“You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

In this episode: I’m talking about what’s coming for summer with this podcast, and stay subscribed as I release episodes from behind the paywall with topics like why you may be emotionally regulating through future fantasy instead of concrete planning, and my frustration with the ADHD medication plot on “And Just Like That.”  I have an offer JUST FOR listeners to this podcast! Click to get 40% off of your first month of Patreon or annually and use this code: A3354   SHOW NOTES Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: “This Is A Lot” Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN

In this episode: I unpack (get it?) what it means to travel as a neurodivergent person, especially when you’ve internalized a bunch of rigid “rules” about what travel is supposed to look like. For a long time, I thought travel had to mean a picture-perfect vacation, and I put pressure on myself to pack light, leave comforts behind, and plan for an idealized version of my destination—rather than the reality of my actual needs. Plus, I’m creating a digital course about neurodivergent travel, and your input can help me make sure I’m covering what actually matters to people like us. Send an email with your thoughts and experiences around travel to alotadhdpod at gmail dot com or call the “A Lot Line” and leave a voicemail (347) 674-2201.   SHOW NOTES: Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. Offer expires June 30th, 2025. For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community, and more! 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks $50 off Jen’s ADHD Coach Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201

In this episode: Have you ever felt completely frozen, staring at your project, knowing exactly what needs to get done — but physically unable to begin? It’s not procrastination — it’s ADHD Paralysis — and there are three kinds: mental paralysis, analysis paralysis, and task paralysis, all of which can lead to shutdowns. It’s a neurological issue (executive functions not functioning) as well as an emotional one (a trauma response). Whether you're ADHD or AuDHD, this episode helps you understand that you don’t need more willpower — you need more compassion. You’re overwhelmed, and you deserve support. Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. SHOW NOTES: Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more! Take the ACE test here (Adverse Childhood Experiences) 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks $50 off Jen’s ADHD Coach Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201 SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADHD Paralysis: Mental Health ADHD Paralysis is Real: ADDA What is ADHD Shutdown? Calm Understanding ADHD Paralysis: The Dorm Complex PTSD Pete Walker

In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD shows up at work — from time blindness to burnout — and breaks down what your rights are under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). She walks you through real-world accommodations that can make a huge difference (including remote work), how to actually ask for them without overexplaining, and also rethinks the whole concept of why we even have to ask for things like this on our own in the first place. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Link to Bearaby for Knot Pillow, Lounger Warmable, Weighted Blankets 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why “Workplace Accommodations” Are Archaic - Lindsey Mackereth How People Can Ask For Accommodations At Work - ChADD How Protected Are People Under The ADA? - ADDitude Magazine The Trump Admin Demands Returning To Office Profile Of The 2023 Workforce Rights Under the ADA Explained - ACLU Signs Of A Neurodivergent Inclusive Workplace - ADDitude Magazine ADHD Accommodations At Work - The ADDA The ADHD Guide To Asserting Yourself Head Heart Hands Check-In Method

🎧 This is the first five minutes of this month’s Patreon-only episode. ✔️ It is a must listen if you’re feeling stuck with a life goal. That’s why I’m offering a 🎉HUGE DISCOUNT! ✨Click here to get 70% off of your first month of Patreon for all levels. (They’re regularly only $3, $6, or $10 monthly anyway) Use code 38E07 at checkout. Offer ends 5/31/25. Jen explains a thought-provoking concept she recently learned—the difference between having a real plan of action for a life goal versus being stuck in a future fantasy about that goal. She walks through how being in a future fantasy is a habitual way to regulate our emotions, while actually making a plan would require being present—which can trigger dysregulation. So we avoid it. Mind. Blown. Click this link to join Patreon at 70% off of your first month and use CODE 38E07. Offer ends 5/31/25   SHOW NOTES: Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: You Don’t Lack “Follow Through” - Heidi Priebe, YouTube

In this episode: Jen opens up about her surprising Autism diagnosis last summer, which added AuDHD to her identity alongside ADHD. She shares how this revelation unexpectedly tied together all the loose ends of what she’d felt was “wrong” her entire life. Jen also reflects on how many therapists missed what now seems like an obvious diagnosis, and why so many professionals still struggle to understand this complex neurotype. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. ADDitude Magazine: A Living Contradiction; the AuDHD Experience Lindsey Mackereth Substack

In this episode: Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article in the Sunday New York Times Magazine titled “Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong?” Jen let’s the experts speak for her and she reads the intelligent analysis done by Dr. Russell Barkley and the editors of ADDitude Magazine. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day free trial at any level, and when you join, take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADDitude Magazine: Setting The Record Straight Dr. Russell Barkley On YouTube  

This week’s episode is Patreon only. This was a long one so I am sharing 15 minutes of the episode and I highly recommend joining the Patreon and getting this episode.  In this episode: Ever heard of limerence? It’s not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I’m taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov’s original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hyperfocus, rejection sensitivity, and impulsivity all play a role in this heartbreaking, confusing experience. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. Tom Living With Limerence Blog Dr. Tom Purposeful Living Psychology Today Who Is Vulnerable To Limerence Healthline ADHD Limerence Dr. Dorothy Tennov “Love and Limerence” Book

In this episode: Did anyone ever tell you that being a PEOPLE PLEASER is a core trait in ADHD/AuDHD Humans? In this episode, I’ll tell you all about it. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our coping mechanisms that we developed early on in order to avoid rejection and seeking validation from others due to our feelings of inadequacy because of our (especially undiagnosed) ADHD/AuDHD. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy   SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why ADHD Makes You Feel So Much How Can I Stop People Pleasing At Work? Are You A People Pleaser? ADHD & People Pleasing: What’s The Correalation? Set Boundaries Find Peace

In this episode: ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated. In this episode, I talk about how impulsivity, time management challenges, and emotional regulation difficulties all play a role in why boundary-setting can be so hard for us. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHOW NOTES: 🎉 Right now I’ve got a special discount if you join the “You Are A Lot” podcast Patreon annually - you get 25% off any tier! Get a year for $24-$79 only depending on your tier. CLICK HERE and use code: 29A43 (Bonus episodes, transcripts, live online events, private chat community and more!) And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter Jen’s Unique Link For 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals Jen’s Unique Link for 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks Jen’s Unique Link for 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Jen’s Unique LInk for 20% off Books at Bookshop Dot Org Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Poor Boundaries and ADHD - Sachs Center How To Create Healthy Boundaries When You Have ADHD Focused Mind: Boundaries and ADHD Focused Mind: Learning To Say No With Adult ADHD Why Is It So Difficult To Set Boundaries? Set Boundaries Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab