
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. Tune in for dating mishaps, heartbreak confessions, and the real talk you never knew you needed. New episodes every Friday!
Latest episodes

Dec 1, 2023 • 56min
Cancelled (w/ Kathy Griffin)
Comedy icon Kathy Griffin sits down with Nicole to tackle the burning question: Is she still cancelled? She discusses her relationship with her tour manager, who supported her through a tumultuous five-year period marked by FBI investigations and a struggle with pill addiction. Kathy shares stories of her past relationships, including dating Quentin Tarantino, lying about her age to date Joey from NSYNC, and sleeping around with her students at the Groundlings. Plus, get the scoop on what it was like living next door to celebrities Kim and Kanye. Is Kanye as weird to talk to in person? The answer will not shock you. Get tickets to Kathy's upcoming tour at kathygriffin.com/tour. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 24, 2023 • 1h 8min
The Celibacy Choice (w/ Kel Mitchell)
Comedian Kel Mitchell (Kenan & Kel, Good Burger) joins Nicole to explore his evolution from teen heartthrob to youth pastor. They delve into the merits of building romance on the foundation of friendship, the transformative impact of three years of celibacy on his relationship, and the art of mastering conflict resolution in partnerships. Kel recounts an unforgettable wingman adventure, plus, Nicole dishes on a juicy juicy couple's argument she overheard. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 17, 2023 • 1h 3min
How to Spot a Hobosexual (w/ Alesha Reneé)
Actress & TV personality Alesha Reneé (Grand Crew, Girl Code) joins Nicole to delve into the world of 'hobosexuals,' revealing her experience dating one and offering tips on how to spot if you are too. She opens up about a past partner's breach of trust, when she found out he had been secretly reading her diary. They review the "worst" places to go on a first date, and Alesha shares the bizarre story of how she got robbed by a clown. Plus, Nicole opens up about her first attempt at cooking for a man, and let's just say, it didn't quite go as planned. Check out Alesha's new series, Unleash for Love, available on Audible! Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 10, 2023 • 1h 2min
Reading Nicole's Fortune (w/ Witch Sutton Crawford)
Ever wonder what it's like to have your tarot cards read? Witch and intuitionist Sutton Crawford gives Nicole an on-air reading regarding her love life. Sutton shares her journey to recognizing her own intuitive gifts, and chats about the mystical effects of eclipses and the cosmic influences you might be feeling. Plus, she shares a chilling ghost story and teaches how to set firm boundaries with the spirit world to keep those unwanted ghostly visitors at bay. Meanwhile, Nicole opens up about establishing new boundaries on dating apps. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 3, 2023 • 60min
Saying I Love You (w/ Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins)
Actress Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins (Dear White People, Grand Crew) joins Nicole to chat about her perfect engagement story, getting over the nerves to say "I love you", and learning how to enjoy the beauty of being single. Meanwhile, Nicole is living her "horny for love" era. While some of her manifestations are starting to come true.... the question remains: can she manifest the partner of her dreams? Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 27, 2023 • 1h 3min
Kink Gone Wrong (w/ Jonathan Van Ness)
Hairstylist and icon Jonathan Van Ness shares an unforgettable and horrifying story about his first foray into the kink of watersports. He also talks about his wedding over Zoom and offers savvy tips to Nicole on how to up her dating game on Instagram. They discuss the challenges of relationships, frustrations with dating apps, rediscovering love for gymnastics, and navigating relationship advice. They also explore the idea of a sexually open relationship and various sexual activities.

Oct 20, 2023 • 58min
Relationship Manipulation Tactics (w/ E.R. Fightmaster)
Comedian E.R. Fightmaster (Shrill, Grey's Anatomy) joins Nicole to discuss the benefits of keeping romantic partnerships out of the public eye, how dating reality TV shows are normalizing abuse in relationships, and the common manipulation tactics to watch out for in your love life. Plus, they share horniest they've ever been in their life, and what it's like to write horny music.Check out E.R.'s new EP, VIOLENCE, out today. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 13, 2023 • 57min
Hurt People Hurt People (w/ Kenny DeForest)
Comedian Kenny DeForest joins Nicole to explore how an amicable split after 8.5 years can transform someone from a 'fuckboy' to a 'boyfriend without a girlfriend'. He shares how being an only child can lead to challenges entering the dating pool, the extremely addictive nature of dating apps, and tackles the ethical dilemma many comedians face: should you give your ex a heads-up if they're the subject of your latest stand-up routine?Check out Kenny's new special, Don't You Know Who I Am?, now streaming on YouTube. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 6, 2023 • 57min
Advice From an Intimacy Expert (w/ Shan Boodram)
Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram (Sexology, Lovers & Friends) joins Nicole to teach her how to radiate better vibes on dates, master the art of life goal prioritization, and explore the intriguing concept of marriage pacts. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be the intimacy coordinator on 'Too Hot to Handle'? Shan spills all the beans on that and more. Plus she gets personal, revealing how she turned a fuckbuddy into a spouse, and shares the guidelines governing her non-monogamous relationship.Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 29, 2023 • 46min
Breaking Up (w/ Eric Andre)
Is it worse to break up with someone, or get broken up with? Comedian Eric Andre (Bombing with Eric Andre) joins Nicole to delve into the heartache of breakups, including the time Eric was dumped via note. He also shares the nerve-wracking story about losing his virginity, talks first crush, first boner, and hard drugs. Plus, they answer your submitted questions, from awkward run-ins with exes to how to get your partner in therapy.Have a question of your own? Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.