ManTalks Podcast

Can you imagine being in the 6th grade and learning that your mother has been murdered? Fast forward to when you are an adult. Can you imagine not only forging the killer but save his life? Then can you imaging inviting him on stage with you in front of hundreds of people? Today's guest did all of this and it is a true honour to get a chance to speak with him on the ManTalks Podcast. This week we talk to forgiveness expert Dean Smith who shares with us his journey to forgive, reconcile with and help save the life of the man that murdered his mom and how his story was made into an award-winning, internationally distributed documentary entitled Live to Forgive. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter   The ManTalks Podcast “The difference between true forgiveness and forgive and forget is I can remember it, but not be shackled to the bitterness of it.”   Some questions Connor asks: What is Dean’s defining moment as a man? (4:13) Does he still talk to his Mother's killer? (13:40) What keeps him busy in the world now? (20:08) Why did he become a high performance coach? (22:09) What are some of the things he sees as crossovers in his roles? (24:09) What does he think is one of the biggest misconceptions of forgiveness? (26:34) What does he tell people to move from angry to forgiveness? (31:05) Does angry still effect him? (34:45) What is the legacy that Dean wants to leave in the world? (39:00)   Learn more about: Live to Forgive Og Mandino   “I can use the memory of my mother's murder to help other people.”     FOLLOW DEAN Og Mandino Leadership Institute | Linkedin   You may also like these episodes: John Nieuwenburg - What Depression Looks Like and What Should You Do?  Shea Emry - Overcoming Adversity   Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community!   Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron JohnsonTheme music by: Parlange & Latenite AutomaticSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We love talking about Success on the ManTalks Podcast. In today’s episode Connor talks with Steve Sims. If you have never heard of Steve he is the founder of Bluefish, a very successful, exclusive luxury concierge service for the elite. His daily life includes helping clients craft incredible experiences including a live underwater tour of the Titanic, a flight to space, red carpet events and supersonic military jet flights in Russia. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com Facebook | Instagram | Twitter The ManTalks Podcast  “We shouldn’t be talking about authenticity like it’s the ability to breath air. It should be real.” Some questions Connor asks:  What is Steve’s defining moment as a man? (2:20) What is BlueFish? (7:17) Who are the raddest people Steve has had the fortune to meet? (9:16) What is Steve awesome at? (10:32) Why does Steve feel like ‘no BS’ authenticity is so important? (13:35) Has Steve found himself more successful since making the shift to authentic relationships? (18:05) What are Steve’s secrets to adding value? (22:20) What are some of the keys to success in the concierge industry? (29:04) What does Steve see possible for BlueFish? (35:05) Can you tell us about your motorcycle fleet? (36:46) Where did Steve’s passion and drive come from? (38:15) What is the legacy that Steve wants to leave in the world? (44:28) In This Episode, You Will Learn: Steve’s defining moment as a man (4:17) What you can do if things aren’t going as planned (5:20) The value of being completely open to being “tailor made you” (6:26) What BlueFish has become famous for (7:50) You can find greatness anywhere (9:43) What ‘wealth’ really is (10:10) Steve’s secret sauce (12:05) Why our current mode of validation is so confusing (15:25) How the reptilian brain takes over (19:42) A startling moment for Steve, that he was being fake (20:30) What to do if you have good people around you (24:20) The biggest line of bullshit Steve has ever heard (26:10 What your obligation/destiny is (27:20) Some of the crazy things that BlueFish has done for their clients (29:29) BlueFish has just been named the official partner with Sir Elton John for his famous Oscar Party (30:40) How Steve does all these crazy things (31:45) What Steve wants in life (36:05) What true wealth meant for Steve (39:18) Where the name BlueFish came from (42:29) Steve’s awesome responses to Connor’s rapid fire questions (45:12) One experience everyone should try #1 trait of modern day success The book he take if you were stranded on a desert island The movie he would take if you were stranded on a desert island The single biggest lesson Steve has learned with BlueFish The most influential person of all time Learn more about:  Bluefish What Steve looks like The Chug Test Elton John Aids Foundation Uglysims.com Steve’s recent article in Forbes “At the end of the day, you aren’t dating me, you want me to do something for you.”     FOLLOW STEVE Facebook | Twitter | Linkedin “Business is 100% personal.”  You may also like these episodes: Jason Connell - Navigating Life’s Transitions Graham Young - Disruptive Performance Coaching   Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community! Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron JohnsonTheme music by: Parlange & Latenite Automatic We’re live in Miami - you can grab your tickets here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Giovanni Marsico is a talent scout, social entrepreneur, and connector of superheroes. He is the founder of Archangel, a private membership community filled with mission-driven entrepreneurs who are passionate about philanthropy. Giovanni discusses predictions in the entrepreneurship space for the next 10-15 years, how people can find their own personal superpower, and so much more!    Key Takeaways: [3:35] What was a defining moment as a man for Giovanni? [5:45] Giovanni has had many mentors throughout his life. Most recently, Philip McKernan made a big impact on him. [8:15] What is Giovanni up to right now? [10:30] What inspired Giovanni to get into social entrepreneurship? [12:05] As a social entrepreneur, how does Giovanni 'get over' or fight criticism of making money for the purposes of giving back? Isn't that what nonprofits are for? [13:40] How did Giovanni come up with the idea for Archangel Academy? [17:55] Does Giovanni believe that social entrepreneur will be the norm in the future? [20:05] Giovanni believes desk jobs are going to disappear. [20:50] What advice does Giovanni have to already-established business who are looking to switch to a more social enterprise format? [22:35] Giovanni replaces the world client with family, because his clients have so much lover for one another. [23:40] How can people tap into their own superpower? [25:40] Giovanni literally built his Archangel business model with the X-Men comics in mind. [28:00] How do you build a thriving community? What do people need to be aware of? [34:30] What kind of community has Giovanni built? [40:25] If you want to build a thriving community, understand that it's not about you. It's always about creating something much bigger than you. [40:40] What kind of results or impact would Giovanni like to see when people attend the Archangel event? [44:00] What legacy would Giovanni like to leave behind?   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ info@ManTalks.ca www.philipmckernan.com/ www.giftedentrepreneur.com/ www.archangelacademy2017.com/ www.archangelsummit.com/ Lovemarks by Kevin Roberts   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Derek Kief is an astronomer at H.R. MacMillan Space Centre, located in British Columbia, Canada. Both Connor and Roger sort of nerd out on this podcast with their guest, but it provides the listeners with some great knowledge as to what's out there―beyond our planet. Derek says that our space programs are the only things that countries from all over the world agree on. He believes that when we eventually colonize Mars, we'll begin to see more diplomacy in the world as everyone works towards a common goal.   Key Takeaways: [0:50] There are some fantastic things happening in ManTalks. Connor gives a quick update. [3:45] Derek talks about his defining moment as a man.  [8:15] It took Derek some time to figure out that he didn't have to conform to a stereotype. He can be who he is. [9:35] What does Derek do? [11:25] Who inspired Derek to become an astronomer? [13:30] Be prepared! The guys geek out a little bit. [13:50] What are we close to discovering out there? [19:15] Where does Derek stand in the science community? Is he like the Patch Adams of science? [24:25] Why was the discovery of gravitational waves important? [25:40] Why are gravitational waves important for the everyday or average person? [30:00] Let's talk about Mars. Can we colonize it? [31:55] Will travelling outside of our planet allow for more diplomacy? Can men of all different types and backgrounds finally work together? [35:15] How does Derek stay curious? [39:05] What are some of the best advice Derek has received? [42:00] What is Derek's stance on quantum computing? [42:30] What does success look like for Derek? [44:55] What exciting things are happening at the Space Centre right now?   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ info@ManTalks.ca www.spacecentre.ca/ Email Derek: Dkief12@gmail.com   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tim JP Collins is an expert on anxiety and runs The Anxiety Podcast. His mission is simple: less anxiety, more life. Tim used to suffer regularly with anxiety and panic attacks, but understood that he had to move past this as it was draining him mentally and physically. Now, he teaches those around him how they can overcome their anxiety, with or without prescription medicine.   Key Takeaways: [4:00] Anxiety can consume your every waking moment. [5:50] We often need pain in our life to see what's possible and to make changes. [7:00] Tim talks about a woman who has been suffering from anxiety for 35 years. [8:20] As people become more successful and have more people rely on them, anxiety starts to creep in and take a hold of them. [8:55] What makes Tim the person that he is today? [11:40] What are some of the biggest myths about anxiety? [12:20] For a lot of people, medication for anxiety only covers up the problem. [13:30] How did anxiety come into Tim's life? [15:05] What can people learn about anxiety? [17:45] If you get your life into alignment again, anxiety goes away. [22:00] What can people do to treat their anxiety? [23:40] Put yourself first. [24:45] Are there any benefits to taking cold showers? [27:50] What legacy does Tim want to leave behind? [29:20] Should you take anxiety medication? [31:20] What is the one experience Tim would recommend to anyone? [32:15] What is the most underrated trait for modern day success? [33:25] What is the one movie Tim would take if he was stranded on an island? [33:40] What is the single biggest lesson Tim has learned in the corporate world? [34:15] Who is the most influential person in Tim's life?   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ info@ManTalks.ca www.timjpcollins.com/ The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zachary Stockill is an award-winning Canadian researcher, writer, podcaster, and educator. Zachary is the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and discusses with Roger a lot of the shame men experience when trying to find resources or help to overcome their irrational jealousy. Zachary knows the subject all too well because he too was once a man who obsessed over his then-girlfriend's past. Discover more about the unhealthy and obsessive habits jealous men often fall into.   Key Takeaways: [2:20] What was one of Zachary's defining moments? [5:05] What does Zachary do? [4:50] Zachary unpacks what 'retroactive jealousy' means. [7:00] Out of nowhere, Zachary came up with ridiculous scenarios about his then-girlfriend and became jealous.  [8:00] Despite realizing his jealousy, Zachary couldn't find the right resources that would address this issue for him. [8:20] Both men and woman experience this equally. [9:35] Men tend to have extreme double standards towards women who have done the same sort of sexual activities men have done in the past. [10:05] A lot of men try to figure out a woman's past to see if it's in line with their ideal values. [10:45] Male insecurity goes back a long way. [11:40] Stop talking with your partner about their past - for now. You stop the cycle by doing this. [13:00] What do you value in your relationship and what do you value in your partner? [14:50] Sometimes people lie about their past just to sooth their partner. [15:30] Own your problem. This is not your partner's problem. [17:40] Some men might believe that if they hooked up with an angel of a woman, then their relationship would be so much better. Of course, this is just not true. [19:10] There's a lot of shame around jealousy. Zachary still feels ashamed by the way he used to act. [19:15] What can men do to open up this conversation? [19:25] A lot of men don't have real friends. [20:10] The problem doesn't resolve on its own. You have to step in and do the work. [21:00] Keep focusing on personal development. Focus on your insecurities. [21:30] Meditation is huge! [22:25] The reality is we're never going to be perfect. The learning never stops. [23:05] How does Roger stay off depression? [24:20] Make an effort to be friends with older men. Seek out worldly people. [27:55] What gets Zachary out of bed every day? [29:25] When Zachary first wrote the book, he wrote it under a pen name.   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ info@ManTalks.ca www.zfstockill.com/ www.retroactivejealousy.com/ www.travelsinmusic.com/   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julian Treasure is a sought-after and top-rated international speaker. Collectively his five TED talks on various aspects of sound and communication have been viewed an estimated 30 million times. His latest talk, How to speak so that people want to listen, is in the rare group that has over 10 million views on TED alone, putting it in the top 20 TED talks of all time. Julian discusses how to become a better listener and the bad habits people have when they try to listen.   Key Takeaways: [2:15] What was Julian's defining moment? [6:35] If we all start listening a bit better, then we start to understand each other better. [7:25] What can men do to enhance their listening skills? [9:40] Silence is important when trying to improve your listening skills. [13:40] Julian breaks down what the RASA acronym means. [17:40] Women often feel like men aren't listening to them. There are different types of listening modes you can switch to. Julian explains further. [21:45] What are some bad habits people do when trying to listen? [24:15] Being right can be extremely damaging. [28:20] Great sales people will tell you it's not the speaking that gets the sale, it's the listening. [29:25] What legacy would Julian like to leave behind?   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ info@ManTalks.ca www.juliantreasure.com/ Julian Treasure on TED   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Connor Beaton does a solo show to answer some of his listeners’ common questions. He discusses how he prepared for his TED talk, the elements of what makes a good talk, and then dives further into how he and his team built such a strong community at ManTalks. Towards the tail end of the show, Connor reminds the audience on the importance of staying focused and limiting your distractions as you try to achieve great things.   Key Takeaways: [4:04] How did Connor prepare for his TED talk? [6:10] If there's a way to invite the organizers of an event (TED talks) to hear you speak, then do it. [6:35] Have a sticky idea? Share your idea with close mentors and friends, and get feedback. [8:15] Connor breaks down how you format a Ted talk and make it memorable. [9:40] TED talks are ideas worth spreading because they're based in facts. You need concrete evidence to back it up. [11:35] Practice your public speaking skills. [12:05] Let your message do your work and allow the slides in the background to back up and re-enforce that. [12:25] What motivates people to change? What's the conclusion of your talk? [16:00] Practice standing in one place. [16:15] How do I handle my nerves? Connor says there’s no 'not being nervous' to this. [16:25] The more prepared you are, the better you will feel about being able to run through it. [19:25] Record yourself. Listen to how you sound. It's one of the most powerful things that you can do. [20:05] If you have more questions, feel free to email Connor. [20:20] How do you build a tribe/community? What's the secret? [21:10] Who are you serving? [22:00] Don't try to please everybody. Don't make a community that's for 'everyone'. [25:00] Come from a place of giving, not getting. [25:50] How can you go above and beyond to really create a connection and solve a problem? [26:25] How do you allow your community to help each other? [30:45] Connor discusses why you need to eliminate your distractions. [32:25] How do you build a band of brothers? [33:20] Half of men over the age of 25 can not identify a best friend. The good news is you can fix it! [35:25] Think big on a daily basis, but act small. What does that mean? [37:45] Great things are happening with ManTalks!   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ info@ManTalks.ca Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World with Cal Newport How to Find and Build Your Band of Brothers with Stephen Mansfield Quit Half Assing Lewis Howes – Achieving Greatness   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Arthur P. Ciaramicoli is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been treating his clients for more than 35 years. He is the Chief medical Officer of Soundmindz.org and has lectured at Harvard Health Services. Arthur is the author of several books including The Stress Solution and The Power of Empathy, which both Arthur and Connor discuss on today's show. Discover the need for empathy in your daily life and learn how to apply it in today's episode.   Key Takeaways: [3:45] What was a defining moment for Arthur? [7:15] Empathy slows down the process during intense moments or conversations. [10:15] 50% of people wake up during the middle of the night due to stress. [10:40] Stress is produced often by misconceptions. You can use empathy to calm the emotional brain. [13:15] What are some of the causes of stress? [16:15] How can we combat stress? [17:00] The most successful people in life have a wide emphatic range. [18:55] Remember, empathy is different than sympathy. [21:40] Take the time to see beyond the service. Use empathy to understand the other person's perspective. [25:25] When we are stressed, we’re far less likely to eat well. [27:45] Often times what holds us back are our limiting beliefs and our past. [29:15] Good friends give us what we need, not what we want. [30:25] How do they rewrite their story? [32:25] A lot of us suffer from performance addiction. We believe achieving a certain status will gain love and respect. [34:00] What really sustains us is who we are, not what we achieve. [36:00] People who give are much healthier than takers. [37:25] What kind of legacy would Arthur like to leave behind? [38:55] The hatred that's in the world is incredibly disturbing to Arthur. [39:35] Arthur talks about someone he works with regularly. [42:20] What's the one experience Arthur recommends anyone to do? [43:50] What is the most underrated trait for modern day success? [45:40] What question should we ask to be more emphatic towards others? [46:15] What book would Arthur take if he was stranded on an island? One of Dalai Lama's books. [46:25] Who is the most influential person of all time? Jesus.   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.balanceyoursuccess.com/ www.soundmindz.org The Curse of the Capable by Arthur P. Ciaramicoli The Stress Solution by Arthur P. Ciaramicoli The Power of Empathy by Arthur P. CiaramicoliSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Neil Pasricha is a New York Times bestselling author of The Book of Awesome and The Happiness Equation. Neil has spent the last decade of his life as the Director of Leadership Development at Walmart, which he left this year to pursue his writing projects. He is also the writer and creator of the 1000 Awesome Things blog, which has won Best Blog in the World two years in a row. Connor sits down with Neil to discuss some of the secrets to happiness and why it is so hard to find.   Key Takeaways: [2:25] Grab a pen and paper for this episode! [3:10] What was Neil’s defining moment? [6:00] What was it like giving a TED Talk? [8:35] Beautiful things come out of darkness. [9:15] Are you building a business on the side? Neil says don’t quit your day job. [10:05] Neil was not a confident person, but when he started his side business, he gained more confidence. This lead him to being promoted at his full-time job. [11:25] Despite Neil’s success, he didn’t leave his full-time job at Walmart until this year. [11:55] Connor completely understands as he just left his corporate job 6 months ago. [12:30] Let’s talk happiness! What are some of the secrets of happiness? [13:40] We want happiness, but we can’t seem to get it. [15:00] How can we give our children happiness if we ourselves aren’t even happy? [15:25] The Happiness Equation is a personal letter to Neil’s child. [16:25] You have to be happy first in order to find success. It’s not the other way around. [17:35] You live 10 years longer if you’re happy. [19:15] When Connor was experiencing a dark time in his life, what really pulled him out of it was gratitude journaling.  [20:35] Never retire! [22:00] Find a reason to get out of bed every morning. [22:40] Retirement is dangerous and it creates loss of purpose. [23:55] Neil talks about the four S – Social, Structure, Stimulation, and Story. [25:35] What are the biggest misconceptions about happiness? [28:25] How do you overcome criticism? Do it for you. [30:45] Would you do this task for free? If the answer is no, you’re on the wrong track. [32:20] What happens if you’re ‘too busy’? How can you not be ‘too busy’? [40:40] Let’s talk about mindset and why it’s so important. [43:15] When your day is going south, remember that you’ve already won the lottery. You have it good. [48:00] All you have to do is write down 5 gratitudes a week and you’ll see an improvement in your happiness. [50:25] Recognize you’re in a bad mood, recognize that it will end, and recognize that those two things are okay and you will feel good again. [53:15] Who is the most authentically happy person Neil has ever met? [54:00] What is the one experience Neil recommends to anyone? [54:25] What is the most underrated trait in modern day life? [54:40] What is one book Neil would take when stranded on an island? [55:00] What was the single biggest lesson Neil learned at Harvard? [56:25] Who is the most influential person on happiness?   Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.1000awesomethings.com/ The Book of Awesome by Neil Pasricha The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha Neil’s TED Talk – The 3 A’s of Awesome The Nun Study by Julia Cameron www.headspace.com/ www.10percenthappier.com/ www.calm.com On the Shortness of Life by Seneca   Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices