Sexology

Welcome to episode 08 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Duane Osterlind. In this episode, Duane talks about the issues around sex addiction, how to recognize it, stages of recovery and what a healthy sexuality looks like afterwards.  As co-founder of NOVUS Mindful Life Institute, Duane Osterlind’s vision is to provide comprehensive care for individuals struggling with process addictions in the utmost confidential, comprehensive and caring environment to ensure clients feel safe and accepted with anticipation that recovery is possible. Duane has over eight years of experience as a therapist helping individuals find hope and healing. He received his Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from California State University, Long Beach. He has also trained with Patrick Carnes, P.hD., a leading expert in the treatment of sexual addiction issues and author of “Out of the Shadows”. He is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), and the Society of Sexual Health (SASH). MFT#44567 Duane’s clinical focus is on treating individuals and couples struggling with process addictions using a mindfulness and task centered approach. He facilitates the Men’s Sexual Addiction Process Group and well as a DBT group for individuals struggling with anxiety and depression. In this episode, you will hear:   If people should identify hyper sexual disorder as an addiction Recognizing and distinguishing someone with a diverse sexuality to sex addiction Looking at the compulsive nature of sex addiction The three main domains which identify people struggling with sex addiction Changes in the frequency of acting out behaviour Gender differences Distinguishing the difference between love and sex addiction Links between chemical and sexual addiction Difficulty in forming deep relationships The different stages of recovery The need to have more than just a couple of therapy sessions The process of healing through other group members Going through abstinence and becoming ready for a relationship What healthy sexuality looks like after addiction   The three circle plan and its use in therapy     Resources https://novusmindfullife.com https://theaddictedmind.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 07 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Stacy. In this episode, she speaks to me about how she became involved in the work of sexual inhibition, the issues around boredom and losing interest in sex and the importance of communication. Dr. Stacy got into the field of Clinical Sexology because of her passion for helping people better connect and experience the best sexual intimacy with themselves or with their partner(s). She holds a Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality in addition to a Masters in Clinical Sexology and is a Certified Sex Coach. She is a member of WASC (World Association of Sex Coaching), including ACS (The American College of Sexologists) which shows that she has the earned top credentials in my field. She also has a BA in Psychology and is a Registered Diagnostic Medical Sonographer and Vascular Sonographer. She has been a consultant selling adult novelties since 2006 and has had the experience of reaching many men and women to educate them in a fun, positive approach to love, romance and all aspects of sexuality. Her education and own sexual journey and life experience enable her to help you move forward in a positive direction to face the challenges that may lie ahead and to achieve your goals. Coaching is designed to help women, men, of any sexual orientation or gender, address their concerns about sexuality, sexual function, and sexual expression. In this episode, you will hear: How Dr. Stacey became involved in the work of sexual inhibition The definition of sex inhibition Boredom and the issue of losing interest in sex The factors that lead to people developing sex inhibition How there is two kinds of inhibitive sex, primary and secondary Recommendations for women to overcome negative emotions Losing and re-kindling sexual desire in long-term relationships The importance of foreplay Navigating different levels of desire in a relationship How education through pornography can make things worse Gender differences around the issue of inhibition Communicating with your partner openly and positively about these issues   Resources http://www.drstacy.org https://www.facebook.com/DrStacySexCoach  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 06 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lonnie Barbach. In this episode, Lonnie speaks to me about the issues surrounding female sexuality such as faking orgasms, the need for good communication and overcoming boredom to improve sex in a relationship.   Dr Barbach's work as a couple’s therapist for more than three decades and the publication of Going the Distance: Finding and Keeping Lifelong Love crafted with David Geisinger, Ph.D., her partner of 32 years, has defined her as an acknowledged expert on intimate relationships. She is skilled in a variety of treatment modalities in treating individuals and couples with problems ranging from anxiety and depression to parenting and communication issues.   Considered a pioneer in her field, her dozen books, translated into an equal number of languages, have sold over 4 million copies in the U.S. alone. She is a life member of the American Psychological Association and is currently Director of Content for Happy Couple, a quiz-style game that takes you from dating to building a healthy and sustainable relationship.   In this episode, you will hear:   The physiological aspects of a woman reaching an orgasm The need for a slow build up and feeling safe in the relationship Faking orgasms and teaching your partner that the wrong things are right Difficulties in finding good information and believing external standards Good starting points for couples exploring what they like to do sexually Studies which highlight what makes for a great relationship / marriage Issues around boredom, overworking and not prioritizing the relationship Importance of communication Things that hinder women to experience arousal How differences in amount of desire needed can affect a relationship How not being so goal oriented can improve the experience for most people Reading resources together to improve sex Why Lonnie created “Happy Couple” (A couple’s game app)   Resources http://www.happycouple.co http://www.lonniebarbach.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 05 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Abigail Weissman. In this interview with Abi, she speaks to me about the difference between sexual orientation and gender identity, how she began her work on gender identity and the importance of language and pronouns in this area.   Abigail "Abi" Weissman, Psy.D. (PSY 27497) is a feminist and lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans*, and queer, intersex, and questioning (LGBTQIQ)- affirming, polyamory - affirming, BDSM/kink - friendly, multiculturally competent, clinical psychologist who is warm, welcoming, and empowering with a wealth of clinical experience. She has a Master of Arts in Human Sexuality studies and a Doctorate and Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology. She hails from the East Coast by way of the Bay Area, CA. When not providing psychotherapy, training, or consultation, she can be found reading the latest research on queer sexuality, gender identity, and spending time with her family and friends. pronouns: she, her, hers In this episode, you will hear:   The difference between sexual orientation and gender identity How one’s internal sense of self is how you determine gender identity Association of politics in gender identity Working with teens, dealing with exploration What it means to have a gender that is neither male or female When people first notice their gender identity How gender identity can be discovered as young as two and half years of age Support parents can offer to children issues around gender identity; bullying etc Misconceptions around transgender women and men Barriers around surgery for transgender people The importance of use of language and pronouns in these issues     Resources http://www.doctorabi.com http://www.glsen.org Call - (619) 403-5578 Email - info@doctorabi.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 04 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lisa Wade. Lisa is an associate professor of sociology at Occidental College. In this conversation, Lisa talks in-depth about the history of hook up culture, its impact on sexual attitudes and relationships, motivations behind the culture and its long-term effects.   She is currently on leave and living in New Orleans, the place she calls home. Her newest book, American Hookup, is about the emergence and character of the culture of sex that dominates college campuses today. Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, Lisa earned an MA in human sexuality from NYU and a BA in philosophy from the University of California-Santa Barbara.  Lisa has authored over a dozen academic research articles and a textbook on the sociology of gender. She also actively contributes to media, writing extensively for non-academic audiences and appearing on television and radio.   In this episode, you will hear:   How hook up culture is not an option but an imperative on college campuses The hierarchical structure, motivations being related to status How the structure is related more to heterosexual sex Differences between the genders around hook up culture How hook up culture satisfies male needs more than females needs The evolution that’s happening around the culture in the USA The history of college rioting, resulting in the first social fraternity being founded in Schenectady, New York in 1825. The cultural impact of the movie “Animal House” How raising the drinking age from 18 to 21 gave more power to fraternity’s The development of cities and their impact on a changing culture around sex The dynamical differences of hook up culture for young people not in college Long-term effects of hook up culture on attitudes towards sex and relationships   Resources http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/30231781-american-hookup https://lisa-wade.com email: lwade@oxy.edu        Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  Sexology Podcast EP03 – Tamara Powell   Welcome to episode 03 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Tamara Powell, LMHC. Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. More recently, she founded Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.   Tamara tends not to believe in limitations or pathology, only what she calls the “nearsightedness of that comes from either not knowing better OR creative, yet maladaptive attempts to get one’s needs met.” Her goal is to assist individuals and couples in tackling all of life’s challenges, whether mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.     In this episode, you will hear:   Tamara’s experience working with sexually diverse clients The definition of a polyamorous relationship Who chooses polyamory and why The misconceptions behind polyamorous relationships How people transition from monogamist relationships Working against the taboo and how people are concerned to ask questions The religious and cultural connections to polyamory The difference between polyamory, polygamy and swinging Raising children in polyamorous relationships How children can benefit because they have more resources The strengths of polyamory How to deal with jealousy   Resources Tamara's websites:   https://aryatherapy.com https://aryatherapy.com/about-the-podcast (Undressing The Spirit Podcast) https://talesfromatrapezoid.com Love in Abundance : A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships (Book) - https://www.amazon.com/Love-Abundance-Counselors-Relationships-Paperback/dp/B01FYKSULG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485030260&sr=8-1&keywords=love+in+abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 02 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Heather Seguin, who is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rancho Cucamonga, CA. She help couples and individuals create lives that reflect their deepest values and priorities. We all need someone to talk to now and then, especially when life gets messy. She often meets with people who feel stuck in life. Maybe you want to communicate better with your significant other, but you find yourself repeating the same old argument. Perhaps you struggle with self-confidence and it's keeping you from advancing at work. She will help you work through the things that are getting in your way so that you can have the life and relationships you want.   In this episode, you will hear:   Different patterns that show how affairs can start The difference between affairs and sex addictions Similarities between sex additions and other addictions, E.G; Gambling, Drinking Feeling shame and not having control on behaviour How not all affairs are sexual Coping with the trauma of discovering an affair or sex addiction Digging deeper into a partners 3rd party sexual relationships Rebuilding trust if you stay in the relationship The impact on sexual confidence and reclaiming your sexual life Working with a sex therapist to overcome the issues Deepening the relationship after overcoming an affair or sex addiction     Resources   http://clearchoicecounseling.com https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Addiction-Katehakis-Alexandra/dp/B0157JJFY0/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1484591699&sr=1-2&keywords=erotic+intelligence  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Welcome to episode 01 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr Albert Wong. Dr Albert Wong is Marshall Scholar educated at Princeton and Oxford and has received extensive training in couple’s therapy from some of the nation’s leading relationship experts. In the 1990s, he served as residential staff at the Esalen Institute for five years and has been featured on PBS, in Time Magazine, and the book The American Soul Rush. His work has been published in titles ranging from the scientific journal Biological Cybernetics to the book anthology Radical Spirit. One of his film projects, Step One Breathe, was named Best Drama at the Maryville Film Festival. He recently presented a workshop at the International Conference of the Association for the Advancement of Gestalt Therapy entitled Many Dances, One Rhythm: A Somatic Exploration of Gestalt-Based Movement Practices.   In this episode, you will hear: Listening with “the full being” and “the full body” The effects of mindfulness training and body awareness Living in the present moment Creating a safety net with a partner by learning to accept situations How the goal of mindfulness is to let go of goals Being more mindful whilst intimate Creating awareness with your partner, eye gazing Creating open minded communication Planning sex with your partner Dealing with shame and negative emotions Viewing shame as part of the experience How sex is a whole-body experience Reaching out to people we feel safe with when dealing with shame   Resources   http://www.dralbertwong.com Phone - 415.545.8899    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy