The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

If you’ve been around here for a while, I am sure you’ve heard me talk about the month I spent with Boulder Outdoor Survival School (BOSS). Today I brought on Matt Furches, Matt is one of the instructors for BOSS and a good friend of mine. We talked about how he got into his work at BOSS and how their training helps transform attendee’s lives for the better. We get into the idea of not having everything available to you at your fingertips, outcomes he’s seen from the BOSS training and some of his favorite memories and outcomes he’s seen come out of the survival courses. About Matt Furches: Matt Furches hails from Nottingham, Pennsylvania, where he was greatly inspired by the woods and the creeks, and by the Amish culture that coexisted side-by-side with 1980s American culture. After discovering the writings of Tom Brown Jr., George Washington Sears, and Henry David Thoreau, he became a self-taught naturalist and practitioner of bushcraft and indigenous survival skills. In 2008 he spent an entire summer in the American West studying with some of the most skilled instructors in the field of primitive technology, survival, and natural history, his journey culminated in a 28-day field course with the world-renowned Boulder Outdoor Survival School (BOSS), which since the late 1960s have been at the forefront of survival training and adventure travel. Matt was invited to apprentice with the school and after 10 seasons is now a Master Instructor at BOSS. Connect with Matt: Website | www.gnarlybranchstudio.wordpress.com Instagram | @gnarlybranchstudio Boss Inc | www.boss-inc.com/staff/matt-furches Links: Hunter Gatherer course - https://www.boss-inc.com/survival-courses/hunter-gatherer What You’ll Hear: 3:12 What Boulder Outdoor Survival School is and what they do 8:57 Matt’s experience of starting with BOSS 14:59 The concept of not having everything at your fingertips 18:46 Why they create compare down situations 22:09 A few surprising outcomes that he’s seen come out of the BOSS training 26:40 An outline of the survival tactics at the minutes, hours and days levels 31:00 The problem with hoarding during the pandemic 35:20 The challenges they’re going through right now 37:40 One lesson they teach at the BOSS training that everyone needs right now 39:18 His thoughts on a resurgence of primal skills, homesteading and natural living 43:10 His favorite story from his years of teaching at BOSS 50:39 How we can persevere through anything If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

In this episode I share one of the most impactful experiences I had as a hospice volunteer and how it reshaped my view of death and the time we have before it. Enjoy. www.manuncivilized.com/thenation www.manuncivilized.com/thebook Traver

Your relationship with the world and the people in the world is greatly affected by your relationship with your mother. That’s something we discussed in this episode with guest Rainier Wylde. Rainier talks about the term, mother hunger and how it differs from father wounds. We also explore what your shadow is and how men and women deal with their shadow in different ways. You’ll hear all about Rainier’s experience of disowning his embodied self, how he overcame that and why he doesn’t want the world to have hope. About Rainier: Rainier Wylde is a teacher, guide, and writer who works with men and women to confront their shadow, find intimate union with the masculine and feminine and experience spiritual awakening. Connect with Rainier: Website | www.rainerwylde.com Facebook | www.facebook.com/evolvingwild Instagram  | @rainierwylde What You’ll Hear: 1:47 How this illness is exposing the fracture points 6:03 Who Rainier is and what he does 11:22 His experience of being suppressed and disowned by his embodied self 13:18 What shadow means to him and his thoughts around accessing the shadow 16:25 The divide in the opinion around the shadow 18:23 How men and women deal with shadow in different ways 23:38 One of Rainier’s biggest frustrations 26:40 Why there’s secrecy around sexuality 29:37 What would happen if there was less secrecy 32:09 What the mother hunger is 35:30 The differences in performance and mastery 40:24 What you need to know about the father wound and the mother hunger 46:02 How absent fathers cause a hollow experience for young men 50:30 The workshop conundrums that people run into 53:54 Why you should put yourself out there to find a community If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

The Nice Guy isn't nice. He's a wolf in sheep's clothing. He's a danger. And he's in pain and there are ways out of that pain. In this episode I dive into the Nice Guy paradigm and give three tools to working your way out of it. My men's leadership course starts on July 19th! www.manuncivilized.com/hhb to sign up. If you're looking for an amazing group of men - www.manuncivilized.com/thenation And to get your hands on a copy (audio as well) of my book: www.manuncivilized.com/thebook Cheers, Traver

In this solo episode recorded live with an audience on Zoom, I'm sharing some of the lessons learned when I spent 28 days in a dark retreat in Guatemala. The focus was these three pillars: Pain. Surrender. Freedom. There's also an offer at the end for my upcoming men's leadership group course: www.manuncivilized.com/hhb Enjoy, and please share this!

There’s so much hate in our world, especially when the conversation turns to race and inequality for non-white people. In this episode, I was joined by an amazing guest, Kiné Corder to discuss this and how we can render better approaches to race. Kiné is a Black therapist who shares her own experiences of being a Black woman in American society. She shares a story about finding out her brother’s experience as a Black man, why many conversations about race are ineffective and how we need more empathy. Kiné shares great tips about becoming curious about other people and putting your focus on love instead of being “anti” anything. About Kiné Corder: Kiné Corder is a National Certified Counselor and Clinical Hypnotherapist. She's also the CEO of Presidential Lifestyle, a wellness company focused on wealth in all of its forms. As a former Morgan Stanley financial advisor, Kiné realized that high achieving men needed help with more than just stock picks and portfolios. They were stressed out by the idea of reaching the American Dream. In 2014, she made the shift to therapy and has become the world's #1 Clinical Hypnotherapist specializing in stress and anger management. Her work today encompasses helping men, and their teenage children, unlock their subconscious beliefs around love and money so they can feel at ease and at peace creating a life of meaning. Links: Kine's meditation series - https://www.presidentiallifestyle.com/offers/mh6vEQRY Connect with Kine: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Podcast What You’ll Hear: 5:33 What Kiné does as a National Certified Counselor and Clinical Hypnotherapist 7:13 How the brain sees familiar as good and unfamiliar as bad 8:51 The video that Traver saw Kiné post that made him realize we aren’t being effective 12:08 The confusion that people have around statistics 13:49 The pressures of being a Black woman in society 16:37 How we can move this conversation from statistics to a place of empathy 18:05 Kiné’s recollection of finding out how hard it is to be a Black man 23:10 The prevalence of interracial relationships in media and how they’re trying to bring people together 27:06 How we can be more effective in the conversation of race and inequality 31:02 Why people need curiosity toward others 35:22 How to start doing your work 40:01 Kiné’s thoughts on how this all boils down to fear 46:40 How to approach this work while still figuring out who you are 49:02 Why you should focus on love instead of being anti-anything 55:20 What Kiné hopes people will pull from this conversation 01:00:45 Why you should keep trying even if you feel unappreciated If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

Sometimes the answers staring us in the face are the hardest to see. But only because we think they're too big to handle. In this solo episode I dive into a few ways to manage your pain and work with it once and for all. Wed night July 8th at 8pm EST -- FREE Master Class on how to use your pain as rocket fuel. www.manuncivilized.com/unplugged to register. www.manuncivilized.com/thenation for ANY man who's ready to take his life to the next level with brothers by his side. www.manuncivilized.com/thebook for your copy of my book described as "a hand grenade wrapped in art. @traverboehm on IG

Society always needs healthy, masculine leadership. In this episode, I was joined by a recent guest on the podcast to chat about this. We talked about why authoritarian and dictator style leaderships are so popular and I shared one of the best leadership lessons I saw as a young adult. We talk about the shadow masculine leadership and how it uses division and segregation to come into power and divide. Connor and I discuss why men need to prioritize self-care, get in community with other men and how this moment in time during the pandemic should be a wake-up call to many. About Connor Beaton: After apprenticing with that pupil of Carl Jung, I developed an innovative approach to healing the Shadow – the part of our psyche that causes us to self-sabotage – by drawing from experiential and training-based methodologies like Jungian psychology, somatic therapy, along with transformative breathwork and meditative practices. I’ve now been working for almost a decade as a NY-based coach, teacher, and speaker to help men (and women) from all over the world walk through their darkness and grow in the realms of mental clarity, relational communication, actualizing their potential and sexual intimacy. I have a no-BS attitude coupled with a compassionate understanding of our own human limitations. I’ve coached hundreds of men (and women) through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats and masterminds. Connect with Connor: Website | Man Talks | Facebook | Instagram | Podcast What You’ll Hear: 3:12 Why the authoritarian and dictator style leadership is so popular in culture 9:25 The death rattle of the authoritarian and dictator style leadership archetype 12:34 Why good leadership needs a sense of humbled assertiveness 14:40 One of the best leadership lessons 20:17 The division among our country causing a shadow based leader to come into power 23:24 How the shadow masculine leadership uses division and segregation 26:07 How shame is a powerful weapon 29:33 The different forms of reality 33:00 How this moment of time should be a wake-up call 35:04 Why the collective is missing the idea that we’re collective 38:30 Why men need to make a connection out of the ego and into the heart 41:00 The interplay right now between the primal and the divine 41:40 Why self-care has to stop being “uncool” 47:11 How now is an opportunity to embody self-compassion 50:45 Why now is the time to be around other men If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.

Tell me what you're building and I'll tell you who you are - especially if you're a man. The best way to navigate a chaotic world is to have a plan, a map, and an idea that's inspiring. This episode will dive into all of this. Men: www.manuncivilized.com/thenation to become part of the fastest growing men's group in America. My book Man UNcivilized is available on Audible as well as: www.manuncivilized.com/thebook Cheers, Traver

Trauma comes in many forms which is why many people don’t realize they have it. But the fact is, we all face trauma whether it’s big or small. In this episode, I was joined by Michael Gay, a private practice therapist who specializes in depression, trauma, PTSD, and grief for families and groups. We talk about his work as a therapist including the practices of wilderness therapy and equine therapy. Michael shares about the power of connection and relationship with others. He gives insight into how you can begin to work through your trauma and how to incorporate ritual into your life About Michael: Michael is a therapist in private practice in Boulder, Colorado. He earned his M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Naropa University with a focus in Transpersonal Psychology. Michael has worked in the field of counseling for the last 14 years as a guide, therapist, and trainer. He was a Wilderness Therapy guide for 6 years, leading and facilitating deep transformational work with teens, adults, and families in the mountains and high desert. He has also worked extensively in the field of addiction and recovery. He specializes in work with depression, groups, trauma, PTSD, grief, and families. He is currently involved with a rapidly growing organization called Sacred Sons, bringing men together for transformational experiences, brotherhood, healing, and empowerment. In addition to his M.A., Michael completed a 3 year training at the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and continues to train at the Gestalt Equine Institute. Connect with Michael: Website | www.michaelgaycounseling.com Instagram | @lightningtree_mg What You’ll Hear: 4:30 What Michael does as a therapist 5:43 Why you can’t think your way through trauma 8:05 The full range that trauma carries 12:36 What scares Michael and what he finds inspiring about this current moment 17:11 Why you need to use relationship as the path to healing 19:06 How he directs clients to look at relationship 20:40 What wilderness therapy is and how it changes people relationally 26:07 How the world fuels people’s addictions 27:34 How men can start to work with their trauma 30:28 What Michael has noticed about men and friendships 33:07 Why he’s passionate about equine therapy 37:55 How to incorporate ritual into your life 40:36 A ritual that Michael practices Links: A Branch from the Lightning Tree: Ecstatic Myth and the Grace of Wildness If you look at the civilized work and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on my website, Facebook or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests and more.