HERself

Summer takes on a whole new feeling when your kids are school aged, and today we’re breaking down our tips and lessons learned. We honestly didn’t understand why summer felt so stressful for parents until we entered this phase of life, and so we are talking about what this transition has looked and felt like. As we emphasize the importance of being present in the moment, setting realistic expectations for summer activities, and the role of community & support systems. Our conversation covers how we manage schedules, budget for activities, and the significance of building connections with other parents. Each of us share what we are looking forward to most this summer and reflect on some of our favorite memories as a family from past summers!If you guys have something that you are looking forward to this summer, let us know! Tag us in your Instagram stories or share this episode with a friend who might need an extra boost of encouragement as she preps for the summer months ahead.Links & Resources:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFMAUINUI: mauinuivenison.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We are so excited to tell you about the direction we are taking the HERself podcast for the summer! If you like this new format, be sure and let us know. You, the listeners, are such an integral part of what we do here at the HERself podcast and we want to make sure we are creating content that resonates with you.In this episode we delve into the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on the challenges women face in expressing their wants and needs. We discuss the dynamics of accountability and communication in partnerships. This convo highlights the fears women have about being less agreeable and the necessity of asking for what you need in your relationships. Through our own personal situations we explore how assumptions have led us to misunderstandings and we discuss the importance of recognizing the mental load carried by each individual within a partnership. We share strategies that have worked for us in regards to managing household tasks and emphasize the significance of open dialogue to foster a supportive and balanced partnership.Links & Resources:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

With this being a holiday weekend, we invite you to relisten to one of our most listened to episodes! We had so much positive feedback when this episode went live since it was one of the first times we had a male perspective on the podcast. If you haven’t listened yet, it’s a great alternate perspective and a great one to pass along to your male partners! Our guest, Eli Weinstein, is a dad of two and a psychotherapist that isn’t afraid to give it to people straight. He has an honest, blunt, but always kind style. Eli has been working as a therapist for over eight years and shares some of the struggles he has faced since becoming a dad, including his perspective as a dad going through loss and infertility.As women, we often ask ourselves if dads ever feel the same weight of the mental load. Eli shares his perspective on this and what advice he has for women who are feeling the mental load burden. We cover the topic of postpartum mood disorders in men, what it’s like to be the starting player versus the bench warmer in parenthood, and how we have to be able to switch on and off as the preferred parent even when our children aren’t as comfortable with it. We hope that by revisiting this episode, you hear a new piece of wisdom to take away. Or, if you’re new and hearing this for the first time, we hope you find this episode just as helpful as we did! And don’t forget to share this with your partner!Links & Resources:30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’Free sample pack with purchase of LMNTFollow Eli Weinstein Instagram Eli’s WebsiteListen to Eli’s Podcast: The Dude Therapist PodcastLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

*trigger warning, abusive relationships*We feel it’s important to have open and honest discussions about heavy topics in this safe space that is the HERself podcast. In today’s episode, we will be asking the hard questions about narcissism with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, licensed clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic abuse. Dr. Jaime will help us understand the difference between a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, narcissistic tendencies, or defensiveness. If you think you may be a child of a narcissistic parent, Dr. Jaime shares ways to navigate that relationship. And if you’re the friend of someone you feel may be in an intimate narcissistic abusive relationship, Dr. Jaime has some insights on how to be a supportive, available friend. Love bombing - sounds great, but is it really a good thing? Dr. Jaime will give us the details of love bombing and why you should be wary of this tidal wave of infatuation. All of the information Dr. Jaime shares with us today is eye opening and important to hear. Whether you’re in the dating world or a committed relationship, you’ll be given the tools to prevent getting into a narcissistic relationship, how to identify if you are in one, and know how to get out. Healing is important to us, so we’ve linked Dr. Jaime’s resources down below if you or someone you love needs them. Links & Resources:20% off at Vuori ClothingFree Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’Get a free pack of Goodwipes!Follow Dr. Jaime Zuckerman on InstagramDr. Jaime’s Website and therapy group, The Z Group Listen to Dr. Jaime’s Podcast, Next Up: Narcissism with Dr. Z Purchase Dr. Jaime’s Workbooks; “Find Your Calm”, and “Find Good Habits”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyro

Modern day friendships - why do they feel so hard? Did you know each of your friendships have an “about” section for your origin story? Why do I still feel lonely even though I have close friends?Friendships enrich our lives so much, but we understand that it can be hard to maintain old friendships and find the time to make meaningful new ones as busy moms! We are so pleased to have author, speaker, and seasoned journalist Anna Goldfarb on today’s episode to share her perspective on modern day friendships. While you may have several groups of friends (think friends from growing up, work friends, mom friends), those groups seldom overlap. Anna dives into WHY this has caused the new age problem of leaving us feeling lonely or isolated in friendships. We loved this idea she brought up about everyone having an “about section” for each of your friendships, and why that can actually help you to better understand your current friendship status and relationships with others. This episode is such a fun and energetic take on adult friendships that had us laughing along the way! We’ve talked about friendship plenty of times in other episodes, but this episode brought some new ideas forward. We’d love to hear what your takeaways were from today’s episode, and don’t forget to reach out to a friend and tell them you love them!Links & Resources:Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT10% off at BetterHelpJoin us on Patreon for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!Follow Anna Goldfarb on InstagramAnna’s WebsiteJoin Anna’s Substack, Friendship Explained with Anna GoldfarbPurchase Anna’s Book; “Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections” And check out this free excerpt of the book!Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

As our kids continue to age, the topic of bullying is becoming more front and center. Especially with our pre-teens as they enter what our guest refers to as, “the crucial years”, ages 5-12, where they are rapidly developing into complex people. The conversation today with Dr. Sheryl Ziegler, Licensed Clinical Psychologist and author of the book titled, “The Crucial Years” provides an honest conversation for how we can raise empathetic and kind children who understand the implications of bullying. We’ll cover everything from how to talk to your kids about bullying, how they can learn to respond if they see someone being bullied, and what to do if they’re being bullied themselves.  Dr. Sheryl shares techniques, prompts, and scripts to encourage conversation with your kids surrounding bullying that we found SO helpful. We also talk about keeping the lines of conversation open when it comes to puberty and our developing kids.  This episode is jam packed with amazing information, and we would love it if you shared what hit home for you in your Instagram stories or share the episode with a friend!Links & Resources:Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’Check out Maui Nui Venison and the limited HERself collection!Check out your nearest Forage KitchenFollow Dr. Sheryl Ziegler on InstagramDr. Sheryl’s WebsiteStartwiththetalk.com Listen to Dr. Sheryl’s Podcast: Dr. Sheryl’s PodCouchPreorder Dr. Sheryl’s Book; “The Crucial Years”, releasing on May 6thLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Whether you stay home with your family, work at home with kiddos, or are out in the workplace, we strive to bring guests that cover all lifestyles. That’s why we are so excited to have Dr. Anne Welsh on today’s episode to focus on the working parent. As a mother of 4, Dr. Anne is an expert on transitioning from working person to working parent. She is also a psychologist who started her career at Harvard, now working as an executive coach and consultant with a deep passion for empowering women. Throughout this episode, Dr. Anne explains why the stress of being a working parent is a systemic issue, not just an individual issue and some strategies to reframe stress as a working parent to keep you focused on your beliefs, boundaries, and bandwidth. We talk through how shame and guilt come into play when you're feeling like you’re not giving enough to your career or home life, and why asking for help from your village is SO important (and how to do it!). Lastly, we discuss finding your “glimmers”, the things that bring you joy everyday and drive resiliency against future stress. We really wish we had these tools when we started out in working motherhood, but are glad to have now heard the information. We hope you also feel inspired and would love it if you would share this episode with a working parent in your life!Links & Resources:First pack of Goodwipes for free!Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’Follow Dr. Anne Welsh on InstagramDr. Anne’s WebsiteMessage Dr. Anne, mention you listened to this episode and tell her what stuck with you to get a bonus discount on her next group cohort!Emily Nagoski’s book, “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We know our community has been asking for more Amy and Abby episodes lately so we hope this one hits home. We are both sharing our top three lessons that we’ve learned over time. We cover avoidance and how it’s rarely the answer, the importance of getting the basics down when it comes to your health, and how self-awareness is the number one step for positive change. You know that friendship is an important topic around here and we share the lessons that we’ve learned around that, explain how you can’t change someone else’s perception of you, and discuss decision making; are you in decision making fatigue? If any of these life lessons resonate with you, share this episode on Instagram. That is a great way to support our show and get these episodes in more ears.Links & Resources:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfGOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herselfFORAGE KITCHEN: Check out their website to find a location nearest you!Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Do you find yourself feeling dysregulated more often than you’d like? Dr. Amber Thornton, licensed Clinical Psychologist, is on the show today to talk with us about how we can recognize and work with the different triggers that can set us off. If you are someone who tends to stress about worst case scenarios that “might” happen, she has some tips for you. Or maybe you dread the infamous 2nd shift of parenthood; that time between school/daycare and bedtime? Dr. Thornton shares some strategies to help us cope with the overwhelm that can come at that time of day. She leaves us with realistic expectations we should be setting for ourselves and reminds us that at the end of the day, we aren’t going to be able to meet every single one of our child’s needs, and that’s okay. Links & Resources:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF MAUI NUI: mauinuivenison.com/herselfCYMBIOTIKA: 20% off and free shipping on first order  https://partners.cymbiotika.com/HERSELFFollow Dr. Amber Thornton on InstagramDr. Amber’s WebsiteOrder Dr. Amber’s Book; A Parent’s Guide to Self-RegulationLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship expert, is no stranger to the HERself Podcast and we are so excited to have her back for another episode! Together we will be tackling “mental load” with tangible strategies that can actually work for you, your relationship, and your home. We talked with Dr. Morgan in episode 162, and in episode 163 we shared how we implemented her wisdom. But today, we’ll be diving deeper into our relationships to understand why sharing the mental load can prevent burnout and resentment and how to keep the spark alive to have a satisfying sex life. Like Amy and Colin, we know some of you in our community travel for work or have a spouse that travels for work. We acknowledge that this dynamic makes sharing the mental load challenging, and Dr. Morgan has some strategies to consider to foster communication while apart. Intimacy can play a major role in feeling connected to your partner too, so we encourage you to take to heart the details of Dr. Morgan’s interview with us today to nurture your relationship and feel connected outside and inside of the bedroom!Links & Resources:Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’20% off at Vuori ClothingJoin us for Book Club starting soon, plus so much more in our private Patreon community!Follow Dr. Morgan Cutlip on InstagramDr. Morgan’s WebsiteOrder Dr. Morgan’s Book; “A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex”HERself Episode 162 - Dr. Morgan Cutlip Answers Our Top Relationship Questions HERself Episode 163 - Real Partnership: How We Implemented Dr. Morgan Cutlip’s Relationship WisdomLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.