3 Books With Neil Pasricha

Have you heard of a book called '​The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck​'? I’m guessing you have since it’s sold, uh, 16 million copies since it came out in 2016. There hadn't been a non-fiction book that big and disruptive in a long, long time… Mark’s meteoric success is the product of a giant mind which has mastered the art of taking the biggest, densest books on the planet and then simmering them down into simple, profanity-laced models and stories that hit you like a ton of bricks. The world is so loud! So busy. So full. Everything is screaming at us to buy this, buy that, do this, do that. You know what we need in this wild world? Guides! Clear voices. People who give us simple and practical advice that we can follow and put into place… Mark Manson is one of those guides for me and millions of others. I follow his popular ​YouTube channel​ and read his ​simple and punchy tweets​. In this classic 3 Books chapter, in Mark's cramped hotel room at The Drake Hotel in Toronto, we go deep on building trust in an era of clutter, why Mark poo-poos self-help gurus, what is the root problem with the 'advertising model,' why Mark played video games for months after the success of his book, what his writing routines and principles are, and, of course, his 3 most formative books… Let's flip the page back to Chapter 28 now...

Let's go for a walk!   I've sometimes imagined 3 Books as a long walk with a friend. So today—let's take one! Nickisha moved to Toronto from Jamaica when she was 16 to reunite with her mom and after working as a travel agent she broke out on her own to run a successful business full of fresh air, exercise, community, and lots of love.   I sometimes see Nickisha with five, six, or seven dogs around her—giving them the highlight of their day! Tongues wagging. Skip in their step. Motoring around town clocking 100km on foot each week!   One of our traditions on 3 Books is doing podcasts outside from ​Chapter 27​ with Robin the Bartender on the open patio of Bar Raval in Toronto to ​Chapter 106​ with Alok Vaid-Menon in Central Park in New York City to ​Chapter 131​ with J. Drew Lanham while birdwatching in South Carolina...   Another tradition here is exploring stories from people who fill our lives but aren't often represented by our screen-based culture full of politicians and billionaires. We vote with our attention so it's fun turning off the same faces to hang with people like ​Vishwas the Uber Driver​, ​Shirley the Nurse​, and ​Soyoung the Variety Store Owner​.   So strap on your running shoes! Throw in some headphones! And let's go for a walk with Nickisha to discuss urban density, pedestrian-driver relations, safe supply, the dog walking business, immigration assimilation, Danielle Steele, and, of course, Nickisha's 3 most formative books.   Let's flip the page to Chapter 147 now...

Angie Thomas, New York Times bestselling author known for her impactful young adult novels, joins the discussion to tackle pressing social justice issues. She reflects on the role of literature in understanding race, emphasizing the need for honest storytelling in YA fiction. Angie also delves into the intersection of faith and social justice, critiques media representation, and shares personal connections to Tupac's work, highlighting themes of resilience and empathy. Plus, she reveals her three formative books that shaped her worldview.

Is porn good sex education? Why does body autonomy matter for kids? Does talking about sex kill the mood? Emily Nagoski has the answers! Emily is a sex educator and activist whose mission is to teach us how to live with confidence and joy inside our bodies. She does this as the New York Times bestselling author of 'Come As You Are,' 'Burnout,' and 'Come Together,' as well as through her 3 popular TED Talks including—with over 3 million views—"How couples can sustain a strong sexual connection for a lifetime." Emily began working as a sex educator 30 years ago at the University of Delaware. She has a Master's in Counseling Psychology and she worked at the famous Kinsey Institute. She has taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships, communication, stress management, and sex education. She was Director of Wellness Education at Smith College for eight years before starting to write full time. In this deep-dive chapter we talk about neurodiversity versus neurodivergence, maintaining longterm sexual connection, OKCupid, ADHD and Autism, teaching kids about sex, and, of course, Emily's 3 most formative books... For those who want to strengthen and improve their sexual health with themselves and others ... Let's flip the page to Chapter 146 now...

James Frey, the controversial author of 'A Million Little Pieces,' dives deep into the themes of authenticity and literature. He passionately discusses the transformative power of storytelling and the freedom that comes from defying literary norms. Frey shares personal anecdotes on the cultural contrasts between Canada and the U.S., and reflects on the significance of embracing individuality over societal competition. His insights on the philosophical art of walking and the need for genuine life experiences resonate powerfully, urging a celebration of true self-expression.

Dive into the intriguing world of the Lindy effect, where the longevity of ideas shapes modern choices. Explore the freedom of reading without guilt, as skipping books becomes a badge of honor. Discover the health implications of ancient practices versus new trends, emphasizing preventive medicine. The discussion also weaves through timeless wisdom in parenting and the power of aphorisms. Plus, unpack societal views on wealth and the connections between community design and personal well-being—all wrapped in a captivating, reflective dialogue.

Tim Urban, the mind behind the popular blog Wait But Why and author of What's Our Problem, dives deep into the big questions of existence. He shares humorous insights on why we should embrace quirkiness, like letting kids wear shorts in winter. The conversation meanders through the importance of creativity and rule-breaking in both parenting and storytelling. Tim also tackles the art of simplifying complex topics, from AI to procrastination, blending philosophy with practical wisdom in a way that keeps his audience engaged.

Nick Sweetman, a prominent Toronto graffiti artist, shares his journey from traditional art to community-focused murals of wildlife. He discusses his creative process in bringing vibrant portrayals of birds and pollinators to life, highlighting the emotional connection between art and nature. Sweetman also touches on the transformative power of imagination, drawing inspiration from childhood literature. The conversation dives into the balance of artistic integrity amidst corporate pressures and the importance of wildlife conservation within urban settings.

David Sedaris, a bestselling author known for his witty and insightful essays, dives deep into the intricacies of aging and artistic integrity. He shares personal anecdotes about his childhood environment's impact on his literary journey and reflects on the balancing act between commercial success and maintaining authenticity. Sedaris also eloquently addresses societal perceptions of wealth and the emotional complexities of writer-audience connections, offering a glimpse into the profound influence of literature on our identities.

Happy Solstice!   As we do every December solstice it's time for our 7th Annual "Best Of" episode of 3 Books.   3 Books is our 22-year-long conversation to uncover and discuss the 1000 most formative books in the world.   This year we sat with ​academics at Oxford​ to ​bus drivers in St. Louis​, with ​Jonathan Franzen​ in Santa Cruz to ​Oliver Burkeman​ in the North York Moors, with the ​world's largest bookseller​ and ​Amazon union organizers​, with ​Oscar nominees​ to a ​guy who dresses up all day as as a duck​.   This year I've changed tack and made the "Best Of" highly concentrated—under 50 minutes long!—with little snippets from our diverse guests to provide reflection, provoke your thinking, and help to set intentions for 2025 and beyond.   Thank you for being a 3 Booker and spending time with this incredible community of book lovers spread across the world.   Let’s stop to reflect and then keep enjoying the ride....