Remaking Manhood: The Healthy Masculinity Podcast

Jason Rogers joins us for a wide ranging discussion of the deeply human challenges in hyper-masculine sports culture, both during and after Olympic level competition. Jason is an Olympic Medalist and freelance writer for publications like Men's Health. His writing and speaking focuses on the evolving state of masculinity. You can follow Jason's work by signing up for the Mandate Letter, a newsletter about masculinity and mental health. *** As a writer, speaker and consultant, Mark Greene has spent over a decade deconstructing our binary-riddled dialogues around manhood and masculinity. He consults to organizations world wide on diversity, inclusion and masculinity. Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood and is co-author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Book for Parenting. You can learn more about Mark's work at RemakingManhood.com Charles Matheus is an educator and public speaker who has mentored hundreds of men in communication, leadership, & emotional growth. You can learn more about his work at CharlesMatheus.com and/or by requesting to join the Facebook Group, Redefining Strength. Contact: mark@remakingmanhood.com charles@charlesmatheus.com Theme music composed by Gus Greene. Click here for links to his music on most streaming services.  

We are releasing this special episode in partnership with Speak Up at Work and in recognition of Workplace Bullying Awareness week. How does a dive into WPB fit in with a podcast on Healthy Masculinity? Well, one in three people are bullied at work and, as we’ll hear, male targets of bullying often experience the most significant impacts… up to and including suicide and premature death. The prevalence of domination culture in most workplaces, in combination with the isolating expectations of “Man Box” masculinity makes WPB a potent toxin for men, whether we are perpetrators, enablers, bystanders or targets. To help us untangle all these roles, dig into the root causes of WPB, and to propose some system solutions and individual actions, Mark and I are joined by Linda Crocket and Animah Kosai, two people who’ve dedicated their lives to empowering others to prevent and recover from harassment and bullying at work. Linda Crockett is a clinical social worker and activist who is the founder of the Canadian Institute of Workplace Bullying and Harassment Resource Centre Inc., (2010), the first and only full-service resource centre in Canada specific to psychological harassment.  Linda provides workplace management services to employers and employees, from all professions and industries. Linda started the Workplace Bullying Awareness Week 10 yrs ago, and began inviting countries around the world to join in. She believes this is a worldwide issue and we need a worldwide solution. This year, every day between October 17-23rd, depending on where you are, you will  have access to podcasts, TV interviews, Radio Interviews, Blogs, Articles, online discussions, posters, t-shirts and so much more. This movement IS making a difference and as a result, positive changes are happening. For more information on this week, see the links in our shownotes. Animah Kosai is a British barrister who speaks, writes and advises on Speaking Up in Organisations, specifically to break the silence on wrongdoing. She founded Speak Up At Work to diagnose the Speak Up Culture in companies and assess their response to reports on wrongdoing, harassment, unsafe and unethical practices. This helps companies address emerging risks early enough before they get too big and become public. In this episode, you’ll hear me confront my own complicity in the face of a workplace bully and how that complicity affected me. Listen to the full episode to learn how we can stop taking workplace culture for granted and find ways to make the workplace better for all of us. SHOW NOTES: Linda Crockett's Contact and Social Media Twitter https://twitter.com/BullyingAlberta LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/ciwbh Facebook https://www.facebook.com/workerssafety Website: instituteofworkplacebullyingresources.ca Animah Kosai's Contact Information and Social Media Twitter https://twitter.com/SpeakUpAtWork LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/animah-kosai/ Website  https://speakupatwork.com/ Join the Speak Up Collective: https://the-speak-up-collective.mn.co

In this episode, Mark and I explore the roots of domination culture and how men’s response to that culture can lead to acts of violence and rape. Just a heads up… although the targets of male violence deserve attention, humanization, and support, in this conversation we do center the discussion on men - the men who allow or perpetuate violence against women, even if we think we don’t. We unpack men’s common reactions to stories of rape and harassment, our overt or covert role in rape culture, our resistance to taking action and how men can help each other to overcome that resistance. In digging into the roots of the violence and the resistance to change, Mark and I do express empathy and solidarity with men trapped in domination culture AND we don’t let ourselves of other men off the hook. This is a fine line to walk but that's the line that needs to be navigated… men holding ourselves accountable and responsible while calling each other IN to allyship and activism with those who are victims of male violence. Listen to the full episode to learn how men can push back against the code of silence that turns us into complicit bystanders and how we can become better allies, while actually creating a better, more connected life for ourselves.

High School Head Football Coach Erik Becker is teaching his players not only how to win games, but how to lean into love, service, compassion and justice as values central to becoming men. Listen now to hear about Coach Becker's program for growing boys' character and integrity both on and off the football field.  *** As a writer, speaker and consultant, Mark Greene has spent over a decade deconstructing our binary-riddled dialogues around manhood and masculinity. He consults to organizations world wide on diversity, inclusion and masculinity. Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood and is co-author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Book for Parenting. You can learn more about Mark's work at RemakingManhood.com Charles Matheus is an educator and public speaker who has mentored hundreds of men in communication, leadership, & emotional growth. You can learn more about his work at CharlesMatheus.com and/or by requesting to join the Facebook Group, Redefining Strength. Contact: mark@remakingmanhood.com charles@charlesmatheus.com Theme music composed by Gus Greene. Click here for links to his music on most streaming services.  

How do we, as men, help other men put down the unhealthy attitudes and behaviors that are limiting them and hurting others? How do we call men in to the challenging work of crafting individual masculinities that include connection, inclusion, empathy and care? In this episode, Mark and I get to have another rich, insight and laughter filled conversation with a powerful, engaged men's work practitioner. Our guest is Mark Winkler, who, after finishing up a successful career as a musical talent agent, developed an intensive Life Skills program to empower At-Risk young men to adopt safe and productive behavior.  More recently, Mark has focused on supporting fathers and families with wrap around mental health services and peer to peer men's groups. Mark has become a specialist in gently, patiently engaging men in men's work. Part of his approach is to avoid triggering language like “toxic masculinity” which he says can send men packing. Instead, Mark describes his focus on identifying progress rather than calling for perfection. Listen to the full episode to learn how we can call men in to the process of adopting de-radicalized manhood. Listen all the way to the end to learn how mens work is like scuba diving. Key Takeaways: When  calling men in to healthy or de-radicalized manhood, look for progress rather than perfection Progress in behavior is more important than progress in “articulated” change (i.e. actions speak louder than words). Information, Background, and Projects: Mark’s Blog Manhood Camp for boys Article describing radicalized masculinity Gillette Ad - We Believe: The Best Men Can Be Influencers and Writers The Will to Change - bell hooks Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys - Michael Thompson Ph.D. &, Dan Ph.D. Kindlon

Judy Chu, author of When Boys Become Boys, explores the challenges boys face in forming emotional connections and the impact of societal rules on their development. She discusses the pressures for boys to conform to gendered norms and the importance of parental support in fostering healthy resistance against conformity. Chu also addresses the culture of bullying in schools, the need for open conversations, and the importance of challenging traditional masculinity to support men through difficult transitions.

In this episode, Mark and I get to have a warm connecting talk with Graham Goulden a leadership and violence prevention trainer from the United Kingdom. Graham spent thirty years as a Scottish police officer and Chief Investigator specializing in criminal investigation, training, and crime prevention. During that part of his career, Graham noticed an important reality: almost all of the criminals he pursued and the victims he tried to protect were men or boys. He started wondering why we don’t talk about violence as a problem that predominantly affects males. AND one that can be solved by - mostly - men. And now Graham leads his own training business - Cultivating Minds UK - where he focuses on creating space for honest, compassionate conversation that works to promote community, mental health, and teamwork. Part of Graham’s special sauce is his ability to “walk and chew gum” at the same time… He’s a strong cop who is open about his own vulnerabilities, he can both have empathy and hold people accountable, and he can support males who have been victims at the same time he works to prevent them and others from further perpetuating violence. Listen to the full episode to learn how men can push back against the code of silence that turns us into complacent, complicit bystanders and how we can become champions in our own lives and the lives of others. SHOW NOTES:  Graham’s Information and Projects: Graham’s Website Graham’s Social Media Twitter LinkedIn Resources for Men Recommended by Graham: Jackson Katz Philip Zimbardo Havard Business Review How Masculinity Contests Undermine Culture Michael Kaufman The Seven P’s of Men’s Violence  Rita Pierson Every Child Needs a Champion TED talk The Power of Influence Robert B. Cialdini Connect with the hosts Email us at Charles@charlesmatheus.com or mrkgreene@gmail.com www.remakingmanhood.com www.charlesmatheus.com Music Credits: Gus Greene

The exuberant and savvy Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, talks about tactics, media platforms, culture hacking and the joy of building a media company which pioneered the conversation "no one else is having." Mark Greene, longtime GMP Senior Editor, Charles Matheus, and Lisa compare notes on the Good Men Project's decade long history in the trenches of the masculine culture wars. *** The Remaking Manhood Podcast is devoted to bringing you powerful conversations with the men and women leading the  healthy masculinity movement. For generations, our culture has taught us  a narrow and limiting set of rules for how to be a man. The end result?  Epidemic levels of isolation and violence for boys and men and for the  multitude of others who’s lives we impact. But we can make a difference choice. We can choose a masculinity of  connection and in return have healthier relationships, and more  meaningful, lasting lives. As a writer, speaker and consultant, Mark Greene has spent over a  decade deconstructing our binary-riddled dialogues around manhood and masculinity. He consults to organizations world wide on diversity,  inclusion and masculinity. Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood and is co-author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Book for Parenting. You can learn more about Mark's work at RemakingManhood.com Charles Matheus is an educator and public speaker who has mentored  hundreds of men in communication, leadership, & emotional growth.  You can learn more about his work at CharlesMatheus.com Contact: mark@remakingmanhood.com charles@charlesmatheus.com Theme music composed by Gus Greene. Click here for links to his music on most streaming services.  

What will the long term impact of the growing movement by men to be more engaged fathers to our children? Dr. Kevin Shafer, an associate professor of Sociology at Brigham Young University, is conducting ongoing research which reveals the surprising impact of engaged fathers and how that engagement later shows up in the adult lives of their sons. Hint: It's really good news for gender equity. Join us for a remarkable conversation with Dr. Kevin Shafer about the transformational power of fatherhood.  *** The Remaking Manhood Podcast is devoted to bringing you powerful conversations with the men and women leading the  healthy masculinity movement. For generations, our culture has taught us  a narrow and limiting set of rules for how to be a man. The end result?  Epidemic levels of isolation and violence for boys and men and for the  multitude of others who’s lives we impact. But we can make a difference choice. We can choose a masculinity of  connection and in return have healthier relationships, and more  meaningful, lasting lives. As a writer, speaker and consultant, Mark Greene has spent over a  decade deconstructing our binary-riddled dialogues around manhood and masculinity. He consults to organizations world wide on diversity,  inclusion and masculinity. Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood and is co-author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Book for Parenting. You can learn more about Mark's work at RemakingManhood.com Charles Matheus is an educator and public speaker who has mentored  hundreds of men in communication, leadership, & emotional growth.  You can learn more about his work at CharlesMatheus.com Contact: mark@remakingmanhood.com charles@charlesmatheus.com Theme music composed by Gus Greene. Click here for links to his music on most streaming services.  

How do we encourage healthy masculinity in an organization the size of Virginia Tech, which serves 34,000 students? Byron Hughes, Dean of Students at Virginia Tech, and his team are addressing this fundamental question. The answer? You do it one conversation at a time. Hughes and his team are creating an organizational culture of connection that is interwoven into the mission and goals of the university. Virginia Tech's model is a blueprint for humanizing workplaces everywhere.  *** Join  us for powerful conversations with the men and women leading the  healthy masculinity movement. For generations, our culture has taught us  a narrow and limiting set of rules for how to be a man. The end result?  Epidemic levels of isolation and violence for boys and men and for the  multitude of others who’s lives we impact. But we can make a difference choice. We can choose a masculinity of  connection and in return have healthier relationships, and more  meaningful, lasting lives. As a writer, speaker and consultant, Mark Greene has spent over a  decade deconstructing our binary-riddled dialogues around manhood and  masculinity. He consults to organizations world wide on diversity,  inclusion and masculinity. Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood and is co-author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Book for Parenting. You can learn more about Mark's work at RemakingManhood.com Charles Matheus is an educator and public speaker who has mentored  hundreds of men in communication, leadership, & emotional growth.  You can learn more about his work at CharlesMatheus.com Contact: mark@remakingmanhood.com charles@charlesmatheus.com Theme music composed by Gus Greene. Click here for links to his music on most streaming services.