Gay Men Going Deeper

Gay culture has historically idolized traditional masculinity in the context of societal norms, which includes traits like physical strength, assertiveness, and stoicism.  But we must remember that there isn't a single, fixed definition of masculinity. While some embrace traditional concepts of masculinity, others may lean towards more non-conforming presentations.  Lately, there has been a growing acceptance of the fact that gender expression and sexual orientation are distinct aspects of identity. In this episode, we're exploring our personal expression of masculinity by answering questions such as: What does masculinity mean to you?  What's the difference between toxic masculinity and healthy masculinity? In what ways has societal conditioning shaped how you relate to your own masculinity? How do you express your masculinity? Hosts Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Watch this ep on YouTube Take the Attachment Style Quiz! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Get lifetime access to 2 courses, 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Follow us on Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes

Libido, or sex drive, is our natural instinctual inclination for sexual activity. Libido varies person to person and fluctuates over time.  It’s not uncommon for men to put a high value on their sex drive, especially if they associate it with their masculinity and self-esteem.  In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael welcomes Dr. Hector Rodriguez to answer your questions about libido.  Some of the topics they’ll be covering are: How does aging impact your sex drive? How do you measure libido? What causes a loss of libido? How changing libido can impact your relationships? What steps can you take to increase libido? Join us for this informative episode that begins to de-mystify many of the question we have - but are too afraid to ask.  Connect with Dr. Hector: Website Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Website Instagram Men's Group Other episodes featuring Dr. Hector: Intergenerational Relationships Shiny Object Syndrome Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Our 2 courses + 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Follow us on Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes

Attraction is a fickle matter. Call it a vibe or energy or aura, it is indeed a powerful unseen force that influences our relationships. In the metaphysical sense, energetic attraction stems from the belief that everything in the universe is made up of energy, including human beings, and that this energy can interact and create connections between people. In this episode, we're going deeper into the concept of Energetic Attraction, by answering these questions: What traits make someone attractive? How much control do you have over who you're attracted to? Can you become more energetically attractive? Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio unpack the concept of the spiritual awakening. They both share their personal experiences with spiritual awakenings and how they navigated these really challenging periods in their lives. If you are struggling in life right now, you might be going through a spiritual awakening. The best way through one of these experiences is to learn about its meaning, making it easier to navigate. Here are the 4 questions we explored in this episode: What does spiritual awakening mean to you? What has been one of the most profound spiritual experiences you’ve had? What practices do you have to help you move through spiritual awakenings? What has been your greatest learning when it comes to spiritual growth? Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show

Attracting a romantic relationship is as much about energy as it is about the practical steps. Directing your thoughts and emotions towards finding love adds an energetic boost to any tangible action steps you’re taking. In this episode, we’re sharing our experiences with attracting love including: Manifestation basics Artificial desire vs. authentic desire How to recognize your 'ideal' partner Why you attract who you attract Our fave tips and tricks Watch this episode on YouTube Want more?Gay Men Going Deeper: The Coaching Collection Take the Attachment Style Quiz- Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" courseTake our "Healing Your Shame" courseInstagram GayMenGoingDeeper.comSupport the Show

Body confidence is the ability to feel good in your body, regardless of its size or shape. But there are many reasons why gay men in particular struggle in this area.  Wanting to work on your body is perfectly natural, but having the right mindset is crucial to this process.   How can you work on your body goals without it being harmful to your mental health? In today’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio invites Jarrod Bruce Lee to answer that very question, as well as discussing: Where body confidence actually comes from Dealing with the pressure to look a certain way  What prevents us from feeling more confident in our bodies Motivating yourself with self-love instead of self-loathing  Balancing external validation with self-validation Today's Guest: Jarrod Bruce Lee Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Watch this ep on YouTube Gay Men Going Deeper: The Coaching Collection Take the Attachment Style Quiz! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show

Aging is an inevitable part of life, but we each have a unique relationship with it. Some of us embrace it with open arms and don't buy into the idea of a "gay death" at a certain age. Others struggle with aging and cling to our youth and relevance as each year passes. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our own relationship to aging and what it means to “age well.” Some of the questions we’ll be unpacking are: What has been your relationship to aging? What do you like and dislike about aging? Where do your ideas/beliefs about aging come from? How would you define “aging well” on your own terms? Who is someone who you perceive to have “aged well”? Watch this ep on YouTube Gay Men Going Deeper: The Coaching Collection Take the Attachment Style Quiz! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Theo Bill have a heartfelt conversation about the struggles and joys of being a gay man. They discuss the core wounds of growing up gay, the impact this has on the gay community, and what we can do to start to heal these wounds.  We explore these topics in the episode: The wounds gay men may experience in their development  Toxic Shame Attachment trauma  Gay men and spirituality What advantages do we have as gay men  Some things we can do to start healing our wounds Sensitivity   The GoHigher Summit (hosted by Theo) is about elevating the rainbow community by finding the gift of growth and healing that resides within each of us. 30+ speakers shared their life stories, lessons and experiences – all to empower, elevate, and educate! It is a place to celebrate our diversity and unique culture, but also to learn how we can more easily expand our identity beyond our wounds. Connect with Theo: www.gohighersummit.com Instagram Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show

It’s a sad reality that older gay men face stereotypes about their attractiveness, desirability, or relevance as they age.  Age discrimination, or ageism, can result in feeling isolated, undervalued, and even invisible.  In today’s episode, we are having a panel discussion about age discrimination with 3 of our community members.  We’ll cover topics such as: Being judged by younger gay men The discomfort around revealing your age around to others Dating and aging What advice they have for younger gay men The importance of intergenerational relationships How the gay community has changed or remained the same over the decades? Listen to this episode to recognize and challenge ageism so that we can foster a more accepting and inclusive community.  Watch this episode on YouTube Today's Panelists: Steven Band Jon Carl Lewis Miguel Diaz Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Building Better Relationships course Healing Your Shame course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call You can also follow us on Instagram and TikTok Support the Show

Friends with benefits (FWB) is a type of relationship where you can enjoy the sexual benefits of a relationship without the expectation of long-term commitment.  Navigating the blurred lines between friendship and sexual intimacy is a complex and potentially risky endeavour.  In this episode, Michael DiIorio and Pepper of The Gay Good discuss the nuances of having Friends With Benefits. They’ll discuss topics such as: The pros and cons of FWB Why this is common with gay guys When FWB works and when it doesn't Dos and don'ts for a satisfying FWB relationship Join in for this revealing discussion that will give you greater clarity and understanding of this common relationship structure.  Watch this episode on YouTube Find us on Instagram: Today's Guest: Pepper Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Related Episode: Being Kindr on Grindr Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Building Better Relationships course Healing Your Shame course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call You can also follow us on Instagram and TikTok Support the Show