The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane

Your kids don't need you to be perfect--what they really need is to be directed towards a perfect God. How can parents recover this central mission of raising kids who know God and bring Him glory? Juan and Jeanine Sanchez, authors of Reaching Your Child's Heart, are here to guide us back to Biblical priorities in the home. Sharing their experience from raising five daughters who are now adults, you'll learn about: 3:45 Changing your mindset about parenting  6:35 What to do when you are frustrated with your spouse  11:04 Our central mission as parents  14:18 How to deal with sin in the home 19:49 A common pitfall in parenting that you might be falling into  22:20 What is a child-centered home vs. a parent-directed home? 25:49 Creating a real relationship with your kids Dr. Juan and Jeanine Sanchez have been married more than 30 years and are the authors of Reaching Your Child's Heart: A Practical Guide to Faithful Parenting. Juan serves as the senior pastor of High Pointe Baptist Church in Austin and is a council member of The Gospel Coalition and is the cofounder and president of Coalicion. Jeanine teaches English and writing to kids, and is a women’s Bible teacher. They have five grown adult daughters.  To learn more about Juan and Jeanine Sanchez and their book, Reaching Your Child's Heart, visit their website https://jandjsanchez.com/ Follow the Sanchezes on Facebook (Juan R. Sanchez), X (@manorjuan), and Instagram (@manorjuan and @jeaninedell). Get Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids to get a better grasp on tech this summer. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe

Are you struggling with your kids about screen time, friends, attitudes, chores, or anything else? How can you live in a place of victory--enjoying your family instead of enduring it? Dads can lead the way, and today I have a very special guest after Father's Day - my husband James Pellicane. We have been married for more than 25 years and have three children (one in college, one high school graduate, and one high schooler). In today's conversation, we share what's in the (not-so) secret sauce of creating a happy home. You'll learn about: 3:50 Creating “winning” experiences for your child  7:25 Why it is actually good for your kids to NOT get everything that they want  12:34 How to provide leadership for kids, even when they are teens  14:30 Try these activities with your kids  21:37 Why we chose to delay giving smartphones to our kids (and the beautiful result)  25:10 Getting on the same page with your spouse James Pellicane earned his MBA and MDiv from Regent University (where he met Arlene). For five years, he worked as a full-time business coach, coaching more than 400 clients. He's appeared on the Today Show with Arlene, and he is a Realtor/Broker in San Diego where he lives with Arlene and their three kids.  Interested in having James as a personal parenting coach? Inquire for more details by emailing speaking@arlenepellicane.com  Get Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids to get a better grasp on tech this summer. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Watch the free documentary, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words about how our kids have survived without social media, smartphones, and video games at HappyHomeUniversity.com https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/ Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome Save 25% at The Good Book.com. Use code Save 25 at checkout.

Maybe you're concerned about the quality of your kids' education and the morals being taught in the classroom. Could homeschooling be for your family? Author and homeschooling mom Monica Swanson is here to ease common fears, dispel misconceptions, and give practical tips about homeschooling to help. She also has encouragement for homeschoolers in her new book, Becoming Homeschoolers: Give your kids a great education, a strong family, and a life they'll thank you for later.  In today's conversation, you'll learn: 4:25 Homeschooling...is that even a possibility??? 7:51 How our kids can still socialize (even though they are homeschooled) 12:25 Getting your spouse on board with homeschooling  15:23 How homeschooling helps you grow as a parent  17:28 How and when to start homeschooling your kids  23:48 Transitioning to homeschooling in high school  27:45 My favorite thing about homeschooling Monica Swanson is a popular blogger, host of the Monica Swanson podcast (formerly the Boy Mom podcast), and author of Boy Mom, Raising Amazing, and her new book, Becoming Homeschoolers. Born and raised in the Pacific Northwest, Monica has a bachelor's degree in sports medicine and has spend much of her life as a personal coach and trainer. She and her husband Dave have four sons (one college grad, two in college, and a 13-year-old) and they live on the North Shore of Oahu, Hawaii. Find out more about Monica Swanson and her book Becoming Homeschoolers on her website https://monicaswanson.com/ Get Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids to get a better grasp on tech this summer. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhomeSave 25% at The Good Book.com. Use code Save 25 at checkout.

When you are going through a hard time, how do you fight for the well being of your family? You'll find out today with a podcast first - a mother and daughter team being interviewed - Julie Bennett and her daughter Joy. The Bennett family said yes to God and moved across the country from Oklahoma to Los Angeles, only to be met with numerous challenges including a cancer diagnosis for Julie. In today's conversation, you'll learn:  5:05 God is faithful, even when He calls to the unexpected  11:00 What our kids need from us when we are going through a hard time  18:20 Finding joy even when you are disappointed 21:30 Why is risk is so valuable in life for both kids and adults  25:00 How to navigate risks when things seem uncertain Julie Bennett and her husband Chris are the graduates of Baylor University and have spent the majority of their 23 years of marriage working in vocational ministry. They live in Malibu California where Chris serves as lead pastor of Vintage Church. They have three sons and one daughter, Joy (who you will meet on the podcast).  To learn more about the Bennett family and their book, Fighting for Family: The Relentless Pursuit of Building Belonging, visit their website https://www.fightingforfamily.org/ Follow Julie on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/juliebennett_/ Watch Julie and Chris Bennett on Good Morning America https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/gma3/video/tips-building-belonging-amidst-loneliness-epidemic-109431394 Get Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids to get a better grasp on tech this summer. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome

The summer months are moments away - are you excited? Panicked? A combination of both? We’re talking to licensed family therapist Dr. Joannie DeBrito. In this go-to summer survival guide, we're talking about:  5:24 How getting your kids outdoors has more benefits than I may think  12:10 What activities can I do with my kids to help get them off screens?  15:30 Making the most out of the summer as a working parent  19:07 How we can incorporate quiet time back into our kids’ lives?  25:04 Helping our teens recalibrate their sleep schedules  28:15 How we can help protect our kids from mental health issues  29:45 Smoothing out the summer in the midst of the challenges of having a blended family  Dr. Joannie DeBrito a licensed family therapist who works with Focus on the Family, specializing in youth and young adult mental health. She’s been working in this field for more than 30 years.  Find her articles on the Focus on the Family parenting blog: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/ Read her "Ask Dr. Joannie" column for grandparents at Legacy Coalition: https://legacycoalition.com/ask/ My reading list for kids and teens - one of many free resources at HappyHomeUniversity.com https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome

We warn our kids about drugs and alcohol, but when it comes to porn, we can be completely silent. It's hard to know what to say about pornography whether your child is five or fifteen. In this digital age, the chance your child will see porn is very high and they are being exposed to explicit pictures younger and younger. Kristen Jenson, author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures is here to help us defend our children from the harms of porn. On today's episode, you'll learn:  3:05 How to define and explain pornography to your child 7:20 When do I need to start warning my children about porn? 12:30 How can parents explain to their child that seeing a bad picture doesn’t make you a bad kid 16:10 How to talk to your teens about porn  20:36 After my child has seen porn, how can I help him or her get rid of those images in the mind?  24:40 What you need to know about the harms of pornography and your child's future  Kristen Jenson is the founder of Defend Young Minds and the bestselling author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures and Good Pictures, Bad Pictures Junior. Kristen speaks and writes to defend children from the harms of pornography. She has raised her strong voice at international conferences and symposiums. Her trusted resources include the Brain Defense Digital Safety curriculum, helping millions around the world defend their kids from sexual exploitation. Learn more about Kristen Jenson, her book Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, and the free resources she mentioned at the Defend Young Minds website https://www.defendyoungminds.com/ Enter to win a book bundle of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures by posting a comment on Arlene's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/ or Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor/ , or by emailing "Enter me in the contest" to speaking@arlenepellicane.com A winner will be chosen on June 1.  Find out more about Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome

How can moms stay sane and focused in everyday life? Arlene shares a special Mother's Day message to remind you of what's most important in raising your kiddos. Hint: It's not getting into the right college or getting them more followers on social media. How can you equip your kids for adulthood and do it with joy and purpose? In this message, Arlene talks about:  2:00 What are some things that wouldn’t happen without mom? 4:20 Should I bring my child’s tablet to school when he forgets it?  7:50 The boy Samuel grew in these ways  11:30 Helping your child do things they don’t feel like doing  14:00 The true measure of success  17:50 Launching an adult who loves God doesn’t happen by accident  21:45 A word to single moms Arlene Pellicane is the host of the Happy Home podcast, speaker, and author of several books including Screen Kids and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have three kids and live in San Diego.  Visit Arlene's website: https://arlenepellicane.com/ Check out Arlene's video courses: https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/ Get Arlene's book 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0736963502/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome

Parenting teens can be tough, but it doesn't have to be hopeless. Gospel Coalition's Mellissa B. Kruger shares the common pitfalls parents fall into, how to avoid them, and how to raise teens who will live for Jesus. Melissa's new book is Parenting with Hope: Raising Teens for Christ in a Secular Age. In today's conversation, you'll learn:  2:38 What will always stay the same with teens  4:25 How to help our kids be on board about being a follower of Christ  10:20 How to turn your child’s relationships into blessings  12:08 Wait, we can all be idolaters??!!  14:49 Recognizing when a good thing may be turning into an idol 21:58 How can we overcome the fear of missing out for our children  26:14 Understanding that as our kids grow, we also have to shift in our parenting mindset Melissa B. Kruger serves as Vice President of Discipleship Programming at the Gospel Coalition. She speaks at conferences across the country. She and her husband Michael have three young adult children.   Find out more about Melissa and her book Parenting with Hope on her website: https://melissabkruger.com/ Read Melissa's articles on the Gospel Coalition: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/ Watch the sessions from the Parents Rising Conference on demand - purchase access for $35 here: https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/conference Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel   https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome

When a child comes into a home through adoption, there are unique joys and challenges. You are probably familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman's five love languages. Do any adjustments need to be made to speak these love languages to adopted kids? Dr. Laurel Shaler has teamed up with Dr. Gary Chapman to write a new book Loving Adopted Children Well: A 5 Love Languages Approach. Today we're talking with Dr. Laurel Shaler about:  2:24 How to love adopted and biological children - is there a difference?  8:40 Laurel's journey of adoption  12:42 How adoption takes a step of faith  15:50 The unique challenges and joys of adoption  20:35 How to apply the 5 love languages to adopted children  25:21 We can see adoption in the Bible... Dr. Laurel Shaler is a nationally certified counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist. She is a professor at Liberty University and she’s teamed up with Dr. Gary Chapman to write the book, Loving Adopted Children Well: A 5 Love Languages Approach. You can learn more about the book and Dr. Laurel Shaler at drlaurelshaler.com Not feeling too happy as a mom? Get the encouragement you need today in Arlene's book, 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom. A lot can happen in 31 days! amazon.com/gp/product/0736963502/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome

Imagine what it would be like to move your family of 8 across the ocean only to find out your job had been canceled? That's what happened in the Smallbone family who you probably know as the band For King and Country. Joel Smallbone is here to talk about growing up without a proper bed but with a front-row seat to miracles. He's here to talk about his new film, Unsung Hero.  Joel Smallbone is one-half of the 4 time Grammy award-winning duo For King and Country with his brother Luke. They have generated over 2 billion streams, 10 GMA Dove awards, and 17 KLOVE fan awards. You know their songs from For God is With Us, God Only Knows, Joy, and Together. The new movie chronicling their family’s journey from Australia to America is called Unsung Hero. It opens in theaters nationwide on April 26.   To find out more about Unsung Hero, go to unsunghero.movie Listen to Helen Smallbone's podcast, MumLife Community on AccessMore accessmore.com/pd/MumLife-Community Not feeling too happy as a mom? Get the encouragement you need today in Arlene's book, 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom. A lot can happen in 31 days! amazon.com/gp/product/0736963502/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome