Sexology

Welcome to episode 299 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Stefani Goerlich back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Stefani became interested in writing her book Praise for The Leather Couch, the misconceptions around dominance in the bedroom and how people get more turned on when there is consent.  Stefani holds a Masters in Social Work from Wayne State University, where she specialized in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has over fifteen years’ experience in working with poly/kinky individuals, swingers, commercial sex workers, and child and adult survivors of sexual trauma including human trafficking.  Stefani has served as a guest lecturer on minority sexual communities at Northwestern University and is a frequent conference presenter on topics related to Kink Aware Practice and consent. An award winning author, she currently working on her second book entitled The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Stefani became interested in writing her book Praise for The Leather Couch The misconceptions around dominance in the bedroom  Looking at dominance v domestic violence  Analyzing the consent issues in Fifty Shades of Grey  Looking at the different types of dominance, sadism, topping, BDSM, etc.  How do people discover what kind of dominance they like and don’t like  Understanding the importance of consent  How people get more turned on when there is consent  The importance of communication and clear understanding Find Stefani Goerlich Online https://www.stefanigoerlich.com  Foreplay Checklist https://exciting-builder-8729.ck.page/2690c062c9 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 298 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Nicoletta Heidegger to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss dealing with erotic conflict, exploring other relationship types such as polyamorous and figuring out when’s the right time to end a relationship.  Nicoletta Heidegger is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#110256) and sexologist practicing in Los Angeles, California.   Nicoletta received her BA in Psychology from Stanford University, her MA in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and her Masters of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University.    She sees therapy clients virtually and at her unique ranch office in Los Angeles, where she offers sex therapy, outdoor sessions, and Equine Facilitated (also called Equine Assisted) Psychotherapy and Learning. Nicoletta also creates weekly content via her growing hit show Sluts and Scholars: a sex positive, shame-free educational podcast.     In this episode, you will hear:   Dealing with erotic conflict  Discovering your partner likes something sexual you’re not interested in What to do when your partner reveals they have a fetish to you How to communicate if your partner revels a different sexual side to you Exploring other relationship types such as polyamorous  The different types of modality people can explore Looking at equine assisted therapy  What we can learn from equine assisted therapy Figuring out when’s the right time to end a relationship Find Nicoletta Heidegger Online https://www.slutsandscholars.com   101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 297 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Tom Murray to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the way in which over control gets in the way of great sex, understanding the issue of forced celibacy and exercises you can do to improve your sex life.  Dr. Tom Murray, author, international trainer, educator, and couples and sex therapist-supervisor, is a widely sought-after expert in sexuality and intimate relationships. For 20+ years, Murray has worked with everyday folks to embrace their weirdness, shed labels and shame, lean into anxiety, and build better and stronger relationships.   Murray has appeared in numerous venues, including the Huffington Post and The Daily Mail, as well as radio, television and podcasts, including the Practice of Being Seen and Shrink Rap Radio.   Murray directs A Path to Wellness Integrative Psychiatry. He authored Making Nice with Naughty: An intimacy guide for the rule-following, organized, perfectionist, practical, and color within the line types.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Tom became interested in this subject area The way in which over control gets in the way of great sex Why sex needs mystery The pressure we put on ourselves to be “Sexually perfect” Recommendations for dealing with an over developed desire to control things Analyzing the monogamous agreement Understanding the issue of forced celibacy The pleasures of mutual masturbation Looking the issues around the “Neutral Face” How you can learn to better show your emotions Exercises you can do to improve your sex life  Find Dr. Tom Murray Online https://drtommurray.com  Foreplay Checklist https://exciting-builder-8729.ck.page/2690c062c9 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 296 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Mary Jo Rapini to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the difference between intimacy and sex, analyzing intellectual intimacy and how you can gain better access to your emotions.  Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist specializing in intimacy, sex and relationships. She lives in Houston, Texas and maintains a private practice as a relationship, intimacy/sex psychotherapist.   Rapini is a renowned lecturer, author and television personality. Currently, you can find Mary Jo on Fox 26 Houston with her segment on healthy relationships on Mondays and “Ask Mary Jo” on Thursdays. She has been a contributor on air for CNN’s Prime News and has been on CBS Up to the Minute, Fox National Morning News, Montel, Steve Harvey, the Today Show and Dateline.    Rapini contributes and writes a love/relationship expert page for Your Tango. She also contributes to magazines including Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Playboy, First, Seventeen, Teen, Redbook and Self. She has written for Huffington Post and the New York Times.   Rapini is the author of Is God Pink? Dying to Heal, and a co-author of Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom about Health, Sex or Whatever and Re-Coupling; a Couple’s 4 Step Guide to Greater Intimacy and Better Sex.     In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the difference between intimacy and sex Understanding the different types of intimacy  How you can gain better access to your emotions The importance of not rushing to find solutions if you’ve been emotionally hurt  Analyzing intellectual intimacy  How you can manage different religious and political beliefs in a relationship  The difference between physical and sexual intimacy  How men and women engage differently with intimacy Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off. https://cozyearth.com  Find Mary Jo Rapini Online https://www.maryjorapini.com  Foreplay Checklist https://exciting-builder-8729.ck.page/2690c062c9 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 295 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jenny McGrath to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss her study Transnationalizing Purity, understanding purity culture and how purity shows up in the bedroom for adult women.  Jenny McGrath (She/Her) MA, LMHC, is a somatic psychotherapist, movement educator, and researcher based out of Seattle. She works primarily with white, cisgender women who grew up in fundamentalist Christianity who are healing from religious sexual shame and sexual abuse. She researches purity culture and its impact on individual and collective bodies.    Her current study, Transnationalizing Purity, looks at the intersections of those socialized within purity culture and their decisions to do development or ministry work internationally.     She recently released an online course, Embodied Sexuality, that offers comprehensive teachings about the impact of purity culture as well as sex education that most folks who grew up in abstinence only education never learned.      In this episode, you will hear:   Insights into Jenny’s recent study  Understanding Transnationalizing Purity  Looking at Jenny’s story of purity and the impact it had on her  The common themes that emerged from the study  Looking at the experience of going on purity missions  Understanding purity culture  The role that shame plays around purity culture The consequences women face for breaking their purity  How purity shows up in the bedroom for adult women  Looking at sexual embodiment Learning to tune into your body and be curious    Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off. https://cozyearth.com  Find Jenny McGrath Online www.indwellmovement.com  A Woman’s Guide to Reviving Sex Drivehttps://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 294 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Sheila Wray Gregoire to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the inspiration behind her book, The Great Sex Rescue, how you can honor religion with a great sex life, and how men can empower women to say no.  Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com, the largest single-blogger marriage blog. A sought-after speaker, she’s also an award-winning author of nine books, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex and The Great Sex Rescue. Sheila has a Master's in Public Administration and Master of Arts in Sociology both from Queen’s University.  Sheila built the successful blog, To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, with traffic of one million page views a month. Her email list is 45,000 strong and her social media reach is over 100,000. Her podcast, Bare Marriage, has more than 5,000 downloads each week. She is an award-winning author with seven royalty published books. A sought-after speaker, Sheila has spoken at churches and conferences around the globe. She is a frequent contributor at Family Life Canada events.  Her latest book, “The Great Sex Rescue” was featured in the New York Times Book Review, Publishers Weekly, and the Washington Post. She has bylines at Religion News Service, Relevant Magazine, and other news sources. Sheila and her husband Keith, a pediatrician, live in Belleville Ontario.  They have two grown daughters and one very adorable grandson and granddaughter who live down the road. She enjoys hiking, birdwatching, RV camping trips, and board games. And she knits - even in line at the grocery store.     In this episode, you will hear:   The inspiration behind the book, The Great Sex Rescue Looking at the common beliefs that hurt sex  Understanding sex isn’t just vaginal penetration  The difference between sex and intimacy  The dynamic between sexual and relational satisfaction  Ways in which couples can find good resources to educate themselves  How you can honor religion with a great sex life Overcoming orgasm anxiety  Tips for women on how to better communicate with male partners How men can empower women to say no  Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off. https://cozyearth.com  Find Sheila Wray Gregoire Online https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com  A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 293 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr Kristian Leisegang to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the issues around erectile dysfunction, analyzing the studies conducted around this issue and looking at the ways in which lifestyle changes such as a better diet can help with erectile dysfunction.  Dr Kristian Leisegang is currently the Director of the School of Natural Medicine (SoNM), University of the Western Cape (UWC), Cape Town, South Africa, with over 12 years academic and clinical experience. He is a clinically trained and registered homeopathic Doctor in South Africa, and further obtained a PhD in Medical Science.    His learning and teaching focus in on clinical science modules and diagnostic training to natural medicine students, as well as research supervision for post-graduate students in Masters and PhD programs.   Kristian is actively involved in medical research, with a broad focus on obesity and underlying phenomenon such as insulin resistance, chronic inflammation and oxidative stress within the context of male reproductive function. This includes hypogonadism (low testosterone in males), sexual function and fertility potential. He also actively researching natural medicines within this context.    Kristian has published more than 38 peer-reviewed scientific papers in international journals, alongside 10 invited academic book chapters. He has presented his research at international scientific meetings.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Dr Kristian became involved with natural medicine  What is erectile dysfunction and how is it defined? Looking at studies conducted around this issue The ways in which lifestyle changes such as a better diet can help with erectile dysfunction How things like smoking, drugs and alcohol can impact erectile dysfunction Is acupuncture effective in treating erectile dysfunction? The importance of relaxation and reducing stress  Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off. https://cozyearth.com  Find Dr Kristian Leisegang Online https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristian-leisegang-34101626/?originalSubdomain=za   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 292 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we’re doing something a little bit different as we seek the advice of sexual experts on the best tips for men to have better sexual experiences.   Don’t forget you can join me for my live workshop this weekend on how to achieve optimal sex performance:  Live Workshop https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  You can also find me on Instagram at - https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   In this episode, you will be hearing sex tips from:  Michael Castleman https://www.mcastleman.com   Michael Castleman is a journalist and novelist, author of more than 2,000 newspaper, magazine, and Web articles, 14 consumer health books, and four mystery novels.   He is "one of the nation's leading health writers" (Library Journal). For 35 years, he has been a prolific freelance medical journalist focused on optimal health, mainstream medicine, alternative therapies, nutrition, fitness, and sexuality.   Dr. Jed Kaminetsky https://www.universityurology.com  Recognized as a Top Urologist in NYC, Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, M.D. is a Clinical Assistant Professor at NYU Medical Center and a Board Certified Urologist at University Urology, one of the largest urology practice in the New York City area.  He pioneered the minimally invasive Rezum BPH treatment, is highly skilled in treating all urologic disorders and excels in minimally invasive prostate surgeries and penile implants.  Katie Ziskind https://wisdomwithinct.com  Katie Ziskind is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Florida and Connecticut, a yoga therapist for complex trauma, and she is Gottman level two certified.  Katie Ziskind runs, Wisdom Within Counseling, a group practice, and is passionate about helping distant couples who have stopped expressing themselves emotionally and have stopped sexually connecting.  Tim Norton https://www.timnortontherapy.com  Tim Norton is a Los Angeles-based sex therapist working in private practice, and host of a podcast on erectile issues and male sexuality - Hard Conversations.  He obtained his bachelor’s and master’s degrees from the University of Southern California.  Erik Everhard https://www.erikeverhard.com  Erik Everhard is one of the top paid and most recognized performers in adult films of the last two decades. He has won numerous Male performer awards and been enshrined in the hall of fame of the AVN and XRCO organizations.  Caitlin V https://www.bettersexcoach.com   Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Formerly a sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she was catapulted into internet stardom after a video featuring her went viral.  Fredrick Zal http://www.tantrickink.com  Fredrick’s sexuality education work has focused upon erotically marginalized communities, partnerships, and individuals since 2006 by "Teaching the Art within Sexual Acts" in private lessons, semi-public and private events, and workshops in Oregon, Washington, California, British Columbia, and via Zoom worldwide.  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 291 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr Lauren Walker to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how recovering from prostate cancer can take 3-5 years, the common sexual changes after recovering from prostate cancer and looking at useful sex toys that are available and appropriate.  Dr Lauren Walker is a therapist, researcher, author and entrepreneur. Dr Walker translates science about sexuality into real life and helps people grow in the areas of sexuality, intimacy, relationships and self-care. Dr Walker is passionate about reducing the stigma associated with sexuality, mental health and health.   Dr Walker completed her PhD in 2013, she completed a specialized clinical fellowship in sexual dysfunction after cancer treatment. Dr Walker received mentorship from nationally recognized experts in sexual medicine.   Dr Walker recently received Calgary's Avenue Magazine's Top 40 Under 40 award. This prestigious award distinguishes recipients as rising stars; high achievers who are impacting their field and the broader community, and who are moving the city of Calgary forward.   She has also developed several innovative sexual health programs for cancer patients and also directs the Oncology Sexual Health Lab at the University of Calgary. There she is on the faculty as an Adjunct Associate Professor where she conducts research on sexuality. Dr Walker has over 40 scientific publications on the topic of cancer and sexuality and is co-author of a book for prostate cancer patients - Androgen Deprivation Therapy: A Guide for Prostate Cancer Patients and Their Loved Ones.   Though not sure the "perfect balance" really exists, she tries to balance her career, with being a wife and also a mom to a vibrant toddler. Dr Walker loves skiing, golf, and working out, listening to music, and enjoying food with her friends.     In this episode, you will hear:   How did Dr Walker become interested in this line of work? Analyzing the findings of Dr Walker’s research  Ways in which Dr Walker helped partners navigate the journey back into sex How recovering from prostate cancer can take 3-5 years Does pumping help to re-engage sexual activity?  The common sexual changes after recovering from prostate cancer  Is pain during sex common for prostate cancer survivors? Do implants work and are they effective? Is caregiver actually a useful term to give to partners?  Looking at useful sex toys that are available and appropriate   Find Dr Lauren Walker Online https://www.drlaurenwalker.com   Live Workshop https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 290 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Gavin Vance to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss erectile dysfunction, how he became interested in this area of work, and the roles jealousy and infidelity play around this issue.  Gavin Vance is a Ph. D candidate studying evolutionary psychology under the supervision of Dr Todd K. Shackelford. Gavin received his Bachelor of Science in Psychology from The University of Michigan – Flint in the Fall semester of 2017, and his Master of Science in Psychology from Oakland University during the Summer semester of 2020 after defending his master’s thesis.   Gavin's research interests, broadly, focus on human evolved psychology, patterns of romantic relationships, and human mate preferences. In particular, he is interested in studying men’s evolved sexual psychology and the consequences of these psychological adaptations on men’s behavior in romantic relationships.    Gavin has published two manuscripts investigating the relationship between ED and men’s abusive, partner-directed behaviors, with several additional manuscripts currently submitted to various research journals. He has also published a manuscript investigating mate preferences in older men and women. Gavin's dissertation work focuses on women’s physiological adaptations to prevent pregnancy during rape and assesses vaginal acidity and lubrication in response to sexually coercive audio stimuli. Gavin hopes to eventually become employed as a tenure-track faculty member at a research university.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Gavin became interested in erectile dysfunction  How do you define erectile dysfunction? Looking at the hypothesis of what causes erectile dysfunction  Analyzing the recruitment process for getting people involved in the study  How they made sure respondents answered honestly   The way relationship dynamics can affect erectile dysfunction Looking at the connection between infidelity and erectile dysfunction The ways in which jealousy can show up around erectile dysfunction Analyzing personality traits that may lean toward erectile dysfunction  Find Gavin Vance Online gvance@oakland.edu   Live Workshop https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy