

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer
Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!
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Apr 6, 2021 • 50min
Deputy Gangs in the LA County Sheriff's Department (w/ Cerise Castle)
In this bonus episode, Nicole talks to reporter Cerise Castle about her multi-part series, A TRADITION OF VIOLENCE, uncovering the history of deputy gangs in the LA County Sheriff's Department.
Please note that this episode contains descriptions of police brutality and sexual assault that some people may find disturbing.
Read Cerise's ongoing investigation here: knc.la/tradition
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Apr 2, 2021 • 1h 1min
Arranged Marriages (w/ Hari Kondabolu)
Stand-up comedian Hari Kondabolu (The Problem with Apu, host of Politically Re-Active) joins Nicole to break down some common misconceptions about arranged marriages, shares how he met his wife on Facebook, and discusses the importance of having personal space in any relationship. Nicole reflects on an odd conversation she had on a date about dingleberries, plus shares dating advice she received from John Cena while on the set of Wipeout.
Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
Twitter: @nicolebyer
Instagram: @nicolebyer
Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964
Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 26, 2021 • 59min
Acid Tripping (w/ Bowen Yang)
Actor and comedian Bowen Yang (SNL) is just as fiercely single as Nicole. They talk about the struggles of singledom, the crazy current news cycles, their acid tripping experiences, and Bowen shares dating advice he received from Adam Sandler.
Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
Twitter: @nicolebyer
Instagram: @nicolebyer
Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964
Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 19, 2021 • 1h 5min
Polyamorous and Experimenting (w/ Ashley Ray)
Comedian and pop culture expert Ashley Ray (host of TV I Say podcast) used Tinder to run an experiment where she dated every zodiac sign for a month at a time. She explains her findings, her polyamorous dating life, and what it was like to have 8 boyfriends at once.
Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
Twitter: @nicolebyer
Instagram: @nicolebyer
Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964
Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 12, 2021 • 1h 2min
How to Manifest your Dream Man (w/ Alaska Thunderfuck)
Drag queen Alaska Thunderfuck (RuPaul's Drag Race S5, winner of Drag Race All Stars S2) joins Nicole to discuss what it was like to date another drag queen, how to manifest your dream man, their unexpected dating life after Drag Race, and some nightmare customer service stories. Plus, Nicole recounts the time she performed sketch comedy to Dolly Parton.
For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag
Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
Twitter: @nicolebyer
Instagram: @nicolebyer
Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy
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Mar 5, 2021 • 1h 2min
Unravelling From A Breakup (w/ Rhea Butcher)
Comedian Rhea Butcher (Adam Ruins Everything, Good Trouble) chats with Nicole about how they quit smoking after 16 years, being a lifetime vegetarian, and their old stand-up show, Put Your Hands Together.
Rhea then discusses what it was like to unravel from their past relationship, dealing with the public aspect of a breakup, and the story of how they met their new partner.
Stream Rhea's new special, "Pull Yourself up by Your Bootleg" at bstlnk.to/butcher.
Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
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Instagram: @nicolebyer
Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 26, 2021 • 1h 3min
You Need Therapy (w/ Nore Davis)
Comedian Nore Davis talks with Nicole about the movies that have brought them joy, why he's decided to 'date himself', leaving a toxic relationship, and the importance of therapy.
This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
Twitter: @nicolebyer
Instagram: @nicolebyer
Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 19, 2021 • 39min
Love & Music (w/ Randy Jackson)
Musician/producer/host Randy Jackson (American Idol, Name That Tune) shares his skepticism with app dating, the worst date he’s been on, his favorite love songs, and catfishing.
This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
Twitter: @nicolebyer
Instagram: @nicolebyer
Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 12, 2021 • 52min
Stripping & Sex Work (w/ Teddy B. Ruxpin)
Dancer and sex worker Teddy B. Ruxpin chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. They discuss her start into the profession, finding her niche as an "alt girl", dealing with racism in the workplace, and her work for stripper advocacy. Plus, Teddy reveals she dated a comedian who would talk about her work in his stand-up routine.
Tonight - See a LIVE virtual episode of Why Won't You Date Me? with Heidi N Closet! Tickets: onlocationlive.com/nicolebyer
This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
Twitter: @nicolebyer
Instagram: @nicolebyer
Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 5, 2021 • 1h 11min
Ask Him About His Credit Score (w/ Tiffany Haddish)
Actress and comedian Tiffany Haddish (Girls Trip, Night School) first clears the air regarding her Clubhouse bullying allegations. Then, she talks about how dating has changed since Girls Trip, how men try to manage her, the story of a sneaking ex-boyfriend, and of her first orgasm at the movies. Plus, Tiffany offers tips on: approaching men after the pandemy, how to increase your credit score, and why you should ask men about theirs.
February 12th - See a LIVE virtual episode of Why Won't You Date Me? featuring Heidi N Closet! Tickets: onlocationlive.com/nicolebyer
This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.
Follow Nicole Byer:
Twitter: @nicolebyer
Instagram: @nicolebyer
Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.