OK.00:28:47JackWe have to.00:28:49JackThere's a time to you. You can disagree. Like it's OK to disagree and have disagreements, but it's it's how you disagree is the important thing, and I think these days young people are kind of want instant.00:29:04JackIt's satisfaction. So if they disagree, they just walk away. I'm finished. You know, it's done.00:29:12JackAnd they don't. They don't go through the process, you know, disagree discuss, you know, reconcile. And there's a whole process to it. And I think these days a lot of people are just like the first problem and they just go. I'm done. I quit. And and I think that's.00:29:31JackA kind of.00:29:32JackThat's a mistake. It's a big mistake.00:29:35JackThat people make.00:29:35NishaYeah, yeah, yeah.00:29:37NishaSo whenever you some time whenever you have your argument with your wife and the time who say the soul, you are the one who say the sorry first or your wife say the sorry.00:29:49JackYou know, I always say I'm.00:29:51JackSorry, it's always me. I'm the one who always makes the mistakes, you know. So I'm always.00:30:01발표자 4I yeah.00:30:04NishaAt last, actually it's already become a 31 minute actually. So at last I want to say that like regarding marriage, if you want your beautiful married life at that time actually for that.00:30:22NishaIf you want to run the your marriage in a long time, that time you have to patience. I think a good understanding.00:30:31NishaAnd trust to each other. And one thing is more important. It should be. You should not criticize to your partner actually.00:30:42NishaSo if you yeah, so these are the important points, if you if you don't criticize your partner all the time, so maybe you can overcome from your problem whatever.00:31:02NishaBeing in your married life and our thing is more than you have to give the space to your partner. In Indian culture, these things is not happen for especially women.00:31:16JackRight. But I mean you've I.00:31:19JackThink you've summarized it perfectly like I agree with everything you said. I mean exclamation point, because you're exactly right. It's about.00:31:28JackLove and respect, you know, and and being patient and I mean those are so important in a in a relationship in a marriage. If you're gonna stay together. Yeah, you've been you been married 30.00:31:42JackTwo years, right?00:31:42Jack32 years. That's amazing. I I met 18 years.00:31:47JackSo we're getting close to close to 20 years, yeah.00:31:48NishaOK.00:31:52NishaWhenever you completed 25 years, then you will celebrate the your Golden Jubilee.00:31:58발표자 4Yes, right. Yeah. Yeah, we'll go to India. Yeah, for a trip.00:32:07NishaI think on your Golden Jubilee you must see your wife. Like what the?00:32:14NishaTaj Mahal, you.00:32:15NishaKnow the Taj Mahal. It is very.00:32:16NishaFamous in India.00:32:17NishaSo you should.00:32:20NishaSee her the Taj Mahal on your 25th anniversary. You can stay with me at my home whenever you care.00:32:29JackThat's so generous of you. That's amazing. See, I told you, Indian people are super generous. Super polite. Yeah, it's just true.00:32:38NishaYeah, yeah.00:32:39JackThank you so much, Nisha. You know, it's it's so fun to talk to you and the time just flies by like you know so quickly. But yeah.00:32:49NishaOK, Jaipur, to the conversation, I'm giving you precious time. Thank you so much for that.00:32:55JackAt anytime I I'm happy to talk to you. Yeah.00:32:58JackLet's let's do it again sometime.00:33:01NishaOK.00:33:02JackAll right. Thanks, nisha. OK. All right. 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