The Confidence Chronicles

If you’re doing all the “right things”Showing up. Posting. Being consistent. Trying to be professional…But still feel invisible, overlooked, or like you’re blending in,This episode is for you.In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down how caring what people think quietly destroys your authority, weakens your personal brand, and keeps you stuck editing yourself instead of leading.This isn’t about being loud, controversial, or reckless.It’s about clarity, embodiment, and owning your voice without apology.In this episode, we cover:Why people-pleasing kills authority faster than inconsistencyHow “being liked” keeps you invisible, not respectedThe subtle ways you’re diluting your message to stay safeWhy neutral brands are forgettable brandsHow confidence and trust are felt, not forcedWhat shifts when you stop managing perception and start owning your perspectiveIf you’ve ever thought:“I don’t want to upset anyone”“What if people judge me?”“I should probably tone this down…”This episode will challenge you in the best way.You cannot build a powerful personal brand while prioritising approval. Authority is built by standing somewhere, not blending in everywhere.👑 WANT MORE OF THIS?I’m considering running a live personal brand workshop where I teach my full method for building authority, visibility, and a brand people actually remember.If that’s something you’d want:👉🏽 Send me a DM on Instagram or👉🏽 Leave a comment on Spotify and tell me “I’m in.”Your responses will decide if I run it.Chapters00:00:00 Caring What People Think Is Ruining Your Brand00:04:25 The Green Bush Analogy: Why Criticism Hurts00:07:05 The Truth About Putting Yourself Out There00:08:43 When Someone Triggers You: The Gift in Disguise00:11:15 The Power of FWOT: Living Unapologetically00:12:00 Building Thick Skin: Your Invitation to Practice00:13:17 Becoming Untouchable: The Mission Over Opinions00:16:21 The Celebrity Mindset: Look Forward to the Critics00:17:57 Personal Branding Masterclass00:19:13 Your Mission on This Planet📲 LET’S CONNECTIf this episode hit, take a screenshot, share it to your Instagram Stories and tag me @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceOr, if you’re listening on Spotify, drop a comment:What’s one way you’ve been holding back because of other people’s opinions?Because the moment you stop performing for approval…Your brand starts working for you.

Before you even open your mouth, people are already feeling you.Your energy walks into the room before your words do.This lesson is all about presence, not performative, not loud, not forced.We’re talking about grounded, magnetic energy that holds weight. That commands respect.You’ll learn the psychology of presence, how to shift your nervous system into calm confidence,and how to use breath, posture, and stillness to take up space without overcompensating.This isn’t about being the loudest.It’s about being the most anchored.Because when you’re regulated, rooted, and intentional—people listen.Not because you yelled…But because they felt you.Chapters00:00:00 The Energy You're Broadcasting Right Now00:00:22 You Don't Have to Be Loud to Be Powerful00:00:45 Energetic Presence: How to Be Felt Without Speaking00:01:15 The Lion in the Room: Understanding True Presence00:03:08 What Presence Really Is: Safety, Confidence, and Congruence00:04:35 The Insecurity Trap: How Self-Obsession Kills Presence00:06:41 93% of Communication Is Nonverbal00:08:02 Your Nervous System Doesn't Lie00:09:24 Confidence Is Frequency: Contracting vs. Expanding00:09:55 Are You Leaking or Anchoring Your Power?00:10:47 Commanding Attention Without Overcompensating00:11:18 The Power of Stillness and Silence00:12:21 Body Language Mastery: Posture, Movement, and Eye Contact00:16:30 The Final Shift: Becoming the Lioness in the Room✨ Reflection Prompts:👑 What kind of energy do you usually bring into a room? Is it grounded, chaotic, avoidant, performative?👑 What does it feel like when someone walks in and you can immediately sense their presence?👑 What would it look like to bring more intention into your presence this week—at a meeting, a dinner, or even a social media post?👑 WORK WITH ME♟️ The Queen’s TableHigh-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy.👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/👑 The Next LevelFor women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/📚 MY BOOKSBecoming MagneticConfidence Feels Like Sh*t👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com📲 LET’S CONNECTIf this episode hit, let me know.👉🏽 Come and DM me on Instagram and tell me where you noticed yourself leaking or anchoring your power.👉🏽 Or leave a comment on Spotify and share what landed for you.

If you’re ready for a massive identity shift, this episode is for you.Because you don’t become your future self by “trying harder”, you become her by deciding who she is, then moving like her until your life catches up.In this episode, I’m teaching you the method that changed my identity, changed my life, and created “The Queen of Confidence” version of me.It’s called the Alter-SHE-go Method.The practice that helped me go from a shy, traumatised, playing-small version of me, to building the Queen identity and everything that came with it.We talk about:Why identity comes before results, every timeThe biggest trap people fall into, “when I have it, then I’ll be it”The real shift, Be, Do, HaveWhy this is not fake, and what to do if you feel cringe trying itThe science behind it, enclothed cognition, and why what you wear changes how you performHow I used Alter Shigo energy to do scary things, including stepping onto big stagesThe questions to build your future self, her values, standards, boundaries, style, beliefs, and energyThe real challenge, taking action as her, not just journaling about herThis is your reminder that the future version of you is not coming to save you, she’s waiting for you to meet her.Mentioned in this episodeWatch Beyoncé talking about Sasha Fierce (Alter Ego energy):https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtTlFW9_sTIChapters00:00:00 Welcome to the Alter Shego Experience00:00:30 The Origin Story00:01:45 Main Character Energy and Becoming Magnetic Preview00:02:59 The Confession: From Hot Mess to Queen of Confidence00:06:36 Why Confidence Matters00:08:39 The Five Steps to Becoming Magnetic Framework00:09:24 Beyoncé and Sasha Fierce: The Alter Shego Method00:10:18 Flipping the Script00:13:42 Forget Fake It Till You Make It: Just Make It00:16:25 The TEDx Story: Alter Shego in Action00:20:00 The Science Behind Dressing the Part00:21:16 Let's Create YOUR Alter Shego00:24:20 Don't Confuse Your Future Self With Your Present Self00:26:09 The Challenge: Share and Embody Your Alter Shego00:28:49 The Final Question▶️ WATCH THE PODCAST ON YOUTUBEhttps://www.youtube.com/thequeenofconfidenceConnect with meIf this episode hits, DM me on Instagram and tell me who your Alter She-go is.Instagram: @thequeenofconfidencehttps://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/And if you’re listening on Spotify, leave a comment and tell me your biggest takeaway, I read them.👑 WORK WITH METhe Queen's TableHigh-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/The Next LevelFor women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

If you don’t plan your year, your year will plan you.And most people don’t realise this until they’re exhausted, overbooked, chasing goals that never landed, and wondering why the life they wanted still feels just out of reach.In this episode, I’m walking you through exactly how Hamish and I plan our entire year in just a few focused hours, and why this process has changed everything for us, our business, our income, our energy, and our family life.This is how we stop reacting and start leading a year on purpose.In this episode, we cover:Why pipe dreams stay pipe dreams without structureHow your calendar quietly dictates your income, content, and capacityThe power of choosing a word of the year and letting it guide decisionsHow we map an entire year without burnout or overwhelmWhy promotions, launches, and visibility must be planned earlyHow to create space for strategy and magic at the same timeThe biggest mistake people make when planning a new year“You can’t co-create with the universe if you haven’t even opened your diary.”Chapters00:00:00 Welcome to 2026: The Year Planning Masterclass00:02:09 Why Intentionality Matters: Creating Your Future00:08:40 Content and Cash Flow Follow Your Calendar00:11:01 Step One: Choose Your Word of the Year00:12:39 Step Two: Get a Massive Year-Long Calendar00:14:40 Step Three: Eliminate Distractions and Make Time00:16:09 Step Four: Add Monthly Themes to Your Calendar00:18:37 Step Five: Block in Special Dates and Commitments00:19:07 Step Six: Drop in Your Promotional Windows00:21:46 Step Seven: Add Events You Want to Attend00:23:10 Step Eight: Schedule Time Away and Mini Adventures00:25:20 Step Nine: Review Your Capacity and Adjust00:27:40 Step Ten: Set Your Monthly Focus and Income Goals00:30:37 The Power of Planning: Lead Your Year, Don't Let It Run You00:31:26 Becoming Magnetic Bonus Content Announcement📥 FREE RESOURCEBefore you plan 2026, grab our annual Goals & Intentions Workbook, the exact process we’ve used every year since 2010.Thousands of women use this to:Reflect honestly on the year that wasDecide what stays and what goesChoose a word of the year that actually shapes behaviourMap the year ahead with clarity and intention👉 Download it free here:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/2026-goals-and-intentions/Or DM me 2026 on Instagram and I’ll send it to you.🎯 WANT MORE SUPPORT?If you’re ready to grow an aligned, loyal audience and build real momentum online, start with The Fanbase Formula, my training on how to grow a community that actually converts.👉 Learn more here:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/fanbase-formula/If you know you’re ready for high-level mentorship, visibility, and leadership, explore working with me inside The Queen’s Table.👉 Apply here:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/queens-table/💬 STAY CONNECTEDIf this episode hit, I want to hear from you.Come tell me what landed for you, what you’re committing to, or what your word of the year is.📍 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/You can also leave a comment on Spotify and let me know how this episode supported you.You don’t need another year that runs you.You need a year you lead.And it starts here. ♟️

Don’t Set Goals for 2026 Until You Do ThisIf 2025 stretched you, challenged you, or changed you, this episode is your reset.Before you start planning 2026, download our annual Goals & Intentions Workbook and follow this process with us.👉🏽 Grab it free here:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/2026-goals-and-intentions/This is the exact year-end ritual we’ve used since 2010 to close one chapter properly, decide what stays, release what you’re done with, and intentionally design the year ahead.In this episode, Hamish and I share how we:Reflect honestly on the year that wasChoose a word of the year that actually guides our actionsIdentify patterns, lessons, and non-negotiablesMap the year ahead with intention instead of pressureChapters00:00:00 Our Most Successful Year Ever00:05:32 The Word of the Year00:16:14 The Best of 202500:23:18 The Hard Truth: What Didn't Work This Year00:43:34 The Unsexy Truth: Support Systems That Changed Everything00:47:24 2026 Word of the Year00:52:23 The Year of S: Systems, Stabilization, and Support00:55:19 Setting Boundaries: Your Non-Negotiables for 202601:02:12 The Goals and Intentions Process: Making It Real01:00:00 Your Boldest Dreams: The Bucket List Questions01:04:53 Final Call: Download the Workbook and Do the Work🎧 After listening:Come tell me what landed for you (comment if you’re listening on spotify!) OR📸 Send me a DM on Instagram and let me know how you enjoyed this episode:https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceIf you’re ready for deeper support:✨ The Next Levelhttps://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/✨ The Queen’s Tablehttps://thequeenofconfidence.com/queens-table/📚 My books: Confidence Feels Like Sh*t & Becoming MagneticAvailable on AmazonIf this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs a reset before stepping into 2026.

(I have a early present for you - download your 2026 Goals & Intentions here: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/2026-goals-and-intentions/OK! Back to the ass-kicking…How badly do you actually want the life you say you want?This episode is a direct conversation about commitment, purpose, and the uncomfortable truth most people avoid. I’m not here to motivate you. I’m here to ask you a question that changes everything.Because most people will never achieve their dreams. Not because they can’t, but because they aren’t willing to do what it takes.In this episode, I talk about the difference between a pipe dream and a mission. Why words mean nothing without action. Why comfort keeps you stuck. And why the people you admire are willing to do things most people won’t.I share my own story, the trauma I survived, the clarity I have about why I’m here, and why I refuse to live a small life. Not because it’s easy, but because the mission is bigger than me.This is an end-of-year conversation. The kind that asks you to get honest with yourself before you carry excuses into another year.In this episode, we cover:• Why most people never follow through on their vision• The difference between wanting something and being committed to it• Why motivation fades but purpose doesn’t• What comfort and safety are actually costing you• Why proximity, mentorship, and investment matter• What you’re willing to do when it actually mattersChapters00:00:00 The Wake-Up Call: How Badly Do You Want It?00:03:26 Finding Your True Why: Beyond Money and Fame00:09:37 The Clarity That Changes Everything00:11:31 Investing in Yourself: The Non-Negotiable00:12:11 The Energy Gap: Why Some People Win00:20:52 Death as Your Motivator: The Ultimate Reality Check00:22:47 Proximity Is Power: Your Action PlanIf this episode hits, let me know.Come tell me on Instagram at @thequeenofconfidencehttps://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidenceAnd if you know you’re ready for high-level mentorship, visibility, and claiming your space, explore The Queen’s Table here:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/If this is the season you’re ready to reflect, reset, and plan intentionally, download my free Goals & Intentions Workbook here or DM me “2026” on Instagram:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/2026-goals-and-intentions/This is the perfect time of year to ask yourself this question: Not can I do it, but will I?

This is hands down one of the most powerful exercises I have ever done, and I am not exaggerating when I say it changed my life.In this week’s episode, I’m sharing a video that is inside of my Next level program. This is an exercise where I walk my clients through the exact future self exercise that helped me move through fear, apply for my TEDx, and actually do the thing I kept telling myself I wasn’t capable of. Not someday. Not years later. Immediately.This is not mindset fluff. This is a psychotherapy-based visualisation and embodiment exercise that allows you to access the version of you who has already done the thing you’re scared of.Inside this episode, you’ll experience:• Why your future self already lives inside you• How fear and desire can exist at the same time• The exact exercise I was guided through before my TEDx• How to receive clarity and guidance from future you• What action to take today to meet her soonerBy the end of this sneak peek episode, you won’t just be thinking about your future self, you will have met her, heard her, and received direction from her.Do this exercise properly. Suspend disbelief. Let it be powerful.If you do it, DM me on Instagram @thequeenofconfidence and tell me what came through for you.Chapters00:00:00 The TEDx Manifestation Story00:01:16 Why This Exercise Will Change Your Life00:02:02 From Fear to TEDx Stage: The Breakthrough Moment00:03:15 Your Future Self Already Knows the Way00:03:55 Meeting Your Future Self: The Exercise Begins00:04:58 Step One: Define Your Big Scary Goal00:05:36 Step Two: Your Present Self's Honest Truth00:06:25 Step Three: The Shift - Becoming Future You00:07:17 Step Four: Speaking as Your Future Self00:08:47 Step Five: Returning with Guidance and Taking ActionAnd if you are ready to Next level every area of your business, confidence and life, join me inside the Next level here:https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/PLUS: I am sharing an early look at our annual Goals & Intentions Workbook, our most popular resource we share all year - you can grab it here: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/2026-goals-and-intentions/

Everybody sees the TEDx, the book deals, the stages, the flights, the millions of downloads…But nobody sees the unsexy stuff that actually built my personal brand.In this episode, I’m breaking down the boring, uncomfortable, behind-the-scenes discipline that made my brand trusted, global, profitable, and unforgettable. This is the truth no one glamorises, but everyone who wins does.Here’s what we get into:• Why personal branding is a long game, not a “go viral this year” game• The consistency and self-leadership required when life gets messy• Showing up even when your mood says otherwise• Turning your quirks and edges into your secret sauce• Why paying for proximity changed everything• How doing things for free (strategically) accelerates your growth• The unglamorous sacrifices behind every “glam moment”• Why details matter more than you thinkChapters00:01:57 The Non-Sexy Truth About Building a Seven-Figure Brand00:06:08 Playing the Long Game: Legacy Over Quick Wins00:10:12 Consistency: The Most Underrated Advantage00:15:46 Show Up No Matter What: Leading Yourself00:20:45 Being Radically You: Your Secret Sauce00:27:54 Paying to Be in the Room: Strategic Proximity00:32:26 Doing Strategic Free Work to Build Your Brand00:35:43 The Unglamorous Reality: Airport Bathrooms and Cheap Hotels00:39:15 Visual Identity Matters: Always On Brand00:43:02 Sweat the Small Stuff: Excellence Lives in the Details00:45:20 Commitment: The Real Reason Behind It All00:47:52 Bonus: Choose Your Collaborators Wisely00:49:19 Coming Soon: Goals and Intentions WorkbookBy the end of this episode, you’ll understand exactly why your brand isn’t where you want it yet, and what it will really take to build something iconic and unforgettable. This is the work most people skip — which is why most people never get there.If this landed, DM me on Instagram @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence and tell me your biggest takeaway.And if you are SERIOUS about blowing up your personal brand in 2026 final applications for the Queens Table cohort are open: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

You can’t lead powerfully if you are secretly at war with yourself.In this episode, I am unpacking what I have been seeing inside rooms full of incredible female leaders at organisations around the globe, and why so many of us are still holding ourselves back from the roles, recognition and rewards we say we want.We talk about:• Why women are five times less likely to self promote than men• How imposter syndrome shows up for women in leadership• The difference between blaming “the system” and taking radical responsibility• Showing up, standing up and speaking up, even when it feels uncomfortable• Why confidence is really about self trust, and how you build it in real lifeBy the end of this episode, you will be brutally clear on where you are shrinking, where you are fighting yourself, and what needs to change if you truly want to step into leadership and be seen.❤️ If this landed, share it with a woman in leadership who needs the reminder, and come tell me your biggest takeaway on Instagram @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence

In this finale of Next Level November, listeners discover why high-achieving women often remain unseen despite their success. Erika shares her journey from obscurity to visibility, providing a three-step framework to clarify big visions and current realities. She emphasizes the importance of shifting identities, encouraging women to embrace their 'Alter Shego' to reach new heights. Key strategies include creating visibility opportunity lists and overcoming perfectionism. This episode is a call to action for women ready to lead and be unforgettable.