

The Gentle Art of Crushing It!
The Gentle Art of Crushing It
Hello, and thank you for joining us today on "The Gentle Art of Crushing It!" podcast, where we focus on learning and sharing with our listeners all there is to know about how to create success in our lives. This show stands on the shoulders of Giants. Our mission is to empower and inspire our listeners to create the life of their dreams whilst having a blast in the process. Let's celebrate life together! Welcome to the show.
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Aug 9, 2023 • 1h 3min
From Engineer to Real Estate Mogul: Paul's Journey to Building a $120 Million Empire
Paul Moore is the founder of Wellings Capital a real estate private equity firm that seeks to help high earners and high net worth individuals protect and grow their wealth through passive commercial real estate investing.
Our 700+ investors have joined us in our Funds to invest in over 17,000 self-storage, manufactured housing, and multifamily units across the US valued at over $500 million.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
02:19 - Paul’s Background
04:56 - Entrepreneurship
11:23 - Wellings Capital
13:45 - Current Self Storage Market
20:54 - Maven Equities Ad
21:25 - Commercial Loans
25:16 - Developments vs Value Add
27:36 - Automation
32:50 - RV Parks
35:51 - Maven Success Ad
48:30 - Picking A Market
50:55 - Lending on RV Parks
54:19 - Non Profit To End Human Trafficking
58:15 - What’s Next for Wellings Capital & How To Connect
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:https://www.facebook.com/wellingscapital
https://www.linkedin.com/company/wellings-capital-llc/
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: Connect with Sean Graham to discuss self-storage syndication investment opportunities at Maven Equities or to sell your self-storage facility without a broker.
https://www.mavenequities.com/
https://www.mavenstorage.com/
http://www.mavensuccess.com/
Linktr.ee/seangraham
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Aug 7, 2023 • 57min
Yunis Abdalla - Stabbed, Shot, and Still Found Success In Real Estate
Yunis Abdalla, a native of Africa, overcame a troubled past in Saint Louis City to become a real estate success story. After a turbulent upbringing marked by expulsions and arrests, Yunis knew he was destined for something greater. At 18, he read "Rich Dad, Poor Dad," which changed his mindset and set him on a path of self-improvement. In just 2.5 years, he completed over 30+ wholesale deals and now owns 20+ rental properties, proving that resilience and determination can lead to extraordinary achievements. Yunis's story is an inspiration to others facing similar challenges, showcasing the power of personal growth and unwavering belief in oneself.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
01:56 - Yunis’s Background
05:12 - everyreitool.com
23:20 - Circle Of Influence
25:00 - Taking Action
28:32 - Wholesale
34:00 - Investing in Real Estate
41:18 - DSCR loan
43:28 - Mentorship
45:21 - Building Relationships
47:40 - Networking
48:55 - Key To Success
51:25 - Yunis Recommends
54:31 - Connect with Yunis
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:@yunistherealtor instagram / @yunistherealtor tiktok
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: https://www.readyforrealestatechecklist.com/start
MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:
Think and Grow Rich : Napoleon hill and Arthur Pel
The Millionaire Real Estate Investor : Gary Keller
My American Dream: Julissa Arce
Tenant Turner
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Aug 3, 2023 • 43min
Julie Holly - A Heart of Teaching in Real Estate Investing
Julie is founder of Three Keys Investment, helps people like you find their freedom through multifamily real estate investing so that they can live the life of their dreams! She has invested in single family homes, house-hacked before it had a name, managed properties from 1k miles away and passively invested in multifamily assets. Currently, Julie is passively invested in nearly 300 doors, strategically partnered in 68 Atlanta based and a general partner in 387 units.
Her podcast The Conscious Investor is designed to support investors at every step of their journey. Enjoy nearly 400 episodes on mindset and how highly successful investors overcome limitations and become unstoppable forces of success.
Julie’s care for the financial well-being of investors as well as her experience as a public school teacher, and ability to relate with people allow her to raise capital for the team’s offering.
She regularly speaks at national and virtual events and serves clients as a performance coach.
Her free time is filled with backcountry mountain biking with family and friends, baking delicious treats to share with others, writing grants for non-profit organizations and mentoring young entrepreneurs.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
01:25 - Julie’s Background
08:00 - Left Field Investors
09:27 - Release and Receive
12:51 - Journey To Passive Investing
18:51 - Your Role As A Passive Investor
19:56 - What Makes A Good Passive Investor
24:53 - Active Investing
27:01 - Assisted Living
33:39 - Mindset and Coaching
35:52 - Resources from The Conscious Investor
39:15 - Bucket List
40:46 - Connect With Julie
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:Julieholly.com
https://www.instagram.com/happyjulieholly/
https://www.facebook.com/happyjuliewaltonholly/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-holly/
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: Connect with our host, Randy Smith, for more educational content or to discuss investment opportunities in the real estate syndication space at www.impactequity.net, https://www.linkedin.com/in/randallsmith or on Instagram at @randysmithinvestor
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Aug 2, 2023 • 35min
Sarah Weaver - 30 Days to Freedom
Sarah Weaver is an author, speaker, coach, real estate investor, and business owner. Sarah runs three businesses that serve both real estate investors and real estate agents.
She travels the country coaching real estate agents and hosting intimate retreats for investors. Talk about a dream life.
Invested Adventures hosts epic events for real estate investors all over the world. Sarah is taking 18 investors to hike Patagonia and 12 investors on an African Safari 2023. Arya Design Services helps investors analyze, furnish and launch their furnished rentals nationwide. The Sarah Weaver Mentorship Program serves investors looking to grow their portfolios no matter where they live.
Sarah owns 19 units in four states. This includes nine furnished rentals—all of which she self-manages from afar. Did we mention that Sarah is always traveling? She has traveled to 47 countries on six continents and has been fully nomadic since January 2019.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
02:58 - Sarah’s Background
03:31 - Nourish and Sow
06:10 - Invested Adventures
08:43 - Networking
09:23 - Credit Card Hacking
10:29 - Favorite Success Story / Long Distance Investing
14:19 - Cashflow in Medium Term Rentals
17:47 - Overcoming Challenges
20:34 - Scale Your Business
23:49 - Self Awareness
31:14 - 30 Day Stay, 20% off code for the book at ilovemtr.com
32:20 - Connect With Sarah
COUPON CODE FOR 20% OFF SARAH’S BOOK:
ilovemtr.com
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:Follow along on Instagram @sarahdweaver
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: Doug is a Husband of one, Father of six, Real Estate Investor, who is passionate about growth and living life to the fullest! His main goal is to create the life of his dreams and live it on his own terms. He intends on helping as many people as possible to realize this worthy goal for themselves as well. Reach out to him anytime to connect for any reason and you never know he may just have the answer you are looking for! His passions range from his Family to being a Christian to Studying and Implementing Success Principles, Technology, Skateboarding, Music, and Martial Arts to name just a few.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/douglas-clark-a13a68191/
https://www.facebook.com/doug.clark.3785373
https://www.instagram.com/thedouglasbrianclark/
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Jul 31, 2023 • 33min
Paul Lee - Husband, Father, Full-Time Job, 6-Figure Side Gig, and Real Estate
Bio: As a dedicated husband and a loving father of two, Paul Lee understands the importance of creating a life of abundance, both in terms of financial security and time freedom. In today's fast-paced world, Paul wears multiple hats. Not only does he work a full-time job as a corporate banking underwriter, but he is also a real estate investor, managing a $2.0 million portfolio of eight units, and a seller of exotic plants. To date, his real estate portfolio is estimated to generate $4.5k of cash flow per month, and his "exotic plants" side hustle has netted him $100,000 over the course of two years.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
02:17 - Paul’s Background
04:06 - everyreitool.com
05:18 - Getting started
06:09 - Selling Rare Plants
08:14 - Choosing Real Estate
11:07 - Househacking
14:39 - FHA Self Sufficiency Test
18:24 - Defining Success
20:43 - Favorite Success Story
22:50 - Most Valuable Lesson Learned
23:48 - Overcoming Challenges and Mindset
25:11 - Fast Track Success
26:28 - Key To Success
29:09 - Book Recommendation
29:57 - Tech Recommendation
31:01 - Connect with Paul
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:ig: https://www.instagram.com/leafinvestments/
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: https://www.readyforrealestatechecklist.com
MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:
The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas J. Stanley
Rentometer
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Jul 27, 2023 • 37min
Jenny Gou - Retired from Corporate America at 34 Through Active/Passive Investing
GUEST BIO:
Jenny is a Managing Partner at Vertical Street Ventures and focuses on leading the VSV Multifamily Academy. Prior to VSV, she was a Sales Director at Procter & Gamble setting national sales strategies for several billion-dollar brands and launching key initiatives across top retailers in the U.S. Her overall experience in leading teams, strategy, and project management gives her a unique ability at VSV and helping others achieve success through the VSV Academy.
Jenny received a Bachelor’s in Business Management at the University of Arizona and her MBA at the University of Minnesota. She currently lives in Southern California with her husband and kids.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
01:27 - Jenny’s Background
02:53 Left Field Investors
04:55 - Single Family Investing
08:05 - Multifamily Investing and Setting Goals
09:38 - Getting Started
11:58 - Mentorship and Networking
13:52 - Partnerships
15:07 - Styles
17:33 - Passive Investing and Communication
19:40 - New Passive Investors, Vetting Sponsors and Operators
22:32 - Current Market
26:!8 - Vertical Street Ventures
29:08 - Fund Model vs Single Asset Syndication
31:21 - VSV Impact
33:30 - Educational Resources
34:57 - Bucket List
35:53 - Connect
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennygou/
https://verticalstreetventures.com/team/jenny-gou/
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: Connect with our host, Randy Smith, for more educational content or to discuss investment opportunities in the real estate syndication space at www.impactequity.net, https://www.linkedin.com/in/randallsmith or on Instagram at @randysmithinvestor
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Jul 26, 2023 • 55min
Exploring Infinite Banking - A Skeptic's Conversation with Brent Kesler
GUEST BIO:
Brent Kesler was a Chiropractor and Chiropractic coach for over 14 years. After implementing The Money Multiplier (TMM) Method, Brent paid off $984,711 in 3rd party debt in 39 months. In fact, Brent became so passionate about how powerful this concept was, he began sharing it with others. It was when his previous mentor told him that he had successfully referred over forty-one new clients into the system, that Brent took his advice and started the journey to becoming a teacher of the TMM Method. Brent’s main goal in making this move was simply to help more people understand how to manage and grow their wealth. For the last 10 plus years, Brent has been lecturing to thousands of people around the country on the dynamics of the TMM Method and helping individuals break the bonds of financial slavery they don’t even realize they are in. He teaches how to take back control of your financial life. Brent has a passionate belief that whether you make $10/hour or $10,000/hour you should know TMM Method and have this powerful information to keep control of your own money.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
03:04 - Brent’s Background
10:00 - What is Infinite Banking
11:59 - Nelson Nash Books
13:04 - Mapping Out The Millionaire Mystery Free EBook
15:13 - Paying Off Debt With Infinite Banking
23:00 - Overfunding Explained
40:38 - Guaranteed Column and the In Force Illustration
43:07 - Cash Value and Death Benefits
47:17 - Final Thoughts
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:www.themoneymultiplier.com
https://www.facebook.com/themoneymultiplier
https://www.instagram.com/the.money.multiplier/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/brent-kesler-324abb19/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaDvMSpm4xUumW-MWxNfA9g
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: Derek is a real estate investor with over 30 years in the hospitality industry. He and his wife own both long term and short term rentals and offer management and consulting services to other short term rental property owners.
Please reach out to connect with Derek at https://www.linkedin.com/in/derekfelch or email him at derek.felch@gmail.com.
MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:
Book - Becoming your own banker
https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Your-Banker-Nelson-Nash-ebook/dp/B0080K8EL4
Book - Mapping out the millionaire mystery
https://www.amazon.com/Mapping-Out-Millionaire-Mystery-Secrets/dp/1734425407
Brents website - https://themoneymultiplier.com/
Book - Rich Dad Poor Dad
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=rich+dad+poor+dad&i=stripbooks&sprefix=rich+dad%2Cstripbooks%2C124&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_8
Book - Second Chance
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=second+chance+robert+kiyosaki&i=stripbooks&sprefix=second+chance+k%2Cstripbooks%2C122&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_15
Book - Money master the Game
https://www.amazon.com/MONEY-Master-Game-Tony-Robbins-audiobook/dp/B00OPAJZGG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LWB5UHB97GWV&keywords=money+master+the+game&qid=1690066707&s=books&sprefix=money+master+the+gam%2Cstripbooks%2C106&sr=1-1
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Jul 24, 2023 • 39min
Sam Primm - Normal Guy From the Midwest to Millions in Real Estate
GUEST BIO:
I was born and raised in St. Louis, MO. to a father who was an engineer and a mom who was a teacher. I followed the path you’re told to do and ended up working a corporate job in the area and making a decent enough living. But there were a couple problems…
I was working at a stressful 50 hour a week job, working for someone I didn’t like and most of all, wishing I had more time and freedom for me and my family. They deserved better. My wife deserved me to be around more and I wanted more time to be around my daughters as they grew up.
Eventually, I got into Real Estate and after trying and failing and trying and failing again, I got some wins and started to learn what worked with consistency. This led me to owning $45 million in assets, having 150+ single family rentals, flipping over 1,000 properties and running my own property management company. And it’s all been done in under 9 years and without using my own money. But the best part is that it’s given the time and freedom I’ve always wanted for me and my family.
I founded FasterFreedom to teach people just like me to quit their job and become successful real estate investors and achieve that same freedom and financial independence. I pride myself in practicing what I preach, meaning all of my lessons and tips are constantly updated and based on the real investing that I do right now- so you only learn what works and not through theory or outdated practices!
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
02:27 - Sam’s Background
03:18 - Every REI Tool
04:12 - Why Real Estate
06:00 - Getting Started Without Your Own Money
07:35 - Mindset
09:29 - Partnerships
11:01 - Going From First To Second Property
11:47 - Getting Started and Setting Goals
13:15 - Using Debt
17:45 - Abundance Mindset
19:56 - Definition of Success
22:09 - Overcoming Challenges, Failure Is A Stepping Stone
27:22 - How To Fast Track Success
29:17 - Steps To Taking Action
32:07 - Buyers Club
33:39 - Sam Recommends
37:03 - Connect With Sam
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:links: ig samfasterfreedom
webpage: https://www.fasterfreedom.com/
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: https://www.readyforrealestatechecklist.com/start
MENTIONED IN THE SHOW:
Eat that frog (Brian Tracy) https://amzn.to/3XGY3Ly
Traction (Gino Wickman) https://amzn.to/3rkx77T
https://www.samchat.io/
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Jul 20, 2023 • 35min
Mark Updegraff - Scientist Turned Active Operator about to hit 100 Doors
Mark C. Updegraff moved to Rochester, NY in 1997 to pursue his Bachelor's of Science from Rochester Institute of Technology (RIT) in Imaging and Photographic Technology. As an undergraduate student, he participated in co-operative work academic quarters for NASA, Pictometry, and as an independent 4x5 film photographer.
In 2003, after working for Kodak, Mark took a position in RIT's Center for Imaging Science and began his Master's studies in Color Science. Mark took a position with ITT Corporation in 2009 where he worked on video quality metrics, end-to-end spectral imaging systems, and electro-optical systems for high altitude aircraft.
In 2010, Mark decided to focus his efforts fully on his real estate redevelopment and private equity companies; Wedge Redux LLC, Ward Redux LLC, and Raze Capital LLC. These companies rehabilitate neglected properties into fully refurbished, market rate, rental properties in the greater Rochester area.
Mark now oversees Updegraff companies in the development, management and brokerage of residential, commercial, and mixed-use real property. His vision for Upstate NY, real estate, and technology are evident through his plans and generated results. Mark is a city of Rochester advocate, employer, entrepreneur, and business owner.
He is passionate about striving to provide safe, clean, affordable, sustainable, adaptable, space for the community at large while garnering the best and brightest minds in an effort to stimulate the economy through creativity, innovation, and workforce development.
Currently, Mark spends time raising capital for syndications in the industrial, multifamily, self-storage and built-to-rent asset classes while overseeing the operations of the Updegraff Companies. His leadership style attracts other leaders eager to deploy new technologies, hone their skills, and take massive action. Under his guidance, associates are able to independently flourish into peak producers in their own strengths.
When assembled together as a team, a colossal amount of creativity is unleashed and goals and expectations are significantly exceeded.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
01:54 - Background
06:48 - leftfieldinvestors.com
08:52 - Path of Progress
13:13 - Multifamily Deal Structures
15:23 - Property Management
20:54 - Active Vs Passive
24:54 - Vetting
28:17 - Turn Key Solutions
30:36 - Connect With Mark
32:01 - Mark Recommends
32:48 - Bucket List
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:
https://www.instagram.com/mrmarkupdegraff/
linkedin.com/in/updegraff
UpdegraffGroup.com
RazeCapital.com
MrMarkUpdegraff
Text: 585-314-9790
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST:
Connect with our host, Randy Smith, for more educational content or to discuss investment opportunities in the real estate syndication space at www.impactequity.net, https://www.linkedin.com/in/randallsmith or on Instagram at @randysmithinvestor
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Jul 19, 2023 • 57min
Lucas Mitchell - An Integrator Is The Key To Unlock Success For Your Business
As a multi-location business operator for over a decade, Lucas earned his stripes as the co-founder and operating partner of a 25-location business with over 500 employees in multiple states. His experience in franchising gave him direct insight into how large companies utilize systems. By pulling the best practices from those systems, Lucas is able to scale them to suit businesses of any size.
Over the years, he has developed people systems, technology systems, and operating procedures to make businesses function more profitably and ultimately free up time for growing the business. After carving out time for himself, Lucas created Nourish & Sow to do that for other entrepreneurs.
HIGHLIGHTS IN THE SHOW:
00:00 - Intro
02:46 - Background
05:46 - nourishandsow.com/crushingit
07:05 - What Is Success
08:38 - Finding Balance
13:36 - How To Build And Run Effective Teams
15:52 - Hiring Strategies
24:02 - Investing In Yourself
24:59 - Teamwork
26:22 - Belief In Yourself
27:53 - Hiring Vs Promoting
31:!2 - Contractors
32:52 - Supporting Growth
35:40 - Nourish & Sow
39:38 - Available Resources
41:30 - Resilient Mindset
47:23 - Book And Tech Recommendations
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:Social Media:
https://www.instagram.com/nourishandsow
https://www.linkedin.com/company/nourish-and-sow-llc/
Website
https://nourishandsow.com/
Free Resources for this Audience
https://nourishandsow.com/crushingit
https://nourishandsow.com/playbook
CONNECT WITH OUR HOST: Doug is a Husband of one, Father of six, Real Estate Investor, who is passionate about growth and living life to the fullest! His main goal is to create the life of his dreams and live it on his own terms. He intends on helping as many people as possible to realize this worthy goal for themselves as well. Reach out to him anytime to connect for any reason and you never know he may just have the answer you are looking for! His passions range from his Family to being a Christian to Studying and Implementing Success Principles, Technology, Skateboarding, Music, and Martial Arts to name just a few.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/douglas-clark-a13a68191/
https://www.facebook.com/doug.clark.3785373
https://www.instagram.com/thedouglasbrianclark/
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