Time with Tim Fletcher

People who have experienced trauma have trouble regulating their emotions. They have a stress response system that is overactive and overreactive. It often results in problems in relationships and at work. Why is emotional dysregulation part of trauma? What can a person do to change? Having a tendency in life to live for instant gratification may seem innocent, but it can lead to many unforeseen problems. It is an especially difficult issue for people with Complex Trauma. Why is that? What are practical tools for change?This is a lecture originally published on YouTube on Jul 23, 2021. We are making some of Tim's lectures available as bonus episodes on the podcast so you can listen on the go. To see all of Tim's talks, visit YouTube, where you can find hundreds of his talks both old and new.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.

In this episode of the Time with Tim podcast, Tim and Andy speak again with Jenna Miscavige Hill. Jenna grew up in the Church of Scientology, a world shaped by control, suppression, secrecy, and fear. As the niece of Scientology’s leader, David Miscavige, she was immersed in a system designed to break individuality and demand absolute loyalty. But Jenna had something that system couldn’t erase—her own mind. In time, she found the strength to question, to break free, and to reclaim her life.In this conversation, Jenna Miscavige and Tim Fletcher discuss healing from trauma, especially within high-control religions like Scientology. Jenna lets us in on some of the systems in Scientology, like the tone scale and marking someone as a Suppressive Person. They talk about emotional suppression, finding authenticity, and the importance of understanding emotions. Jenna shares her personal experiences, emphasizing self-discovery and coping with emotional triggers. They cover themes like shame, abandonment, and the need for self-compassion and self-care. Their chat highlights the importance of emotional awareness, expressing feelings clearly, and the healing power of play, encouraging a balanced approach to emotional well-being.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.

In this episode of the Time with Tim podcast, Andy engages in a heartfelt conversation with LIFT facilitators Kirstin and Charlene about their personal journeys through trauma recovery. They discuss their experiences in Tim Fletcher's LIFT program, the importance of vulnerability, the role of boundaries, and the significance of connection in healing. Both Kirstin and Charlene share pivotal moments that transformed their understanding of themselves and their relationships with others. They also offer valuable advice for those beginning their Complex Trauma recovery journey, emphasizing the need for self-love and the courage to reach out for help. The conversation highlights the ongoing nature of healing and personal growth, as well as the power of community support.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxChapters00:00:00 Introduction to the Journey00:04:14 Exploring Personal Interests and Balance00:14:11 Navigating Vulnerability and Anxiety00:18:36 The Path to the LIFT Program00:25:26 Pivotal Moments in the LIFT Program00:33:21 Understanding Boundaries and Self-Care00:40:13 Journey Through Healing: Phase One Insights00:47:04 Deepening Understanding: Phase Two Revelations00:50:25 The Power of Connection in Healing01:04:14 Advice for Newcomers: Reaching Out for Help01:10:05 Personal Growth: Navigating Co-dependency and AgencyIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.

In this episode of the Time with Tim podcast, Tim and Andy speak with Jenna Miscavige. Jenna grew up in the Church of Scientology, a world shaped by control, secrecy, and fear. As the niece of Scientology’s leader, she was immersed in a system designed to break individuality and demand absolute loyalty. But Jenna had something that system couldn’t erase—her own mind. In time, she found the strength to question, to break free, and to reclaim her life.In this first conversation, Tim leads the discussion, guiding Jenna through the story of her childhood—what it was like to grow up in a world where obedience was everything, the punishments for stepping out of line, and what ultimately gave her the courage to leave. Throughout this series, we’ll explore not just the trauma of high-control systems but also the resilience, healing, and meaning that come after. Follow Jenna on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JennaMiscavige/Buy 'Beyond Belief: My Secret Life Inside Scientology and My Harrowing Escape': https://a.co/d/i8see05Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.

In this Q&A episode of the Time with Tim podcast, Andy and Tim explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on painful dynamics such as narcissism and codependency. They discuss the importance of setting boundaries, recognizing emotional abuse, and the challenges of finding closure after a difficult relationship. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness, self-care, and the gradual process of healing, while also providing practical tools for navigating these challenges.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.

In this episode, Tim Fletcher shares his personal journey of growth and healing from complex trauma, discussing the importance of connection, vulnerability, and understanding boundaries in relationships. He reflects on his experiences with introversion, the challenges of counseling, and the transformative power of connection in healing. Tim emphasizes the need for ongoing learning and self-awareness to uncover blind spots and navigate the complexities of human relationships.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.

In this episode of the Time with Tim podcast, Tim shares insights from his upbringing, his journey to becoming a pastor, and the profound impact of his family on his personal development. He discusses the importance of understanding complex trauma, the role of relationships and boundaries in personal growth, and the lessons learned from his simple childhood. Tim emphasizes the significance of love as a choice and the necessity of setting boundaries in relationships, drawing from his experiences as a pastor and a parent. In this conversation, Tim shares his journey through complex trauma, burnout, and the impact of illness on his family. He discusses the physical and mental toll of his experiences, the importance of understanding the role of age in trauma, and the ongoing process of self-discovery and healing. Tim emphasizes the significance of recognizing and meeting personal needs, the foundation of the 12 needs, and the balance between self-love and love for others. He also highlights the creation of the RE/ACT and LIFT programs.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxChapters00:00:00 Introduction to Tim Fletcher and His Work00:05:55 Tim's Early Life and Upbringing00:12:18 The Influence of Family on Tim's Journey00:18:54 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset00:22:36 The Role of Tim's Mother in His Life00:28:15 Tim's Father's Influence and Humor00:37:45 Tim's School Life and Athletic Pursuits00:40:29 The Foundation of Sports and Activity00:44:54 Navigating Early Relationships and Love00:48:45 Understanding Love as a Choice00:53:11 The Impact of Upbringing on Relationships00:58:31 The Journey Through Burnout and Trauma01:03:52 The Effects of Illness on Family Dynamics01:07:10 The Long Road to Healing and Understanding01:10:44 Learning Through Helping Others01:17:02 The Journey of Self-Discovery01:22:11 Understanding and Meeting Our Needs01:28:11 The 12 Needs 01:40:54 Creating Impact Through Teaching and Programs01:49:20 Overcoming Shame in the Healing ProcessIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.

Andy is joined by LIFT Staff Members Kim Fletcher and Kimberly Stowers, who share their personal stories of navigating grief and healing. They discuss the importance of holding space for emotions, the role of vulnerability, and the unique ways people experience grief. The conversation also touches on practical tools for coping with loss, supporting others in their grief, and finding joy amidst sorrow. As Kimberly transitions into their new role as a death doula, the discussion highlights the sacredness of being present for those at the end of life.Subscribe to stay tuned!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxChapters 00:00:00 Navigating Grief and Celebration00:09:39 Personal Stories of Healing00:19:20 Vulnerability and Challenges00:23:13 Grieving What Could Have Been00:32:39 Living in the Present and Grieving Family00:34:10 Acceptance and Radical Love00:38:00 Influence of Grief on Relationships00:41:28 Navigating Grief and Acceptance00:47:18 Living Fully and Being Present00:54:08 Tools for Facing Discomfort and Grief00:59:42 Grounding and Soothing Techniques01:04:00 The Importance of Social Support01:05:03 Navigating Grief During Holidays01:10:06 Cultivating Appreciative Joy01:15:30 Supporting Others in Grief01:21:33 Finding Spirituality in Grief01:29:40 Embracing Individual Grief JourneysIntro/Outro Music:‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron LiebermanYouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-FreeDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.

Time With Tim Fletcher Podcast | Episode 0: Podcast TrailerOn the Time with Tim Podcast, you will be joining Tim Fletcher and Andy Carlson as they have genuine, open conversations with guests you may or may not already know. We’ll delve into their journeys and explore how Complex Trauma has shaped their lives. We’ll also talk about practical strategies for learning, healing, and recovering from complex trauma. Along the way, you'll also learn from experts in the mental health field as they discuss their areas of expertise, healing methods, and the nuances of Complex Trauma as a whole. ✨ You will also find bonus episodes released on occasion! These will be audio versions of Tim's past lectures so you can listen wherever you go.▶ Listen to the Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, or wherever you listen to your favourite shows!Connect with us:Website: www.timfletcher.caYouTube: @TimFletcherYouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcastInstagram: @timfletchercoFacebook: TimFletcherCoTikTok: @timfletcher_coHave a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBoxDisclaimers:The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at https://988.ca/, https://988lifeline.org/, dial 988, or call your local emergency services.Ads in this podcast are automatically placed. While we strive to monitor ad content, we cannot guarantee complete oversight, and advertiser views may not align with our own.