The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

On this Live Uplugged with Michael Gay and Duey Freeman we dive into the Behind the Masks of Men educational series we have coming up this spring 2023 that seek to help you understand the depths of yourself as a man, and understand the men in your life.  The three online intensives will all you to dive into the most vital and often untalked about topics that shape your life.  Anger & Rage - begins March 1st (Men only) Relationship & Attatchmnt - begins April 5th (Co-Ed)  Sex and Desire - begins May 9th (Men only) These are the areas severely diminishing the quality of your life, or flat out undermining it altogether. Each of the three intensives will take place over 8 hours in the course of a given month and expose you to potent and precise teachings, distilled insights, and transformative experiences. The Behind The Masks Series is a one-of-a-kind experience. Join us for all three modules and take the largest step of your life in the direction of your power, individuation, and personal freedom. IT’S TIME TO TAKE OFF THE MASK, AND DO IT IN GOOD COMPANY. JOIN US

Postpartum depression is common among women but can affect men too. We have come a long way in science to understand the impact the arrival of a new baby has on the parent's mental health. Although hormonal and physical changes can predispose pregnant mothers to mood swings that can lead to depression, supportive fathers are also at risk for it. To dive into this subject, the acupuncturist and co-founder of the Council of Fathers, Noah Goldstein, will join us in this episode. If you're struggling with men's postpartum depression, this episode may be helpful for you. Remember, you're not alone. ABOUT NOAH GOLDSTEIN Becoming a father has been one of the most significant rites of passage he has experienced. Noah spent most of his adult life trying to understand how to live a richer, wholesome, and fulfilling life. He has spent all his time as a father working to heal himself and learning how to be in a better relationship with his partner and children. He is also an acupuncturist through his private practice Heartseed Health. When he is not working or spending time with family, he loves being out in nature, running, gardening, or making art. CONNECT WITH NOAH Website: www.counciloffathers.com Instagram: Council Of Fathers WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [02:24] Who's Noah Goldstein? [05:56] Misconceptions of postpartum life. [13:09] How to feel connected with your child when you're not? [22:08] Symptoms of postpartum depression in men. [31:02] The most common challenges of fatherhood and how to overcome them. [39:44] Tips for new dads. [46:10] Where to find Noah? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

In America, it is more common to talk about disgusting things around children than to teach them about sex. Raising children without sexual education may result in teen pregnancy, sexual diseases, or sexually frustrated adults who may or may not be a danger to society. To dive into this topic, Lisa Chatham joined us in this episode. She is a psychotherapist passionate about helping men convicted of sex crimes return to being functional men within society. Today we will talk about sex crimes, consent, taboo, and how to improve your sex life as a couple through conversations. Do you think that a person convicted of sexual crimes can change? Let's hear what she has to tell us. ABOUT LISA CHATHAM Lisa Chatham, M.A., is a faculty member in the Psychology and Yoga Studies Department at Naropa University, and a psychotherapist in private practice in Boulder, Colorado. For over ten years she has worked with young adults, adults, couples, and groups on a wide range of issues including anxiety and depression, sexuality and identity, failure to launch, intimacy and autonomy in relationships, and psycho-spiritual well being. She specializes in family systems, attachment and forensic psychology. CONNECT WITH LISA Website: www.lisachathampsychotherapy.com/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:05] Who's Lisa? [5:00] What's a sex crime? [10:00] Why is sex still viewed as taboo in America? [19:22] The influence of porn in America. [22:12] Relationship attachments. [29:37] Why are people addicted to porn? [31:54] How to tell your partner that you are addicted to porn? [34:39] Secretly consuming porn leads to eating criminal sexual activity? [40:05] Hard conversations about sex in relationships. [50:00] What is consent, and why is it so important? [55:56] Lisa's piece of advice. [57:30] Where to find Lisa? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

There are two types of people. Those who work for money and those who work for passion. Which one are you? Today's guest Nick Onken doesn't have a typical title or career. He considers himself a creative alchemist, and you are going to know why. Nick believes life is made up of our creations – our moments, relationships, and conversations. He believes we get to choose what we are creating. In this episode, Nick and I talked about creation, alchemy, identity, expression, reorientation, and mastering. Do you want to find out what a creative alchemist is? Then don't miss this episode. You are going to love it. ABOUT NICK ONKEN Nick Onken is a photographer, podcast host, and creative entrepreneur devoted to inspiring the world to create their moments and create their life CONNECT WITH NICK Website: https://onken.co/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [3:30] Who's Nick Onken? [10:11] Deconstructing inner religion belief system. [14:16] What's the full expression? [17:32] What's identity alchemy? [23:06] Taking the inner you to the outer world. [28:26] Can we change our identity? [31:48] How to reorient ourselves? [38:27] The benefits of mastering your craft. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

Every colonized country has a history of trauma and grief. Today's guest Bayo Akomolafe, is a Nigerian man passionate about decolonized landscapes, writing, and poems. Today, he is here to blow our minds with his philosophy, no kidding. If you press play, get ready to listen about decolonization, trauma, grief, mental health, psychotherapy, and how this influences and affects us as individuals. ABOUT BAYO AKOMOLAFE Bayo Akomolafe is a philosopher, writer, activist, professor of psychology, and executive director of the Emergence Network. CONNECT WITH BAYO Website: https://www.bayoakomolafe.net/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:43] Who's Bayo Akomolafe? [14:14] How do traumas and stories play together? [21:27] Reframing trauma in modern civilization [25:48] How to heal the past? [29:51] What's generative incapacitation? [32:31] What would Bayo currently change in society? [38:25] Reshaping the system. [45:44] Grief in America. [51:21] Where to find Bayo. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

In this solo episode I explore the single most important sentence a man can say to himself and know about himself — I am a man. This conversation stems from the hundreds of men I’ve worked with in my life who were told that “being a man” wasn’t important or was a secondary or tertiary thought. It is not. It is primary. And when it becomes so in your life, everything changes. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

To say David Skudneski is fortunate to be alive is a massive understatement. In this episode we will dive into the events of that February evening in 2019, his experience of feeling this life altering cycling accident occur in real-time, and how he navigated the internal journey, physical injuries and used meditation practices to fuel his powerful recovery. It is your life; no one else's; live it to the best of your abilities and then even better! ABOUT DAVID SKUDNESKI Avid cyclist and longtime meditator suffered a life altering bicycling accident internally decapitating his head from his spine, shattering the C1 vertebrae, breaking C2 and dislocating C3. David is a daily reminder that staying present through it all using the power of mediation will not only guide you in your most challenging times, it will also help you find meaning through it all. CONNECT WITH DAVID Website: www.askadeadguy.com WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [13:01] The accident unfolds with notable awareness and clarity. [18:07] Experiencing the places our mind go in severe accidents. [23:12] Consciousness on death’s door. [27:30] Crucial decisions on the path to healing [38:27] How David uses the power of meditation to re-heart himself, live with gratitude and love through life’s greatest. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Join The UNcivilized Nation, registration is only open through Jan 3rd, 2023

This one is so popular, I made swag that says "Fight Hurt" on it. The world is going to knock you down over and over again. Your mission is to get up and keep fighting every single time. Keep fighting, hurt or not. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Join The UNcivilized Nation, registration is only open through Jan 3rd, 2023

This ethos says everything you need to know right in it. You can be a victim, you can be a power-hungry dick, or you can learn how to use both your strength and your love. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Join The UNcivilized Nation, registration is only open through Jan 3rd, 2023

You'll be devastated and ruined when your heart is broken. Still, love fully and fiercely. A life lived any other way is dull by comparison. How do you do it? You place your hand on your chest and you leave it there for the rest of your life. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise