The Optimist

Breakup coach. Philosopher in the woods.Cam King is not your average dude.And this is not your average conversation about masculinity.In this episode, we go deep into:Why so many men are quietly breaking down after heartbreakHow to actually move on (hint: it’s not another rebound)Cam’s rule for turning pain into powerThe real reason modern relationships are falling apartWhy men struggle to define who they want to become—and how to finally figure it outAnd the viral origin story of the “300 Things to Do Before You Die” bucket listWhether you’re navigating a breakup, trying to understand the men in your life, or rebuilding yourself from the ground up, this one hits hard.Cam helped me through one of the most confusing chapters of my life. And in this episode, we’re passing that torch to you.Listen to the full conversation and start rewriting your story.

Think your life isn’t interesting enough for the internet? Think again.In this raw, eye-opening conversation with creator economy expert JT Barnett, we dive headfirst into the biggest lie holding people back: the belief that their lives aren’t worth sharing. JT unpacks how every seemingly “ordinary” life contains extraordinary stories—and why it’s crucial to overcome self-doubt, embrace the cringe, and start creating content anyway.From overcoming panic attacks as a pro hockey player, to launching viral TikTok houses, JT reveals the vulnerable journey behind his success, proving that the only difference between you and the creators you admire is their willingness to put themselves out there.If you’ve ever felt your story wasn’t good enough for the spotlight, this episode might just change everything you believe about yourself—and what’s possible when you stop hiding and start hitting record.

In this episode, Caleb Ulffers joins Jake Hurwitz to explore a powerful mindset shift: Everything is Easy. From embracing rejection and stepping fearlessly into new experiences, to optimizing your life with mindfulness, style, and authentic leadership, Caleb delivers practical insights you can apply immediately. Caleb shares his personal journey of growth, overcoming major setbacks, and building a fulfilling life through intentionality and relentless curiosity. Whether you're starting fresh or seeking deeper clarity, this episode offers tools to optimize your mindset and build a purposeful life.

Danny Cortenraede is a successful investor, former media exec, and founder of InStudio Ventures — but this episode isn’t about business deals or exit valuations.It’s about balance.About fatherhood.About building a wildly ambitious life without sacrificing your health, your kids, or your peace of mind.In this raw and honest conversation, Danny shares the tools, systems, and mindset shifts that helped him move his family across continents, build a venture fund, and stay grounded in what really matters. We talk about marriage, money, kids, burnout, discipline, and how to design a life that’s both powerful and peaceful.

Join James Beshara, a serial entrepreneur and founder of Magic Mind, as he delves into the philosophical underpinnings that influence our actions. He reveals how hidden worldviews dictate our decisions and discusses the pitfalls of ambition without inner peace, which can lead to burnout. James shares his recovery journey after a challenging business collapse and how ancient philosophies shaped his perspectives on true success. Discover the importance of aligning ambition with authentic service and cultivating emotional resilience.

I used to think bucket lists were kind of cheesy… until I made one.Then I printed it on a four-foot poster and hung it in my house.That one exercise completely changed how I see my life.In this solo episode of The Optimist, I break down how a simple homework assignment from a coach turned into the most profound and energizing thing I’ve ever done:creating a list of 300 things to do before I die.I’ll share:How I came up with the list (with a little help from ChatGPT)Why 300 is the magic numberHow I designed the poster and what happened when strangers at Kinko’s read itThe sniper rifle story (yes, really)And why this list has become my favorite tool for staying inspired, grounded, and excited about the future🎁 Want your own poster?The first 5 people who DM me their list — even if it’s messy or unfinished — I’ll design and ship you your very own version for free.No fluff. No coaching funnel. Just a gift from me to you.Make your list. Hang it up. Watch your life change.👉 Subscribe to The Optimist for more honest, human conversations on identity, ambition, and becoming who you’re here to be.

Why do breakups hit men and women so differently? And what does real healing actually look like?In this episode, Jake sits down with relationship coach Niki Van Houten for a raw, revealing conversation about heartbreak, emotional maturity, and the evolution of modern masculinity. They dive deep into the science and soul of breakups—why women often grieve earlier, why men stay distracted longer, and how both can learn to process pain without shame.Together, they unpack:- Why most men avoid feeling their grief (and what to do instead)- How to support your friends through breakups (without giving terrible advice)- Why it’s okay to not be “fully healed” before dating again- The difference between masculine & feminine energy—and how to balance them- How to consciously uncouple with love, respect, and growth- What every man should ask himself before trying to “glow up” post-breakupIf you’re navigating the end of a relationship, or supporting someone who is, this one’s for you. It’s not just about getting through heartbreak—it’s about becoming who you’re meant to be on the other side of it.

This week, Jake welcomed Naz Perez, the first woman on his podcast, for a candid conversation about heartbreak, loneliness, and meaningful connections. As founder of Heartbroken Anonymous, Naz shares insights on why so many Americans feel disconnected despite being more "connected" than ever. They discuss the physical and emotional toll of heartbreak, how men and women process pain differently, and practical advice for creating safe spaces to be vulnerable.TIMESTAMPS:0:00 Introduction & Getting to Know Naz 14:38 The Loneliness Epidemic in America25:21 Heartbroken Anonymous Origin Story35:05 The Universal Experience of Pain41:42 How Men and Women Experience Heartbreak Differently51:00 "Open Heart vs. Closed Heart": Creating Vulnerability59:03 Dating Advice & Communication Between Men and Women1:05:42 Why Men Need Non-Judgmental Spaces1:15:20 Final Thoughts on Modern Masculinity

In this episode of The Optimist, Jake sits down with Kenny Borg, a coach and entrepreneur, to discuss the "meta crisis" - the overlapping series of crises affecting our modern world and mental health. They explore how men can navigate feeling overwhelmed, the importance of finding connection, and practical ways to maintain balance. Kenny shares his journey from D1 college football player to entrepreneur to coach, offering insights on masculinity, fatherhood, and finding stillness in chaotic times.Timestamps:0:00 Introduction and defining the meta crisis5:48 The physiological effects of being overwhelmed14:40 Three essential practices: time alone, time in nature, time with men20:39 The importance of personal retreats and creating space31:42 Effectively communicating needs in relationships38:34 The value of male connection and friendship46:30 Kenny's transformation from athlete to entrepreneur54:15 Finding happiness beyond financial success1:02:46 What it means to be a man today1:04:30 The power of meditation and controlling your attention

In this episode, Jake sits down with breathwork instructor Chris Keener to discuss how breathwork can transform your relationship with stress, increase clarity, and enhance performance. Jake opens up about his recent breathwork journey and together, both explore how this ancient practice can help modern men connect with themselves.Timestamps:0:00 - Chris explains how he reimagined his bachelor party as a men's retreat7:00 - Jake shares his transformative first breathwork experience and how it brought clarity to his life14:00 - The history of breathwork and its connection to human stress responses21:00 - Understanding the physical sensations during breathwork (like the "lobster hands")27:00 - How breathwork helps reclaim control over your nervous system35:00 - Simple breathing techniques to use during stressful situations41:00 - Chris guides Jake through a powerful "1111" breathing exercise for meetings54:00 - How breathwork can enhance athletic performance in surfing, jiu-jitsu and more1:00:00 - Chris shares his thoughts on what it means to be a man today: "Learn who you are and become it"