Relationship Advice

No one wants to be wrong. Two individuals often feel they can't both be 'right' when resolving conflict. Learning to hold the needs and feeling of both partners at the same time is a key element to relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to stop arguing and take your relationship from 'me' to 'we'. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to prevent moments of disconnect from accumulating and creating a toxic relationship Understanding that 'you don't know what you don't know' when it comes to what you need to work on in your relationship Why we argue with our partner How to empathize with your partner to move from 'me' to 'we' Key promises to make your partner to take ownership of your relationship and move forward with positivity And much more! Maureen Hosier is a licensed psychologist, specializing in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and work place relationships. Maureen and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, co-authored two books titled, You’ll Do Anything for Her and You’ll Do Anything for Him. They look at a common issue for many in relationship, both men and women, who give up themselves to make the relationship work. They have developed a framework for understanding the dynamics of individuals who find themselves stuck in an emotionally reactive and emotionally painful situation with their partner and who are frightened that they are destroying their relationship. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/223 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order with free shipping. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel deeply connected to your partner sexually? Some couples have a sexual spark from the beginning, some build it over time, some never address it and others find it unimportant. Wherever you fall on that spectrum, there are tools to help create more sexual intimacy in your relationship. Listen to today's show to improve your overall relationship and long term relationship satisfaction. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how sexual intimacy permeates all areas of your relationship How to ask for what you need in your relationship through direct communication Five amazing steps to create more sexual intimacy (some of our favorite actionable tips to date!) Parallels between sex and overall relationship intimacy And much more! Dr. Judy Scheel is an expert in the treatment of eating and related disorders and author of a book on eating disorder recovery. She is trained by NYU Medical Langone in Human Sexuality and Sex Therapy. She maintains two blogs on Psychology Today, and is currently finishing up Certification at John Jay College of Criminal Justice in Forensic Psychology. Dr. Scheel maintains a private practice in Charlotte, NC and New York, and is a national and regional speaker. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/222 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Away: Luggage for the modern traveler—lightweight, premium features, and a lifetime warranty. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/IDO and use promo code IDO during checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know that thing your partner does that just annoys the hell out of you!? Chewing too loud, eating your leftovers, leaving the kitchen a mess, making the 'ahh' noise after taking a sip of water. You know what we're talking about. Well, you don't have to let those behaviors annoy you so much. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with your partner's annoying habits. Learn the important difference between annoying behaviors and toxic relationship behaviors The importance of assuming good intentions from your partner Understanding the underlying reasons you are annoyed with your partner's behavior How to have a real conversation with your partner to make progress when it comes to annoying behaviors Learning to change yourself before trying to change you partner And much more! Dr. Seth Gillihan is a clinical psychologist, author, blogger and host of the Think Act Be podcast. His therapy practice focuses on mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy for a range of issues, with in-person and video conference appointments available. Seth is the author of The CBT Deck and A Mindful Year, co-written with Dr. Aria Campbell-Danesh. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/221 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Mint: Get your new wireless plan for just $15 a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE. Visit mintmobile.com/ido Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes relationships are bad and need to end. Whether you're dating or married, there can be a point where you are struggling to find clarity on what you should do in the relationship and if you should allow it to continue. Listen to today's show to give yourself the tools for a relationship checkup and find clarity on if it's a relationship you should stay in. Specific questions to ask yourself to help determine the health of your relationship The importance of asking yourself if you've actually made efforts to sustain the relationship Looking within to see if you have unrealistic expectations for your relationship How to decide if you should break up, separate or divorce Understanding what is specifically troubling you in the relationship and the underlying issues And much more! Ann Gold Buscho, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in family issues and issues related to divorce, parenting, parenting planning and co-parenting counseling. She has professional and personal experience in nesting, co-parenting, step-parenting and single-parenting issues. She has presented widely at state and national conferences for attorneys, mental health professionals, and financial professionals on collaborative divorce, forgiveness practices, nesting during divorce, and consensual dispute resolution. She is currently writing a book about nesting. Buscho is also a co-founder of a residential treatment program for traumatized emergency responders and their families at which she volunteers regularly. A graduate of Stanford University, she lives in San Rafael, California. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/220 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're in a relationship, there's a likelihood you've dealt with a mismatch is sexual desire. This mismatch can be caused by a variety of factors that can often lead to unhappiness in one or both partners. It doesn't have to be this way! Listen to today's show to learn how to negotiate the frequency of sex in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding that there is no such thing as a 'normal' frequency for how much you should be having sex Should you schedule sex on the calendar? How culture impacts our views on sex and gender roles in the relationship Communicating with your partner about your sexual desires How our sexuality and relationship styles have evolved And much more! David Ludden, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College. He received his Ph.D. in cognitive psychology from the University of Iowa, and is the author of The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach and author of the blog "Talking Apes" on Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/219 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating can be tricky in today's 'swipe right' online dating world. Approaching your dating life mindfully will help save you heart break and frustration. Whether you are single or married, mindfully dating your partner will bring more relationship success and happiness. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to date better. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Becoming consciously aware of your relationship needs and triggers Information on the new Facebook dating platform Understanding the negative internal stories we tell ourselves and changing this habit Dealing with rejection and ghosting when dating Managing dating anxiety And much more! Dr. Paulette Sherman is a psychologist, a relationship expert and the author of the new book, ‘Facebook Dating: From 1st Date to Soulmate,’ available on Amazon. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/218 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are a lot of myths surrounding the attainment of happiness. Understanding these myths and moving toward a better path will improve your relationship and your life. Listen to today's show to learn how get on a path toward more happiness! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Examples for how we look for happiness in all of the wrong places Developing rituals with your partner to increase relationship satisfaction Using chocolate to develop mindfulness and become more attuned with your partner The importance of not personalizing our partners actions Looking at our partner in a new light without or predetermined labels And much more! Diane R. Gehart, Ph.D., is an author, an award-winning professor of Counseling and Family Therapy at California State University, Northridge, and a practicing psychotherapist. Her new book is Mindfulness for Chocolate Lovers: A Lighthearted Way to Stress Less and Savor More Each Day (Rowman & Littlefield, Sept. 15, 2019). Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/217 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Mint: Get your new wireless plan for just $15 a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE. Visit mintmobile.com/ido Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel disconnected from your partner? Well, don't worry — at one point, all relationships will face various levels of disconnect. Listen to today's show to learn how to reconnect with your partner, and get through what might feel like an impossible relationship moment. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:  Learn how attachment theory helps explain some of the relationship stress we experience when we become parents How to go from threatened to empathetic in our relationship conflicts Dealing with the feeling of being in an 'impossible place' in a relationship Sharing your vulnerability with your partner And much more! Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples an dindividuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/216 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy to look to our partner to make us happy and fulfill our needs. However, instead of looking on the outside, we often need to look within. Listen to today's show to understand how to be in a healthy relationship with the understanding that our partner will not fulfill all of our needs.   In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:  Deconstructing the myth that our partner will fulfill all our needs Using the hard times in a relationship and turning them into breakthrough moments rather than breakdowns or breakups Circumstances where you could be looking toward your partner for fulfillment rather than within Understanding codependent relationships and breaking away from this type of relating The importance of regular relationship check ins And much more! Charlie and Linda Bloom have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups and organizations since 1975. They have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, the California Institute for Integral Studies, the Meridian University, John F. Kennedy University, the Crossings, Omega institute, the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, University of California at Berkeley Extension Program, the Hoffman Institute and the World Health Organization. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/215 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is it like to be famous before you’re famous? What is it like to walk in the shoes of another person? Each episode of Imagined Life takes you on an immersive journey into the life of a world-famous person. It’ll be someone you may think you know, even admire -- or maybe the opposite. You’ll get clues to your identity along the way. But only in the final moments will you find out who “you” really are. So sit back, let go, and -- imagine your life, with our hosts, Oscar nominated Virginia Madsen and celebrated voice actor Robbie Daymond. From Wondery, the network behind Dirty John. Listen now at wondery.fm/idoido Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices