The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Life is a roller coaster full of challenges, tragedies, joys, and sorrows that bring us experiences, whether negative or positive. In today's episode, we will have a guest who takes advantage of the lows he suffered to become a leader in the eyes of many men in search of help and advice. Today's guest is Alan Crawford. After suffering a divorce, reaching the point of living with his parents, and suffering from depression, drug, and financial problems, today he is the leader of the men's group Uncivilized Nation Liverpool. In this episode, we will hear Alan's story, his journey, and learn what it takes to become a true leader. ABOUT ALAN CRAWFORD Alan is a Counsellor / Therapist in private practice, working with individuals, couples, and groups in person and online. He also teaches counseling to the therapists of tomorrow. He is passionate about helping people to understand themselves, their feelings, needs, patterns, and struggles. To heal their wounds and traumas and grow towards their full potential, the fullest expression of who they are as human beings. He has worked extensively in the field of addiction and recovery for over a decade. Now he enjoys supporting a diverse range of clients to connect more deeply with their own experience. To trust themselves, take responsibility for their own lives, and live those lives more fully in the present moment with a greater sense of meaning, purpose, and fulfillment. Alan is an avid meditator and practicing Zen Buddhist, a strength training enthusiast, nature lover, Father, and Musician. He is also a Man UNcivilized, a Team Leader within the UNcivilized Nation, and responsible for starting the first UNcivilized group in Europe (in his home town of Liverpool, England). Overcoming depression and addiction in his early 20s sent Alan on a path of healing, consciousness, and connecting with his heart. It was only after his divorce and losing everything in his early 30s that he came to own his power and begin the path towards becoming an integrated, actualized man. A Man UNcivilized. Alan is deeply grateful for Traver and his mission, mentorship, and inspiration. CONNECT WITH ALAN Website | www.alancrawfordcounselling.co.uk Instagram | @alancrawfordcounselling UNcivilized Liverpool | @uncivilizedliverpool Facebook | www.facebook.com/AlanCrawfordCounselling Email | alan@manuncivilized.com WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [1:43] Getting to know Alan. [2:30] Alan's Journey: from rock bottom to become a therapist and leader. [6:03] After living with his parents, Alan shared how he decided to move on in his life. [9:13] Alan talks about the state of man mental health in the UK. [11:49] Alan's work with men to help them release from their shadows. [15:15] Alan's leadership process. [19:58] Launching Uncivilized Liverpool process. [24:00] Start your own men's group. [25:02] Men's embracing the group. [31:08] What Alan hopes for the future of Uncivilized Liverpool [32:35] Therapist background used in leadership. [36:18] Where to find Alan. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.

In our outer world, we can have everything; money, fame, strength, beauty, and still be empty inside, without feeling anything, without having anything that makes us feel complete or even happy. Suffering from internal wounds that we have not taken the time to heal and that we have created a shell so strong that we have not allowed ourselves to cry. This is a beautiful episode of self-improvement, an episode that tells a fascinating transition story about the life of Andy Petranek. Andy, an ex-marine, entrepreneur, and coach, is also my mentor, whom I appreciate so much and wanted to invite him today so that he can tell us his story. A man with a fascinating outer life who struggled with internal problems that led him to suffer from depression and panic attacks, thus leading to the business of his life to decline. ABOUT ANDY PETRANEK Andy Petranek is a life and leadership coach who’s been helping people create greater levels of confidence, joy, fulfillment, and success in their lives for over 25 years. He was the founder of one of the first 10 CrossFit affiliates in the world in 2004 - CrossFit Los Angeles. And he is the co-founder of the Whole Life Challenge - a global, six-week, online game people play with others to see how much of a long-term impact they can have on their overall health, fitness, and well being. Through the Challenge, Andy has impacted the lives of over 200,000 people over the past 8 years and has helped thousands of gyms, fitness trainers, and health practitioners use it to improve the health and well-being of their clients. He has also helped hundreds of small and medium-sized companies use the Challenge as a team-building and health-producing wellness event for their employees. Andy is a former United States Marine, was a semi-professional trumpet player, a Red Bull sponsored athlete in the sport of adventure racing, one of about 70 qualified competitors in the CrossFit Games in 2009, and has experienced adventure all over the world mountaineering, whitewater kayaking, mountain biking, outrigger paddling, and snowboarding. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife Julia, son Dashel, and their two dogs, Odie and Bella. CONNECT WITH ANDY Instagram | @andypetranek Facebook | www.facebook.com/andypetranek LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/andypetranek/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [3:20] Andy talks about how actions can affect other people's lives. [9:53] The feeling of emptiness: A 53 years old Andy talks about his life transition. [22:50] After suffering from depression and panic attacks, Andy shares about the work he had to do to over it. [25:58] How to be okay as a human. [30:10] Coming out of the depths: Andy shares the story about how opening a coaching school gave him a new life purpose. [36:26] Andy talks about the patter and identity issues he suffered during his transition. [38:54] A deeper work out: Andy talks about how he wanted to change more than people's bodies; he wanted to change their lives. [55:48] Where to find Andy. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.

Join me as I delve into three key relationship questions that men need to know how to answer and the beautiful conversation that follows surrounding boundaries and hard conversations.

Have you ever found yourself looking at Youtube at 3 am, watching conspiracy theory videos, or even preparing chocolate pudding at 4 am because you lost control over your life? If so, man, do I have an episode for you. This was quite an unusual episode where I had the pleasure of speaking to my favorite Kiwi in all the world, Mike Campbell. Mike and I were recording this episode for each other's podcast and: we both hosted it. So you will hear more about me and listen to my thoughts about global hatchets and every day topics that affect men's lives. We talked about how we show up more for our community, family, and even ourselves. The importance of taking care of us. Why do we make self-judgments. How compassion can save lives, and many other interesting subjects which will help you to take control over your life and help others to take control of their lives too. ABOUT MIKE CAMPBELL Men’s Coach, author, and creator of The Everyday Legends Academy program for men, Mike Campbell, helps everyday men build legendary relationships; with himself, his partner, and his world. Mike's skills and passion sit in making personal development easy to understand, simple to implement, and motivating to execute, so everyday men can better help themselves and others. He does this with a lovingly caring heart, and a firm strong hand - a flowing balance between supporting men with compassion and calling them forward to integrity. CONNECT WITH MIKE Instagram | www.instagram.com/mikecampbellmc/ Facebook |  www.facebook.com/mikecampbellmancoach WHAT YOU WILL HEAR 3:39 From Australia to New Zealand: Getting to know Mike. 6:37 The OG UNcivilized man: Getting to know Traver. 7:54 Men's third paradigm. 9:26 How to show up more for your community, family, and yourself. 14:20 The importance of taking care of yourself. 20:07 Self-sabotage and self-judgment and a self-growth barrier. 24:21 How to lead in hatchets times. 30:36 Join the UNcivilized Nation. 35:00 Creating safety through certain. 40:26 Using compassion to help others. 46:29 How to create a compassion revolution by using leadership 58:42 Where to find Mike. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.

Our inner child is often hurt, our inner child suffers, our inner child desperately cries out for support, love, and understanding,  and we do not listen. Many of our traumas comes from the inner child we all have, who has suffered since we betrayed him many times and our adult side has not known how to take care of and to heal the wounds properly. Christine Hassler, in addition to being an expert in relationships and spiritual psychology, is an expert in trauma. In this episode, we will learn from Christine how to heal our inner child, how to heal traumas to be able to enjoy better life. We will talk about relationships, about reparenting yourself, how to first repair yourself, and why she has faith in relationships despite many people are freaking tired of them. Enjoy this pleasant conversation with Christine. ABOUT CHRISTINE HASSLER: Christine Hassler is a Master coach, facilitator and speaker with over 15 years of experience. She is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What you Really Want and is the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It” where she coaches people live on the show. Christine is known globally for her ability to identify what is holding someone back and compassionately guide them to clarity. She also works with companies and organizations to increase the productivity and decrease the stress of their employees. Christine has a Masters degree in Spiritual Psychology and implements elements of NLP, psychology, spirituality, science and a lot of her own diverse life experience into her work. She’s appeared on: The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style, and The New York Times. Christine believes once we get out of our own way, we can show up to make the meaningful impact we are here to make. Visit her online at www.christinehassler.com CONNECT WITH CHRISTINE: Instagram | @christinehassler Facebook | www.facebook.com/christinehasslerpage/ Podcast |  http://christinehassler.com/itunes WHAT YOU'LL HEAR: 1:37 Getting to know Christine Hassler 3:16 Why people are scared to look at the roots of their trauma 5:20 Why we should take action on our traumas 8:43 Christine explains the inner child work. 13:04 How to reparent yourself to heal. 14:51 Betraying our inner child. 19:33 How to repair yourself and others. 26:40 Christine's point of view about the feminist movement and the men's culture shift. 31:11 Join the UNcivilized Nation 33:04 What man need to do in a relationship 41:45 "Is nice to get to a point where you don't tolerate shitty relationships" Why Christine has faith in stable relationships. 48:05 Christine's advice for men looking for a conscious woman. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.

The parenthood journey is an experience full of emotions and new challenges. For some, becoming parents is an easy experience, but for others, it may seem like an impossible experience to achieve. For today's episode, we will have one of the sweetest stories, and today's guest, Matt Aporta, will be the one to share it with us. The journey of Matt and his wife towards parenthood was a difficult road, full of barriers, that step by step, they were overcoming. From not being able to have children of their own, to adoption, and the multiple trips to court with the daily fear that their little son "Angel" would be taken away from them. Listen to the whole story on today's episode. About Matt: Matt Aporta is a proud dad through Foster Adoption to his three year old son Angel and just as proud of a husband to wife @marybethlarue. He's the VP of Sales for  @beekeepers_naturals . They recently located to the mountaintop of Colorado after fifteen years in Los Angeles. He loves being outside, spending time with my family, cooking, a good bourbon and road trips. CONNECT WITH MATT Matt Instagram | @matt_aporta Matt's Wife Instagram | @marybethlarue WHAT YOU'LL HEAR 2:43 The beginning of Matt's parenthood journey. 18:33 Meeting their baby boy, Angel. 25:34 "We were scared that someone would take away our child": Matt talks about the barriers they had to face to become Angel's legal parents. 33:00 The court process: After taking their baby home, the hardest challenge appeared; the biological father wanting his baby back. 40:00 The moment of celebration: Matt shared with us how he felt after finishing the adoption process. 41:10 Join the UNcivilized nation. 42:11 "It was the ultimate test": Matt talks about how they as a couple faced those challenges. 49:05 What people should know about being a foster parent. 51:08 Matt talk about what he loves about being a parent. 53:10 Matt advice for people considering adoption. 58:03 Where to find Matt and his wife. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. FOSTER CARE RESOURCES https://www.cdss.ca.gov/inforesources/foster-care/foster-care-and-adoptive-resource

Another question from you all. Is the Uncivilized man monogamous? Let’s explore the idea of undomesticated sexuality and personal choice. Buckle up for this one.

When we talk about addictions, alcohol may be the most common due to the legality and acceptance of it in our society, but it is still a terrible addiction that can end up destroying lives. Today's guest is Laura McKowen, an ex alcohol addict, who after going through the bitter moment of losing her daughter due to alcohol excess on a wedding night, hit rock bottom and began a journey to sobriety, a journey full of ups and downs that has led her to be an amazing writer, teacher, and author. About Laura: Laura McKowen had a long, successful career in public relations and the Mad Men–Esque drinking culture of advertising. After getting sober, she quickly became recognized as a fresh voice in recovery, beloved for her soulful and irreverent writing online and in print. She now leads sold-out retreats and courses, teaching people how to say yes to a bigger life. She lives outside Boston, Massachusetts with her daughter. Laura writes an award-winning blog and hosted the iTunes Top 100 HOME podcast. She has been featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, WebMD, Psychology Today, the TODAY show, The Doctors, and more. Laura has an MBA from Babson College and spent 15 years in advertising managing million-dollar accounts for Fortune 100 companies before transitioning to writing and teaching. She’s the founder of several online programs for sobriety and personal development, The Luckiest Club, a sobriety support community, and she teaches workshops and retreats all over the U.S. Her first book, We Are The Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life, released in January 2020 and was an instant bestseller. Laura is represented by Jamie Carr at The Book Group. Connect with Laura: Instagram: @Laura_McKowen Website: theluckiestclub.com What you'll hear: 1:42 Meditation time. 3:20 What is Laura creating and building in this world. 7:00 "If I can stay this way everything is gonna be okay". Laura talks about her addiction story. 14:38 Laura's realization moment. 18:38 Alcohol drowning Laura's inner writer. 24:03 The hardest and easiest part of sobriety. 29:41 The loneliness feeling behind Laura's addiction. 33:56 Join the UNcivilized nation. 34:48 Laura's thoughts about sobriety and pain. 41:02 The inspiration behind The Luckiest Club. 42:44 "To achieve something alcohol doesn't have a place in your life". Laura's advise. 46:30 Laura talks about leading addictions during covid. 51:52 Where to find Laura 52:08 Support Laura. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.

We have all gone through that moment where we look at ourselves in the mirror and face those ugly thoughts that we have about ourselves. Imagine one day waking up and going to that mirror and not knowing your own body, having doubts about your gender, and even hating yourself for the simple fact of being in the wrong body. That is what many people in the transgender community experience. Ben Wallace, our guest, is a transgender man who was not the exception to go through that unpleasant moment. Ben will talk to us about his personal experience of how he went from being known as Rachel to being who he really has always been, Ben Wallace. About Ben Wallace: Gentle Ben is an advocate, songwriter, speaker, and catalyst for compassion. He is a man of transgender experience, who shares his story in service to all people who are open to opening their hearts to the wisdom of the trans experience. In 2017 he was the subject of a documentary film called Real Boy, which premiered on PBS. The film followed his journey through early transition, as well as the difficult process that his mother went through in releasing the expectations that she had for who her daughter would grow up to become. Since then he has spoken on stages and in classrooms all over the world, on a mission to make the conversation about transgender people personal. Currently, he’s in school- studying psychology with the aspiration of becoming a psychotherapist. He’s an emerging men’s work facilitator whose invitation to other men is simple; allow yourselves to be transformed by a transgender man, just as you would any other brother. Connect with Ben: Instagram | @gentle.ben Website | gentlebenmusic.com What you'll hear: 2:04 Ben story. 8:02 Ben talks about his family's reaction when he was younger. 9:41 "Trauma does not invalidate the experience of transness". 11:16 Ben talks about his parents' acceptance. 12:25 Ben talks about his self-discovering: "I didn't feel a connection with my body while I was looking at myself in the mirror". 18:48 The scariest part of Ben's transition. 29:46 Join the UNcivilized nation. 30:48 Reactions: Ben experiences men and women's reactions to his transition. 33:05 "My transition was complete the moment I decided to just step into the truth of who I am". Ben talks about his transition. 33:56 The difference between living as a man and living as a woman. 38:46 The hardest challenge Ben had to face 45:22 Where to find Ben. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.

Our body is our temple, and that is why we must take care of it, not only externally but also from the inside; that's when food makes its stellar entrance. Food is important because it is what provides us energy and what keeps our bodies working. Today's guest, Marlon Aitcheson, is not only a healthy food chef but also a vegan, an immigrant, and a black man in the United States who without having been in a culinary school and with all the adversities that he has gone through in his life, today is a private chef with amazing talent. Connect with Marlon Instagram | @m_aitcheson What you'll hear: 1:37 Marlon's invitation into the vegan lifestyle. 8:17 "I never been in a culinary school": How Marlon discover his talent 13:04 Family black sheep: Marlon's family reaction about him becoming vegan. 17:22 Steps to start eating healthier 20:43 Join the UNcivilized nation. 21:38 Shifting the mentality about eating healthy. 28:36 Microwave and fast food: the enemy of American cuisine 32:13 Marlon talks about veganism in the black community 37:01 Marlon story about being an immigrant black man in the USA 51:00 Follow your dreams: Marlon's advice. 50:03 Where to find Marlon. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don’t miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.