The Nothing Is Wasted Podcast

Theologian Dallas Willard was once asked how he would describe Jesus in just 1 word. He replied with the word: relaxed. How can we learn to walk and live like Jesus in a world that wants us to go as fast as we can? What does it look like to deeply trust and surrender when we are walking through pain?For author and pastor Megan Fate Marshman, those were hard questions to answer after losing her husband, Randy, suddenly to a heart attack. Learning to relax into Christ through the grief and loss was a challenge, but in it she learned to move at a Kingdom pace. She wrote her latest book, **Relaxed: Walking with the One Who Is Not Worried about a Thing**,as a way to help readers let go of spiritual performance and find freedom to walk towards God at a gentle pace. In this episode, Aubrey and Megan discuss how to even begin to relax in the presence of Jesus in the midst of our suffering, what it looks like to walk with kids through their grief, and what leadership looks like when we are hurting. If you find yourself caught in the wheel of doing instead of being with Jesus, this conversation will welcome you into the relaxing surrender of God's presence and the freedom to release all your cares to Him. Website: meganfate.com Instagram: instagram.com/meganfate Facebook: facebook.com/meganfatemarshman Book: Relaxed: Walking with the One Who Is Not Worried about a Thinghttps://a.co/d/gBsyniW Want to find out how you too can remove the debris of crisis in your life and move forward with a renewed sense of victory and purpose? Learn more about the Pain to Purpose course at: www.course.nothingiswasted.com Are you a ministry or lay leader who wants to better understand trauma and how you can help people in pain? Learn more about the Biblical Trauma Care Specialist Course: nothingiswasted.com/btcs Are you looking for the perfect study for your small group? Check out the Nothing is Wasted Video Series: https://www.nothingiswasted.com/bookstudy

How do we begin to help young children understand loss? What can we do to help little ones grieve while we are walking through it alongside them? For author, speaker, and podcaster Annie F. Downs, these questions became real when her infant nephew, TJ, passed away from a severe medical condition less than two months after he was born. Wanting to help her sister, Tatum Green, and her young son, Sam, process through this loss, Annie did what she was uniquely gifted to do. She wrote Sam a book to help him as he tried to grasp the loss of his little brother. Once it was written, Annie and Tatum knew that this book needed to be offered to other families beyond theirs who were trying to figure out through how to walk young kids through unimaginable losses and so together, they created the final version,Where did TJ Go? A Book for Kids on Grief and Loss. In it, they help children ask the hard questions that can come when they lose someone they love and find hope through the Gospel. In this honest conversation, Davey sits with Annie and Tatum to talk about how a loss impacts a whole family, the best ways we can show up for those we love in their grief, and what we learn about the mystery of God through the rawness of our struggles and questions. If you or someone you love is trying to navigate how to guide a young child through loss, this episode will encourage you that while it can be hard and difficult, simply giving kids the space to ask tough questions and talk about what they are feeling is the first step in walking them through the pain of grief and finding hope along the way. Website: www.anniefdowns.comwww.wheredidtjgo.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/anniefdowns Facebook: www.facebook.com/anniefdowns Book: Where did TJ Go? A Book for Kids on Grief and Loss https://a.co/d/aZGzumY

How do we keep our eyes up and trusting God when the pain of life seems unrelenting? Why is it so important to remind ourselves of God's goodness especially in those moments of greatest heartache? For author, pastor and speaker Alexandra Hoover, navigating a lifetime of difficulty and trauma as a child and then experiencing the loss of her brother as an adult could have kept her from experiencing God's care and comfort, but instead, it led her to it. As she began to look back at all the moments in which God had showed up for her throughout her life, she was able to see points of remembrance of God's faithfulness, Ebenezer stones as Scripture calls them. It was in those places that she found herself continually returning to as new heartaches and challenges came her way. In her book Eyes Up: How to Trust God’s Heart by Tracing His Hand, she helps readers learn how to find those similar moments in their own lives. In this conversation, Aubrey sits down with Alexandra and discusses the power of discipleship in showing young believers a faith filled life, why it is important to pay attention to the ways God has been faithful throughout our days, and how we can begin to surrender and learn to live loved, especially in our pain. If you find it hard to remember God's goodness in your suffering, know that you are not alone. This episode will encourage you to keep looking back so that you can look up and move forward through whatever struggles and hardships life throws at you. Website: alexandravhoover.com Instagram: instagram.com/alexandravhoover Book: Eyes Up: How to Trust God’s Heart by Tracing His Hand https://a.co/d/hFvrGHZ Bible Study: Without Wavering: Resilient Faith Built on the Promises of Godhttps://a.co/d/e7zhLY0 Are you a ministry leader, first responder, counselor or someone who wants to help people in pain? The Biblical Trauma Care Specialist course will equip you as you serve those who have experienced trauma. Sign up today: nothingiswasted.com/btcs Has a recent loss, trauma or tragedy upended your world? Let us guide you through those early days: nothingiswasted.com/everythingchanges Looking for a tangible gift for a friend who is hurting? The restorbox is a beautifully curated gift box that will show your loved one you care: nothingiswasted.com/restorbox

How do we heal a marriage that has been broken by betrayal? Is it even possible to move past the shame and condemnation that can come after choices that harm our closest relationship?There was a time when author and podcaster Jill Savage could not see a road to redemption after her husband, Mark, then a pastor, had an affair and was ready to end their marriage. Through what can only be described as the work of God in Mark's heart, their marriage was healed and they stayed together after betrayal. But, the road to that place was not easy. It was full of heartache and shame that threatened to end their relationship. Mark says it was only when he was able to fully surrender to the Lord that true healing came. Now, the couple coaches others who are walking through a similar pain story and have written several books and resources to help couples whose marriages are at a breaking point. In this episode, Davey talks with Mark and Jill about how to love a spouse when it feels impossible, the incredible power of surrender, and the difference between condemnation vs. conviction. Whether your marriage is on the brink of divorce or you are working through shame over a past sin, this conversation will help you find a way through the emotions that can keep us stuck, hurting our most precious relationships, and into hope and healing. Website: www.MarkandJill.org Instagram: instagram.com/jillsavage.authorFacebook: facebook.com/jillsavage.authorRebuilding Trust Guide: www.RebuildingTrust.us Book: Really Messed Up: Your Next Steps to Heal Your Marriage After an Affair My Heart is Broken: Your Next Steps For When Your Spouse is UnfaithfulAre you walking through the dark and need some hope? Check out the What We Find in the Dark Podcast with Aubrey Sampson: nothingiswasted.com/whatwefind Are you a ministry or lay leader who wants to better understand trauma and how you can help people in pain? Learn more about the Biblical Trauma Care Specialist Course: nothingiswasted.com/btcs Are you looking for the perfect study for your small group? Check out the Nothing is Wasted Video Series: nothingiswasted.com/bookstudy

Bonus Episode: Check out this episode from our newest podcast, What We Find in the Dark with host Aubrey SampsonWhen we find ourselves in the dark after loss, big questions often follow: Where is God now? Why can’t I see Him here? Why can’t we sense His presence? How can I trust that God is good? Why did this happen?The deep theological wrestlings that often arise after the pain of grief can be jarring. But we need permission to ask the raw questions. We need a space to say them aloud. And we need a guide to help us find answers in the dark.In this first episode of the What We Find in the Dark Podcast, join host Aubrey Sampson and her guest, pastor and author Glenn Packiam, as they uncover what exactly entails a dark night of the soul, the questions that can emerge after a season of loss and grief, and why wrestling with God in our biggest questions is so important. If you find yourself struggling with a darkness and seeming silence from God, this conversation will help you see what may feel obscure in the darkest seasons of loss and grief. To learn more about how to navigate your own season in the dark, pick up host Aubrey Sampson's book *What We Find in the Dark: Loss, Hope, and God’s Presence in Grief*https://a.co/d/iM1Oydl Watch or listen to all of theWhat We Find in the Dark Podcast episodes at nothingiswasted.com/whatwefind Connect with this episode's special guest, Glenn Packiam: Website: glennpackiam.comInstagram: instagram.com/gpackiam Facebook: facebook.com/gpackiamBook: What's a Christian, Anyway?: Finding Our Way in an Age of Confusion and Corruptionhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1400248302?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_A5DFG79WBBDWJQC3J096_1&bestFormat=true&newOGT=1

How do you move past your greatest insecurities in order to step into what God has for you? What do you do when pain creates new insecurities and doubts about who you are?Author and pastor Oneka McClellan understands the way self-doubt and insecurity can creep in when you are trying to step into your God given calling and purpose. As a ministry leader and as a woman, she has found herself lacking the confidence in Christ she needed to do what God created her to do. In her book Born Royal: Overcoming Insecurity to Become the Woman God Says You Are, she dives into how to trust God with your identity and look through a lens of hope no matter what your story. In this episode, Aubrey and Oneka talk about what we are to do with our insecurities that threaten our confidence in how we were created, what it looks like to live out what God has for us, and how to walk in who God says we are when we are hurting and in pain. If you've struggled to find the confidence in Christ in who you are, this conversation will remind you that you are a child of the King and that makes you royal. Website: onekamcclellan.comInstagram: instagram.com/onekamcclellanBook: Born Royal: Overcoming Insecurity to Become the Woman God Says You AreAre you a ministry leader, first responder, counselor or someone who wants to help people in pain? The Biblical Trauma Care Specialist course will equip you as you serve those who have experienced trauma. Sign up today: nothingiswasted.com/btcs Are you in a season of darkness after loss and grief? Join Aubrey Sampson and her guests on the new What We Find in the Dark podcast as they tackle the deep theological questions that can come after loss and how to find hope in the dark. Watch or listen to all the What We Find in the Dark Podcast episodes at nothingiswasted.com/whatwefind Looking for a tangible gift for a friend who is hurting? The restorbox is a beautifully curated gift box that will show your loved one you care: nothingiswasted.com/restorbox

What happens to our relationship with God in the midst of suffering? How do we stay connected to Jesus when we are walking through pain?Author John Eldredge has been guiding people through practices that can help keep us in union with Christ, especially when the pain of life threatens to erode our connection. He has seen the ways in which the enemy will attempt to break our spirit and discourage us and how Christ longs to bring hope and healing to our souls. He has taken these lessons from his own life, throughout his counseling career and ministry, and what he sees now as a spiritual father to many and has written a book called Experience Jesus. Really: Finding Refuge, Strength, and Wonder through Everyday Encounters with God. In it, he shares habits and spiritual practices that will offer readers the refuge of experiencing deep, lasting, real communion with Jesus. In this insightful episode, Davey and John talk about how we can begin to let go the weight of our cares and entrust them to God, the ways in which our agreements with the lies of the enemy can prolong our suffering, and why we need daily reminders of truth as we heal. If you struggle to stay connected to Jesus in times of pain and heartache, this conversation will teach you ways that you can reconnect with the one who wants to bring you hope and healing. Website: https://wildatheart.org/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wildatheart/Facebook: www.facebook.com/wildatheartministriesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@WildatHeartOfficialOther: Book: Experience Jesus. Really: Finding Refuge, Strength, and Wonder through Everyday Encounters with Godhttps://a.co/d/5DuqpxuAre you in a season of darkness after loss and grief? Join Aubrey Sampson and her guests on the new What We Find in the Dark podcast as they tackle the deep theological questions that can come after loss and how to find hope in the dark. Watch or listen to all the What We Find in the Dark Podcast episodes at nothingiswasted.com/whatwefindAre you a ministry leader, first responder, counselor or someone who wants to help people in pain? The Biblical Trauma Care Specialist course will equip you as you serve those who have experienced trauma. Sign up today: Are you looking for the perfect study for your small group? Check out the Nothing is Wasted Video Series: https://www.nothingiswasted.com/bookstudy

How do we make it through the difficult seasons that every marriage encounters? What does contentment look like when our circumstances aren't changing? For musicians Cubbie Fink and Rebecca St. James, they could not have predicted the many twists and turns life would take on after they said, "I do." Through the personal pain of miscarriage and fertility struggles, the ups and downs of two successful music careers, and the revelation of Cubbie's childhood trauma that needed healing, Cubbie and Rebecca have experienced difficult winter seasons that tested their marriage and their faith. But it was through those seasons that they found an invitation to grow and trust God in their lives together. They wrote about it in their new book, Lasting Ever: Faith, Music, Family and Being Found by True Love, which shares the heartaches and triumphs that shaped their story as a couple. In this episode, Davey sits down with Cubbie and Rebecca to discuss the different seasons that marriages often encounter, how to hold space for one another in pain, and why contentment is so important in the winters of our lives. If you're walking through a difficult season in your marriage or in life, this conversation will encourage you that even when it feels dark, God is always there beside you and that every winter season is a reminder that spring is coming. Website: https://www.rebeccastjames.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/rebeccast.jameswww.instagram.com/cubbie.finkBook: Lasting Ever: Faith, Music, Family and Being Found by True Love https://a.co/d/6Q5mUS6Are you looking for the perfect study for your small group? Check out the Nothing is Wasted Video Series: nothingiswasted.com/bookstudyLooking for a tangible gift for a friend who is hurting? The restorbox is a beautifully curated gift box that will show your loved one you care: nothingiswasted.com/restorboxMinistry Leaders and Pastors: Mark your calendars and make plans to join us at our next The Healing Leader Roundtable on March 6th in Indianapolis. Bring your whole team and find a holistic approach to helping people heal in your community: nothingiswasted.com/roundtable

How do we navigate those long and difficult seasons of waiting? What do we do when we don't know what to do or how to move forward in life?Author and pastor Mark Vroegop doesn't love waiting. But it has been in those moments when life wasn't going as expected or plans weren't unfolding as he anticipated that he experienced a different kind of connection with God. Learning to wait, he says, is a crucial part of every believer's spiritual journey. As he studied what the Bible has to say about waiting and as he waited for things in his own life, Mark began to see the incredible fruitfulness that those seasons of uncertainty can produce. In his latest book,Waiting Isn’t a Waste: The Surprising Comfort of Trusting God in the Uncertainties of Life, he shows readers how to wait on God and what God can do through those times when life feels unsettled.In this insightful episode, Davey and Mark discuss what true Biblical waiting looks like, how to reconcile God's goodness in seasons of waiting, and the collective waiting that we often face together with other believers.If you're in a place where your life feels uncertain, this conversation will help you see that even in these times when it seems like nothing is happening, God is working and your waiting is never a waste.Website:https://www.markvroegop.com/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/vroegopmark/?hl=enFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/markdvroegopOther: Mark’s Previous Episode: #99https://www.nothingiswasted.com/podcast1/episode-99Book: Waiting Isn’t a Waste: The Surprising Comfort of Trusting God in the Uncertainties of Lifehttps://a.co/d/9x7aRCmChurch and Ministry Leaders: Join us for The Healing Leader Roundtable on March 6, 2025 in Indianapolis. Bring your whole team and get equipped with a holistic approach to healing your church — from the leadership to the lay people.:www.nothingiswasted.com/roundtableGet your copy of When It Hurts: Comforting Promises for Hard Times here:generationclaimed.com/when-it-hurtsAre you looking for the perfect study for your small group? Check out the Nothing is Wasted Video Series:https://www.nothingiswasted.com/bookstudy

How do we get out of the negative patterns in our marriage? What impact does learning to regulate our own emotions have on our relationships?For authors Ron and Nan Deal, it wasn't until they learned to self-regulate their own emotions after the built up pain from their stories and the loss of their child that they began to find healing in the destructive cycles in their marriage. When their relationship had reached a critical point, they found hope and help in the work of Dr. Terry and Sharon Hargrave, whose transformational Restoration Therapy gave Ron and Nan a path forward together in healing. In their new book, **The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself**, Ron and Nan, along with the Hargraves, share both Biblical principles and neuroscience that will help create a more loving, faithful marriage for readers.In this honest and raw conversation, Davey sits down with Ron and Nan to talk about the impact family of origin has in our relationships, why emotional regulation is so important, and how learning to renew your mind can help your brain heal from unhealthy patterns of thinking and relating with your spouse.No matter what state your marriage is in currently, this episode will show you how learning about your own unhelpful ways of coping can bring healing, hope, and flourishing to your most important relationship-your marriage. Website:https://rondeal.org/Instagram:instagram.com/familylifeblendedFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/familylifeblended/Book: The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourselfhttps://a.co/d/dMSDPsZAre you looking for the perfect study for your small group? Check out the Nothing is Wasted Video Series:https://www.nothingiswasted.com/bookstudyGet your copy of When It Hurts: Comforting Promises for Hard Times here:generationclaimed.com/when-it-hurtsLearn more about The Healing Leader Roundtable on March 6th in Indianapolis here:nothingiswasted.com/roundtable