The B.rad Podcast

(Breather) Cleaning up your act requires you identify and then eliminate the things that no longer serve you, and these things could be anything from toxic foods to toxic substances to toxic relationships. It makes sense from a practical standpoint to start with your diet. If the big three toxic modern foods (grains, sugars, and refined industrial seed oils) are foods you still consume in moderation, from time to time, or frequently, then this episode will make you never want to consume those foods again, once your eyes have been opened to the reality of how harmful and addictive they are.Cleaning up your act isn’t just about food though, it also means steering clear of highly negative people and situations that drain you emotionally and drag you down from a place of positivity and gratitude.It definitely takes a lot of discipline to commit to maintaining a “zero-tolerance” policy for all toxic things in your life, but it’s also worth it. Strive for a 3 week-long, total elimination experiment to get yourself off the carbohydrate dependency train. These foods are highly, highly addictive, stimulating the same opioid receptors in the brain that hard drugs do, so it won’t be easy, but you will feel so much better after. I went cold-turkey on the Primal scene 12 years ago and ditched grains immediately, and after a short adjustment period, I realized that the grains weren’t actually what I wanted - it was always the toppings/sauce/etc on top of, or accompanying the grains, that I enjoyed the taste of. Also, watch out for artificial sweeteners, as they trick the appetite center in your brain into thinking it’s getting something sweet, but since you’re not actually consuming anything sweet, your body will start to crave sugar until it gets that fix. Another thing to watch out for are mind altering substances. In the Hacking of the American Mind, Dr. Robert Lustig explains how when we flood the dopamine receptors in the brain, through whatever it is (sugar, grains, drugs, entertainment, pornography, etc) our body requires more and more of whatever it is that gave them that rush.Instead, look for happiness and content through other things: meditation, a comfortably paced aerobic workout, going in the sauna if you have one, cooking a nutrient dense meal and enjoying the process and being present for it - activities like this trigger serotonin pathways, leaving you feeling satisfied and calm.The next important step is working on your relationships. Listen to my shows with John Gray (one, two and three) which are all full of invaluable relationship advice from the expert himself, like, do not speak to your partner if you’re feeling a negative emotional charge. Also, don’t forget to examine what you’re bringing to your relationships - if some, or all of the negativity is actually coming from your side, acknowledge it and deal with it. Negativity only breeds more negativity, which is the last thing you want when you’re trying to clean up your act! Look at your relationships and nurture the ones that put you in a positive, inspired frame of mind, and let go of the ones that don’t do this. It’s all about how you feel ultimately. If you feel drained/like crap after talking to someone, why would you want to keep them in your inner circle? Brene Brown gives great advice for this dilemma: “A few moments of pain from confrontation is better than a week of resentment.”Lastly, think about, and integrate, Deepak Chopra’s 4 Daily Intentions, into your life. I follow them daily, think about them all the time, and think they offer a beautiful framework to follow:1) Joyful, Energetic Body. No toxic foods, people, jobs, substances, habits, etc.2) Loving, Compassionate Heart. Everyone in the world wants the same thing - validation and attention for who they are. Be kind, supportive, and attentive.3) Reflective Quiet, Alert Mind. This is not about maintaining eternal positivity, but rather, going with the flow and accepting things as they come.4) Lightness of Being. Be present. Carrie Sisson wisely says: “Your thoughts are the source of all your pain.”Thanks for listening to assignment #2 of the MOFO Mission!TIMESTAMPS:Dr. Loren Cordain suggests that 71% of the calories in the modern Standard American Diet comes from nutrient deficient toxic foods. [02:29]The addictive properties of sugar stimulate the same opioid receptors in the brain as hard drugs. [04:11]Even in extreme exercise the endorphin rush over and over is addictive. [07:11]The basic drive for men is to solve problems, conquer the environment and be seen as a hero. And for the female it’s to nurture, love, support and connect. [09:32]Emotionally charged discussions kill your testosterone and leave you drained. [12:09]Females need to make an effort to come down off that masculine energy side that you acquired out in the work world. [13:34]When you walk into a room and there’s negative energy in that room, it is contagious. [14:18]Men need to learn to apologize, believe it or not! You need to build the strength of character. [18:16]Deepak Chopra’s four daily intentions are: joyful energetic body; loving compassionate heart; reflective quiet, alert mind; and lightness of being. [21:27]LINKS:The Paleo DietWheat BellyThe Hacking of the American MindThe Case Against SugarJohn Gray PodcastBiology of BeliefLipton summary podcastThe Way of the Superior ManBerne´ BrownDeepak ChopraQUOTES:"A few moments of pain from confrontation is better than a week of resentment." (Brene´Brown)"It takes one person to create a shift in a relationship." (John Gray)Follow me on social media for more great content!Instagram: @bradkearns1Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphighTwitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I was greatly inspired by Episode 1 of Luke Storey’s fantastic Life Stylist podcast as he took his listeners through his craaaazy life story with great honesty and vulnerability, and it made for such a riveting show right out of the gate. You know this dude is for real as he really goes there and holds nothing back, and he’s really been bringing his A game to the airwaves.I think Luke’s kickoff show has really helped form a connection and an understanding of the person from a distance that carries over into all his other interview shows and all the comments and observations he makes on his podcast. Abel James also did a great job on his website giving rich details about his background and life experience that made him who he is today.I aspire to do the same. Especially since I occasionally get feedback from readers/listeners who wonder about a comment and ask whether I’m either kidding or a cocky obnoxious jerk. So the answer is, if I offend you, I’m definitely kidding.You can see this written message at bradkearns.com/meet-brad and this podcast might be an added bonus value since I get to editorialize about my own life story whenever possible. You’ll learn about my childhood in Los Angeles and immersion into the world of endurance running and then triathlon, and my brief foray into the accounting profession that ended after 11.5 weeks in favor of the pursuit of a crazy dream of becoming a professional triathlete. Then I cover my time as a parent coaching little kids, how I got into speedgolf and high jumping, all while continuing my pursuit of peak performance goals, and finally, the meaning behind the name of the Get Over Yourself podcast.One of the things I am most grateful for as I look back on my life is that I grew up before the digital age. It fostered a love for spending time outdoors, going on adventures, and generally just engaging in non-stop physical activity. Sports were always the centerpiece of my life, and I had the good fortune of not being in an overpressurized environment or having to deal with intense helicopter parenting. My school’s coaching system was hardly strict and regimented, but this actually worked out for the best, as I was able to go on my own path and nurture my passion for sports and competitive intensity.High school days were packed with training. Workouts started super early, and while there was that undeniable intensity that comes with the commitment to training, life was good, and the social aspect of it all made it seem not as rigorous, but something that was really fun. By the time I turned 16, I had qualified for the National Junior Olympics finals in the 1,500 meter category, and by my senior year, I was ninth place in the California State High School Championships in the 1,600 meter category. Yes, I had big dreams of becoming a collegiate Olympic runner then, and off I went to college in Santa Barbara to pursue my passion.It probably comes as no surprise that after years of intense focus on athletic track, I found that a fair amount of my self-esteem and happiness was tied to the results of my workouts and competitive efforts. But being forced to the sidelines in college really changed my perspective. It opened my eyes and allowed me to see that my greatest strengths - focus, discipline, and competitive toughness - could also easily lead to my downfall! But it is so important to see every you go through as an opportunity for learning and personal growth - especially struggles and setbacks. Realizing that I needed to switch gears at the tail end of my college experience could have been a real feeling sorry for myself moment. But I didn’t want to waste time feeling sorry for myself, so I got back on that bike - literally and figuratively.Soon after graduating from UC Santa Barbara with a degree in business and economics, I found myself sitting in rush hour traffic, heading to downtown Los Angeles, where I was working for (at the time) the world’s largest accounting firm. I lasted 11.5 weeks.I set off on a new path, and my days were filled with hours of difficult workouts, napping, eating healthy foods, studying race results, plotting the travel and competitive schedule, and talking training and competitive strategy with my sidekick on the triathlon journey, Andrew MacNaughton. I loved the day-to-day experience of being a professional athlete. The focus I had for my passion gave my life purpose, and even through challenging, frustrating, or exhausting moments, I always carried a sense of deep satisfaction and contentment because I simply enjoyed every step of the process of pursuing my goals and my dreams.At my peak in 1991, I was two-time US national champion and ended the season ranked #3 in the world. But after 45 races (with 15 victories), a seven-race win streak, and 80,000 miles on Pan-Am airlines over my two best years of ’90-’91, I was exhausted and basically required 12 hours of sleep each night. I was completely exhausted, and it was clear that it was time to call it a day. And while I did find it challenging re-immersing back into the real world, I had learned so much through the process of pushing my physical limits, overcoming my fears, and striving to accept both victory and defeat gracefully. This is why the podcast is called Get Over Yourself: because I deeply believe in cultivating a pure motivation for peak performance goals, releasing the attachment of your self-esteem to the outcome, and thereby unleashing a healthy competitive intensity to be the best you can be.You can check out the full ‘Meet Brad’ piece here, and thank you for listening to this special episode of the podcast. I hope it inspires you to, as my MOFO partner Brian Johnson of Ancestral Supplements always says, “Do something that scares the shit out of you every day.”TIMESTAMPS:Sports have been a centerpiece of Brad’s life. His passion for sports was unpolluted by today’s disturbing influences. [05:10]Brad was shocked as he branched out from middle school, from being the fastest kid on the block, to finding competition for equally skilled runners. [07:22]He found that with the influence of his runner friends, he could adopt a serious determination to improve and to enjoy the social aspects. [10:52]By his senior in high school year, he was ninth place in the California state high school championships. [15:56]Brad, off to become a college runner at UCSB, learned a big lesson. This was a disaster. [17:29]Influence of his competitive teammates proved to be Brad’s downfall. Listen to your own voice. [20:31]It took disappointment with the college career to turn him toward triathlon. [22:16]I think it's important to see everything that you experienced as an opportunity for learning and personal growth, especially struggles and setbacks. [24:15]Being an accountant was not a good fit for Brad, so he followed his dream of becoming a triathlete. [26:24]Every day was filled with hours of difficult workouts, napping, eating healthy foods (that we thought were healthy at the time.) [28:56]“King of the Desert” was one of the first big victories as a pro. He tells how his career grew. [30:46]To prepare mentally for his next competition, he embarked on a solo bike ride of 140 miles. [40:42]Reflecting back on his emerging career, Brad realizes how he struggled to not get swallowed up by competition. [44:51]The best years of 1990 and 1991 found Brad feeling exhausted that never quite cleared. [48:37]Get Over Yourself. Release your attachment of your self-esteem to the outcome. [50:17]Brad learned how to “retire” with grace and dignity and calm competition by watching his Dad. [51:48]Brad maintained his competitive intensity by coaching little kids! [55:29]Speed golf, sprinting, and high jumping has kept Brad’s focus on maintaining his skills with enjoyment and passion and personal growth. [59:08]You will slowly and imperceptibly lose your edge and extinguish your competitive spirit over time if you don’t keep up your passion for activity. Don’t obsess on the trappings of success. [01:08:02]When we succeed with tangible goals, we create oversized egos. Focus on making an effort towards improvement. [01:12:51]We become addicts to instant gratification at the expense of that long-term, happiness and contentment. [01:16:34]Don’t attach parental pride to the child’s accomplishments. [01:18:43]Cultivate the beautiful passion, curiosity, and competitive intensity that makes us human, but also release the attachment of your self-esteem to the outcome. [01:20:12]LINKS:Brad’s Shopping PageBradKearns.comLuke Storey PodcastAbel James PodcastLuke Storey’s First podcastAbel JamesAndrew MacNaughton podcastScott MolinaKenny SouzaHow to Retire at 30Brad’s Speed Golf World recordBrad’s High Jump InstructionThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ckEverything is F*ckedMark Manson PodcastDr. Ron Sinha PodcastAshley Merryman PodcastDr. Robert Lustig PodcastThe Hacking of the American Mind,Dr. John Gray PodcastQUOTES:“The essence of sport is that while you're doing it, nothing else matters. But after you stop, there's a place generally not very important where you would put it and you can take the word sport and fill in the blank for whatever challenge or peak performance goal you're facing in life.” - (Sir Roger Bannister)Follow me on social media for more great content!Instagram: @bradkearns1Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphighTwitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Andre “Dr. Dre” Obradovic is a one-of-kind Australian national treasure and you will love his spicy, sporty positive disposition and no-nonsense approach to goal-setting, lifestyle optimization, and holding yourself accountable for both your attitude and behavior. In this lively show, we cover the benefits of micro-workouts and how to protect against overtraining, and how to stay focused and motivated when your routine is disrupted by quarantine. Andre admits that laziness got in the way of his twice-daily yoga routine, and shares how he quickly made it a habit again within just three days. He also gives some seriously great tips for productivity and explains why he doesn’t even turn his iPhone on until after he’s done training and/or has finished at least a “big chunk” of work. Then we delve into the important topic of how to stave off the accumulation of the unhealthy visceral fat (belly fat) that has inflammatory properties and creates a slippery slope whereby the accumulation of a little belly fat begets the accumulation of more fat. We discuss the ideal sources of motivation and accountability. For example LGN - is it silly, or a great motivator? Should we be more honest and direct with our buddies and training partners to keep each other accountable? Andre is a recovering corporate executive who endured a mid-life crisis and an awakening that led him to become a life coach, endurance training coach, and accomplished amateur triathlete in the 50+ division of half-ironman racing. You will love his no nonsense, no excuses, highly quantified approach but one that’s dispensed with kindness and sensitivity. Learn more about Andre’s coaching offerings and interesting fitness App at https://andreobradovic.com/ TIMESTAMPS: One of the topics of this discussion is LGN (Look Good Naked)! [03:38] Andre talks about how he converted his garage into a gym during the quarantine. [08:32] Micro workouts are a real asset to have around the home. It comes without risk. [10:58] It is important to make a real habit of sticking to an exercise routine. [14:04] Keep the phone charging in your workout area, so when you go to get it, you will be prompted to do a mini-workout. [16:27] Don’t get sore. Sprints should last no longer than 20 seconds. [19:50] When preparing for a race, you don’t need to work at that race pace. [22:33] People in the fifty plus age group need to talk about visceral fat (belly fat). It is inflammatory.  [26:20] In the Framingham Study, they discovered that obesity is contagious. [30:35] What holds guys back from getting in better shape? [33:19] How important is it to weigh every day?  [40:15] It is great to talk straight. Health is a choice. [45:08] Exercising is great but it is the diet that needs your attention. [50:38] Checking knowledge, not bullshit, and acknowledging your situation is the goal. [52:27] Calories in and Calories out…….It’s a myth. [55:05] It takes four to five weeks to see results. [58:54] What do you do if you have tried everything we have suggested here and see no results? [01:01:19] Is wanting to look good naked a good motivator? [01:06:09 LINKS: Brad’s Shopping Page Andre Obradovic Keto Cooking for Cool Dudes Brad’s morning routine Framingham Study The Fatty Popcorn Boy Saga Follow me on social media for more great content! Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

(Breather) One great question from Mike about how to return to running after a long layoff opens up a great discussion on the topic of pacing yourself appropriately to avoid the all too common breakdown, burnout, illness, and injury that comes from following the prevailing “no pain, no gain” approach to fitness. The truth is that getting sore after workouts is not a sign of a job well done, but a way to stall your progress and delay recovery time. A revolution is afoot in fitness, thanks to the great work of Dr. Craig Marker (listen to the HIIT vs HIRT Breather show), Joel Jamieson (listen to his interview here), Firas Zahabi (check out this clip on Joe Rogan where Joe trips out on the insight that you should never be sore after workouts), and Dr. Phil Maffetone (listen to his interview here). If you can perform well within your capabilities, you can build and build without the interruption, immune suppression, and cellular breakdown caused by overly stressful workouts. We also hear a great success story from Maciej that will get you inspired to put your ego aside and align your workout behaviors with your stated goals, instead of chasing instant gratification. Thanks to listeners for sharing questions and feedback, and please feel free to communicate with us: getoveryourselfpodcast@gmail.com TIMESTAMPS: Mike Green wants to know the best way to get back into running after hip replacement surgery. You don’t have to suffer. [03:25] You don’t want to introduce muscle soreness as a regular recurring element of your sprinting training program. [07:11] If you can’t hold a deep squat position for 3 or 5 minutes, you need to work on this by practicing lunges and stretching. [16:36] Maciej asks: Could you elaborate on how many workouts per week should be, could be glycolytic.? I'd like to know if you've noticed any changes in your running cadence, uh, or changes in your ego [19:58] Keep trying to become a fat burner rather than a sugar burner. [25:43] LINKS: Brad’s Shopping Page Brad’s running technique Brad’s Running drills Hit vs.Hurt, Dr. Craig Marker Firas Zahabi Eliud Kipchoge Mark’s Daily Apple Vibrams Amazing Feets Follow me on social media for more great content! Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gray will once again blow you away with a steady stream of life-changing relationship insights and distinct strategies to get things back on track when your relationship is feeling strained or downright broken. John lays the foundation for discussion by describing his “80/20” relationship principle. This means you should develop self-love and self-sufficiency such that you establish a baseline state of happiness and look to your relationship to make you 20% happier. A dull, strained, or broken relationship is a natural consequence of the stresses of modern life, the rapidly evolving relationship roles in modern culture, and the hormonal differences between men and women that make everything from basic communication to maintaining a romantic spark really difficult. Dr. John explains that it can be really helpful to break free from arguing and blaming by reading a book together. Such as, ahem, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, Beyond Mars and Venus, or Mars and Venus In The Bedroom. When you can gain self-awareness from a book, it’s easier to acknowledge your mistakes, apologize, and rebuild hope that a new strategy can work where your devoted efforts have failed. For a quick example, Dr. John says women should resist their natural tendency to interrogate a man, as this will agitate them further.  On the other hand, men should overcome their natural tendency to avoid lengthy dialogue by probing and questioning your woman to draw out further insights and understanding. Dr. John also contends that when it comes to implementing the recommendations, “Fake it ‘till you make it” is not only okay, it’s 10 times more important and effective for men to do so! “I’m sorry, I was wrong, I overreacted, I was inconsiderate, I was selfish.” It’s not that hard to say, come on men, you can do it! This show is nonstop action, entertainment, and life changing insights, so tune in, and listen again and again, ‘till you get it right! Dr. John’s discussion of his two-year grieving process over the passing of his longtime partner Bonnie gives us some important perspective and inspiration. We are all compelled to do the very best we can every day in life, take nothing for granted, cut out the ego-driven bullshit, and transcend the disturbingly common flawed relationship dynamics that we have come to perceive as normal. As Dr. John said to close a previous show, “If we can’t do it now and model this to our children, what hope do we have for the future of humanity?” Connect with John at MarsVenus.com and also enjoy his daily Facebook Live educational seminar at John Gray on Facebook, where he covers a different topic every day in live Q&A format.  TIMESTAMPS: You can heal relationships sometimes, just by laughing at your own mistakes. [04:19] A couple of quick gems to look at are: Women, don’t question men. And men, ask more questions. [07:11] John talks about his grieving process and how he has learned more about himself. [09:53] As men and women, we both have a male and female side. [17:23] Your partner can make you happier but they cannot make you happy. 80% of your happiness comes from within you. [19:45] Men are more affected by a woman’s negative reaction. [22:55] Lithium Orotate is a mineral that does wonders to calm the thoughts.  [23:45] The balance of the brain chemicals in your brain affects your hormones, but your hormones affect your brain chemistry. [26:49] Too much testosterone automatically goes into estrogen.  Road rage is not caused by too much testosterone! [29:12] Never look a guy in the eye when he is angry. [30:49] It is important to consider the woman’s cycle when knowing how to relate to one another. [33:30] When a woman is emotional, asking her questions will help calm her down.  When a man is emotional, it is not a good time to get him to talk. [36:35] What are some of the healing steps to be taken when the relationship has been suffering? [38:00] Sex is controlled by the unconscious mind. [41:13] The key to every relationship is based on a feeling of anticipation that I can get what I need. You need to have hope. [43:30] Most of us just don’t know better. See your mistakes without feeling guilt. [45:36] A good exercise is to write a letter to yourself as if the other person is writing it to you. [49:50] Rather than “I’m sorry if…….’, it’s better to say “I’m sorry. I understand that you were hurt.” [53:10] For men, learning to be apologetic is a skill you can practice.  Fake it ‘til you make it! [57:56] Women need to know they are appreciated.  Many times, the man thinks he is showing that, but it doesn’t feel that way to her. [58:36] If one person makes a change, there will be a change in the relationship. The letter writing exercise works wonders. [01:06:45] Women actually have 10 times more power to make a relationship better than a man does. [01:10:24] It is really important for men to learn loving behaviors. [01:15:12] LINKS: marsvenus.com Brad’s Shopping Page Lithium Orotate Mars and Venus in the Bedroom Gray’s TED talk Follow me on social media for more great content! Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

(Breather) Brené Brown has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, and her latest book, Dare to Lead, which is the culmination of a seven-year study on courage and leadership. Brené’s TED talk ― The Power of Vulnerability ― is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 35 million views. Today, I’ll be sharing the most eye-opening revelations and life-altering lessons I’ve gained from Brené’s fascinating research and work. Empathy Developing empathy requires that you look into someone’s eyes and reflect their story back to them. But, “empathy is not the default human response.” Brené points out how hard it can be to “understand and accept other people, particularly when they behave disgracefully. You still have to work hard to tell them, ‘I get it.’ No one reaches out to you so that they can be taught how to behave better! They reach out because they believe in your capacity to know your darkness well enough so that you can sit in their darkness with them ― to have empathy for them.” Unfortunately, we have a tendency to flip on the lights. We say, “Don’t worry, it’s not a big deal. Everyone makes mistakes.” However, this is not empathetic. Neither is lecturing them about how lame they are (a good reminder for parents out there). Brené stresses that, “we cannot feel empathy for others beyond the love and compassion we have for ourselves.” Everyone runs into a moment (or two or three or fifty) of having screwed up something in their lives. And when this happens to someone you know and they come to you, Brené advises that, instead of reacting to the situation from a judgemental perspective or making light of it, the most helpful, effective, and empathetic response you can give them is to say, “You can do this. You can take this on.” Brené says you can “climb into the hole with them” but you also need to be sure that you don’t get trapped in that hole with them - you need to be able to get out. Of course you’re going to want to give your love, energy, kindness, and support, but you don’t want to get dragged down by other people’s issues. This is because doing so signifies that you are over-identifying, codependent, etc. Look at it this way: Sympathy is, “I feel bad for you,” not, “I feel with you.” Vulnerability What even is vulnerability? It is: Asking for help, saying, ‘I don’t know” Facing up to difficult situations and decisions Getting promoted and feeling like you’re not sure you’re up for it Getting fired Initiating sex with your partner It is uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure It is loving someone and knowing that you cannot control if they love you back Vulnerability is actually our most accurate measure of courage. It is not weakness ― that is the biggest myth. Brené says: “In the face of contention, don’t shrink, don’t puff up ― just stand your sacred ground: whole-hearted and empathetic. This is the goal for evolving to your highest self.” Brené then references studies of whole-hearted people, and highlights how they cultivate rest and play. She shares that these whole-hearted people actually “piddle around and waste time a lot.” And around 1/4 of whole-hearted, empathetic people are raised that way with optimal parenting. For the rest, empathy and whole-heartedness is a skill to cultivate. But, modern, messed up cultural dynamics have led us to regard exhaustion as a status symbol, and productivity as a measurement of self-worth (think of triathlete culture, workaholics that we all know or are personally, harried supermoms trying to do everything they can for everyone, helicopter parenting, etc.). Brené’s insights prompt you to rethink the ideas we all have and reprioritize being whole-hearted and taking care of yourself.  Another important part of vulnerability is accountability. Brené frames accountability as “authenticity, action, and amends.” A good example is saying, and acknowledging, ‘This is what I did, this is how I’m going to fix it.’ Shame Brené reveals that we always judge in the areas where we ourselves are most vulnerable to shame. Further, we always pick people who are doing worse than we are doing, because we are seeking validation, through the idea that, Well, at least I’m better than this person I am judging. The reason why shame feels bad is because it’s about your character. No wonder shame is strongly correlated with depression and addiction! Contrastingly, guilt can actually be productive and adaptive, because it’s rooted in your behavior. “The shame triggers are your prerequisites for worthiness,” Brené reveals, and these are usually handed down from our upbringing. As my show covering Dr. Bruce Lipton’s book, The Biology of Belief, explains, most of us are still carting around emotional baggage from early childhood programming and this has a serious effect on our bodies, precisely because of how strongly and directly our thoughts affect our cellular function. Brené says that shame “has one purpose only: to discharge pain. It serves no other use.” Here are some highlights from Brené’s Netflix special, Call to Courage: Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness. Despite what some may think, Brené says, “Vulnerability is our most accurate way to measure courage, and we literally do that as researchers.” Vulnerability actually allows them to assess fearlessness: “We can measure how brave you are by how vulnerable you’re willing to be.” There are numerous benefits that come with opening up. Brené says vulnerability is the “birthplace” of things like love and joy. Pointing out the risks that come with love, Brené asked her audience: “Are you 100% sure that person will always love you back, will never leave, will never get sick? How many of you have every buried someone you love? How many of you have lost someone you love? To love is to be vulnerable, to give someone your heart and say, ‘I know this could hurt so bad, but I'm willing to do it; I’m willing to be vulnerable and love you.’ When we lose our capacity for vulnerability, joy becomes foreboding. It becomes scary to let ourselves feel it.” Being vulnerable has advantages even at work. Brené’s advice to a company with a huge creativity and innovation problem was...you guessed it: vulnerability. “No vulnerability, no creativity. No tolerance for failure, no innovation. It is that simple,” she said, adding: “if you're not willing to fail, you can’t innovate. If you’re not willing to build a vulnerable culture, you can’t create.” Vulnerability is inescapable. Here’s the thing: even if you think you are avoiding being vulnerable, you are still, in fact experiencing the emotion. Brené says: “You do vulnerability knowingly, or vulnerability does you.” Highlighting the importance of openness, she said: “It is so much easier to cause pain than feel pain, and people are taking their pain and they’re working it out on other people. And when you don’t acknowledge your vulnerability, you work your shit out on other people. Stop working your shit out on other people!” The choice to embrace exposure is easier in the end. “Vulnerability is hard, and it’s scary, and it feels dangerous, but it’s not as hard, scary or dangerous as getting to the end of our lives and having to ask ourselves, ‘What if I would’ve shown up?’ ‘What if I would’ve said, I love you?’ Show up, be seen, answer the call to courage...‘cause you’re worth it. You’re worth being brave.” TIMESTAMPS: To develop empathy, you must look into the other person's eyes and reflect their story back to them. [05:29] We cannot feel empathy for others beyond the love and compassion that we have for ourselves. [07:20] Vulnerability is not a weakness.  It is being powerful. [08:24] Accountability is authenticity, action, and amends. [10:42] Shame is destructive because it’s about your character. [10:55] We can measure how brave you are by how vulnerable you’re willing to be. [12:26] There are many benefits to opening up. [13:23] Being vulnerable at work has advantages. [14:17] Vulnerability is inescapable. [15:00] Show up. Be seen. Answer the call to courage because you’re worth it.  [15:40] LINKS: Brad’s shopping Page The Power of Vulnerability “The Power of Vulnerability” Ted Talk Podcast on Biology of Belief 5 Takeaways on Vulnerability from Brené Brown’s ‘The Call To Courage’ Brené Brown Amazon Author Page Follow me on social media for more great content! Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Barb Garrison is a Career & Money Breakthrough Coach and “Job-You-Love” expert at Internal Groove, the company she founded 14 years ago. This is an interesting show about doing some deep reflection to discover your truth and taking action to pursue the highest expression of your talents while making an economic contribution. Barb is walking her talk, having left a high-stress corporate job in LA that was destroying her health and tapping into her natural inclination to coach and mentor others. Soon after her career change, Barb upped the ante and bailed on her lifelong home base of Los Angeles for a quieter, simpler life in Boulder, CO with her husband. In this show, you’ll learn to reflect on your life journey to date and discover themes and patterns that suggest the nature of your true talents and passions. We’ve heard enough blather in the entrepreneurial realm about how you should be a badass and quit your job and go conquer the world. Barb cuts through a lot of the nonsense to explain that you can align your career pursuits with your personality, level of risk tolerance, and also the practical aspects and responsibilities of day to day life. For example, maybe you don’t need to tell the boss to take their job and shove it, but can find a more suitable position within your existing career framework. Barb does this type of coaching and consultation to help burned out, success-driven professionals move on from self-doubt to freedom. Informed by your natural gifts and highest truth, Barb is an expert at designing creative career solutions you might not see on your own. She can be found working one-on-one with clients around the country, in private retreats with those who fly in to work with her, plus teaching from the stage at workshops and leading mastermind groups. Barb is developing an exciting online course that will help you conduct some helpful exercises to discover your truth ― what makes you leap out of bed on Monday mornings! You’ll enjoy a profound insight about the ever-popular email inbox that came to her when she was tasked with taking over the inbox of her recently deceased father. Barb will also address that “elephant in the room” issue of what to do when your stated passion and calling has difficult income prospects. Yes, there are solutions and adaptations that can help propel you forward to a more rewarding career and a more peaceful, meaningful, stress-balanced life. As Barb explains: “I think the first step is getting clear. Many people want to jump to the end result, the final job title. I tell my clients, ‘We’re going to be collecting pieces of the puzzle to put together,’ but what I want them to do is suspend their need to jump to ‘What is the final result?’ Leave that to the side, slowly start collecting pieces of the puzzle, and watch the picture emerge. You can’t skip over the steps.” TIMESTAMPS: It takes a lot of courage to pick up your life and move to a new adventure. [04:46] Barb is a career, money, breakthrough coach, and a job-you-love expert. [08:35] Why is it so difficult to find a balance between chill time and a hectic career life? [10:02] What Barb learned after she had a “hit over the head with a frying pan” awakening in her hectic life is now being applied to her coaching work. [17:43] Many people want to change their job but don’t know where to start. [21:53] What if what you are passionate about doesn’t pay the bills? [24:52] Don’t assume that you have to start your own business.  There are ways to negotiate ways in your employment to access your talents and passion. [27:00] So, what happens to the person who feels inspired to move out, and then find it was a poor decision? {31:28] When you look at something you like to do, go deeper and see what it is about that that you like. [37:10] It’s a good idea to start a personal “Freedom Fund.” [40:24] Suspend your need to jump to the final result. [44:37] Sometimes we feel that when our email box is empty and our to-do list is completed, then we’ll have time to start living our real life. [48:11] No matter what choice we make, there are always tools for our toolbox that are being added. [52:13] Hopefully the COVID pandemic has taught us to simplify things, lowering the volume on the noise of the pings and dings from our phones. [55:21] LINKS: Brad’s shopping page Barb Garrison Monday Morning Leap Brad’s podcast with Dr. Goldstein Follow me on social media for more great content! Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

(Breather) After learning how to strike a delicate balance between setting and pursuing meaningful tangible goals while adopting a healthy, process-oriented mindset, we cut to the chase with 5 tips that will help you quickly and efficiently reduce excess body fat. Well, it could be six tips with the first one being don’t get started down the slippery slope in the first place! Starting out, it’s important to accept the idea that losing fat is all about lowering insulin production, instead of the flawed and dated concept of eating fewer calories and burning more calories. This has now been scientifically proven to be ineffective per the compensation theory. Here are the five things that helped me, that I detail on this show: 12 noon: I re-established a firm rule of no caloric intake till 12 noon. This helps you bank more fasting hours, but also establishes structure, discipline, and a greater appreciation for meals. Carnivore-ish: Naturally low carb/low insulin, incredibly high satiety and nutrient density, and excellent for fat reduction. Also, any restrictive diet helps you eat less food, less often, and eliminates decision fatigue. Listen to my shows with Dr. Paul Saladino (#1 and #2) and Dr. Shawn Baker to learn more about the carnivore diet. Sprinting and Jumping: My properly conducted sprinting and high jump workouts send a powerful genetic signal to reduce fat, because the penalty for carrying extra weight is so severe in these activities (unlike shuffling along for a marathon.) Make sure your high intensity sessions are brief and explosive and not prolonged and exhausting, or you will trigger compensation theory dynamics. Cold therapy: I believe my morning routine of 4-6 minutes in 34-38F water accelerated fat metabolism because I often experienced a spike in hunger afterward. Since it was way before noon, I ignored it and it would pass in 20 minutes. I have to think this kicked me into accelerated fat burning mode, something emerging research is suggesting. More on this topic soon! Mindful eating: Eat in a calm setting at a relaxed pace. Notice the point at which you are satisfied instead of mindlessly chomping on while you watch TV. If you are going to indulge/celebrate, do so with full attention and appreciation instead of guilt. Hopefully these tips, whether applied exactly or just honored in spirit, will help you on your journey. Let us know if you have questions, comments, feedback by emailing getoveryourselfpodcast@gmail.com. TIMESTAMPS: It will be helpful to narrow the focus to lowering insulin production as the gateway to dropping excess body fat.  [05:11] You must get your mindset completely away from “calories in and calories out!” [06:20] Effortless maintenance of ideal body composition comes when you produce an optimally minimal amount of insulin over the course of your lifetime. [09:05] Fasting is one way to lower insulin. [10:36] The other way is to reduce intake of dietary carbohydrates. [11:34] Keto ice cream is now in the stores. [15:48] As individuals, when fasting, there are various ideas about when it works best.  [17:47] Brad talks about the benefits of the carnivore eating pattern. [19:39] The most nutrient dense foods are grass fed, pasture raised meats. [23:40] Sprinting, jumping, and explosive movements send a profound signal to your genes and hormones to drop excess body fat. [26:20] Cold therapy has a profound effect on the genetic signaling for fat reduction. [29:44] LINKS: Brad’s Shopping LInk The Obesity Code Brad’s podcast with Dr. Shawn Baker MeatRx.com Brad’s podcast with Dr. Saladino Follow me on social media for more great content! Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I catch up with a longtime mentor and godfather of fat-adapted endurance training, Dr. Phil Maffetone. We discuss the hot topic of “overfat,” which Phil says is “having excess body fat that impairs health and fitness.” Dr. Phil cites data that 91% of the global adult population can be classified as overfat, despite nearly half that percentage having what is considered normal body weight. Overfat means having, “excess body fat that impairs health and fitness,” according to Dr. Phil. You’ve heard about the inflammatory visceral fat (belly fat) and all the adverse health consequences, and this is what Dr. Phil’s talking about. You want your waist circumference to be less than half your height in inches. Dr. Phil details how to get healthy, which can be summed up by the overarching goal of “getting better at burning fat.” This entails dietary modification (“ditch junk food,” Phil says!) a proper exercise protocol (not chronic), and managing all forms of life stress to avoid the cortisol-gluconeogenesis-sugar addiction patterns. Granted, it’s hard to drop stubborn belly fat, even for well-meaning, diet-conscious fitness enthusiasts. Dr. Phil talks about how we become more carbohydrate intolerant as we age, necessitating a reduction in carb intake. Dr. Phil also covers the role of high intensity workouts, including the interesting insight that as you improve fat burning from diet and aerobic base workouts, you can burn more fat and preserve glycogen even during hard sessions! Learn more at PhilMaffetone.com. TIMESTAMPS: Ninety-one percent of global population is what Dr. Phil calls “overfat.” [03:58] The MAF method is more than just going slow. [06:47] The bottom line is to avoid junk food. Exactly what is junk food? If it is sold in a health food store, is it okay? [09:25] You need to personalize what works for you. [14:33] Over 40 percent of non-obese, normal weight people are still overfat. [16:49] We have survived as a species because of our wonderful immune system. [20:36] If you are sleepy after breakfast, you probably had too many carbohydrates. [24:38] It is easy to measure if you are overfat. Measure your waist and your height. Your waist should be less than half your height. [28:50] As we age, we become more insulin resistant. We need to adjust the carb intake. [33:44] The problem with our sugar addiction is it changes our taste buds. [39:28] Apart from food and exercise, there are other physical stressors that affect us. [43:38] Most of the chronic diseases which are preventable are the downstream effect from overfat.  [47:11] “We are going to fix healthcare.” We aren’t looking at the cause. [50:51] Maffetone’s two-week test is a way to confirm the problem of carbohydrate intolerance. [53:37] Since so much our body is water, what kind of fluctuation do we experience from day to day when we are losing weight? [57:05] The brain is getting a steadier source of fuel because you are not so dependent on glucose. [01:00:21] The reduction of insulin triggers a significant balance of the hormones. [01:02:47] Poor brain function, as a result of poor diet, is a greater cause of driving accidents than even alcohol.  [01:05:56] Why can’t people understand that sugar is the new tobacco?  [01:09:25] We are all individually responsible for our health. [01:13:17] LINKS: Brad’s Shopping Page Phil Maffetone tryLGC.com Revisiting the Overfat Pandemic Healthy Driving Heart Disease and Marathon Runners Follow me on social media for more great content! Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

(Breather) Yes this title sounds familiar to the 2019 show titled, The Fatty Popcorn Boy Saga. I’m alternatively embarrassed but also pleased to report that I have succeeded with a focused effort of fat reduction, and have some insights about mindset and practical tips to share with you. The Part 1 show wrestles with the philosophical aspects of taking on this challenge, while Part 2 covers five helpful tips to make it happen in real life. It’s very easy to slip a bit from your A-game with unbridled celebrations that become too commonplace, as well as mindless eating habits that aren’t aligned with your stated goals. It’s much more difficult to recalibrate and get rid of body fat that was unwanted in the first place. I gained a fresh perspective about the content I communicate in books, podcasts, and videos from fighting a personal battle instead of just being theoretical. The best starting point for a fat reduction effort is to get your mindset right ― do you really want this goal, or are you deep down okay being just okay? Perhaps you are giving yourself permission to celebrate life and use food as a release valve against all the pressure and expectation we face in other areas of daily life? That’s perfectly okay, but you have to have some honest self-assessment so you don’t set yourself up for disappointment. As you embark on the difficult task of dropping excess body fat, it’s important to strike a balance between harnessing the focus, discipline and competitive intensity to kick butt with not attaching your self-esteem or self-image to the outcome. Insights from shows with Mark Manson and Andrew MacNaughton apply here. You also have to recognize the strong influence of environmental factors, as revealed by Framingham Study data that identified social “clusters” for things like obesity, or happiness, that are contagious to three degrees. If one is obese, one’s friend and the friend’s friend are more likely to obese. If you are kickin’ it in Austin with thousands of people visible every morning cruising around the Town Lake trail, the fitness ethos of a community is most definitely contagious. You also need to be able to accept honest feedback from others, while remembering that it’s also a balancing act: you don’t want to let self-limiting beliefs and negative childhood associations run (and ruin) your life, but you still need to let enough constructive criticism in that you can make the necessary changes you need to make. Do your best to align yourself with a beneficial sense of self, or at the very least, a more positive one than you’ve had in the past. This is key when it comes to weight loss because your thoughts really do affect your cellular function, at all times. If this is a new concept to you, check out the book, The Biology of Belief, and the episodes (part 1 and part 2) where I discuss this concept and the power your thoughts (positive and negative) truly have on your body. Getting routine blood work done can potentially aid you immensely throughout your weight loss journey, because truthfully, even if you think you are doing well and are feeling quite healthy, a blood test might change everything. It could expose you to things you had no idea were happening in your body. Here are the top things to look out for when you get bloodwork done: Triglyceride levels: High triglycerides are not a good sign as they indicate the amount of fat circulating in your blood. Dr. Sinha says get this number under 100. HDL (aka good cholesterol): Aim for at least over 40. Triglyceride to HDL ratio: Dr. Cate Shanahan and Dr. Sinha both suggest striving for a 1:1 ratio Vitamin D: Most people are chronically deficient in Vitamin D due to our modern, indoor lifestyles, but it is more important than ever in these times that you boost your immunity by exposing large skin surface areas to sunlight. Sure you can take a supplement, but nothing will be as potent or efficient as the real thing. Inflammatory markers HBA1C If any of these show up irregular in your blood work, take their presence as a sign (and a powerful motivator) that it’s time to lose some weight. Learn from the Fatty Popcorn Boy’s journey and stay focused and positive. Try not to let yourself get too discouraged, don’t be too hard on yourself, and stay tuned for part 2! TIMESTAMPS: Brad understands the weight gain problem. He was not living in a manner that is aligned with his goals as an athlete.  [05:44] A tiny bit of unbridled celebration and mindless habits can really quickly send you off your A-game. [07:43] Dropping excess body fat is the number one diet, fitness, and health goal that we share in modern life. [09:42] What are you sacrificing when you give up the pizza and ice cream? [10:50] Don’t attach your self-esteem or your identity to the outcome. [15:38] Your social group, your community have a huge impact on how you live your life. [18:48] Sometimes we need direct unfiltered feedback. [22:17] We form these self-limiting beliefs and negative associations early in childhood that get programmed into our subconscious and we play them out for the rest of our lives. [25:02] It’s important to have your routine blood work done. [26:42] We have a widespread deficiency of Vitamin D. [31:08] Visceral fat that concentrates around the abdominal area is extremely unhealthy. [34:28] LINKS: Brad’s Shopping Page Fatty Popcorn Boy Framingham Study Mark Manson Podcast Dr. Phil Maffetone Podcast Dr. Ron Sinha Podcast L-G-N goal: Looking Good Naked! Follow me on social media for more great content! Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearnsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-get-over-yourself-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.