Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

ADHD is part of us. You’ll hear a lot of people talking about how they can help you “fix” your ADHD but they always seem to forget that first part. We’ve learned over the last few weeks about the nature of acceptance, of embracing the parts of us that are hard and approaching them with curiosity and courage. What happens when you fully integrate all of ADHD — challenges and blessings — into your identity? What can you learn about yourself and the way you face the challenges ahead?This week on the show, a meditation on fault, blame, and what it really means to fix ADHD. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:43) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! (05:55) - You do not need to be fixed. (09:20) - The ADHD House of Cards (14:29) - The Experts on Acceptance ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

You might have heard of the stages of denial. But have you heard of the stages of acceptance? Dr. Dodge is back with us this week to share the similarities and differences between the two models and illuminate just how powerful it can be when discussing our relationship to ADHD.Links & NotesSubscribe to The Change Paradox with Dodge ReaThe Four Stages of Acceptance — Marty Cooper, MFTListen to Nikki Kinzer and The ADHD Paradox on The Change Paradox with Dodge ReaListen to Ted Klontz and Facing our Hardest Change Softly on The Change Paradox with Dodge Rea (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:00) - Support the ADHD Podcast on Patreon (03:14) - Introducing Dr. Dodge Rea (04:18) - Acceptance (07:04) - A bit about the paradox of change (15:07) - Stage 1: Denial (17:18) - Stage 2: Recognition (29:02) - Stage 3: Resignation (38:42) - Stage 4: Acceptance ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Divorce is one of the greatest challenges we face. Even the best of divorces brings an emotional cost. Living with ADHD, the costs that come from disorganization and distraction can be so much higher.Beyond the stress of disolving your relationship, embarking on a journey into the legal system brings with it a raft of uncertainty and doubt — a system that cares very little about your ADHD. This week on the show, Tampa-based divorce attorney Seth Nelson joins us to help us understand where our ADHD will be most pressured, and where a great law firm can help you pull your weight. About Seth NelsonAt Nelson Koster, the motto is “Helping good people through difficult times.” This is Mr. Nelson’s aim in every case, though how he works to achieve it varies greatly with each family’s unique situation.From an early age, he has always wanted to help people. After law school he found that he could do the greatest good by helping people through one of the most difficult times of their lives. Being a divorcee himself, as well as a father, he understands what you’re going through.Mr. Nelson focuses on Florida divorce law, Florida family law, and Florida family law mediation. He earned his Juris Doctorate from the University of Florida’s College of Law. After law school, he clerked for the Honorable John C. Godbold, Senior Circuit Judge for the United States Eleventh Circuit Court of Appeals. Returning home to Tampa, he then worked for other Florida law firms before establishing his own practice in South Tampa. Since 2008, he has been the sole shareholder of Nelson Koster.Links & NotesNelson Koster Family Law and MediationHow to Split a Toaster: A divorce podcast about saving your relationships (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:18) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! (03:48) - Introducing Seth Nelson (08:59) - Conscious Uncoupling? (12:41) - Where does the legal process challenge ADHD? (15:04) - How does the attorney keep track of detail? (18:00) - What happens if you're behind on your taxes when you divorce? (20:46) - The costs of a divorce (23:17) - The trial experience (25:58) - Nikki's Pop Quiz (33:26) - Divorce in an abusive relationship (40:03) - How do you know if you're hiring a good lawyer? (46:22) - The bounds of family law ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Today, we take a stroll down anxiety lane to talk about how it relates to ADHD and how you might find calm after an anxiety storm.The relationship between ADHD and anxiety is, in a word, tight. If you’re living with ADHD there is a significant chance you’re living with anxiety, too, even if you’re not genetically predisposed to the later. The research shows that what you need to do to address each condition depends on that very special pairing of your unique circumstances. Today, we review how the two conditions impact one another, how we live with anxiety in our own lives, and how we can step back, take stock, and find calm. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (02:50) - Support the show • Become a Patron! (07:52) - GPS: Guided Planning Sessions (09:42) - Our old friend, Anxiety ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

"Move on,” you say to yourself. And yet, you perseverate. You left work incomplete, you let someone down, you missed a deadline… you’re feeling the burden of those losses and yet, the world continues to spin. How do you maintain composure enough to be able to say with confidence that it’s time to move on, move forward, tackle a new challenge tomorrow and free your mind from the losses of today?Today we’re talking about perseveration: "repetitive and continuous behavior, speech or thought that occurs due to changes in cognitive skills such as memory, attention, and mental flexibility.” While perseveration is often connected to brain injury, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, or aphasia, it has a common connection to, you guessed it, attention. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (02:33) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! (04:33) - Move On. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

New season, new questions! It’s been too long since we took on your fantastic submissions so we’re clearing the deck this New Year with discussion on ADHD paradoxes, health, ableism, and so much more.Along the way, head over to The Theme System to see what Myke Hurley and CGP Grey have cooked up with the release of their second edition Theme Journal!Can margin exist with hyperfocus? Can you be kind to yourself AND challenge yourself to be better? Are you keeping resolutions this year, or clearing out any tolerations? (The 2021 Purge!)How do you explain executive functioning to someone with no experience with it? What do you look for in an accountability partner?Hey Pete... how you feeling? Thank you to everyone who submitted questions — keep ‘em coming! (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:31) - Support the show • Become a Patron! (05:12) - Margin vs Hyperfocus? (11:00) - Can you be kind AND challenge yourself at the same time? (17:10) - Do you have any resolutions or tolerations to take care of in 2021? (25:25) - Ableism? (32:35) - Eplaining Executive Functioning (41:29) - What to look for in an accountability partner? (48:04) - How are you feeling, Pete? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week, we’re taking a bit of time to reflect. No, 2020 hasn’t been the best year in recent memory. But does that mean we didn’t learn, grow, and change? Of course we did! Today, we talk about it.We’re sharing insights from clients and community members, guests on the show and more. Plus we have a list of tools that might just come in handy which we’ve adopted this year and have led to a little change in their own right.Links & NotesYouNeedABudgetMission ForwardThe Change ParadoxHow to Split a ToasterWhat's That Smell Season 5(!)ObsidianRoam ResearchGoodLinksAffinity Design Tools from SerifCoda.io (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:04) - Support the Show • Become A Patron! (02:24) - 2021 Livestream Recording Time Change (04:30) - The 2020 Reflection ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We’re not always the friendliest narrators of our own lives. Sure, everyone makes mistakes. Everyone is late to a meeting or call from time to time. Everyone has rough days. But if you’re living with ADHD, there’s a good chance you’ve taken the practice of celebrating your perceived failures to an art form.This week on the show, thanks to the inspiration of the work of Susan David and her writing in and around emotional agility, we’re talking all about ADHD and self-compassion. If we’re adept at speaking to ourselves with bile, how will we learn, change, and grow? It turns out, there are steps we can take… and we’re going to try and take a few of them today.Links & Notes‘The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage’ – TEDTalk by Dr. Susan DavidSusanDavid.comGive Me That Panic Attack with Pete Wright — Pete’s guest spot on Systematic with Brett Trpstra (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (00:28) - Pete's Guest Bit on Systematic (02:10) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! (05:43) - ADHD and Self-Compassion Inspired by Susan David ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

You know what it takes to break down tasks… we talk about that all the time. But what happens when you investigate the underlying ADHD challenge associated with it? You become an ADHD super-sleuth!To do it, you have to be crafty. You have to sneak up on the symptoms of your ADHD experience and recognize them for what they are. Then you have to test, and test again, changing your behavior bit by bit until you recognize that somewhere buried in your frustration and your personal sense of weakness… there is actually strength! Plus, Pete gets the chance to talk about Underpants Gnomes. How can you miss that? (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:50) - Check out Nikki on The Change Paradox (03:18) - Skunkface (07:49) - Listener Question: Striking out as an Entrepreneur? (14:58) - Breaking Down an ADHD Challenge (23:08) - Underpants Gnomes (28:06) - Discerning the "Why" ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Dr. Sharon Saline has focused her work on ADHD, anxiety, learning differences and mental health challenges and their impact on school and family dynamics for over 30 years. She’s channeled this experience and expertise into her book, What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life. She recently published The ADHD Solution Deck: 50 Strategies to Help Kids Learn, Reduce Stress & Improve Family Connections.As we move into the winter months, the wake of the pandemic always just ahead of us, Dr. Saline is here to talk about ADHD Parenting under stress, particularly when COVID comes home.Links & NotesDr. Sharon SalineWhat Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life by Dr. Sharon Saline and Dr. Laura MarkhamThe ADHD Solution Deck: 50 Strategies to Help Kids Learn, Reduce Stress & Improve Family Connections by Dr. Sharon Saline (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:00) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! (01:53) - Introducing Dr. Sharon Saline (07:50) - Distracted Adaptation (17:32) - The Anxiety Whack-a-Mole (29:48) - The 50 Solutions ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★