
Shrink For The Shy Guy
Everyone has some level of fear in social situations. For you it might be meeting someone new, networking, dating, sales conversations, presenting, public speaking, or business meetings.
In order to get to the next level in your life, create better relationships, find love, earn more money, or advance in your career, you must overcome fear, social anxiety, and self-doubt. In order to be outstanding, you must have confidence.
That's where Dr. Aziz comes in. After struggling with shyness and social anxiety for 9 years, he decided to take life into his own hands and master confidence. A decade later, he is the world's leading expert on social anxiety and social confidence. He received a doctorate in clinical psychology from Stanford and Palo Alto Universities and now works as a confidence and success coach with people from all over the world.
This show contains the profound and immediately life-changing information he teaches high-paying clients every day. Learn from the best about how to overcome social fear, gain confidence in dating, public speaking, sales presentations, business meetings, and all of life.
Latest episodes

Feb 6, 2024 • 28min
Give Up To Get Confidence And Freedom Now
Challenge your beliefs about goals and dreams in this episode. Learn how giving up in a specific way can bring freedom and authenticity. Explore the anxiety of control and the importance of surrendering. Discover how letting go leads to confidence and freedom. Break the pattern of grasping and suffering by surrendering your desires to something bigger.

Jan 30, 2024 • 25min
How To Finally Stop Fearing Rejection
Discover practical tools to overcome the fear of rejection and embrace opportunities. Learn about the 'Not Nice Live' event and explore the impact of rejection on our lives. Surrender to fear and embrace the present moment to find freedom. Acknowledge emotions and let go of the need for certainty.

Jan 23, 2024 • 24min
Why Nice Ruins Relationships (And How To Change It)
Excessive niceness can harm relationships; intellectual understanding is not enough for real change; a powerful personal story demonstrates the addictive nature of niceness; niceness erodes relationship foundations; childhood programming affects relationships; vulnerability and authenticity are key for healthy bonds; taking action is necessary for transformation.

Jan 16, 2024 • 24min
The Only 2 Things That Stop You
Do you ever feel like countless barriers are holding you back from being the confident, connected individual you aspire to be?
Dr. Aziz brings his profound insights to challenge this perception. In this episode, he reveals that, contrary to popular belief, there are essentially only two fundamental obstacles that impede our growth and self-realization. This simplification of complex life challenges offers a refreshing perspective, making personal development more manageable and actionable.
Dr. Aziz will guide you through a journey of self-discovery, helping you identify and confront these two core barriers. He explores the common misconception that niceness is synonymous with kindness, revealing how this belief is often rooted in fear, not virtue. By understanding this, you can begin to differentiate between being genuinely kind and being nice out of fear, unlocking a path to authenticity and boldness.
Moreover, Dr. Aziz extends an exciting invitation to join him in a three-day virtual event, 'Not Nice Live,' where you can delve deeper into these concepts and start making real changes in your life. This event promises to be more than just an intellectual exercise; it's a practical, immersive experience that encourages real action and lasting transformation.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz also emphasizes the importance of facing our fears and rewriting the narratives we tell ourselves. He provides actionable steps to help you start this process, encouraging you to question the stories you've believed about yourself and replace them with empowering, confidence-building truths.
So, if you're ready to tackle the two major hurdles that might be holding you back – fear and self-limiting stories – this episode is a must-listen.
Join Dr. Aziz as he equips you with the tools and insights you need to overcome these challenges and embrace a more authentic, confident version of yourself. Remember, the journey to being who you truly are starts with understanding and confronting what's really stopping you.
Tune in to 'The Only 2 Things That Stop You' and start your journey towards a freer, more confident you. It's time to dare to be who you are and recognize your own awesomeness!
Discover the Two Key Barriers to Confidence and Authenticity
"The greatest barriers to our success are often not the obstacles we see, but the ones we create." - Dr. Aziz
1. Fear: The Hidden Enemy Within
Dr. Aziz dives into the heart of what stops us from being our true selves: fear. This fear manifests in various forms, be it social anxiety, fear of rejection, or even the apprehension of approaching someone new. However, the revelation here is not just identifying fear but understanding its nature. It isn't fatal; it's a signal, an invitation to confront and overcome. Dr. Aziz emphasizes that fear is not the end of the road but the path to personal growth and self-liberation.
2. Our Self-limiting Stories: The Chains We Forge
The second barrier is more insidious - the narratives we tell ourselves. These stories, often subconscious, dictate how we perceive ourselves and our abilities. They might be tales of inadequacy, unworthiness, or the fear of being seen as a burden. Dr. Aziz urges us to recognize these stories for what they are: self-imposed limits that shape our reality.
The Power of Reframing Your Narrative
Here's where Dr. Aziz’s approach shines. He encourages us to rewrite our stories, to ask ourselves, "What if the more empowering narrative was true?" This shift in perspective isn't about blind optimism but about challenging the validity of our limiting beliefs and opening ourselves to the possibility of a more confident, authentic existence.
The Call to Action: Embrace Boldness and Authenticity
In his compelling call to action, Dr. Aziz invites you to join him in a transformative journey. He talks about his upcoming virtual event, a three-day immersion in deconstructing niceness and embracing authenticity. This event is not just another webinar; it's an interactive experience designed to push you out of your comfort zone and into a space of real growth.
Conclusion: Your Year of Transformation
Dr. Aziz leaves us with a powerful message: "If you want this year to be different, we must do things differently." He challenges us to step into the arena, face our fears, and rewrite our stories. This year can be your year of transformation, a year where you break free from the chains of social anxiety and self-doubt to embrace the bold, authentic person you truly are.
Don't let this opportunity pass you by. Visit socialconfidencecenter.com to learn more about the event and how you can be a part of this life-changing experience. Remember, the only thing standing between you and your authentic self is the decision to take that first step.

Jan 8, 2024 • 26min
The Secret To Staying Motivated In Building Confidence
Explore the art of maintaining momentum to build confidence. Learn about 'social fitness' and 'emotional fitness' in overcoming anxiety. Challenge genetic determinism and embrace personal choices for growth. Overcome limiting beliefs and practice consistently to build confidence. Discover the power of pain fuel and changing environments. Check out confidence university for practical guidance.

Jan 4, 2024 • 26min
Yes Lives In The Land Of No
🌟 Join us in this invigorating episode of "Yes Lives In The Land Of No," where we embark on the 2024 journey of self-empowerment and confidence-building.
As we step into the new year, it's time to evolve into the most confident version of yourself. This episode isn't just about gaining confidence; it's about transcending limits and expanding your potential.
Discover how to grow beyond basic self-assurance, aiming to impact others and solve greater problems. We delve deep into the concept that "Yes lives in the land of No," as taught by Dr. Aziz's mentor, Steve Chandler. Embracing rejection is a path to freedom and achievement. You'll learn that every 'No' you encounter is a stepping stone towards your goals, be it in relationships, careers, or personal growth.
Dr. Aziz shares insights from his own journey, debunking myths of guaranteed success without rejection. He emphasizes the importance of genuine connections over manipulation, especially in areas like dating and business.
The episode also highlights the role of marketing in shaping perceptions and how Dr. Aziz's approach focuses on authenticity and providing real value. This episode is not just a guide; it's a challenge to face rejections head-on in 2024. By setting personal goals for encountering 'No's, you'll develop resilience and true freedom.
Dr. Aziz encourages listeners to engage in this transformative game, emphasizing that the real victory lies in your internal response to rejection, not just external achievements. So, gear up for a year of growth, liberation, and genuine success with Dr. Aziz.
Whether it's through this podcast, his Confidence University, or his mastermind program, you're invited to a journey of discovering your worth and potential, unbounded by the fear of 'No.' 🚀 Ready to transform your 2024?
Tune in now and join us in turning every 'No' into a stepping stone for success!
The Power of "No" in Building Confidence
Welcome to a transformative journey with Dr. Aziz, where we explore the profound impact of embracing rejection on our path to confidence. This isn't just another self-help lecture; it's a revelation that will alter your perspective on rejection and its role in your personal growth.
Key Insight 1: Embracing Rejection as a Pathway to Freedom
Dr. Aziz illuminates the paradox of rejection: the very thing we fear holds the key to our liberation. He shares his personal story of learning from Evan Pagan and how this shaped his understanding of rejection in both the personal and professional realms.
Stand-Out Quote: "Yes lives in the land of no."
Key Insight 2: The Illusion of Control and Authentic Growth
Dr. Aziz debunks the myth of control in relationships and business, arguing that genuine connections and success stem from authenticity and openness to rejection, not manipulation or avoidance.
The No Game: A Strategy for Personal Triumph
Dr. Aziz introduces the 'No Game' – a challenge to actively seek rejection in various life aspects. This isn't about recklessness but about courageously pursuing what you want, fully prepared to embrace a 'no'.
Action Step: Set a personal goal to receive a specific number of rejections in an area of your life. This could be in relationships, business, or personal projects.
The Transformation: From Fear to Freedom
The true victory in this game isn't just about achieving goals; it's about internal transformation. Learning to receive 'no' without self-criticism or loss of self-worth leads to a profound sense of freedom and confidence.
Final Thoughts: Your Journey to Confidence
This year, let's embark on a journey of growth and self-discovery with Dr. Aziz. If you're ready to take your confidence to new heights, explore his offerings, like Confidence University and his mastermind program. Remember, it's not just about avoiding rejection; it's about embracing it as a crucial step towards your personal and professional goals.
Inspiring Message of Hope
"You are capable of more than you realize. The path to your greatest confidence and freedom lies through the land of 'no'. Embrace it, learn from it, and watch how it transforms your life."

Dec 27, 2023 • 27min
3 Reasons You Feel (Pretty Much) The Same
How To Make This New Year Radically Different Than Any Before As we're waving goodbye to the old and welcoming the new, are you feeling like you're stuck in the same old patterns?
In this eye-opening episode, "3 Reasons You Feel (Pretty Much) The Same," Dr. Aziz is here to shake things up.
Get ready to discover:
=> Why the story you tell yourself might be the very thing keeping you in place.
=> The importance of consistent action and how sporadic efforts can lead to stagnation.
=> How an unrelenting inner critic can sabotage your progress, and what you can do to silence it. This isn't just about listening; it's about transforming.
Dr. Aziz doesn't just lay out the pitfalls; he offers practical, actionable solutions. Dive into a journey of introspection and come out armed with strategies for making 2024 a year of incredible personal growth.
Grab your notepad; this is one episode you'll want to bookmark for revisits! Let's make 2024 the year you break the cycle and embrace the most confident, bold, and authentic version of you.
Tune in now – your future self will thank you!

Dec 20, 2023 • 24min
Your Confidence Revolution
Break Free From The Inner Tyranny Do you ever feel like there's an inner oppressor limiting your true potential?
In this not-to-be-missed episode, "Your Confidence Revolution," Dr. Aziz brings to light the ultimate metaphor for your personal growth and liberation. This is about breaking free from the internal chains holding you back.
Get ready to:
=> Uncover how your own mind might be your biggest obstacle.
=> Learn powerful strategies to shatter these mental barriers and embrace a life of authenticity and freedom.
=> Discover the exhilarating journey of becoming more ‘you’ – the next, best version of yourself.
Join Dr. Aziz as he shares a segment from his elite mastermind program, offering insights that are typically reserved for a select few.
This episode isn't just a listen; it's a transformative experience waiting to kickstart your 2024 with unstoppable confidence. Remember, the revolution starts within, and it starts now. Tune in, and let's make this journey together!

4 snips
Dec 13, 2023 • 29min
How To Be Less Nice & More You (Book Release!)
Discover transformative strategies for shedding excessive niceness and social anxiety. Learn the art of assertive communication and setting personal boundaries. Gain insights into overcoming internal barriers and fears for a life of confidence and true self-expression. Explore the pitfalls of trying to be a good person and the importance of transitioning to authenticity. Embrace liberation and overcome self-doubt for positive change in the new year.

Dec 7, 2023 • 26min