

Time to Lean
Laura Danger and Crystal Britt
On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural critiques and discussions on trending topics, we explore the systemic issues that shape our homes and lives. In each weekly episode, we tackle the topics that impact our lives, challenge the status quo, and uncover the hidden dynamics that influence how we live and work. Join us as we make time to lean into these crucial conversations and advocate for the value of the work that truly keeps the world turning.Laura, @thatdarnchat, is an educator and advocate. Crystal Britt, @itscrystalbritt, is a coach and licensed therapist in California. Find us on IG or join us on Patreon @ timetoleanpod for Ad-Free episodes, resources, book clubs, weekly virtual meet-ups and so much more!Check us out on Substack for Ad-Free episodes and supplemental resources! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 14, 2024 • 51min
how do you decide who should decide?
Join us as we dive into the rollercoaster ride of decision-making in relationships! We tackle the hot topic of who does what at home and the mental juggling act that often leaves one person feeling like a circus performer. We'll chat about why it's crucial to have teamwork and open communication and explore the difference between handling the practical and emotional sides of a partnership and the art of finding a balance that works.Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Listen to Decoding Couples!Listen to A Fresh Story PodcastJoin us on Patreon! Get ad free episodes, exclusive updates and resources!Register for upcoming book clubs! Links to register and for info on the books here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 7, 2024 • 45min
what is the back-to-school mental load?
On this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss all things Back-to-Schoo! If you have kids or teach them or babysit them or are around them, you have felt the heavy mental load of this time of year. Join us in discussing this episode in our Patreon, meet up with us on Tuesdays to connect and ask questions-AND you can listen to our episodes AD-FREE for as low as $5 a month!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 31, 2024 • 44min
what's going on down at Ballerina Farm?
On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers. Mentioned on this episode:The viral Time's article on Ballerina FarmAll Fours by Miranda JulyJoin our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 24, 2024 • 49min
how should we handle finances? with Ellyce Fulmore
In this episode, Laura speaks with Ellyce Fulmore, author of the national bestseller Keep Finance Personal, a book dedicated to helping neurodivergent individuals approach their finances without shame! Find Ellyce @ellyce.fulmore, at Queerd Co., and on her podcast, Dopamine Dollars!Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 17, 2024 • 51min
do they get to complain if they didn't help plan?
In this episode, we delve into the mental load and invisible pressures mothers and primary caregivers often face. We'll listen to a woman whose kids and partner complain about the sleeping conditions at the Airbnb they did nothing to help pick! We discuss the challenges of planning vacations, managing finances, and making family decisions, emphasizing open communication, shared responsibility, and empathy.Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 10, 2024 • 1h 22min
what if every conversation we have is a competition?
In this week's episode, we have a tweet submitted from a listener regarding initial reactions in communication. We discuss collaborative versus competitive communication and how it deeply effects how men and women communicate.Mentioned on this episode:Gottman Article on Accepting Influence From a PartnerStudy on Collaborative vs Competitive CommunicationGet ad-free episodes and other perks on Patreon! Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IGFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 3, 2024 • 40min
am I the a-hole not cancelling the cleaner when my partner asked me to?
This week's episode focuses on an AITA found on reddit where the poster wanted to know if she was a jerk for asking her partner to let a cleaner into their flat when he was tired. This one was murky and we're dying to hear what you think! (Join the conversation over on Patreon. You can sub for free!)Read the AITA thread and comments here!Mentioned in this episode:Boy Mom by Ruth WhippmanEverything and Nothing at Once by Joel LeonGet ad-free episodes and other perks on Patreon! Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IGFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 26, 2024 • 45min
how can we get the whole family to see the work?
In this week's episode, we discuss how we can course-correct when balance arrives, but the perception of it is still skewed. What work is being noticed? What is being ignored? What can we do to shift the narrative, especially with kids?To use the Persist web app and get a discount, use code DANGER15 https://www.timeforpersist.com/Referenced in the episode:Our Home by Lori Sugarman-LiReleasing the Mother Load by Erica DjossaParenting Beyond Power by Jen LumanlanJoin our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help.Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 19, 2024 • 56min
is it "over-packing" or is it making sure we have a good time?
In this week's episode, we discuss the challenges of packing! Why do we pack what we pack? What goes into the process, and why? Packing is a task that's full to the brim with care, consideration, and preparation. A well-planned, well-packed trip means everyone has a better time. Referenced in the episode:MultitoolBluey Episode: The PoolOutside Magazine ArticleJoin our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help.Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 12, 2024 • 51min
RE-RELEASE: someone on the internet said screens were BAD, is that true? with the Gamer Educator!
Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator, joins Laura and Crystal to talk about the nuances surrounding screens. A video recently went viral on Tiktok where a creator made some serious claims about the harms of screens. Ash chats with us about how you can set boundaries around screens, how screens can be tools and who's really to blame for the significant role they play in our lives. Ash creates amazing content on their IG page. Go check their website out here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.