“You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: “What’s a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it’s tied to your ADHD/AuDHD?” Hundreds of responses came in. This is part 3 of this three part series. In this episode the themes explored are systems and rituals around time tricks, sorting, and hyperfocus. SHOW NOTES You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: “This Is A Lot” Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN You Are A Lot Podcast Website SOURCES USED: Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin 20% off Unmasking Autism by Devon Price 20% off Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas Brown 20% off Autism in Polyvagal Terms 20% off this book The ADHD Productivity Manual by Ari Tuckman 20% off this book Laziness Does Not Exist By Devon Price 20% off this book TLC Foundation For BFRB’s Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory  Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues   

This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: “What’s a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it’s tied to your ADHD/AuDHD?” Hundreds of responses came in. This is part 2 of this three part series. In this episode the theme is the body-based side of ADHD and AuDHD—the textures we can’t stand, the stims that keep us grounded, rituals around food, the need for symmetry, and all the little physical quirks that help us regulate. SHOW NOTES ‘This Is A Lot’ Resources: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: “This Is A Lot” Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin 20% off Unmasking Autism by Devon Price 20% off Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas Brown 20% off Autism in Polyvagal Terms 20% off this book The ADHD Productivity Manual by Ari Tuckman 20% off this book Laziness Does Not Exist By Devon Price 20% off this book TLC Foundation For BFRB’s Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory  Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues 

For the ad-free audio and video version of this episode - join me over on Patreon by clicking here for a 7-day-free trial. This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: “What’s a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it’s tied to your ADHD/AuDHD?” Hundreds of responses came in. The traits or quirks that I read were hilarious, heartbreaking, and a lot were relatable to me. While these behaviors might sound random or odd, or overly specific to a neurotypical, they’re loaded meaning once you understand how a neurodivergent brain works. This is part 1 of a three part series. In this episode the themes are having trouble with TV shows ending, wanting spoilers for books and movies, and an intolerance of awkward moments Show Notes: ‘This Is A Lot’ Resources: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: “This Is A Lot” You Are A Lot Podcast Website Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: TLC Foundation For BFRB’s Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory  Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues  Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin  Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity by Devon Price  Smart But Stuck by Thomas E Brown, PhD      

In this Patreon Only episode: I give advice (and information backed by neuroscience and trauma informed experts) to a Patreon subscriber who wrote a question in the chat community. The themes in this question are so relatable to us ADHD/AuDHD humans like; feeling overwhelmed when we finally have time to ourselves, freezing when it’s time to make a decision, struggling to know what we actually want in the short-term and long-term; feeling ashamed about all of that, and having trouble asking for help.   SHOW NOTES: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: “This Is A Lot” Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off   SOURCES USED: Dr. Russell Barkley - ADHD researcher and author  Pete Walker - CPTSD expert/psychologist  Dr. Sharon Saline  Leanne Maskell – ADHD coach and author  Dr. William Dodson – Psychiatrist and ADHD expert  Psychology Today: “Why Some People With ADHD Refuse To Ask For Help”  20% Off Book:  Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas E. Brown  20% Off Book: The ADHD Productivity Manual, by Ari Tuckman  20% Off Book: The Joy Reset: 6 Ways Trauma Steals Happiness & How To Win It Back by Mary Catherine McDonald, PhD 20% Off Book: Self-Compassion by Kristen Neff, PhD 20% Off Book: Healing the Shame That Binds You, by John Bradshaw

In this episode, I am talking about an article in Psychology Today called Why Autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School that shines a light on a new study that shows that schools place double emotional burdens on neurodivergent students. I talk about how so many of us were overlooked for diagnosis as kids and how our emotional needs weren’t being met and how we carried that emotional neglect from the world into adulthood. This show exists because of my Patreon members — and I’m pushing hard to reach my first milestone: 750 subscribers by the end of the year. For $12/month (with a 7-day free trial), you’ll get the video version, bonus episodes, and the satisfaction of knowing you’re helping me keep creating. Click here to join.   Show Notes: ‘This Is A Lot’ Resources: Sign up for my ‘This Is A Lot’ Newsletter: - sent every 10 days Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: Why Autistic, ADHD and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School, Psychology Today      

Autistic & AuDHD Humans Do Not "Understand" Hierarchy This month's Out From Behind The Paywall Episode is a Little Pod bonus episode that until today was on Patreon only. I'm talking about the AuDHD and Autistic tendency to not be motivated by social climbing and not wanting to cooperate with workplace hierarchies. I know what it’s like to feel alone with your brain. That’s why I make this show—and most of the deep-dive, honest stuff lives on Patreon. This episode is just a taste. If it helped you feel seen, come hang out with us. I'm giving listeners 50% off of their first month right now! You get bonus episodes, videos, and access to a private chat community where we all talk about our challenges being neurodivergent. Click this link https://www.patreon.com/c/ALOTADHDPOD to pay just $6 right now and use CODE C1782

In this episode: It's all about letting go of self-esteem as a goal. It's vague, unmeasurable, and often just makes things worse—especially for people with ADHD/AuDHD. But self-efficacy is EVERYTHING. Simply put: it’s the realistic belief that you have the skills to do a task or handle a situation. Your self-efficacy can be improved (thanks to neuroplasticity) and there is irrefutable science and studies that support its life-changing results. I’ll explain more about the findings on self-efficacy, how it works, and give you some ways to start focusing on your self-efficacy today so that you can start projects, and actually follow through. Let’s go!    SHOW NOTES "This is A Lot" Resources Sign up for my “This Is A Lot” Newsletter: sent every 10 days Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN Sources Why Self-Efficacy Is More Important Than Self-Esteem; YouTube Dr. Albert Bandura Quotes Self-Efficacy Theory Of Motivation Explained; YouTube Self-Efficacy and Agentic Positive Psychology Self-Efficacy And Why Believing In Yourself Matters; VeryWell Mind  

In this episode: Most people don’t associate ADHD with hope — but they should. This episode explores the science behind hope as a cognitive process. Drawing on research I look at how hope is built, how it functions in the brain, and how it can get eroded by chronic adversity — especially for people with ADHD and AuDHD. If you’ve been struggling with follow-through, feeling stuck, or wondering why things feel harder than they “should,” this is an episode that explains why — and how you can cultivate hope!   SHOW NOTES Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: “This Is A Lot” Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN   SOURCES Build Resilience By Learning To Hope; ADDitude Magazine Promoting Hope in ADHD; Dr. Hallowell The Gift of Hope; Dig Coaching The Science And Power Of Hope; Dr. Chan Hellman

EPISODE 49: An ADHD Guide To Cortisol + 13 Tips To Lower Your Cortisol Levels In this episode: Exhaustion during the day, racing thoughts at night, sleep problems, anxiety, and unexplained inflammation can all be signs of a nervous system stuck in high-alert mode. While dopamine gets most of the attention in ADHD conversations, cortisol — the body’s primary stress hormone — plays a major role in how energy, focus, and fatigue are regulated. High cortisol, not low, is often behind chronic stress patterns in people with ADHD and AuDHD. I give tips on how to interrupt your long-term stress loop in ways your nervous system can actually handle.   SOURCES The Intersection of ADHD and Hormones, CHADD The WorkOut Witch The Complex PTSD Workbook   SHOW NOTES "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon  "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: “This Is A Lot”  Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus!  $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

In this special Out From The Paywall Episode - you're getting a Little Pod Patreon only bonus episode that originally aired on June 22nd, 2025. I have a special offer for you. You can join Patreon for FREE right now by clicking here. You'll get one month FREE of "You Are A LOT" on Patreon at Tier 1 which gives you access to all of the archives, video episodes, AMA's, bonus episodes, transcripts, a private chat community and more! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR MONTH! No commitment required after the month is up. (Offer expires 8/1)  OUT FROM THE PAYWALL: "And Just Like That" When A TV Show Fails ADHD" Permission to rant? Thank you. On this Little Pod which is available to Tier #1 and Tier #2, I'm criticizing the TV show "And Just Like That" for its bizarre portrayal of the ADHD medication shortage and how to handle a troubled teenager with ADHD. SHOW NOTES "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon  "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: “This Is A Lot”  Call The “A Lot” Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus!  $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN