
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. Tune in for dating mishaps, heartbreak confessions, and the real talk you never knew you needed. New episodes every Friday!
Latest episodes

May 5, 2023 • 48min
Secrets To a Long, Loving Marriage (w/ John Leguizamo)
Actor John Leguizamo shares his secrets to a long, loving marriage and discusses the importance of representation in media. They also talk about the pros and cons of dating apps, finding a fun-loving partner, and their experiences as drag queens. They reflect on Shakespeare and discuss their desired roles in acting.

Apr 28, 2023 • 59min
Lesbian Sex (w/ Ashley Gavin)
Comedian Ashley Gavin (host of We're Having Gay Sex) teaches Nicole all about lesbian sex and relationships. They cover scissoring and tribbing, having secret girlfriends in high school, and the details of her open relationship. Ashley also shares her experience being the first openly gay comedian on Carnival Cruise Line, and the homophobia she encountered on the job. Nicole witnesses a bouncer get stabbed at a lesbian bar. Watch Ashley's new comedy special at: youtube.com/watch?v=Ay6jUYPH644& Submit your dirty message for Nicole! Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 21, 2023 • 1h 4min
"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" Poly Relationships (w/ Zoe Lister-Jones)
Actress/writer/director Zoe Lister-Jones (Slip) shares her experience opening and closing her "don't ask don't tell" poly relationship, what she's learned after exiting a 17-year marriage, and delves into the empowering nature of "dating to fuck". Nicole really wants to crash the cool teen party down her block. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 14, 2023 • 1h 15min
Staying Friends with your Ex (w/ James Marsden)
Actor James Marsden (Sonic The Hedgehog, Hairspray, Jury Duty) joins Nicole to talk about his new singledom, remaining friends with all of his exes, his romantic side, and reviews Nicole's latest Tinder profile. Nicole teaches Marsden about bussies and scat porn. This episode was specially recorded in-person at Team Coco's studios. Thank you engineer Rich and the whole team for putting this together! Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 7, 2023 • 60min
A Love Queen (w/ Sasha Velour)
Drag queen icon Sasha Velour (winner of Drag Race S9) chats with Nicole about coming out to their dad at a TGI Fridays, the challenges of working with their boyfriend, and speaks out on the current backlash against drag. We just recorded a fabulous LIVE episode of Why Won't You Date Me with Gigi Goode! It's available on video on demand until April 19th. Stream it now at moment.co/dateme. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 31, 2023 • 1h 7min
Why Won't You Go Get a Transvaginal Ultrasound? (w/ X Mayo)
Comedian and writer X Mayo (The Daily Show, American Auto, Swarm) chats with Nicole about her success making friend connections on Raya, how she positively re-framed her outlook on dating, and her life changing experience shooting a nude scene in Swarm. Plus, a PSA on pussy health and why you should go get a transvaginal ultrasound. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 24, 2023 • 60min
Marrying for Tax Purposes (w/ Jeff Hiller)
Comedian and actor Jeff Hiller (Somebody Somewhere) reunites with Nicole to share how he met his husband on Chemistry.com, his experience acting on a reality TV dating show, and how a fight on Fire Island saved his marriage. Plus, Nicole reads the DM that lead her to deactivate a dating app. We're live streaming a new episode April 5th! See a live video recording of Why Won't You Date Me? with VOD available for 2 weeks after. Tickets at moment.co/dateme Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 snips
Mar 17, 2023 • 56min
Being 'In Like' vs Being 'In Love' (w/ Gabrielle Dennis)
Comedian and actress Gabrielle Dennis (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Luke Cage) chats with Nicole her philosophy as to why falling "in like" with your partner is more important than being in love, opens up about her experience dating a pedophile, and her love for writing Yelp reviews. Plus, the story of the murdering Disney dad. See a live recording of Why Won't You Date Me?! April 5th in Los Angeles. In-person tickets: elysiantheater.com/shows/nicolebyer.The show will also be live-streamed worldwide, and available on VOD for 2 weeks after. Get the livestream tickets at moment.co/dateme Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mar 10, 2023 • 54min
Mormon and Closeted (w/ Bridger Winegar)
Bridger Winegar, writer and host of I Said No Gifts!, talks about being closeted until 26 and his experience being raised Mormon. They also discuss swimming with pigs in the Bahamas, car culture and pronunciations, bad roommate experiences, favorite date spots, and their desire to live in a hotel.

Mar 3, 2023 • 55min
Marrying Your High School Sweetheart (w/ Adam Pally)
Comedian Adam Pally (101 Places to Party Before You Die, Who Invited Charlie?) chats with Nicole about why an easy relationship is a often sign of a good one, marrying his high school sweetheart, and how the both of them broke Steve Harvey on the set of Celebrity Family Feud. Plus, what's it like filming with Sonic the Hedgehog? Nicole is dying to know. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.