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Today’s episode was inspired by our personal experiences and a blog post from The Gottman Institute all about perpetual versus solvable problems in long-relationships. As close friends, we’ve had a front seat to the common disagreements and issues that we each have in our 10-year long marriages. We often will talk through something and try to see the other partner’s side, while also working towards solutions - which is what you’ll get to hear in today’s episode. The Gottman blog post was so interesting to us because it made us realize that what may be a solvable problem for Abby and Colin, may be a perpetual problem for Amy and Drew and vice versa. According to The Gottman Institute, 69% of problems in relationships are perpetual with the most common topics being household chores, parenting, sex, and in-law relationships. We are digging into a couple of these topics today and breaking down whether this is a perpetual or solvable problem in our own relationship and what we’ve done to work on it together as a couple. We hope that from listening to our personal experiences in today’s episode, you’re able to reflect if your marital arguments are perpetual or solvable problems in order to evolve with your partner and be in a really happy marriage.Links & Resources:20% off your order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping 20% off your first order at Vuori ClothingCheck out the Maui Nui Venison products we’re loving!The Gottman Institute Blog Post, “Managing Conflict: Solvable vs Perpetual Problems”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We know a lot of listeners in our HERself community are busy moms, including us! We've got households to run, kids to take care of, careers to advance, spouses to love, and friends to support. Today on the podcast Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein, licensed clinical psychologist and mom of two, is here to deep dive into stress and burnout, something that is unfortunately common amongst moms. Dr. Carolyn is passionate about supporting moms in finding their worth, helping them embrace the human experience not just with evidence-based strategies, but also with deep compassion and understanding. While stress may be a normal human response, unmanaged and compounding stress without intervention can lead to inevitable burn out. We hope that through today’s episode, you are able to learn the signs and symptoms of burnout and feel prepared with some strategies that Dr. Carolyn shares. Today’s episode was eye-opening knowing that if we just pause and evaluate, it’s possible to take small steps in the right direction to avoid burnout.Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’Check out LeVillage on Instagram and their website to find a location near you, and be sure to grab tickets to our event at the new Des Plaines location on March 21st!10% off at BETTERHELPFollow Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein on InstagramDr. Rubenstein’s WebsiteLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today’s conversation is all about…conversation! We are happy to have Dr. Alison Wood Brooks joining us on the podcast. Alison is a behavioral scientist as well as a professor and Faculty Fellow at Harvard Business School. She created and teaches a course called “TALK” and has now taken her research and published it in her new book also titled TALK! Many of us as parents want our kids to grow and learn in the area of communication - communicating with us, with their friends, with teachers or coaches, etc. Whether you have extroverted or introverted kids - this episode is for you. We touch on things like how to help your extroverted child find balance in discussions by letting others participate, and teaching introverted children how to feel comfortable in conversations to create strong friendships and excel at school. We also discuss how to approach difficult topics, especially with our significant others. And we end the episode elaborating on the importance of apologies and why this comes easily to some, not so easily to others, and some techniques to help bridge that gap. Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Use code ‘HERSELF’ for 10% off your Team SuperCrew purchase, PLUS free gift!Free sample pack with purchase of LMNTFollow Dr. Alison Wood Brooks on InstagramAlison’s WebsitePurchase Alison’s Book; “Talk: The science of conversation and the art of being ourselves”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We all have twenty four hours in a day. And when your plate is full with things like a romantic relationship, kids, a career, keeping up your home and taking care of pets, friends, and other obligations, every piece on that plate gets a designated amount of your time. Some seasons of life, the time you have for friends is plentiful - thinking back to our youth with school friends, college friends, and friends at your first job. Friendships came easily then because you had the time to pour into them. Now as adults, it can be hard to find the time to create new and meaningful friendships or keep existing friendships going. Today on the podcast, we are sitting down to have a conversation about our experiences with friendships through our seasons of life. We share the concept about friendship “tiers” and how that relates to our new and existing relationships, our most important values in friendship, and what we feel about friendships with the opposite sex. Our goal is that after listening to today’s episode, you feel hopeful that whether your friendship cup is big or small for your current season of life, that your cup can be full!Links & Resources:Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’20% off your first purchase of Vuori ClothingCheck out Maui Nui Venison and the limited HERself collection30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’Episode “59: HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on the Challenges and Triumphs of Adult Friendships”KU Med professor, J. A. Hall’s article, “How many hours does it take to make a friend?”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

The winter season can feel long for a number of reasons, especially if you live in a cold climate like us! Illnesses going around at school or daycare seem to be constant and our kids are always catching something. That’s why we are so excited to have Dr. Kelly Fradin on the podcast today to talk with us about how to keep our kiddos healthy during this season, when to seek additional help for issues such as tonsils and sleep problems, and we even touch on our children’s mental health too. As a pediatrician and mother of two, Dr. Kelly shares the concerns of keeping our children healthy. Having graduated from Harvard College and Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons and years of experience working in public health and schools, we knew Dr. Kelly’s outstanding credentials would make her the perfect guest to share tips and tricks to help keep our kiddos healthy, mind and body, during this cold and flu season! Be sure to share this one with a friend in solidarity and share on your socials, tagging us @herselfpodcast! Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT10% off your first month of BETTERHELPFollow Dr. Kelly Fradin on InstagramDr. Kelly’s WebsitePurchase Dr. Kelly’s Book; “Advanced Parenting: Advice for Helping Kids Through Diagnoses, Differences, and Mental Health Challenges”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Here at HERself, we love wellness in all aspects of life whether it’s your sleep, relationships, parenting, self-care, even digital wellness. Today on the podcast, Amy Blankson is joining to help us discern what digital balance can look like in our everyday lives. Amy is the Co-founder of the Digital Wellness Institute and author of “The Future of Happiness” and she shares how to cultivate happiness and well-being in a hyperconnected world. We know there is lots of talk about our children and tech, but we want to utilize this episode as a way for us to reflect as adults on our own digital usage and be proud of the way we use our screen time. Amy shares a great exercise that helps us all tailor our screen time to our personal values and reminds us about the importance of reflecting on these values often. We are also going to talk through what digital boundaries look like for our home life, work life, in relationships and how to decide what a healthy balance looks like for you! We know that in this day and age, it is hard to be completely away from our phones and the digital world, but we hope that today’s episode helps you focus on your values when it comes to tech and helps you set a healthy balance that supports your overall wellness!Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’Follow Amy Blankson on Instagram and LinkedInAmy’s Website and The Digital Wellness Institute WebsiteAmy’s LinkedIn CoursePurchase Amy’s Book; “The Future of Happiness”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Dr. Kelly Vincent, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, and founder of the holistic mental health practice Nourished Wellness Group, helps women in all walks of life with their mental health journey. She is most passionate about caring for the mental health of mothers, female entrepreneurs, and other young professionals, which we know describes a lot of our listeners! Keeping you all in mind, we thought Dr. Kelly would be an excellent expert to bring on the show to share her knowledge on the body’s state of dysregulation, anxiety and high-functioning anxiety, and the “fawning” response. We discuss why so many of today’s parents feel dysregulated, overstimulated, and experience sensory overload more often than parents of previous generations. Kelly really gets to the root of why so many women feel the way they do and walks us through strategies that we can do to help feel more regulated. We hope you find this conversation with Dr. Kelly insightful, and that her actionable tips empower you to create a more regulated parenting experience.Links and Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shippingFree sample pack with purchase of LMNTLook for Goodwipes on Amazon or in your local grocery store!Follow Dr. Kelly Vincent and Nourish Wellness Group on InstagramDr. Kelly’s Website, and Nourish Wellness Group Website“How to Map Your Nervous System” Blog PostPurchase Dr. Kelly’s “True You: A Self-Discovery Journal” Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

HERself turned 5 years old this month! Join us, Abby and Amy, today to hear the HERself Podcast inception story, the bumps and growth that happened along the way, and some of our all-time favorite guests and moments from the last 5 years. We know none of this could be possible without our incredible listeners, so truly, from the bottom of our hearts, thank you for being a part of it! It started with an idea and has grown into this beautiful, supportive community where women can come together to get the best information from the best experts and we are so happy to be sharing this space with you all! We hope you hear some of your favorite past episodes and quotes - or that you’ll go back and re-listen to the ones that meet you where you are today. Cheers to 5 years and many more episodes to come!Links & Resources:10% off at BETTERHELPFree Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’Check out Maui Nui Venison and the limited HERself collection!3. Bring on the Men: Our Husbands on Being True Partners10. HERself Expert: Molly Millwood on Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma 213. Greatest Hits: HERself Expert: Kristin Neff on Self Compassion and Calming Your Mean Inner Critic 103. Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries157. Real Parenting: What To Do When the Script Doesn’t Work with Claire Lerner178. Discipline, Fostering Resilience, and Finding Your Confidence as a Parent with Dr. Aliza Pressman21. HERself Expert: Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist. All Your Questions, Answered.Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

You all know by now that here at the HERself podcast, we love and prioritize our sleep - our guest even deemed us sleep advocates! Which is why we are beyond excited to bring you today’s episode with Dr. Fiona Baker, Director of SRI International’s Human Sleep Research Program. She is a leading sleep expert who graciously joins us for today’s interview where we ask her questions we received straight from you all, our HERself community! Today we will discuss aspects of sleep like the differences between men and women, how our partners impact our sleep, what to do about sleep disturbances, and more. Because sleep touches all areas of our lives, Dr Fiona shares some great tips on how we can improve our sleep too to set ourselves up for a successful day. Whether you sleep well or are a light sleeper, we hope you find some key takeaways from this episode and have a great night’s sleep!Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping20% off at VUORIFree sample pack with purchase of LMNTFollow Dr. Fiona Baker on LinkedInSRI International WebsiteNational Sleep Foundation WebsiteLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We are so pleased to have Dr. Tammy Schamuhn on the podcast today! Tammy started her professional career in the classroom as a teacher in inner-city schools in Canada. While she enjoyed teaching, it was clear to her that teaching was not her passion. What she DID love was caring for her students with behavioral issues like anxiety. Tammy went back to school to earn her Master’s Degree in Psychology and now combines her love of teaching with her love of being a therapist on a daily basis by helping children and parents with her platform, Institute of Child Psychology, and her play therapy practice. Tammy is here today to guide us and talk us through all things related to childhood anxiety. We are answering questions like is it normal for children to have anxiety? What does anxiety look like in kids? And when should we, as parents, intervene? We found today’s interview to be SO educational and FULL of mindblowing information. It really hit home for us! If you love today’s episode too, we’d love it if you would share this episode with a friend who needs to hear Tammy’s knowledge!Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’Use code ‘HERself’ on Amazon for 25% off your purchase of GoodwipesFollow Dr. Tammy Schamuhn on Instagram, Facebook, and YoutubeDr. Tammy’s WebsitePurchase Dr. Tammy’s Book; “The Parenting Handbook: Your Guide to Raising Resilient” Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: