Sex Love Psychedelics

Board certified naturopathic endocrinologist, trained clinical sexologist and author of the new book “Is This Normal?” Dr. Jolene Brighten joins me to breakdown all the complex questions that come with sex, hormones and PMS. You’ll hear Dr. Jolene addresses some of what our culture has adopted as normal + the underlying hormone imbalances that may be causing it. We even get into the issue of vaginal dryness, what causes it + how we can support our bodies' natural production again. In this episode, you’ll hear: Laughter’s role in activating the vagus nerve The connection between the nervous system, sexual desire + hormone health Generational trauma's influence on our cortisol levels and PMS symptoms “Normal” symptoms of PMS + symptoms that would suggest there’s an imbalance Signs that our hormones are “not normal” Cycle tracking and optimizing your menstrual period The lifestyle factors to promote optimal hormone health - Eat, Play, Sex The impact of endocrine disruptors on our hormones A look inside of Jolene’s book, “Is This Normal” How sex changes for women throughout their cycle How do you know if we have an autoimmune disease? How does autoimmune disease relate to sexual desire? Can orgasms strengthen our immune system? Vaginal dryness and the science of lubrication THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Dr. Jolene Brighten NMD, is a hormone expert, nutrition scientist, and thought leader in women’s medicine. She is board certified in naturopathic endocrinology and trained in clinical sexology. Dr. Brighten is the author of Is This Normal, a non-judgemental guide to creating hormone balance, eliminating unwanted symptoms, and building the sexual desire you crave. A fierce patient advocate and completely dedicated to uncovering the root cause of hormonal imbalances, Dr. Brighten empowers women worldwide to take control of their health and their hormones through her website and social medical channels. Dr. Brighten is an international speaker, clinical educator, and medical advisor within the tech community. https://drbrighten.com/ Book Bonuses Gifts: https://drbrighten.com/is-this-normal/ Dr. Brighten’s website: www.drbrighten.com Dr. Brighten’s social handles on Instagram, Tiktok, and Youtube are @drjolenebrighten WANT MORE? Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Couples Retreat: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather

Professional dominatrix Colette Pervette joins me to look at BDSM as a microcosm of the macro culture + our lives, and how you can find transformation with the intentional embracing of power roles, toys, tools, scenes--whether that’s with a partner or with a professional dom. I’ve brought many experts on to talk about BDSM, but this episode is hands down my favorite. Probably because Colette has such a brilliant + academically inclined mind, as well as, someone who is deeply devoted to spirituality + alchemy. In this episode, you’ll hear: Colette’s journey of accessing her power through softness + quietness Self-conscious submissives and sub-conscious dominants Ways to integrate powerplay beyond the confines of the bedroom How you can start becoming the top or dominant in your life Weaving spirituality, symbolism + alchemy in a BDSM practice How a professional dominatrix designings scenes for clients Can BDSM re-traumatize wounds? Can BDSM heal deep wounds? Dispelling the misconceptions of submissives being "weak" or "powerless" Steps for couples to explore BDSM and play When do you hire a pro-domme to facilitate the scene? Qualities to look for or be cautious of when vetting a professional dom or dominatrix Challenges that come from being a public-facing figure teaching taboo topics Recommended books for learning more about powerplay and transcendence Learn from Dr. Cat and Colette in their upcoming couples retreat, Love + Leather She even answers some questions from our audience: How has your play evolved over the years? Have your desires changed? I feel I have a part of me that is dom, but I lack confidence. How do I explore more? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Colette is an educatrix. She is a professional dominatrix, where she has been practicing the art of intimacy and power exchange for over 18 years. She holds a PhD in Education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on misconceptions and conceptual change. Through her teaching and writing, Colette dispels misconceptions about kink, sexwork, and alternative sexuality. She leads an online course, MistressClass, where she teaches aspiring Dommes a he(art)tistic approach to Female Domination. WANT MORE? Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Couples Retreat: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather BOOKS MENTIONED: Radical Ecstasy Existential Kink The Loving Dominant The Topping Book, The Bottoming Book Playing Well With Others The Dominance Playbook

 Sex isn’t as straightforward as we might put pressure on ourselves to believe. Great sex takes time in demystifying + reconstructing concepts, narratives, + skills. Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate based coach. He’s the Founder of The Body Vox and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. Court works with individuals from all genders with somatics, teaching them to come back to the relationship with the body to understand the internal cues that make or break our experience. Like Damn, this conversation hit some nuances that might be what's affecting your sex life and you didn’t even know it. In this episode, you’ll hear: How to incorporate playfulness into your erotic states Approaching sex for many different reasons... “What do you want to feel in this experience?” Attuning yourself to the body’s knowing - Discerning fear vs excitement Implied consent and direct consent, the discrepancy between mind and body Erotic endurance + multiple-hour erotic experiences Redefining orgasm, peak arousal, and ejaculation Edging, peaking, and pleasure potentials Does sex have to require a lot of energy? Redefining sex Unconscious power dynamics in sex Erotic games to play in the bedroom Court’s journey of consciously exploring his shadow Vulnerable experiences from Dr. Cat’s personal love life--lucky you Questions from our audience: My partner had an episiotomy… At times we struggle to feel each other during sex, advice? Healthiest condoms for women who experience UTIs? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA. He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Body Vox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship/s seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives.  When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years.  Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well-known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women,  Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe. Website: www.thebodyvox.com Sacred Mens Retreat: https://thebodyvox.com/sacred%3A-5-day-retreat WANT MORE? Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Sex + Psychedelics survey link https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q9FDNM2 Guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide

Rev Briana Lynn is a spiritual mentor and facilitator on the intersection of the silly, sacred and sexy. She is here to wade through the plant medicine waters to help us understand the relationship of eroticism to plant medicine. The two of us unpack the unfortunate abuse of power + sex that can occur in the psychedelic and shamanic plant medicine world and how you can move forward more informed and safe. In this episode, you’ll hear: The erotic nature of plant medicine - flora, fauna, and fungi Erotic signatures or textures across the different plant medicines How to turn yourself on for your enjoyment How psychedelics can help dissolve the cultural myths around sexuality- Religion, and repression How plant medicines nurture the quality of our sex lives - “Orgasm as God” Can psychedelics be helpful in the healing of sexual trauma? Practices that amplify our connection to the erotic in the space of psychedelics or ceremonial plant medicines - Breath, Sound, Movement, Touch Components for safe psychedelic use: Trauma-informed therapy, Community, Movement, Nourishment The history feminine expression of sexuality + spirituality Shadow side of sexuality + the misuse of sexuality in medicine spaces Best practices for facilitators + practitioners to hold proper space Questions to consider when vetting your facilitator LINKS FROM THE SHOW Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Sex + Psychedelics survey link https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q9FDNM2 Guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide Chacruna’s Ayahuasca Community Guide for the Awareness of Sexual Abuse: https://chacruna.net/community/ayahuasca-community-guide-for-the-awareness-of-sexual-abuse/ THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Rev. Briana Lynn’s sacred studies began in 2003 when she began to travel Latin America by herself & completed her bachelor’s degree in Socio-Economics in Latin America, with a minor emphasis in the Spanish Language as Art. She later earned her NLP Masters Practitioner at NLP Marin (nlpmarin.com) & began her first holistic coaching venture, focusing on trauma-informed practices in 2010. She deeply integrates this work with her Masters (MA) in Peace Education from The United Nations University for Peace. Rev. Briana Lynn founded The Earth Temple in 2018 with the desire to have an equality-centered council for those deeply devoted to The Mystery, & committed to staying out of the hype of dogma, authoritarianism, religiosity, domination, rapture doctrine & the intrinsic waves of manipulation in social media. She & the other Earth Temple Council Members practice in community, holding each other close & in integrity in these wild & beautiful times.

Do you identify as a slut? Or do you feel repulsed or turned off by the word?  If you're ready to  embody the sacred slut and harness your sexuality as a form of healing, I’ve got an edgy + intelligent conversation for you. Gabriela Herstik is the author of Sacred Sex, Inner Witch, Bewitching the Elements, and Embody Your Magick, as well as the essay series "Diary of A Sacred Slut."  In this episode you’ll hear: Gabriela’s journey of embracing the world of Sex Magick, BDSM + Kink Merging the sacred and the profane Using BDSM in ritual space -- Solo practices + Exploration Spiritual practices of the occult + Witchcraft What role do archetypes play in sex? Or healing? Why studying images of mythical characters or goddesses can be helpful for us The history of the Witches + the Sluts Somatic psychology, EMDR + “Resourcing” “Slut” - A controversy in our society + the arguments behind it Gabriela’s process of stepping into her sacred slut era “Perverting” + “kinking” different areas of our life What is shadow work + how can one begin that daily process? Sex + kink as an outlet for the healing journey Rape culture + advice for those wanting to express their sexual autonomy THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Gabriela Herstik is the author of Sacred Sex, Inner Witch, Bewitching the Elements, and Embody Your Magick, as well as the essay series "Diary of A Sacred Slut". She is the Priestess of Kink Coven, a monthly full moon ritual play party for the protection and prosperity of sex workers. Gabriela is an angelic succubus and resides in the city of Angels. https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/2172952/gabriela-herstik https://twitter.com/gabyherstik https://www.instagram.com/gabyherstik/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Vetting your psychedelic guide: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide Sex + Psychedelic Survey https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q9FDNM2

International sex expert and sex educator and author of the new book Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth Play joins me to give us some techniques for face sitting, oral sex, flow states, and navigating the grey zone in consent. …This whole episode is full of skills to start incorporating in your sex play NOW. There’s so much we can discover about our bodies + about sex. When we approach it not from an achievement standpoint, but from a playful exploration… “let’s see what we can learn”, it can keep sex novel, fun, + something to look forward to. In this episode, you’ll hear: Sex hacking + how to become beyond satisfied in bed What is a “play lab”? How can “embracing the awkward” improve your sex life? How important are techniques in satisfying sex? And what are some favorites? Kenneth’s components that make up the art of great sex - Feeling, Calibration, Erotic Flow State, Self-Expression Techniques for female ejaculation + squirting How feeling your emotions supports your sexual pleasure Where the vagus nerve sits in the male body vs the female body Sex hacks for stimulating the prostate + back to back orgasms Discovering the “pleasure wiring” for yourself + your partner The psychedelic experience of rhythm + orgasm The vulnerability of receiving + learning how to be in a receptive role Simplifying instruction in arousal - Location, Pressure, Speed Face sitting and either taking or receiving Suggestions for those who have an emotional response in sex Negotiation + finding an agreement where both people get what they need Grey zone as it relates to consent -- ambiguous unclear, hard to read, not always a fuck yes + MORE! THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Kenneth Play is an international sex expert and sex educator. Named the world’s greatest sex hacker by GQ, he has been featured by more than one hundred media outlets, including The New York Times, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, and Nightline. Kenneth has been a guest lecturer on female sexual pleasure at New York University and San Jose State University. His work has helped millions of men gain lasting confidence and competence. AskMen described Kenneth’s most recent course as having “at least one nugget of sexual learning you’ve almost certainly never encountered before, if not several. Check out Kenneth’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Satisfied-Mind-Blowing-Connection-Confidence/dp/1544516347 WANT MORE? If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape-- My 6 week Erotically Undone course is for you. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. Take this course at your own pace.  https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone

The author of the erotic poetry book Tales of Lara + host of the podcast ‘Pussy Church” joins me to share her intimate process in writing erotica, where she’s gotten her inspiration, how she sees her work as a fight against the patriarchal social expectations around sex + dating, as well as, how this practice of erotic writing changed her love life. If you want to not only be turned on, but given drip worthy reference points of an empowered erotic life, this episode is for you, your best friend + your neighbor... IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL HEAR: How art, music, poetry + erotica can validate our complex human experience The common segmentation between the “professional woman” + the “erotic woman” How erotic artists can protect themselves from unsolicited DMs and d*ck pics Lara’s  journey of being an anonymous artist + how that has impacted her love life The cultural “rules” around dating + leaning into your inner erotic Lara’s inspiration behind beginning to write her erotic stories The patriarchal social expectations around sex + dating Lara’s BEST advice for others who are writing erotica Favorite erotica authors + erotic artists that have inspired Lara + Cat Censorship on Instagram + “the rite of initiation” Lara also answers questions asked by our Instagram audience: Favorite/sexiest city to write about, to write in, to put down the pen and just fuck in? What’s your favorite movie sex scene? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Lara is the creator of the online platform 'Tales Of Lara.' She is an erotica writer and host of the podcast 'Pussy Church,' where she interviews guests from sex therapist, erotic artists all the way to professional dominatrixes. Her debut book of erotic poetry and photography was published in 2021 and is available on www.talesoflara.com Links to social: IG: @talesoflara  ; Book: 'Tales Of Lara' - a collection of erotic poetry and photography, available at www.talesoflara.com ;  'Pussy Church' podcast, available on Spotify and Apple Podcast WANT MORE? If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape-- My 6 week Erotically Undone course is for you. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. Take this course at your own pace.  https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone

Certified Professional Sex Coach and Sexologist, and host of men, sex, pleasure podcast, Cam Fraser joins me to talk all things sex, masculinity + pleasure. Cam + I highlight the cultural assumptions that form our internal models of how masculinity + pleasure ”should” be… We also speak on how authentic masculinity can also include a touch of sensuality, play + pleasure.  It’s so good. I am buzzing for you to hear it. In this episode, you’ll hear: The cultural narrative + normativity we place on gender + sex in our society Sex toys and demonizing solo play, stigma and taboo around men + sex toys The vulnerabilities + benefits of playfulness within a task-oriented world The challenges that are presented from the Masculine/ Feminine polarity coaching communities The ramifications of powerful leaders narrowing the definition of what masculinity means The gendered expectations within relationships Sensually expressed men... Will women be attracted to them? Advice on how to explore a multilayered masculinity that is authentic for you. Men’s shame around sex or their bodies, penises, + pleasure Heteroflexibility -- men exploring with other men if interested? And more! THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach and Certified Sexologist. His work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame. www.instagram.com/thecamfraser www.tiktok.com/@thecamfraser2.0 www.twitter.com/thecamfraser www.youtube.com/channel/UCKn_mdnURk5OeFf9vUAtClQ WANT MORE? If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape-- My 6 week Erotically Undone course is for you. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. Take this course at your own pace.  https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone

Clinical psychiatric pharmacist Dr Ben Malcom with Spirit Pharmacist, joins me to share which medications don’t mix with which psychedelics, the process of combining the worlds of psychopharmacology + psychedelics AND his consultation practice that advocates for safe psychedelics exploration. In this episode, you’ll hear: The cultural narrative about depression, SSRIs + the combination of psychotropic meds and psychedelics. How the DSM5 diagnoses depression How psychedelics can help treat depression or other mental health challenges + diagnosis The pressures in our culture about not being on psychotropic medications or antidepressants + the challenging withdrawals from anti-depressants + other psychotropics Tapering off of psychotropic medications Indications that it is not a good time for someone to start tapering from SSRIs The neurochemical benefits to psychedelics Reducing toxicity or mitigation strategies for harm reduction The development of the field of psychology + the tool of psychedelic assisted therapy How ketamine, MDMA, psilocybin, LSD, ayahuasca interact with psychotropic medications The affects on long term antidepressant on our society THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Dr. Ben Malcolm earned his bachelor’s degree (BS) in pharmacology at the University of California at Santa Barbara, prior to his Masters in Public Health (MPH) and Doctorate of Pharmacy (PharmD) at Touro University California. He then completed post-graduate residencies in Acute Care at Scripps Mercy Hospital and Psychiatric Pharmacy at the University of California at San Diego Health. After residency he passed his exam to become Board Certified in Psychiatric Pharmacy (BCPP). He began his career as an Assistant Clinical Professor at Western University of Health Sciences (WUHS), College of Pharmacy. Dr. Malcolm envisions a society in which access to psychedelic drugs in a variety of safe and supported settings is available for purposes of psychospiritual well-being, personal development, ceremonial sacraments, and treatment of mental illness. His vision guides his scholarship, education, and service-related professional activity. Dr. Malcolm's interests focus on the intersection between psychiatric medications and psychedelic therapies. He has given several Continuing Education presentations to pharmacists and other healthcare professionals as well as published over a dozen articles in peer-reviewed literature relating to psychedelics or psychiatric medications. Today he provides psychopharmacology consulting, education on psychedelics, and a resource and support membership relating to the use psychedelic and psychotropic medications via his site https://www.spiritpharmacist.com Free Resources Antidepressant and Psychedelic Drug Interaction and Tapering Guide https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/ADpsychedelicGuide  Bridging the Gap: Navigating Psychedelics and Psychotropics https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/navigatingpsychotropicpsychedelicinterfacereg   5-MeO-DMT Pharmacology and Drug Interaction Guide https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/opt-in-FiveGuide   Breakthrough Psychedelics at a Glance: MDMA, Psilocybin, Ketamine  https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/pl/2147604511 Want more? If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape-- My 6 week Erotically Undone course is for you. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. Take this course at your own pace.  https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone

You may have heard about the frog serum kambo as a trending deep cleanse, and honestly it’s so much more than that. I had the honor to interview the founders of Kambo International and my two master teachers, Ginny Rutherford + Steve Dumain. The two of them provide a no-bullshit approach to the benefits, experience and the facilitation of this medicine. In this episode, you’ll hear: What Kambo is + where it comes from What an experience of sitting for a ceremony with Kambo looks like Dispelling the typical myths of Kambo If harvesting of the secretion harms the frog or not. Spiritual tourism and if these South American frogs will become endangered species How to find a qualified Kambo facilitator near you And more! THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Ginny Rutherford is a master practitioner and principle teacher at Kambo International. She is a practitioner of  Ren Xue International.  She is also an advanced certified transformational life coach and an advanced student of Gnosis Tarot. She found herself in the jungle joining indigenous shamans in ceremonies using ayahuasca, a healing plant of the Amazon. Her research into ayahuasca led her discovery of kambo, and after experiencing it she felt powerfully called to this amazing secretion from the Giant Monkey Tree Frog of the Amazonian jungle. Ginny completed the International Association of Kambo Practitioners (IAKP) training in early 2015.  By 2016, Ginny was assisting in trainings, and in 2017 became one of the principle teachers for the IAKP. In 2020, Ginny left the IAKP in order to create a deeper level of teaching for her students through the organization Kambo International. Its mission is to train great kambo practitioners and also to give them tools to help them uplift their own life and then help others do the same. Steve Dumain is the co founder of Kambo International. Steve would like to make Kambo something that is comfortable to approach for everyone. The jungle can be a special place to receive traditional medicines, but you will see that there is a special place for Kambo to be given as a treatment everywhere and for (almost) everybody. We all deserve deep healing. When we first heal & love ourselves, we can then heal and love each other & the entire planet on a true and profound level. Want more? My erotically undone 6 week course is opening up for you to start expanding on your skills + embodiment as your best lover. Its my favorite course I’ve created to date + it will be now available for you to take it at your own pace. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. We don’t rush our orgasms + neither should we our pleasure + sex. If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape--then Erotically Undone  is for you. https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone