Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

The ADHD diagnosis can be as confusing as it is illuminating, unlocking doors in yourself you never knew to be closed. Just as it is a journey for you as you learn to live with these new words that suddenly describe you, it is as much a journey for those who love you. Parents, siblings, and others who care about you will experience a range of emotions as they, too, learn about your diagnosis. This week on the show, inspired by a listener request, Nikki and Pete are taking on how to talk to your loved ones after you receive your ADHD diagnosis and give you some tools you can use to frame the conversation to work toward shared understanding and growth. Links & Notes Episode Transcript (00:00) - The ADHD Podcast (01:44) - Listener Letter! (05:12) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon (06:36) - Talking to loved ones after diagnosis (11:55) - The nature of 'fault' (13:28) - Truth and Fact, Education ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

ADHD Coach Caroline Maguire is back! She’s a coach, author, teacher, and speaker with a special focus in social skills supporting kids — and parents of kids — with ADHD. She’s just about to celebrate the release of her new book, Why Will No One Play with Me?: The Play Better Plan to Help Children of All Ages Make Friends and Thrive and we’re thrilled she came back to share the story of the book, and why social skills are so critical for kids and adults alike in healthy development. Her book is scheduled for launch in September, but follow the links below to be notified of availability or pre-order now. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Episode Transcript Why Will No One Play with Me?: The Play Better Plan to Help Children of All Ages Make Friends and Thrive by Caroline Maguire Pre-order Now Learn more about Caroline Maguire Caroline Maguire on Facebook (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:22) - Support The ADHD Podcast (02:59) - Introducing Caroline Maguire (04:48) - "Why will no one play with me?" (08:37) - Teaching parents how to coach their kids (20:20) - Making friends as an adult (27:36) - What about the meds? (31:07) - College (37:26) - Writing with ADHD (42:17) - Get on the list ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Adult diagnosis of ADHD is, by all our evidence on this show, an enormously liberating thing. We learn so much about ourselves, put a clear and cogent frame around our experience, that we can truly change the way we relate to the world around us. There's baggage that comes to this experience late in life, however: many of us live in a culture that puts outsized value on achievement and success in the young. There's a brewing conversation on the value of late bloomers, particularly but not exclusively in the US, and it's time to talk about the values that come along with blooming late — and what other late bloomers can learn from those who've been blooming late with ADHD all along. Welcome to the club, late bloomers. Glad to have you. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Rich Karlgaard on WAMC Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement by Rich Karlgaard Why Late Bloomers are Undervalued — TEDxFargo Dr. Elkhonon Goldberg (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (03:15) - A Note of Congratulations to Listener Dave (05:22) - Late Blooming, also Pete Uses "Jam" Too Much (09:28) - 'Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement' by Rich Karlgaard (13:08) - Filtering for Stand-Out Achievers (19:12) - Brains bake longer than we thought (23:18) - The 6 Core Values of the Late Bloomer... and ADHD Pals (27:29) - Repotting (31:56) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

For many of us, our relationship with Dr. Edward Hallowell, M.D., Ed.D., started with his best-selling 1994 book, Driven to Distraction. He's the author of 20 books on various psychological topics and is a highly recognized international speaker on ADHD, focus, productivity, and beyond. He’s the founder of The Hallowell Centers, and has been featured as a guest expert across the media landscape, not to mention he’s a terrific host of his own podcast, DISTRACTION, which focuses on, you guessed it, the struggles and distractions of this amped up world. Dr. Hallowell joins us today to talk about self-esteem. It’s a subject that creeps in and out of our community regularly with questions that angle on our perception of self, our sometimes flagging love and appreciation of ourselves, and who better to help us assess self-esteem and the ADHD role in our self-perception than one of the premier leaders in our field and the ADHD experience. Links & Notes Because I Came from a Crazy Family: The Making of a Psychiatrist by Ned Hallowell Driven to Distraction by Ned Hallowell DrHallowell.com Subscribe to Distraction Podcast with Dr. Ned Hallowell (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:34) - Introducing Dr. Ned Hallowell (04:53) - How does self-esteem impact ADHD? Ferrari Brain, Bicycle Brakes (09:57) - Climbing Mount Shame to see more clearly (14:56) - How can you get beyond shame to ask for help? (21:46) - Is social media a solution for connection? (26:32) - Listener Questions ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week on the show, Nikki takes to the mic to interview Pete and Tommy Metz III about their podcast, ‘What’s That Smell?’ Over the last three seasons of WTS, Pete and Tommy have learned a lot about sharing their anxieties with the world through the podcast, and about helping others to laugh in the face of their own fears. Today on the show, we’re going to hear what that journey has done for them in dealing with their own anxieties, and how Pete’s ADHD journey parallels his anxieties on the way. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Learn more about the show and find links to subscribe in your favorite podcast app at WhatsThatSmell.net (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast! (00:32) - Become a Patron Supporter! (01:06) - A Very Special Podcast Podcast: What's That Smell? (36:52) - What's That Smell? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Optimism is about more than just parading around happily all the time. It’s a worldview that has direct and powerful connections to your social group, your productivity, and your very own health! This week on the show, we’re talking all about optimism. You’ll understand the kind of language you might be using that becomes the pessimism trap, you’ll learn about recent research connecting your worldview to your cardiovascular health, and you’ll discover how you can incorporate a daily optimism practice into your routine with ease! Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Join The ADHD Podcast Public Discord Server (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast: The Choice to be Optimistic! (01:32) - Support the ADHD Podcast on Patreon (02:58) - Optimism ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

By the age of 12, children with ADHD hear 20,000 more negative messages than their peers. Those messages are teaching lessons about self-esteem, courage, confidence, initiative, and decision-making that become deeply rooted in their identity. That's kids, but what happens to those kids as they grow up? 20,000 negative messages grows exponentially as we move into college, or our first jobs, our careers. And what about those of us diagnosed later in life? Those of us who heard all those same negative messages, but had nothing to attribute them to? This week on the show we’re talking all about resilience, that state of being that allows us to rebound from short-term setbacks, and adapt to long-term change, without letting our ADHD get in the way. Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (03:40) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon (07:12) - Resilience (17:21) - Assessments of Friction ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Language is an important factor in how we integrate ourselves with the world around us. It determines our worldview and can go a long way toward determining how well we succeed in what we’re trying to accomplish toward our goals but simply giving us the intrinsic motivation to keep moving forward. To set yourself up for success, you might want to explore whether you’ve adopted a growth mindset, or if you’ve adopted the inner language of fixed resistance. This week on the show, we’re exploring the Growth Mindset. Thanks to some innovative work in how we approach our challenges, we have all the tools we need to improve our confidence and avoid getting mired in the resistance. Sponsor: Our research for today’s show is anchored in the work of Dr. Carol Dweck and her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. If you’re interested in the book, you can get it today for free by visiting audibletrial.com/theadhdpodcast and signing up for a new account. Browse the catalog, search for Mindset, and download it today. If you love it, keep the account and get new audiobooks every single month! If you don’t, no problem… cancel your account but the book is yours for keeps! Links & Notes Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck, Ph.D — Kindle MindSetWorks.com (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:08) - Submit your questions! questions@takecontroladhd.com (02:11) - The Growth Mindset (05:01) - Sponsor: AudibleTrial.com/TheADHDPodcast and get 'Mindset' Free (06:22) - MindsetWorks.com (07:06) - The Fixed Mindset (13:34) - The Growth Mindset (19:49) - How do you shift to Growth? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

A mind map can be a truly transformational personal tool for integrating new information into your system — and your memory! With a little exploration and practice, you can learn how to develop a mind map that presents information the way your brain actually interprets it, through concepts, images and ideas. What is it that makes mind maps such a unique tool, and what do you need to learn to make mind maps that allow you to capture quickly without overwhelm? Join us this week to find out! Links & Notes Coggle Mindly iMindMap MindMeister Mind Node (00:02) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (03:54) - Question: Advice on the PRAXIS for Teachers? (06:52) - Question: SQ3R? (09:34) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon (11:28) - Mind Mapping ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

That little voice in your head? The one telling you that you have no business doing what you're doing? That's the resistance. And you can tell it to shove off. This week on the show, Nikki and Pete review some of the reasons you might be feeling the resistance. Sure, you might be accustomed to calling it procrastination, but is there more to it than that? Have you reflected on the underlying conditions that might be getting in the way of accomplishing your goals, from planning thoroughly, from trying something new? It's up to you do do some healthy resistance house cleaning... and we're starting now! Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast! (01:15) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon — Join the Community! (02:00) - Can we talk about resistance? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★