

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer
Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!
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Aug 5, 2022 • 1h 5min
Hired a Matchmaker (w/ Amy Aniobi)
Writer/director Amy Aniobi (Silicon Valley, 2 Dope Queens) joins Nicole to discuss her experience dating with the help of a professional matchmaker, what it was like being raised by parents of an arranged marriage, and making the mistake of posting your significant other on Instagram. Nicole has injured herself singing karaoke. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 29, 2022 • 54min
Dating a Mom (w/ Lil Rel Howery)
Comedian Lil Rel Howery (Get Out, Keepin' It Rel with Young Wayne podcast) chats with Nicole about dating a single mom of 4, getting thrown off a horse on a date, matching with Lizzo on Raya, and shares his tips on how to hit on women at bars. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 22, 2022 • 1h 13min
Main Character Energy (w/ Willow Pill)
Reigning drag queen Willow Pill (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S14) is here! She chats with Nicole about selling mushrooms as a pandemic side hustle, her thoughts on the iconic catchphrase RuPaul gave her on the show, and partying with fans while tripping on Molly. Plus they celebrate her iconic win being the first disabled person to win Drag Race, and Willow discusses the toxicity of hustle culture and the expectations on herself to work as the winning queen. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 15, 2022 • 50min
The Story of a Kissless Virgin (w/ Benton Ray)
Comedian Benton Ray is a kissless virgin. He chats with Nicole about the circumstances of this choice, they learn new terms for different sexual orientations, and what it means to go "basket shopping" for a partner. Plus, Benton matches with straight guys on Tinder? There's a lot to unpack here. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 8, 2022 • 1h 3min
Bringing Down Your Walls (w/ Penn Badgley)
Oh my god, he's here. Penn Badgley (You, Gossip Girl, host of Podcrushed) joins Nicole to discuss why people are infatuated by his serial killing character, why love is not depicted accurately in media, bringing down your walls to connect with people, and the existential insecurities he had when dating. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 1, 2022 • 1h
Caught Cheating... Twice! (w/ Ketra Long)
Comedian Ketra Long joins Nicole to tell the story about how she got caught cheating twice in her relationship. She also shares the time she convinced Ne-Yo to come see her stand-up show, which she proceeded to absolutely bomb. Ketra teaches Nicole how she manages to get flown out of the country for expensive dates, plus talks about her first kiss and first fingering. This is a wild episode, folks. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 24, 2022 • 1h 1min
A Stalking Ex-Boyfriend, a Gang Member, and a Gun (w/ Aaron Jennings)
Co-star Aaron Jennings (Grand Crew) and Nicole discuss grade school romances, talking finances with your partner, the benefits of dating an older man, and that iconic Oscar #slap. Aaron shares a wild date story involving a stalking ex-boyfriend, a gang member, and a gun. Plus, Nicole's crazy neighbor pays her a visit at 3:00AM. For more Aaron Jennings, stream Grand Crew on Peacock, and the upcoming A League of Their Own TV series on Amazon Prime. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 17, 2022 • 1h 2min
Having a Drama-Free Divorce (w/ Grasie Mercedes)
Co-star Grasie Mercedes (Grand Crew, Access Hollywood) reflects on her 14-year relationship and the breakthrough she had in therapy which led to her divorce. They also discuss getting back into the dating scene at a later age, why white men love drinking milk, and what it means to Afro-Latina. Plus, Nicole shares her rave review for a Broadway show which featured many exposed dicks. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 10, 2022 • 47min
Setting Yourself on Fire (w/ Vanity Jay)
Stripper and exotic entertainer Vanity Jay chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. She shares the complicated nature of dating both customers and strippers from clubs, the time she accidentally burned herself lighting her pussy on fire, and the challenges of dating a jealous partner. Plus, they help give advice to a listener seeking sex position recommendations for their partner who isn't the most endowed. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 3, 2022 • 1h 5min
Farting in Bed with your Lover (w/ Sudi Green)
Comedian and writer Sudi Green (SNL, I Love That For You) joins Nicole to discuss their awkward encounters with celebrities, having baby fever, and farting in bed with your lover. Sudi shares a horrible hookup story where her partner was into "intense sex", but failed to preform. Nicole realizes she's horny for magic. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.