Kat discusses the challenge of doing what feels right versus people pleasing. She provides advice on navigating a complicated friendship situation. The importance of staying true to oneself and making personal choices is emphasized. Balancing personal beliefs and the desire to please others is explored.

Have you ever had a consequence thrown at you for refusing to turn a blind eye? Or have you ever been punished for telling a secret that you never should have been asked to keep? If you answered yes to either of these questions you may have experienced being "scapegoated". This can happen when someone tries to bring order to a dysfunctional system. Doing so can throw off the sense of "order" within that system (even thought it's disordered). Having a scapegoat is a form of protection for that system. It allows them to push blame onto someone else so they can create the delusion that the system is healthier than it is. In this episode, we explore what that can look and feel like and what to do if you find yourself getting the shaft for telling the truth.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This podcast discusses inspirational quotes from therapists, important principles for personal growth and healing, the importance of clear communication in therapy, and reflecting on negative therapy experiences.

This week Kat has one of her best friends on to talk about both of them watching each other develop unhealthy relationships with food and exercise. In this candid conversation both Kat and Kellie share what it was like to see the others behavior change. They talk about what was helpful about how the other responded and what they wish they would have known and said to their friend who was struggling. This episode is a GREAT resource for anyone who has wondered what to say and how to approach a friend or loved one that they think may also be struggling!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this bonus episode, the host answers listener questions about relationships and offers advice on avoiding rushing into commitment. They discuss the impact of technology on dating, the importance of meeting in person, and share personal experiences. The episode also covers misery systems and helping others, the scandal involving Jen Shaw, and promotes podcasts like 'Six Degrees with Kevin Bacon' and 'Hallmark Junkies'. The speaker reflects on the significance of slowing down and assessing compatibility before committing and highlights the benefits of allowing relationships to develop naturally.

Today we are rounding out our 3 part series on addiction. We started talking about it from a clinical/therapist perspective, then moved to the perspective of a loved one, and now we have a human who has actually walked through the throes of addiction themselves here to share part of their own story.  Mathias John is someone I met years ago through his wife–who actually happens to be a therapist. Through his recovery journey he decided to offer the community something that he wished he had, a story he could relate to; a story about a high functioning addict who hid from himself and others really well. So, he took his ACTUAL PERSONAL JOURNALS and created a book out of them. Yep. He is welcoming us into his real mind- his most personal thoughts- and sharing what it was like for him to move through his life as someone struggling with addiction and someone working towards recovery.  AND to top it off, he actually writes this book alongside his own therapist, Ashley Boyd.   In our conversation we talk about a lot. What I hope you hear in this is something we can all relate to, a story about someone who tried their hardest to run from the truth and eventually found out that telling the truth would set them free.  AND a story about that being really freaking hard and possible at the same time.  Mathias’ book comes out September 14th and you can learn more about it HERE!   Follow Mathias: @mathiasjohn__   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about how to survive when you dread going to your job everyday AND you can’t just go get a new one. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is round two of our addiction series. In this episode, Tara Booker and Kat talk about how to live an addict well, what it’s like to be in relationship with someone who struggles with addiction, and where healthy boundaries lie in these scenarios. Nothing is black and white here, which may make things more difficult and less confusing at the same time.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about how to handle roommate drama… when the drama involves your bff that you’ve been dreaming of living with! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Tara Booker comes back to help Kat break down the basics of addiction. Which, you might be laughing at because there is nothing basic about explaining and understanding addiction. If you’ve ever struggled with addiction or loved someone who has, you’ll resonate with the fact that it’s a very confusing experience to have and watch. The behavior often makes zero sense when looking at it with just our naked eyes. This is largely due to the fact that a lot of the dysfunction is tied to what’s happening in our brains. So, join Tara and Kat today as they begin to help us all gain a little more understanding so we can all bring more compassion and hopefully healing to those that struggle with this disease affects.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.