ManTalks Podcast

By the time you listen to this, my incredible wife Vienna and I will be on the road, heading into a new chapter of our lives. It seemed like the perfect time to talk about “moving” through crisis (see what I did there?). Because, like so many of our friends, clients, and listeners, the last several months threw a lot of plans into disarray. So we sat down together to discuss clinging to expectations, navigating “forced change”, and the lessons we’ve learned from transition points in our own lives. As we mentioned in the show, we’d like to do a part 2 to this mini-episode where we both take on your questions! Leave a rating or review, and hit us up on Instagram (@mantalks or @mindfulmft) with your questions about transition, change, and moving through crisis. Connect with Vienna Insta: @mindfulmft Twitter: @mindfulmft Website: http://www.newyorkcouplescounseling.com/about/vienna-pharaon/ Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’re going to want a comfy chair for this one. This week, my guest is Daoist Monk Yun Rou. Yun Rou is a brilliant interpreter of ancient ideas for a modern ear--if you’ve read his book The Mad Monk Manifesto you’ll know what I’m talking about. We got heavy into social media and how it affects us, why you might know more about Daoism than you think, and how Daoist philosophy can offer us a different, more holistic view of everything; from our own minds to the workings of the universe. If you consider yourself a seeker, this is the episode to listen to. Called the new Alan Watts for his teachings and the Zen Gabriel Garcia Marquez for his writings, Daoist Monk Yun Rou (formerly Arthur Rosenfeld) received his academic education at Yale, Cornell, and the University of California and was ordained a monk in an official ceremony at the Chun Yang Daoist Temple in Guangzhou, China. His work has appeared in Vogue, Vanity Fair, Parade, Newsweek, The Wall Street Journal, WebMD, Fox Business News, and numerous other websites and newspapers. His more than 20 award-winning non-fiction books and novels of magical realism focus on philosophy, history, compassion, and culture. From 2010 – 2013, he hosted the hit (reaching 60MM households) national public television show Longevity Tai Chi with Arthur Rosenfeld. The American Heart Association profiled Yun Rou as an inspirational resource in 2016. Monk Yun Rou began his formal martial arts training in 1980 and has studied with some of China’s top Chen-style tai chi grandmasters. In 2011 he was named Tai Chi Master of The Year at the World Congress on Qigong and Traditional Chinese Medicine. In July 2014, Yun Rou joined the heads of the five tai chi families on the dais, representing American tai chi, at the International Tai Chi Symposium in Louisville, Kentucky. He teaches in Southern Arizona, South Florida, and around the world.   Connect with Monk Yun Rou Website: https://www.monkyunrou.com/ Latest books: The Mad Monk Manifesto, Turtle Planet, Mistress Miao: https://tinyurl.com/y2t4nbw3 Instagram: @monkyunrou Facebook: facebook.com/monk.yun.rou Online Classes: via websiteTuesday 8pm EST, Daoist PhilosophyThursday 8pm EST, Daoist QigongSaturday 11am EST, Chen Tai Chi   Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a really important topic for me; it’s one of the reasons I started ManTalks. In this episode, I check out why men seem to only turn things around after everything’s on fire.  I dive a bit into the shadow aspects of modern masculine culture, and how they amplify the problem (hint: shame is a big player).  Every man’s journey is different, but there’s one thing we all need--and I mean need--to do: challenge the narrative that suppression equals strength. Listen in to hear why, and as always, let me know your take; leave a rating or review. Also, share this with someone you think would benefit! Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community.Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does resiliency mean? How do you build the ability to bounce back after an event that shakes you to your core? How does it change you? To help answer these I spoke with adventurer, author, entrepreneur, humanitarian, and keynote speaker John Beede, and we dove straight into the hard stuff. It was a real pleasure to chat with John about what drew him to mountains, his struggles and victories, his new book, and the pressure men are often under to either tough it out, nice it out, or numb it out. John Beede has climbed to the top of the tallest mountain on every continent, including Mount Everest. During the 9 year adventure, he somehow survived avalanches, pulmonary edema, tribal warfare, and a whole lot of Clif bars. He’s a worldwide adventurer who has traveled to 65 countries, written 3 books, and given live presentations to nearly 1 million live teen and middle school audience members. His new book is called The Warrior Challenge: 8 Quests for Boys to Grow Up with Kindness, Courage, and Grit.   Connect with John Book:  https://www.johnbeede.com/warriorchallengePersonal Website: johnbeede.com Instagram: @johnbeede Twitter: @johnbeede Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community.Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve been paying attention, you’ve no doubt seen a spike in mental health issues over the last year. Most reasons are pretty obvious, of course, but there are other aspects you might not have considered. So I wanted to think out loud about what these are, how they work, and what we can do to mitigate the symptoms. In some ways, a mental health crisis is already here, and if we don’t talk about it--if we don’t unplug from our echo chambers and truly connect with other people--the situation is only going to get worse. Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community.Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For our 300th episode, I wanted to cover something so common we take it for granted, and so critical we can’t live without it: breathing. Most of the time, it’s something we do unconsciously, but how we breathe and what we’re taking in are critical. We don’t really give it a lot of thought, but James Nestor is dedicated to changing that. When he and I sat down to talk about the nature of breath, the amount of info and insight he had blew. me. away. We cover the bleeding edge of science on breathing. From the subtle (but chronic) effects of Upper Airway Resistance Syndrome, Jame’s personal experience of how we evolved for nasal breathing (not mouth breathing), to some easy ways you can optimize your own breathing technique. As always, share your takeaways with me! Leave a rating or review!  James Nestor is an author and journalist who has written for Scientific American, Outside, The New York Times, The Atlantic, and more. His latest book, Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, was released May 26, 2020 by Riverhead/Penguin Random House. Breath was an instant New York Times bestseller and will be translated into more than 15 languages in 2021. Nestor’s first book, Deep: Freediving, Renegade Science, and What the Ocean Tells Us About Ourselves, was published in 2014 and was a finalist for the 2015 PEN/ESPN Award For Literary Sports Writing, an Amazon Best Science Book of 2014, and more. Nestor has appeared on dozens of national television shows, including ABC's Nightline and CBS Morning News, and on NPR. He lives and breathes in San Francisco.    Connect with James Website: www.mrjamesnestor.com Instagram: @mrjamesnestor Facebook: facebook.com/mrjamesnestor Twitter: @mrjamesnestor Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community.Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week I wanted to cover something a ton of people are experiencing right now: transition fatigue. Each of us has a natural limit on how much change we can take at once. When we hit that limit, issues can start cropping up that’ll impact you and your relationships in a pretty big way.  In my opinion, transition fatigue isn’t talked about enough, so I wanted to cover it here and in my weekly newsletter. Listen in for exactly what transition fatigue is, how it might be affecting you, and steps you can take to recover from it.  Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community.Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex is (obviously) a big deal for a lot of us, and it has a huge impact on a relationship. So as someone who works hard at providing people tools and perspectives on lasting, genuine wellbeing, it’s SO important to me that we get the best ideas, the real science, and the most beneficial tactics to use in regards to sex. To that end, I brought on Michaela Boehm in June, Dr. Lori Brotto two weeks before, and this week, Dr. Kristen Mark. We had a deep dive into what people in relationships can do to elevate their communication, sexual satisfaction, and tackle “desire discrepancy”. I encourage you to listen in with your partner. There’s a lot of good stuff in here. Let me know your take! Leave a rating and review or connect with on Insta @mantalks. Kristen Mark, PhD, MPH is a sex and relationships researcher, educator, and therapist. She has spent the past 8 years at the University of Kentucky as a faculty member in health promotion and Director of the Sexual Health Promotion Lab. She is currently transitioning to the University of Minnesota Medical School as the Joycelyn Elders Endowed Chair for Sexual Health Education and Professor in Family Medicine and Community Health. She is affiliate faculty at the Kinsey Institute.  Her research program centers around sexual well-being, specifically the maintenance of sexual and relationship satisfaction and sexual desire in long-term relationships, sexual function and dysfunction, and sexual desire discrepancy. She also engages in community advocacy around inclusive comprehensive sexual health education that integrates messages of sexual pleasure. Dr. Mark holds degrees in psychology, family science, biostatistics, and public health and her research and therapeutic approaches are as interdisciplinary as her training. She consistently has her scientific research published in the top journals in sexual health and has presented her work at hundreds of conferences nationally and internationally. Additionally, Dr. Mark is regularly relied upon as an expert to digest sex and relationship science to print, radio, and television media. Connect with Kristen Website: kristenmark.com Twitter: @Kristen_Mark Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community.Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I recently did an AMA on Instagram, and I was blown away by the response! I deeply appreciate your engagement, and so for this week’s mini-episode, I wanted to answer as many as I could with as much value as possible.  There were hundreds of questions, so I clearly won’t be able to cover all of them in under twenty minutes, but keep your eyes peeled. I and my team wrote them all down, and we’ll be going more in-depth on some in the future! Thank you for listening, and if you like what you hear, leave a rating, review, or hit me up on Instagram @mantalks. Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community.Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Piracy. Gunrunning. Human trafficking. The harvest of endangered animals. Vigilantes pursuing justice. All happening in a world most of us know nothing about: the open ocean. This week, I sat down with Ian Urbina for an episode unique in the ManTalks canon. It’s my belief that cultivating or embodying the healthy masculine (or feminine) has to involve both inner and outer work, and a big part of outer work is being aware of what’s happening in--or happening to--the world. Ian’s expertise, passion, and concern for this darker corner of human life was readily apparent to me. It was an honor to talk to him. Ian Urbina, a former investigative reporter for the New York Times, is the director of The Outlaw Ocean Project, a non-profit journalism organization based in Washington, D.C., that focuses on reporting about environmental and human rights crimes at sea. Listen in to hear about what it was like to chase one of INTERPOL’s most wanted ships, how “labor brokers” kidnap men (and boys) to work on ships, and how shame and pride perpetuate the dangers present on the high seas. Share your takeaways with me! Leave a rating or review, or hit me up on Insta @mantalks   Connect with Ian Website: https://www.theoutlawocean.com Facebook: @ianurbinareporter Instagram: @ian_urbina Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community.Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices