The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane

Maybe you used to be employed, married, or healthy. When you suffer a loss, you enter the realm of "used to be." Licensed counselor Ashley Elliott is here to help us build new thinking patterns when life doesn't turn out how we thought it would. Ashley and her husband Chuck are the authors of "I Used to Be..." In this episode, you'll learn how to navigate losses in life as we talk about:  2:19 What I used to be... 4:27 How to use “switch theory” to combat negativity  9:04 Here's how you can get back into a positive space with your spouse  11:17 Recognizing the triggers that cause negative spaces  14:08 How to get through your grief  19:00 Understanding your “anger wall” 24:55 How to help others who are grieving  28:28 How to know when to seek help with your grief   Ashley Elliott and her husband Chuck have been working with couples since 2009. They are certified in eight different psycho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services.  Ashley and Chuck have three boys and enjoy hiking and mountain biking.  Check out Ashley & Chuck's book, I Used to Be... - How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in life and Find Your Path Forward.  You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, CA on March 2, 2024.  Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours.  Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel 

What do you do if you find your child looking at porn? The Internet has made pornography so easily accessible and parents must act to protect kids from the dangers of bad pictures and harmful ideas about sexuality. Austin Fruits, a speaker for Josh McDowell Ministries, knows what it is like to struggle with porn as a teen. In this honest and redemptive conversation, you'll learn:  4:10 When you may not be feeling God, He is still working in the darkest places  10:27 Porn is about much more than desire  12:45 How real repentance is key to the healing journey  15:25 Porn is not your problem, it is your medication  20:35 Why do we need to talk to our kids about uncomfortable topics like sex  24:10 How to help prevent your child from watching porn  28:55 Why being set free from porn is so liberating Austin Fruits is a speaker for Josh McDowell, a ministry of CRU. He has a passion for apologetics, evangelism, and wholeness. He has his degree in psychology and counseling from Liberty University and also graduated from Talbot School of Theology. Find out more about Austin at Josh.org It's not too late to come to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024, in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhome Special thanks to HireMyMom.com

In business, we learn new strategies, test products, and set goals. How can we apply this same intentionality to parenting? Think of yourself as the Chief Executive Officer, Chief Financial Officer, or Chief Operations Officer in your home. CEO Bill Hampton is here to help us grow as parents. On today's episode, you'll learn: 2:30 How to grow yourself so you can grow as a parent 4:45 Building momentum in parenting 10:30 Being intentional in your parenting starts here 15:50 Carving out time to spend with family even when life seems so busy 18:55 How to deal with screens in the home more constructively 24:49 What to do when you don’t like what your kids are doing 26:30 How to instill a work ethic in your kids 30:50 Stay strong as a parentBill Hampton is the founder and CEO of Hampton Strategies. He served as the executive VP and chief marketing officer for Dave Ramsay for 13 years, leading the growth of the Dave Ramsay show to a listenership of nearly 4.5 million people. You can follow Bill on Instagram @thebillhampton You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024 in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. More Resources for Your Family:Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhomeSpecial thanks to HireMyMom.com

A majority of Americans now say truth is subjective, and that ultimate truth cannot be known. How can we rise up to teach our kids that truth can be known? A world without the existence of truth quickly dissolves into chaos. Dr. Jeff Myers, president of Summit Ministries, is here to help us defend the existence of truth to our kids. Sharing from his latest book, Truth Changes Everything, you'll learn:4:20 How to find reality even when the world feeds us lies 7:00 What to say to your children if they don’t believe there are absolute truths 12:30 This is the best way to challenge the idea that there is no such thing as truth… 17:35 Words from the culture around your child have more impact than you think 21:30 What to say to your child if they are questioning their gender 24:45 Why children need to know the noble truth about gender 28:00 Families are the good guys, not the bad guys30:45 How to equip your young adult with a biblical worldview Dr. Jeff Myers is the president of Summit Ministries. As an educator and entrepreneur, Dr. Myers has become one of America’s most respected authorities on youth leadership development. He is the author of several books including Understanding the Faith and Understanding the Times. Jeff and his wife and their family live in Colorado. Connect with Dr. Jeff, Summit Ministries, and his book Truth Changes Everything at Summit.org Enter to win a FREE STUDENT CONFERENCE pass this summer with Summit Ministries in Colorado or Georgia ($1800 value): summit.org/arleneYou're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024, in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. happyhomeuniversity.com/conferenceMore Resources for Your Family:Subscribe to Arlene's free email list to get tech news and more to help your home. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribeWatch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhomeSpecial thanks to HireMyMom.com

What is the current spiritual temperature of your family? No doubt you have had seasons when you were more on fire for God than others. Bible teacher Stephanie Rousselle is here to help us stoke the fire of faith in the home. How can we delight in God on a daily basis and pass on that enthusiasm to our kids? In today's conversation you'll learn about: 2:30 Finding the “spice” in Christianity  4:30 Getting back to being on fire for God  8:50 Helping your kids taste the goodness of God  13:50 Pouring into your kids can look like this  18:15 When you were a college student, you were an atheist... 25:40 What is biblical success as a family?  Stephanie Rousselle is the host of the Gospel Spice podcast. Her motto is “God’s glory, our delight!” Born and raised in France, in the past 20 years she has lived on three continents, four countries, and five cities. She’s a wife, mom, podcaster, speaker, and Bible teacher.  Learn more about Stephanie Rousselle and Gospel Spice here.  You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024, in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel Special thanks to HireMyMom.com

Are your children going to grow up to be leaders? Author and leadership expert Dr. Tim Elmore says your child doesn't have to run a Fortune 500 company or be a team captain to be a leader. Learn how to nurture your children's God-given abilities so they can live an "I can't wait" kind of exciting, full life. In this conversation based on Tim's new book, I Can't Wait: 52 Stories of Kids Who Changed Their World, you'll learn:  3:30 How our children’s generation is so different than previous generations  6:00 Is the decision I’m making today going to serve my kids in the long term? 7:50 But my child isn’t a leader… 10:45 What is artificial maturity?  15:10 How to inspire kids to dream big about the future   23:00 How you can help your kids have longer attention spans 27:20 If you’re burned out and tired as a parent, start here Dr. Tim Elmore is the founder and CEO of Growing Leaders. He’s dedicated his life to developing the next generation of students and equipping them to think and act like leaders. He’s spoken to more than half a million leaders in businesses, universities, athletic teams, and nonprofits. He was listed in the top 100 leadership speakers in America by Inc. magazine. He has published more than 35 books and today we're talking about his new book, I Can’t Wait: 52 Stories of Kids who Changed Their World.  Learn more about the I Can't Wait book here  You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024, in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Arlene's Free Marriage Webinar -- Get Unstuck in Your Marriage. If you feel stuck in a rut or you've just lost that lovin' feeling, register for Arlene's free marriage webinar here.  Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhome Special thanks to HireMyMom.com! 

Christmas can be a very happy time for families, but it can also be awkward or difficult if relationships are strained. Today's guest Anne Beiler (founder of Auntie Anne's Pretzels) grew up around the table, eating daily meals with her large Amish family. When things got very tough as she went into adulthood, the family still kept meeting around the table and it made all the difference in the world. Anne Beiler will share her story of heartbreak and conflict, of forgiveness and grace--and how she started making pretzels. Anne has a beautiful new cookbook, Come to the Table. In today's holiday conversation, you'll learn:  4:00 Growing up Amish, coming from a very big family of eight kids  6:30 My grandmother’s Christmas wreath (you could eat it!)  8:00 We were dirt poor…Christmas was very sparse  12:00 I learned how to share and communicate with people around the table (three times a day)  16:00 When your adult child is doing something you don’t approve of, you still come around the table  19:50 When I stopped wearing my head covering  21:40 Out of our pain, our purpose was born 26:00 How God miraculously redeemed my marriage  31:00 Seeing your first Auntie Anne’s in a foreign country   Anne Beiler is the founder of Auntie Anne Pretzels, the largest pretzel franchise in the world. She's the author of The Secret Lies Within and Overcome and Lead. Her new cookbook is Come to the Table--you can get it here. auntieannebeiler.com/cookbook You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024 in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel and Sally Burke. Early bird pricing is available now! happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Arlene's Free Marriage Webinar -- Get Unstuck in Your Marriage. If you feel stuck in a rut or you've just lost that lovin' feeling, register for Arlene's free marriage webinar here.  Subscribe to Arlene's free email list to get tech news and more to help your home. Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhome

Get your free 25 Days of Christmas activity guide for your family here. You can't control how your kids turn out, but you can guide them to love and know God. Our parenting efforts can get wasted on what is not really important. How can we help our kids develop Biblical character? How can we give our kids the gift of parenting differently? Founder of Celebrate Kids, Dr. Kathy Koch is here to help us determine which character traits need attention right now in your child's life. Her new book is Parent Differently: Raise Kids with Biblical Character That Changes Culture. Today you'll learn: 4:00 It's good to have character but THIS is even better… 8:35 What it means to live on purpose  9:00 The big three character traits your kids need  14:20 These tough conversations with our families are hard but needed  18:45 How to approach a negative change in your child’s behavior 24:00 Building character in your child with ADHD 27:55 Being aware of our choices can really make a difference  Dr. Kathy Koch is the founder and president of Celebrate Kids. She’s influenced thousands of parents, teachers, and children in 30 countries through her talks. She has a PhD from Purdue and is the author of several books including Screens and Teens, and 8 Great Smarts.   Learn more about her newest book Parent Differently here celebratekids.com/parentdifferently You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024, in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. Early bird pricing is still available, so get your tickets today. happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Arlene's Free Marriage Webinar -- Get Unstuck in Your Marriage. If you feel stuck in a rut or you've just lost that lovin' feeling, register for Arlene's free marriage webinar here.  Subscribe to Arlene's free email to help you have a happier home. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhome Special thanks to Hire My Mom! 

Wondering if you should wrap up that new phone for your child this Christmas? Before you do, listen to this episode as Arlene shares two big ideas for living in an intentional tech home. If you can use technology to help your kids and not hurt them, that will be a huge gift you can bring to your family this Christmas and beyond. Arlene talks about: 3:00 I had no intention of hurting her but I did 6:10 Don’t wait for tech to clean up its act  9:10 Picture a snow globe. What would the ideal amount of tech in your home look like?  13:00 Tech as a last resort, not as a first resort  16:50 Wrap this instead of a phone up for Christmas  18:25 Delay, delay, delay - the longer, the better  23:00 Is your child’s circadian rhythm working?  27:55 What do you want Christmas day to look like in your home with technology?  28:50 Does this help future me?  32:35 My suggested age(s) to get a smartphone Arlene Pellicane is the host of the Happy Home podcast, a speaker, and author of nine books including Parents Rising and Screen Kids. Learn more about Arlene on her website arlenepellicane.com and find out about her latest offerings at Happy Home University.  You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024, in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. Early bird pricing is available now! happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Arlene's Free Marriage Webinar -- Get Unstuck in Your Marriage. If you feel stuck in a rut or you've just lost that lovin' feeling, register for Arlene's free marriage webinar here.  Subscribe to Arlene's free email list to get tech news and more to help your home. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhome Special thanks to HireMyMom.com

Do you think of your marriage as a gift on most days? Marriage After God authors Aaron and Jennifer Smith are here to help you see your marriage in a beautiful light. They have a blueprint for building a strong marriage after God. You'll hear how to strengthen your most important relationship this Christmas season with ideas from their newest book, The Marriage Gift. Today, Aaron and Jennifer talk about:  3:40 Marriage based on good efforts vs marriage based on God 6:20 How do we get back to a God-based marriage? 9:50 This inoculates us from selfishness 15:15 How do you get your spouse interested in prayer? 21:00 Why does prayer protect your marriage in a powerful way?  24:11 Fitting in prayer with 5 children 27:30 Encouraging your husband to be a spiritual leader Since marrying in 2007, Aaron and Jennifer Smith have overcome challenges with God's help, founding the online ministries HusbandRevolution.com and UnveiledWife.com. Together they have written several books including 31 Prayers for My Future Husband and Marriage After God. They live with their five children in Oregon.  Learn more about Aaron and Jennifer Smith and their book, The Marriage Gift on their website. marriageaftergod.com You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024, in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill, and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. Early bird pricing is available now! More Resources for Your Family: Arlene's Free Marriage Webinar -- Get Unstuck in Your Marriage. If you feel stuck in a rut or you've just lost that lovin' feeling, register for Arlene's free marriage webinar here. Subscribe to Arlene's free email list to get tech news and more to help your home. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhome Special thanks to HireMyMom.com RELATED POSTS:25 Days of Christmas: Aaron and Jennifer Smith - The Marriage Gift