Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Often people ask me if Parenting without Punishments and using connection is for all children. In this episode, Bea Moise and I reassure you that parenting this way is effective for kids who are neurodiverse and children who are neurotypical.  Bea Moise is a parent of a neurodiverse son and parenting expert who brings her experience and insight to put things into perspective around all different types of children.    Episode Highlights: Bea’s story Her experience with parents of neurodiverse children  The importance of connection    Connect with Bea Moise: Bea Moise,M.S.,BCCS (achild-likemine.com) Facebook @BeaMoise.M.S Instagram @achildlikemine Twitter @AChildLikeMine   How can we “shame-proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in  -- Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality!   Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I love all things teenager and so does my guest Kristen Cobabe the “teen whisperer”. When I first became a teen I found myself at a loss as to what to do and how to interact with my daughter. It was murky water and I struggled to say the least. But I have found my way and now I am enjoying the teenage years more than I thought I would. Today I’m joined by Kirsten Cobabe, who has worked with teenagers since she herself was a teenager as a mentor. In our discussion today, we talk about how to communicate best with both teens and tweens. This is one of the most significant developmental stages for them-- it's only right that we try our best to guide them without forcing their hands. Be sure to listen in! The best way to reach our teenagers is through connection, not control.   Episode Highlights: Kirsten’s background and experience How dealing with teens and tweens is different from a kid What you need to know about raising a teenager The changes that come with the teenager stage Why saying no is not our job as parents We need to choose our relationship with our kids over small issues   Connect with Kirsten: @kirstencobabe | Instagram Kirsten Cobabe | Website   How can we “shame-proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in  -- Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality!   Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sometimes when our child is having a hard time of course we want to fix things, help them see the bright side. But things might look arduous and difficult for our children and leaning into those upsets with empathy can help them feel seen, heard and understood. This way they are able to let go with more ease.    In this episode a lovely mom Jenna asks how to navigate negativity. We discuss leaning into the icky feelings, validate them and come with empathy to honor discomfort. It’s not easy seeing our children upset but with our love they can make it through.    Episode Highlights:   How to respond to our kids when they are negative Using empathy to heal discomfort Letting them win Allowing them to make mistakes   Email me at michelle@peaceandparentingla.com for a chance to win the Yelling Course!   How can we “shame proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in    --   Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality! Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When our child says “no” it can send us into emotional turmoil both because of how we were raised and how society views a child who stands up for themselves. But no doesn’t need to be a dirty word, and our children need to have the space to explore standing up for themselves. If they aren’t allowed to do it at home how can they ever set boundaries as they grow up. What of yes too, if we are insisting on “yes” is that yes we receive authentic or is it coerced somehow and only used as a way to please us?   Sterna is my guest today, she helps us unravel this sticky parenting moment, and gives us her incredible insights into why no is more than just a child being defiant on purpose and ways we can work through the moments when our children use no.   Episode Highlights: Why “No” isn’t always bad Collaboration works better than blind obedience Letting go of complete control Respecting our kids, so they respect us   How can we “shame proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in    --   Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality! Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aggression is a common occurrence in children and we see it often when there’s a new sibling. It is a fear response and one that can be tricky to unravel.  If we take a global look at our child and work on ways to build in connective practices while also allowing the tantrum to fully occur we can get movement with aggression.  Long time listener Ashley fully understands the modes of Peace and Parenting it’s just a pep talk she needs to reassure her she’s on the right path.    Episode Highlights: Aggression is fear, fear of needs not being met The connective nature of tantrums are therapeutic Empathy for feelings of jealousy can help offload feelings -- Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality! Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How do we promote resilience in our child and use the tenets of Peace and Parenting? Does being a kind loving parent mean our children will not be able to handle the cruel world? Perhaps empathy and kindness is exactly what allows our children to build in self esteem and the ability to recover from hard things.  Episode Highlights: Why you should let your child win Listening to your child with empathy How to promote resilience The ways in which peaceful parenting protects our kids from shame. Check out the Shame and Winning episodes and learn why our kids need us most when they appear to be at their worst. Enroll in Understanding Big Emotions Today! This course will guide you through the messiness of overwhelming feelings, help you unpack your own emotions, while teaching you what it is like to connect during difficult moments instead of completely losing your mind. Click here to enroll https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/pl/266250 Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality! Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today I’m joined by Courtney, a lovely mother of three young boys who recently completed my One on One Six Week Course. In this episode, she tells us how she has begun to transform her family, let go of yelling, and found more calm for her and her boys.If you think you can’t change the dynamics of your family and find peace and less yelling, you CAN, just like Courtney did. Listen in as we discuss what she learned in my One on One Six Week Course.You can find Courtney on Instagram @mostlyplantbasedmama Courtney Learned:How to let go of punishmentsFinding ways to be and cultivate more calmHow connection can strengthen the relationship she has with her sons. How taking things personally isn’t always helpful--Enroll in Understanding Big Emotions Today! This course will guide you through the messiness of overwhelming feelings, help you unpack your own emotions, while teaching you what it is like to connect during difficult moments instead of completely losing your mind.Click here to enroll https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/pl/266250Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner.Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality!Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Kids have different ways to cope with stressful situations. Some resort to more vocal ways-- while others tend to go inward as a way to cope with what’s hard in life. It’s hard for us to know exactly how to approach them with love and kindness while still helping them move through tough behavior. Joining me this episode is a follower and active participant on the Facebook group, Jillian.  Jillian, like so many of us, struggles with a behavior that she can’t quite figure out how to navigate. We take a look at the whole child, the underlying and the more obvious and try to find ways to meet her daughter where she is using connection.  I know others struggle with thumb sucking and pacifiers and hope this episode is helpful.                Episode Highlights: Familial background The root cause of thumb sucking  What we can do to curb it without the use of shame   Check out the Empathy Podcast and learn why our kids need us most when they appear to be at their worst.  Download the FREE guide - HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY How do you come alongside your child when they are upset? What do you say and how can you be supportive when emotions are running high? Find out what to say and the best ways to come with empathy in this free downloadable guide HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY: What to say and do when your child is really upset -- Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend and subscribe to the show to get notified on the latest episodes. Support this podcast through my partnership with Hand in Hand Parenting. Find useful parenting material and the Booklets I discuss in the show? Click Here. Are you a coach, or online course creator? Have an email list you communicate with often? Do you have a website? Kajabi can be your home for all of these and so much more Click here and explore all Kajabi has to offer while supporting the Peace and Parenting Podcast with no extra cost to you.    Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Trying to parent without being resourced is impossible. We all need and deserve a place to have our feelings. Someone to listen can help us move through difficult moments and unravel childhood unmet needs and just come to our parenting more centered because we have a place to be heard too! A Listening Partner is this person! Someone who supports you weekly in your parenting challenges. This Parenting Tool from Hand in Hand Parenting is life changing. If you want to know more about this tool. Use this link to get the Listening Partnerships Booklet and a clear explanation on how to get one started. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/partner/Peaceandparenting/  Since I am a partner of Hand in Hand a portion of the sale of the LP Booklet goes to support this little podcast. You can also join our Private Facebook Group to search for a partner. https://www.facebook.com/groups/peaceandparenting  Kelly lives in South Africa with her twin boys. Her background is in Montessori Teaching and now has become a HIH Instructor.  She will share with us the significance of listening partnerships and how this transformative tool can bring healing to our relationships and parenting journey!   Episode Highlights: Kelly’s pregnancy experience with her twin boys The reality of giving birth What it feels like to have and raise twin babies What is a Listening Partnership? The powerful impact of Listening Partnerships. Unpacking your emotional backpacks How do we re-parent ourselves?   Have you ever thought that tantrums are actually connective? Did you know big messy feelings are healing and the idea of being an empathic listener is what makes this all happen for our children? My online video course Understanding Big Emotions...without using punishments or otherwise losing your mind teaches us how to be the emotional coach for our children, helping them learn authentic and lasting self regulation while also instilling self regulation. For the next 24 hours you can purchase this course for an introductory price of $47. When it launches, it will be $67. I will be holding a live Q+A and forming a Private Facebook group just for the members of this class. I hope you will take advantage of this offer and look forward to seeing you in the live Q+A!   Click the link below to purchase this life changing course: https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/offers/NHT5pxLR/checkout   About Our Guest: Kelly van Rooyen is a certified Hand in Hand Parenting instructor, passionate about bringing the listening tools to families looking to build a deep connection and parent from the heart. Instagram @consciousconfidentparenting Facebook @consciousconfidentparenting   --- Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Twitter @peace_parenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

“When we bring kids into this world, our hope is that in the future, there will be a more peaceful world for them.” Good behaviour from our children begins with us, their parents.  In this episode, Kiersten, a dear member of our community joins me to talk about how her journey’s been like as a mom, the joyful and the hard parts, as well as how she is growing as a mother and how peaceful parenting helped her nurture her relationship with her kids! When we are met with defiance, we can’t help but lose our cool sometimes especially when there are many things going around at the same time. Keep listening to today’s episode to find out how you can connect with your kids on a deeper level and learn how to move away  from punishing and controlling and lean into calm and peace.    Episode Highlights: How Kiersten’s journey with peaceful parenting began Peace begins with us, parents Stop trying to control your kids Let your kids grow and experience life The hardest part of peaceful parenting for Kiersten Mistakes are inevitable, remember to be gentle with yourself too   Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend.   Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.    We make plans for many things in life, but what about making a plan to connect each day with our children? Connection is the cornerstone to Peace and Parenting. Making plans each day to weave connection into your everyday life is essential to ensure we are making it our focus. In this FREE plan, I give you the things I do each day to keep connection top of mind and give you some ideas for your own well thought out plan. Download the free plan HERE https://bit.ly/39qmkxP    Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Twitter @peace_parenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts   Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy