“You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

🎧 This is the first five minutes of this month’s Patreon-only episode. ✔️ It is a must listen if you’re feeling stuck with a life goal. That’s why I’m offering a 🎉HUGE DISCOUNT! ✨Click here to get 70% off of your first month of Patreon for all levels. (They’re regularly only $3, $6, or $10 monthly anyway) Use code 38E07 at checkout. Offer ends 5/31/25. Jen explains a thought-provoking concept she recently learned—the difference between having a real plan of action for a life goal versus being stuck in a future fantasy about that goal. She walks through how being in a future fantasy is a habitual way to regulate our emotions, while actually making a plan would require being present—which can trigger dysregulation. So we avoid it. Mind. Blown. Click this link to join Patreon at 70% off of your first month and use CODE 38E07. Offer ends 5/31/25   SHOW NOTES: Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: You Don’t Lack “Follow Through” - Heidi Priebe, YouTube

In this episode: Jen opens up about her surprising Autism diagnosis last summer, which added AuDHD to her identity alongside ADHD. She shares how this revelation unexpectedly tied together all the loose ends of what she’d felt was “wrong” her entire life. Jen also reflects on how many therapists missed what now seems like an obvious diagnosis, and why so many professionals still struggle to understand this complex neurotype. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. ADDitude Magazine: A Living Contradiction; the AuDHD Experience Lindsey Mackereth Substack

In this episode: Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article in the Sunday New York Times Magazine titled “Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong?” Jen let’s the experts speak for her and she reads the intelligent analysis done by Dr. Russell Barkley and the editors of ADDitude Magazine. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day free trial at any level, and when you join, take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADDitude Magazine: Setting The Record Straight Dr. Russell Barkley On YouTube  

This week’s episode is Patreon only. This was a long one so I am sharing 15 minutes of the episode and I highly recommend joining the Patreon and getting this episode.  In this episode: Ever heard of limerence? It’s not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I’m taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov’s original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hyperfocus, rejection sensitivity, and impulsivity all play a role in this heartbreaking, confusing experience. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. Tom Living With Limerence Blog Dr. Tom Purposeful Living Psychology Today Who Is Vulnerable To Limerence Healthline ADHD Limerence Dr. Dorothy Tennov “Love and Limerence” Book

In this episode: Did anyone ever tell you that being a PEOPLE PLEASER is a core trait in ADHD/AuDHD Humans? In this episode, I’ll tell you all about it. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our coping mechanisms that we developed early on in order to avoid rejection and seeking validation from others due to our feelings of inadequacy because of our (especially undiagnosed) ADHD/AuDHD. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy   SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why ADHD Makes You Feel So Much How Can I Stop People Pleasing At Work? Are You A People Pleaser? ADHD & People Pleasing: What’s The Correalation? Set Boundaries Find Peace

In this episode: ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated. In this episode, I talk about how impulsivity, time management challenges, and emotional regulation difficulties all play a role in why boundary-setting can be so hard for us. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHOW NOTES: 🎉 Right now I’ve got a special discount if you join the “You Are A Lot” podcast Patreon annually - you get 25% off any tier! Get a year for $24-$79 only depending on your tier. CLICK HERE and use code: 29A43 (Bonus episodes, transcripts, live online events, private chat community and more!) And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter Jen’s Unique Link For 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals Jen’s Unique Link for 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks Jen’s Unique Link for 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Jen’s Unique LInk for 20% off Books at Bookshop Dot Org Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Poor Boundaries and ADHD - Sachs Center How To Create Healthy Boundaries When You Have ADHD Focused Mind: Boundaries and ADHD Focused Mind: Learning To Say No With Adult ADHD Why Is It So Difficult To Set Boundaries? Set Boundaries Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab

In this Jen Chat I talk about the origin of the term "Asperger's Syndrome" and why it's no longer used. The short answer: Nazis. I'm reading a book about Hans Asperger, the Austrian pediatrician who worked with the Nazis but claimed not to be one of them. To this day the idea of how "functioning" an autistic person is seems to be deeply and darkly rooted in only what their value to the workforce is - and not their value as a human being. Get 20% off of the book “Asperger’s Children: The Origins Of Autism In Nazi Vienna” using my unique link to Bookshop dot org - a great website that buys from indie booksellers and helps them stay in business. SHOW NOTES: Use my unique link for 20% off books at Bookshop dot org. A great resource if you don’t have an indie bookstore near you - and want your books mailed to you fast. Check out my lists of recommended mental health reading: Jen’s Recommended ADHD Friendly Mental Health Books Jen’s Recommended books/memoirs about ADHD Jen’s Recommended books/memoirs about Audhd/Autism Jen’s Recommended therapy books about love/relationship issues

EPISODE INFO: This week’s episode is Patreon only but you can listen to it if you are one of the first 50 people to CLAIM YOUR FREE ONE MONTH to the Tier #2 of the “You Are A Lot” Podcast Patreon. Click here to claim! Patreon Only Episode 39: “Skeptical of Scams & Cults?” In this episode: In response to last week’s episode about reasons why ADHD/AuDHD Humans sometimes have a bigger chance of  being drawn into cults, MLM’s and other sketchy setups - there is an equal and opposite argument that people with ADHD/AuDHD are actually MORE EQUIPPED to spot scams and avoid getting sucked into cults and sketchy situations. SHOW NOTES: Click here to claim your ONE FREE MONTH of Tier #2 Patreon Membership. Here is what you get with a Tier #2 Membership: ☕️AD-FREE EPISODES ☕️EARLY RELEASE ON SUNDAYS ****(Before the public release of on Mondays) ☕️IMAGE & CAPTION VIDEO VERSIONS OF EVERY EPISODE (for those who like to read along and look at things as they listen) ☕️MONTHLY PATREON ONLY BONUS EPISODE (with image & caption & transcript) ☕️DOWNLOADABLE PDF TRANSCRIPT OF EVERY EPISODE (edited by Jen, not AI so they're easy to read and all research highlighted - print them out and make your own ADHD book!) ☕️QUOTE GRAPHICS with ADHD facts (colorful, factual, downloadable and easy to share on your social media) ☕️ PRIVATE CHAT COMMUNITY with other neurodivergent members of this podcast Patreon

In this episode: Did you know that ADHD/AuDHD Humans have a bigger chance of being drawn into cults, MLM’s and other sketchy setups? I explain why we are targets (hint: our impulsivity, need for community and outsider feelings) and talk about how to spot red flags. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, AMA’s with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. CLAIM YOUR FREE 7 DAY TRIAL   Hugimals 15% Off LInk Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter Jen’s Recommended Mental Health Books at 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Telehealth Company Accused Of Fraud Psychology Today: Phishing Email Fraud: The Search For Predictors Of Susceptibility Social Media Overwhelmed With Scams Media Matters: Tik Tok Enables Predatory ADHD Ads The Root Counseling: Multi-level Marketing Schemes Does ADHD Create Vulnerability To High Control Groups?

In this episode: Jen breaks down the ins and outs of PDA; Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. She chats about why even the simplest requests can feel like too much and how people with PDA handle those constant demands. Jen looks at the behaviors, challenges, and some ways to work on keeping a sense of autonomy even when triggered.   SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. CLAIM YOUR FREE 7 DAY TRIAL Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter Buy a “You Are A Lot” Podcast Mug Buy a “You Are A Lot” Podcast Sticker Buy an “I Am A Lot” Tote Bag Shop Jen’s Amazon Storefront for ADHD supplies! Shop Jen’s Digital Download Guides For ADHD Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Defining Symptoms of PDA from PDA Society The discovery of PDA from Psychology Today Changing The Name To Pervasive Drive For Autonomy Dr. Megan Anna Neff on PDA vs. Neurodivergent Traits Causes of PDA on Neurosparkhealth website PDA in Adults from Psychology Today PDA Coping Strategies from PDA Society