The Perfectionism Project

In this episode, I’m sharing a behind the scenes look at my personal development journey (and business) in the hope it will inspire you to work on yourself. I’m always honest in these episodes so there’s no avoiding that April was a messy month for me.   I spent most of April feeling confused, overwhelmed and extremely uncomfortable - which means I’m on the right track! Tune in to hear what I’ve been working on and get some inspiration to take your personal development to the next level.   In This Episode You’ll Learn:   Why I feel like I’m going through an identity crisis right now The biggest investment I’ve ever made in my personal development Why I take action on new ideas the moment I have them The daily affirmation that is taking my business to the next level My plans to go full-time in my business The difference between passive personal development and active personal development Two exciting hires that happened this month   Featured In The Episode:   Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Erin May Henry Self-Coaching Scholars Date With Destiny Cairns 2019 I Am Not Your Guru - Netflix Documentary Manifestation Babe Dream Life Deluxe Episode 48: How To Be Your Own Mindset Coach Episode 99: Personal Growth Update March 2019 Episode 104: My Money Mindset Routine + How I Manage My Finances Episode 105: What A Six Figure Business *Really* Feels Like

When I first started my blog, I had zero confidence. And I really do mean zero! That’s why I kept it a secret from EVERYONE in my life for more than a year. I doubted myself so much that the tiniest giggle from a loved one would have forced me to shut the whole thing down.     I’ve come a long way since then, so in this episode, I’m sharing practical tips to help you create self-confidence when you need it the most - as well as the real reason it hurts so much when our loved ones doubt us!   In This Episode You’ll Learn:   The most important thing you can do if your loved ones don’t believe in you The real reason that other people’s doubts affect your confidence Why you shouldn’t expect your loved ones to believe in your goals What to say when people tell you that online businesses are a scam How to create self-belief so other people’s comments don’t affect you My personal struggles with what other people think   Featured In The Episode:   Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services

I love teaching ambitious women how to use their identity to create change, and in this episode I’m sharing some of my best advice with you! Tune in to discover why you keep sabotaging your success and how to create an identity that will pull you towards your goals.   I first talked about this in Episode 26 of the podcast and since it’s always one of my most popular episodes, I’m answering the most commonly asked questions I get about how to change your self-image. I hope you enjoy it!   In This Episode You’ll Learn:   What self image is and why it’s so powerful Whether to create a general self-image or one that’s more specific The wording you must use when creating a new self-image My best advice on how to create long-term change that lasts How to uplevel everyday habits using your self-image The key to changing your self-image for good   Featured In The Episode:   Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image Episode 97: How To Upgrade Your Habits Using Personal Rules Tom Bilyeu’s Youtube channel Tom Bilyeu compilation of his Top 50 Rules of Success

Ever since I started my blog in August 2013, building a six-figure business has been a dream of mine. Since my business will be crossing the six-figure mark this week, I thought now would be the perfect time to chat through what it feels like to finally be here.     Like most people, I believed that having a six-figure business would mean more happiness, more time and feeling more organised - but this hasn’t quite been the case! I’m so grateful for where I am but also wanted to share what can happen mentally when we achieve our big goals.     I hope this episode inspires you to continue goal-setting and reminds you that there’s no need to rush because you’ll always be on the journey.   In This Episode You’ll Learn:   My exact month-by-month revenue from July 2018 to now The biggest misconceptions I had about having a six-figure business Why I’m starting to focus on building a team in Brisbane, even though I could work from anywhere in the world What ‘marketer math’ is and why you shouldn’t believe all of the revenue figures you read The problems I’m facing in my business at the moment Why I’m not yet full-time in my business and how I’m planning to make the transition   Featured In The Episode:   Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 58: 5 Signs You’re Scared of Success Episode 79: The Final Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal + My 2019 Goals

The way you think about money determines how you feel about money and therefore what you do with money. More money doesn't solve money problems (because fear of not having enough turns into fear of losing it). It's an abundant money mindset that solves money problems and I LOVE sharing what I learn as I do the work to create my own.   One of the things I do to create an abundant money mindset is my money mindset routine. This inspired by Kathrin Zenkina’s 'Money Mondays' but I've put my own spin on it. I can get a little nerdy with numbers (I do have a finance degree after all) but I've done my best to make this easy to understand! I hope this gives you some inspiration to be more intentional with your finances and a few ideas about what you can do to upgrade your money mindset.   In This Episode You’ll Learn: How my money mindset routine changed my life My exact money mindset routine, step-by-step from start to finish Simple journaling exercises that will transform your money mindset How I manage my personal finances and stay out of debt How I manage my company finances including what I use an accountant for The two metrics I track each and every week in my business Why I don’t recommend creating an ‘emergency’ account and what to call it instead Featured In The Episode: Figure Your Life Out - Join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Manifestation Babe Podcast with Kathrin Zenikna Rich Babe Academy The Life Coach School Podcast with Brooke Castillo For The Love of Money Podcast with Chris Harder Abraham Hicks/Esther Hicks Chillpreneur by Denise Duffield-Thomas Episode 67: 4 Practical Ways To Transform Your Money Mindset

Being indecisive is costing you more than you realise. It’s not just stopping you from creating your dream life - it’s also draining you of precious mental energy!   In this episode, I’m sharing why we stay in confusion (even though it’s so frustrating) and giving you a practical exercise you can use to create massive amounts of mental clarity today. It’s time to start creating the life you deserve.   In This Episode You’ll Learn: What creates indecision fatigue Why indecision and confusion keep us safe Why you can never make the ‘wrong’ decision How to use personal rules to reduce indecision fatigue Helpful frameworks for decision making (beyond the pros vs cons list) A simple exercise you can do today to escape decision fatigue   Featured In The Episode: Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here Figure Your Life Out - join the waitlist here 1:1 Coaching Services Episode 97: How To Upgrade Your Habits Using Personal Rules The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

I always help my 1:1 coaching clients to uplevel their morning and nighttime routine. How you start and end each day matters, and there’s always room for improvement. Even for me! In a couple of days, I’m taking a group of ambitious women under my wing and teaching them what I teach my 1:1 coaching clients about routines. If you’re interested in joining me for Perfect Your Morning & Nighttime Routine, there’s less than 48 hours to sign up. If you do, you’ll learn how to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Click here to join me and dozens of ambitious women for Perfect Your Morning & Nighttime Routine.   In This Episode You’ll Learn: How a morning and nighttime routine reduces exhaustion, stress and self-pity Why I help me 1:1 coaching clients uplevel their routines The surprising way that routines allow you to create self-confidence and self-trust Why a consistent morning and nighttime routine will help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be How my morning and nighttime routine helped me to quit my full-time job for blogging Why I’m teaching ambitious women how to create their perfect routines with my upcoming workshop, Perfect Your Morning & Nighttime Routine Featured In The Episode: Perfect Your Morning & Nighttime Routine - registration closes in less than 48 hours Episode 84: How To Escape The Self-Pity Cycle Episode 100: The 5 Biggest Mistakes Perfectionists Make When Creating A Growth Mindset

At the beginning of my personal development journey I had some serious resistance around rest. I’ve always wanted to feel busy. And because of that, I’ve been experimenting with it for just as long (see this blog post from 2014).   I feel like I’m now in quite a healthy place with rest - i.e. I actually allow myself to do it, without the guilt! I recently had two weeks completely off my business and was able to do so without even a twinge of regret. And my business continued to grow while I was away!   Not only has forced downtime allowed me to create an identity for myself outside of my business but I’ve become WAY more productive and successful. When I have less time to get shit done I can’t be as sloppy with it!   In this episode, I’m sharing why perfectionists hate to rest, how to skyrocket your productivity levels and my own journey with guilt-free downtime.   In This Episode You’ll Learn: Why you believe that unproductive moment is a moment wasted What ‘productive procrastination’ is and why perfectionists love it The unexpected consequences of not allowing yourself to rest Why perfectionists self-sabotage with busywork How I build guilt-free rest into my busy schedule My recommendation for how to ease into rest Featured In The Episode: Episode 84: How To Escape The Self-Pity Cycle The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss Episode 39: The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss Episode 99: Personal Growth Update March 2019 Episode 100: The 5 Biggest Growth Mindset Mistakes Perfectionists Make How To Stop Feeling Guilty About Not Studying On Weekends Ep #248: Superthinking on The Life Coach School Podcast

Perfectionism is created by the belief that if you can do everything perfectly, and look perfect, you won’t have to experience the pain of judgement, blame and shame. Perfectionists aren’t perfect people, they’re people who feel ashamed that they’re not perfect. The beliefs that create the perfectionist mindset run deep, which is why catchy reminders like “done is better than perfect” don’t tend to change behaviour at a fundamental level. Our human need to avoid the painful emotion of shame can override even our deepest desires and causes us to get in our own way. Growing out of perfectionism requires a willingness to feel vulnerable. Alongside that, I’ve found that one of the most effective ways to evolve out of perfectionism is to focus on creating a growth mindset. In this episode, I’m going to be sharing exactly what that is, how to create it and the biggest mistakes that perfectionists make when it comes to creating a growth mindset. I hope you find it helpful!   In This Episode You’ll Learn: What the growth mindset is and isn’t, and how it can help you achieve your goals Practical things you can do to create a growth mindset Why you need to have a growth mindset about creating a growth mindset Why detaching from the end result will actually allow you to achieve more   Featured In The Episode: My 1:1 coaching services Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here Episode 45: 10 Signs You’re A Perfectionist Mindset by Carol Dweck Carol Dweck interviewed by Tom Bilyeu Carol Dweck on Perfectionism Episode 59: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown Growth mindset examples in podcast interviews: Aisha Tyler on The Tim Ferriss Show,  Katrin Davidsdottir on The School of Greatness, Ellen Bennett on Second Life, Tyler Hanley on Second Life Second Life podcast Losing My Virginity by Richard Branson Episode 57: 7 Differences Between High Achievers and Perfectionists Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset

March 2019 was an interesting and exciting month for me. The first half was filled with lessons and the second half filled with wonder (and even more lessons). I learned A LOT and am so excited to share the best of it with you in this episode. This month I relaunched my perfectionism course Get Out Of Your Own Way, spent a week in Bali on the Manifestation Babe Retreat and finally gave myself permission to take a break from my business - even if it was only for a few days! Plus there was plenty of other stuff going on too. Tune in to find out what I got up to, the mistakes I made and what I learned. In This Episode You’ll Learn: What I thought of the Manifestation Babe Retreat in Bali + whether I’d recommend it My biggest takeaways from the MB Retreat An important lesson I learned while relaunching Get Out Of Your Own Way Why I gave myself permission to have a week off my business + the impact it had The consequence of neglecting my daily journaling practice (feeling stressed) How my goal to read 4 books per month is (or isn’t) progressing My personal development experiment for the second quarter of 2019 Featured In The Episode: My 1:1 coaching services Episode 52: The 3 Stages of Personal Growth Get Out Of Your Own Way - join the waitlist here Manifestation Babe Rich Babe Academy Self-Coaching Scholars Tara Brunet Manifesting Your Dream Body by Tara Brunet J.Burrows Black Journal Chillpreneur by Denise Duffield-Thomas Rocket Fuel by Gino Wickman Books read in 2019: Principles by Ray Dalio, Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss, Unstoppable by Maria Sharapova, Still Me by Jojo Moyes, Incognito by David Eagleman, Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, Losing My Virginity by Richard Branson, The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood