Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

You can give someone your best on a silver platter, and they might not like silver. That tells us nothing about you, except that you weren’t right for them. Be kind to yourself until you find the one who loves precious metals—and don’t even try to be friends with your ex until “I love you” fades to “I’d be fine playing a board game with you then leaving.”Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s not wrong to want to hurt the person who hurt you (but it is wrong to take your scathing shower comebacks into the real world). You can’t reason your way out of anger, but you can rely on your circle to build yourself up, let people know how much this experience affected you, and remember that this won’t be this hard forever.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not having a threesome isn’t an excuse for cheating. And if they did cheat, then you get to decide how the relationship goes from there. Ask yourself: Is it working? Is it worth it? Have they earned their place in your life? Or is the well bone dry, and you’re holding out for trickles? It’s abundant elsewhere if you’re willing to look.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Having empathy is not at odds with demanding accountability. You can respond compassionately to someone’s struggles and still advocate for what you need to have a healthy, functioning relationship with them—anywhere from setting a series of small boundaries to cutting them off completely. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your ex’s new relationship did not rise out of the corpse of your old one. Some people choose to leave us (and in decidedly cruel ways, too). It’s definitely unfair that we’re forced to carry the pain of their actions, but we CAN rightsize our trauma and investigate what’s hiding behind our embarrassment.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Valentine's Day! Or Not. Whatever, it's just a Tuesday.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Food Science BabeJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adult friendships are HARD. But they’re worth it, even if every new friend won’t be your BFF (or show you their butt, *cough cough* Sam). By recognizing the extreme diversity in human relationships, we can meet people where they are, enforce our boundaries, and enjoy the connection as is without expecting all friends to fulfill all needs. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating again after marriage? Welcome to your second adolescence! Be kind to yourself as you learn this new skill, especially if you’re carrying around grief that you don’t know where to put. Start challenging your own preferences as you explore the parameters of your desire—don’t worry, you’re not wasting anyone’s time. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Food Science BabeJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get this lady a horse so that she can ride outta that wedding! If you need more time to make a major life decision, take it. Just make sure the decision is “do I want to marry THIS man, THIS month?” and not “do I want to be with this man or this OTHER man?” (or worse, the IDEA of this other man).Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s okay to want to be with someone who has more to say. But it’s more important to figure out what their silence triggers in you. If your anxiety monster will allow it, imagine what it would feel like to believe your partner when they say “I’m fine.”Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices