The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane

Are you tired of the screen time battles in your home? If you're constantly managing fights between your kids, meltdowns, or saying "put that away!" it may be time for a digital detox. Author and mom of six Molly DeFrank shares her family's journey of unplugging and outlines a detailed plan for you to do the same. Today's conversation is about:  2:30 Mother has had it! The birth of the digital detox 5:00 How do you present the digital detox to your kids? What does that talk sound like? 7:30 What are signs that your children need a detox from devices? 9:00 Mom, say this when your kids say I’m bored 12:00 The best part of the detox is noticing your child’s specific talents and interests 15:20 Do parents have to join the digital detox? If so, how? 17:30 Kids from foster care - adapting the digital detox for them 22:00 Here’s how you can continue the digital detox long term 25:20 You don’t have to be organized or a planner to do this digital detox because… Molly DeFrank is the mama of the digital detox. She's a stay home mom and foster mom of six kids ages 12 and under. She's been a guest on Good Morning America and her new book is Digital Detox: The 2 week tech reset for kids. Find out more on Molly's website Visit Happy Home University to subscribe to Arlene's free family monthly resources.  

This is the perfect episode to help you understand your son and/or your husband better!  What are the 5 masculine instincts? This week's guest, pastor and author Chase Replogle is here to explain what these instincts are and how to leverage them for good. In today's conversation, we're talking about:  3:00 What can we learn from Shakespeare’s stages of a man?  4:25 Instincts - are they good or bad?   6:00 The example of Cain and the instinct of sarcasm  9:30 How can we nudge our son to care instead of check out?   10:30 A working definition of humility: self-suspicion  14:30 What is C.S. Lewis talking about in the Abolition of Man when he refers to chestless men?   18:30 How can we make church more attractive for men? For boys?   22:00 Hunting for turkeys!  25:00 Men need adventures, extremes of too much adventure or too little (apathy)  27:00 The call of God on Samson’s life - the need to watch our spiritual lives carefully  Chase Replogle is a pastor and author of the 5 Masculine Instincts. He’s pastored the Bent Oak Church in Springfield, Missouri for 10 years. He is the host of the Pastor Writer podcast, a native of the Ozark woods, and he enjoys being outdoors with his wife and two kids. Find out more at pastorwriter.com. Do you have a happy husband? Take the free quiz at Happy Home University.

Pornography is not what it used to be. Much more than just photos of unclothed adults, it's more violent and prevalent than ever. How can you keep your kids safe online? Expert and author Dr. John Foubert is here to explain how pornography is affecting the brains, hearts and future families of children and teens. On today's episode you'll learn:  3:00 What is happening in a child’s brain when they see pornography?  4:50 Can a brain reset back to a healthy level after porn use?   5:20 Why is porn especially dangerous to tween and teens?   7:10 How soon do you talk to your kids about this subject?  10:20 From 2008-2011, exposure to kids under 13 rose from 14% to 49%  13:00 What do studies show between the link between porn and sexual violence?   15:00 How should you respond when you catch your child looking at pictures of naked people? 16:20 Did you know there is a link between porn and depression and anxiety? 18:00 The physical damages that happen to kids when they view porn  21:50 How to best talk with your kids about porn in a way they will want to listen to you  Today's guest Dr. John Foubert is a thought leader who has testified before Congress and has been called on by the White House and the Pentagon about how to end sexual violence. He’s been a guest on CNN and NPR and is cited regularly in papers like the NY Times, US News and World Report, and the Washington Post. Dr. Foubert's newest book is Protecting Your Children from Internet Pornography - understanding the science, risks, and ways to protect your kids.  Learn more about Dr. John Foubert on his website. Visit Happy Home University for Arlene's free monthly resource. 

How can you get your teen girl more engaged with the Bible? Mom of three girls and founder of the ministry Love God Greatly, Angela Perritt, is here to share her enthusiasm for studying the Bible and how you can pass that love to your children and teenagers. We're talking about her new study Bible, the Young Women Love God Greatly Bible. In today's conversation, you'll learn:  5:00 How you can give girls a wider view of the world, a love for other nations   7:10 How to encourage kids who follow God because they WANT to, not because they HAVE to  9:00 What can a mom do to nudge a daughter to read God’s Word when she is not interested?   10:50 How can a Bible reading plan be a game changer in your family? 12:00 How do you apply the “SOAP” method of studying the Bible?  15:00 Let’s talk about the difference between reading the Bible in print or on the phone  17:50 This is one of the biggest lies this generation of girls is hearing 23:00 How can church history help our kids to be bolder about their faith?   26:00 Words of advice to moms who want to start a non-profit, ministry, or business  Angela Perritt is the founder and director of LoveGodGreatly.com, a nonprofit online Bible study ministry reaching thousands of women in over 200 countries around the world with God's Word through their translated Bible studies. Angela and her husband live in Dallas with their three daughters. Today we talked about her Young Women Love God Greatly Bible (it's a BEAUTIFUL study Bible).   Visit Happy Home University to subscribe to Arlene's email list and receive your free monthly resource, Five Stress Busters for Mom. 

Friends, co-workers, and even family members are avoiding each other because they don't agree. We are struggling to get along. Bestselling author Jay Payleitner has a new book to help titled, Don't Take the Bait to Escalate. How can family members enjoy more peace and less fighting? In today's conversation, you'll learn:  3:45 How conflict can be a good thing 6:00 What are the four factors involved in conflict?  6:40 How did you and your wife settle your peanut butter dispute?  9:40 It might not be about compromise, it might mean taking turns to help your family member chase a dream  11:00 Escalation doesn't always involve getting louder  11:55 Re-connecting with someone you are estranged from  19:50 What do you do when your middle school aged girl is wearing shorts that are too short?  23:50 When you're in a pit in your marriage, do this... Jay Payleitner's new book is Don’t Take the Bait to Escalate: Conflict is inevitable, being a jerk is optional. Jay has worked with the National Center for Fathering, and has sold more than half a million books including 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad and Moms Bringing Out the Best in Dads. He and his wife Rita have raised five kids, loved on 10 foster babies, and are enjoying grandparenthood. Learn more at jaypayleitner.com. Visit Happy Home University to subscribe to Arlene's email list and receive your free monthly resource, Five Stress Busters for Mom. 

Over a half a million readers have joined the journey of Instagram sensations Ashley and Dino Petrone (@ArrowsandBow). They share the adventures, mishaps, and joys of marriage and parenting through the lens of interior design. In their debut book, Designed to Last, you'll hear about their experience living in a 800 square foot trailer with their family of five. In today's fun interview, you'll hear:  2:30 How they rushed into marriage - thanks to their moms  4:00 Ashley: "I had no idea I married a gamer."  5:50 What if dad is playing video games with the kids and mom is concerned about it?  8:10 Wives, instead of nagging, do this... 11:55 How did you go from obsession to moderation when it comes to video games?  14:35 Why did you move your family of five into an RV?   16:30 Was it hard to sell all your things?   17:50 How did your kids like living in the RV? What did they think about having just a few things each?  19:00 After moving out of the RV, how did you keep the same close family vibe going?   21:00 Why the Instagram name Arrows and Bow?   22:00 Advice for the aspiring mom entrepreneur  25:00 How do you complement each other in business and in life?  25:50 Social media as a business, but not as something we want our kids on  28:40 Our rhythms to keep social media in check  Ashley and Dino Petrone have been married since 2006 and make their home in Florida with their four kids (baby added since the RV!). Ashley began her popular Instagram account @ArrowsandBow as a way to document her home-design journey. Dino is a senior engineer and Ashley is a full-time mom, blogger, and interior designer. Visit them online and check out their book Designed to Last at www.arrowsandbow.com. Visit Happy Home University to subscribe to Arlene's email list and receive your free monthly resource, Five Stress Busters for Mom. 

How would you like to let go of performance based parenting? Bestselling author Renee Swope is here to share from her latest book, A Confident Mom. With many heart warming and relatable examples from her own life, you'll learn how to focus on building character, not perfection, in the heart of your child. We'll talk about: 2:30 Ready to turn in your pink slip as a mom?  4:20 How do you mine for gold in the heart’s of your children?  6:50 When your child is mean, try this  8:00 Engaging boys in devotionals - how to make it more interactive (you can use M&Ms)  10:45 Apologizing to our kids when we are unkind  12:50 When a younger brother is frustrated that he can’t do what older brother can do  14:50 How do you encourage character in the lives of your adult children?  19:00 How to support your kids’ career choices  20:40 Adjusting your expectations as an adoptive parent, when your child has developmental delays  26:00 A surprising (beautiful) moment in the carpool lane  28:00 The Instagram reel versus real life Renee Swope is an author, podcast host, and popular speaker. She's the mom to three kids and lives in North Carolina. Find out more about Renee and her book, A Confident Mom, at her website Reneeswope.com Get Arlene's free Five Stress Busters for Moms at Happy Home University by subscribing to her email list.

Moms can have lots of questions for God. Why are my kids facing certain challenges? What college should my child attend? How do I get my child to stop talking back?  When we can bring our honest requests to God and surrender outcomes to Him - there is freedom and an open invitation for God to do His best work. In this special message in preparation for Mother's Day, Arlene looks at the life of Hannah in the Old Testament. What can we learn from her prayer of surrender? Arlene will talk about:  2:00 When your child says, “Make me!”  7:00 Living in a time of moral decay  9:40 Showdown: Hannah versus Penninah  11:45 Moms should neither boast too much about their kids nor belittle them  15:00 When you feel like you’re not enough  20:00 Hannah prays a prayer that changes everything  23:00 When you weep before God, He will comfort you  24:00 Did you know there’s a physical difference between the tears you cry when chopping onions and the tears you cry when you are sad?  25:00 How to rejoice even before your prayer is answered 32:00 Trusting God while you are waiting for God to fulfill His promises to your family Get Arlene's free Five Stress Busters for Moms at Happy Home University by subscribing to her email list.

Overworked mom of ten Tricia Goyer thought she had to have it all together. Yet during a season of messiness, failure and chaos, Tricia felt God speaking overwhelming love in her life. In the search for being "heart happy" (living with joy and peace), Tricia found that intentional habits and time invested with God brought the renewal she craved. In this conversation about Tricia's new book, Heart Happy: Staying Centered in God's Love During Chaotic Circumstances, you'll learn:3:30 What does it mean to have a happy heart? 4:20 Tricia's background starting out as a single mom, getting married, having 10 kids, foster care…6:50 Don’t interrupt mama when she’s having her Jesus time (cause she needs that Jesus time!!!)8:00 How to spend time with God when you’re raising young kids and life is crazy 12:45 You don’t have to have the right response exactly when something happens. You can wait and respond later. 13:45 Taking time for soul care - a few ideas to nourish and reset 17:00 There’s nothing you can do to make God love you more (getting out of performance mode) 19:50 Cooking for a BIG family and how to use the time in the kitchen creatively 21:00 Reconciling the hurts of the past with a happy heart - dealing with father wounds 26:30 Specific advice for single moms Tricia Goyer is a busy mom of ten, grandmother of many, and wife to John. A USA-Today bestselling author, she has published 75 books. Learn more about her newest book, Heart Happy.

When you argue about money with your spouse, do you need a therapist or financial planner? Researcher and author Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff spent three years on a national research project on love and money. They found that conflict about money usually isn't about money at all. In this conversation with Shaunti about her book, Thriving in Love & Money, you'll find out:  3:30 Why most couples can’t talk about money 5:30 What to do when you’re not on the same page about money  6:30 If you are having tension around money, it’s probably not about the money. It’s about how money makes you feel. 9:20 What if one spouse is a saver and one is a spender?  13:00 Talking through regrets over past purchases  18:20 What if I want to be the boss over how my income is used (let’s do what I want to do!)?  22:50 How to start having conversations about money when you want to talk but your spouse doesn’t 24:20 Shaunti’s funny money confession!  30:00 Gut level fears being triggered by money - what’s the difference between men and women?  Shaunti (and her husband Jeff) Feldhahn are bestselling authors, renowned social researchers, and popular speakers. Both with professional degrees from Harvard (where they met), their books have sold 3 million copies in 25 languages. Learn more about Shaunti at her website. Take the free money assessment or get the book Thriving in Love and Money  Save $50 on Arlene's Happy Husband masterclass by using the promo code HAPPY HappyHomeUniversity.com/happyhusband