
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. Tune in for dating mishaps, heartbreak confessions, and the real talk you never knew you needed. New episodes every Friday!
Latest episodes

Nov 29, 2024 • 45min
Cheesy Anniversaries (w/ Alex Moffat)
Comedian Alex Moffat (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss how his relationship is thanks to Velveeta cheese. This episode isn’t sponsored by Velveeta—but we really wish it was. Alex shares how he met his wife at a Velveeta commercial, how the cheese played an essential part in his proposal, and why it’s now a staple of their anniversary. He also discusses his pole dancing skills, bombing at a Nicole Byer comedy show, being an acrodunker for the Chicago Bulls, and shares some of the worst dating advice we've heard on the show.WATCH this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/Nb4jAt6NvfYSee Alex Off-Broadway in The Big Gay Jamboree!This episode is brought to you by -» Uncommon Goods: For thousands of unique gifts & 15% off your first order, visit UncommonGoods.com/dateme.» BetterHelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self.» Essie: Shop essie nail polish at Target.Follow:Our New TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastInstagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 22, 2024 • 1h 8min
NickKroll Byer (w/ Nick Kroll)
Comedian Nick Kroll (Big Mouth, Oh, Hello) joins Nicole for an episode of just... absolute chaos. They discuss how Nick asked his girlfriend to go steady, why playing a woman was his most challenging acting role, and using John Mulaney's hypnotist to quit smoking. Plus, Nicole shares the story of the time she hooked up with an audience member.WATCH this episode on YouTube at youtu.be/PawfFj2-e7w.See Red One, in theatres today!Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it in a future episode.Sponsors:Uncommon Goods: To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/dateme.Betterhelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self.Follow Nicole Byer: Website: nicolebyerwastaken.comInstagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 15, 2024 • 55min
Validate Bisexuality (w/ Sherry Cola)
Comedian Sherry Cola (Joy Ride, Turning Red) shares her journey of coming out as bisexual, how she met her girlfriend, navigating dating in the queer community, and monetizing a breastmilk kink.WATCH this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/RH4fK4ksCNsWrite to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it in a future episode.Sponsors:Uncommon Goods: To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/dateme.Betterhelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self.Follow Nicole Byer: Website: nicolebyerwastaken.comInstagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 8, 2024 • 59min
We Met Playing Call of Duty (w/ Sarah Silverman)
Comedian Sarah Silverman sits down with Nicole to discuss meeting her boyfriend over Call of Duty, the challenges of dating as a female comic, and how many health studies are skewed against women. Plus, Nicole shares her experience getting hit on at Comic-Con.See Sarah Silverman live on her POST MORTEM tour at sarahsilverman.com.WATCH this episode on YouTube at: youtu.be/eOdSuFrUl4sWrite to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it in a future episode.Sponsors:Betterhelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self.Follow Nicole Byer: Website: nicolebyerwastaken.comInstagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 1, 2024 • 56min
Men Who Lie About Their Height (w/ Lauren Lapkus)
We're back - and now in video form! Comedian and actress Lauren Lapkus (Newcomers podcast) joins Nicole to discuss why men lie about their heights, motherhood, and her recent trip to Victoria's Secret. Plus, they play a special game of F*ck, Marry, Kill: Newcomers Movies Edition.Watch this episode! Check it out on our new YouTube channel at youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast.Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it on a future episode.Sponsors:Lume: Control Body Odor anywhere with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code DATEME at LumeDeodorant.com. #lumepodBetterhelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self.Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 25, 2024 • 45min
BEST OF: How to Hack Into Your Partner's Phone (w/ Keke Palmer)
In this best of episode, Emmy-award winning actress Keke Palmer (Nope, Lightyear) shares with Nicole how she got her first kiss from MySpace, why she avoids posting relationships on social media, and how she's learning to trust again after her boyfriend slept with her best friend. Plus, is it ever okay to hack into your partner's phone? Keke teaches, in great detail, exactly how to do it. We're starting a YouTube channel! Subscribe at youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast for upcoming full length video podcast episodes. We'll be back next week with a brand new episode! Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.Netflix's The Ultimatum is NOW CASTING long-term couples in committed relationships for an all-new season! Go to theultimatumcasting.com to learn more and apply.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 18, 2024 • 59min
BEST OF: Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)
While we're on hiatus, we're bringing you the best of the podcast – completely ad-free! In this episode, Nicole’s close friend Francesca Amber (host of Law of Attraction Changed my Life) opens up about the challenges of being a single mother to twins, the rising trend of 'co-parenting', and how she uses the Law of Attraction to manifest her dream partner. Meanwhile, Nicole counts down the days until her dick appointment.Originally aired on July 16, 2021.We’re launching a YouTube channel! Subscribe now for upcoming full-length video podcast episodes.We're looking for more dirty message submissions! Submit a dirty message to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.Follow Nicole Byer:X: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 11, 2024 • 1h 26min
BEST OF: Top or Bottom? (w/ Jon Gabrus, Nick Wiger, and Mike Mitchell)
In this iconic episode, Gabrus (High & Mighty), Nick Wiger and Mike Mitchell (Doughboys) join Nicole fresh off a power-hour to discuss how they would want to die, their favorite sex positions, and if they're into ass play. They also answer audience questions about post-sex snacks, favorite porn genres, and their craziest sex stories. Plus, Nicole helps officiate a live marriage proposal.We now have a YouTube! Subscribe here for upcoming full length video podcast episodes.Listen to the High & Mighty Power-Hour they recorded here:https://headgum.com/high-and-mighty/212-chicago-power-hour-w-nick-wiger-mike-mitchell-and-nicole-byerThis was recorded at Thalia Hall for Headgum Live in Chicago.Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdatesTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 4, 2024 • 1h 4min
BEST OF: Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)
While we're on hiatus, we're revisiting one of Nicole's favorite episodes! Comedian and actor Paul Scheer (The League, Black Monday) joins Nicole to chat about how his proposal to June Diane Raphael went terribly wrong, how June's wedding ring was stolen from her finger, and why you should never propose in a hot air balloon. June sits nearby, fact-checking Paul's stories.Originally aired 05/21/2021.California! New York! Come see Nicole live in October. Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken.Watch full video episodes of the podcast on our upcoming YouTube channel! Subscribe to Why Won't You Date Me on YouTube.Follow Nicole Byer:Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sep 27, 2024 • 1h 5min
BEST OF: Same Guy Club (w/ Skyler Hurt)
We’re bringing you the best of Why Won’t You Date Me?—completely ad-free! In this episode, Nicole is joined by Skyler, who she met on Tinder. Things got awkward quickly when they realized they dated the same man. Nicole asks Skyler why she swiped right, why they kept dating despite Nicole's smoking, and whether she would’ve still gone out with her if she didn’t know about her work. And finally, Skyler gives Nicole the cold, hard truth about why they stopped dating. Spoiler alert: things get really awkward.You can check out Skyler's Austin account at @austinunscripted.Originally aired 02/14/2019.Follow Nicole Byer:See Nicole live at Nicolebyerwastaken.com.X: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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