

Time to Lean
Laura Danger and Crystal Britt
On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural critiques and discussions on trending topics, we explore the systemic issues that shape our homes and lives. In each weekly episode, we tackle the topics that impact our lives, challenge the status quo, and uncover the hidden dynamics that influence how we live and work. Join us as we make time to lean into these crucial conversations and advocate for the value of the work that truly keeps the world turning.Laura, @thatdarnchat, is an educator and advocate. Crystal Britt, @itscrystalbritt, is a coach and licensed therapist in California. Find us on IG or join us on Patreon @ timetoleanpod for Ad-Free episodes, resources, book clubs, weekly virtual meet-ups and so much more!Check us out on Substack for Ad-Free episodes and supplemental resources! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Jul 17, 2024 • 51min
do they get to complain if they didn't help plan?
In this episode, we delve into the mental load and invisible pressures mothers and primary caregivers often face. We'll listen to a woman whose kids and partner complain about the sleeping conditions at the Airbnb they did nothing to help pick! We discuss the challenges of planning vacations, managing finances, and making family decisions, emphasizing open communication, shared responsibility, and empathy.Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 10, 2024 • 1h 22min
what if every conversation we have is a competition?
In this week's episode, we have a tweet submitted from a listener regarding initial reactions in communication. We discuss collaborative versus competitive communication and how it deeply effects how men and women communicate.Mentioned on this episode:Gottman Article on Accepting Influence From a PartnerStudy on Collaborative vs Competitive CommunicationGet ad-free episodes and other perks on Patreon! Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IGFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 3, 2024 • 40min
am I the a-hole not cancelling the cleaner when my partner asked me to?
This week's episode focuses on an AITA found on reddit where the poster wanted to know if she was a jerk for asking her partner to let a cleaner into their flat when he was tired. This one was murky and we're dying to hear what you think! (Join the conversation over on Patreon. You can sub for free!)Read the AITA thread and comments here!Mentioned in this episode:Boy Mom by Ruth WhippmanEverything and Nothing at Once by Joel LeonGet ad-free episodes and other perks on Patreon! Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IGFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 26, 2024 • 45min
how can we get the whole family to see the work?
In this week's episode, we discuss how we can course-correct when balance arrives, but the perception of it is still skewed. What work is being noticed? What is being ignored? What can we do to shift the narrative, especially with kids?To use the Persist web app and get a discount, use code DANGER15 https://www.timeforpersist.com/Referenced in the episode:Our Home by Lori Sugarman-LiReleasing the Mother Load by Erica DjossaParenting Beyond Power by Jen LumanlanJoin our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help.Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 19, 2024 • 56min
is it "over-packing" or is it making sure we have a good time?
In this week's episode, we discuss the challenges of packing! Why do we pack what we pack? What goes into the process, and why? Packing is a task that's full to the brim with care, consideration, and preparation. A well-planned, well-packed trip means everyone has a better time. Referenced in the episode:MultitoolBluey Episode: The PoolOutside Magazine ArticleJoin our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help.Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 12, 2024 • 51min
RE-RELEASE: someone on the internet said screens were BAD, is that true? with the Gamer Educator!
Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator, joins Laura and Crystal to talk about the nuances surrounding screens. A video recently went viral on Tiktok where a creator made some serious claims about the harms of screens. Ash chats with us about how you can set boundaries around screens, how screens can be tools and who's really to blame for the significant role they play in our lives. Ash creates amazing content on their IG page. Go check their website out here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video!Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jun 5, 2024 • 42min
what if my needs are making him want to crawl out of his skin?
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a listener question. She had a friend to visit for a few days and it ended very poorly. What is she supposed to do if she's dying for connection and the way she's getting those needs met are making him a bit miserable?Get ad-free episodes and join the conversation over on Patreon! Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

May 29, 2024 • 51min
isn't that just called being a mom?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal dive into executive function, anxiety spirals and the complicated space of trying to emotionally regulate as a parent with your emotionally dysregulated kids. Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

May 22, 2024 • 60min
is the diabolical lie that we can work or stay home?
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the speech Kansas City Chiefs kicker, Harrison Butker, gave at a Catholic university's commencement ceremony. In it, he states that women have been "diabolically lied to," and we agree, but not in the way you think.You can read the full text of Butker's speech here!Listen to Black Disability Politics here!Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

May 15, 2024 • 57min
are "boy rooms" really all that messy?
In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk about "Boy Room", a show by Rachel Coster. It's an Instagram series that explores the messy and often disturbing world of boy bedrooms in New York City. Comedian Rachel Coster interviews men in their 20s and 30s about their messy living spaces. The rooms are filled with clutter, trash, and filth. The videos have gained a large following and have sparked discussions about messy habits, gender stereotypes, and the dynamics of relationships.Answer our prompt. Do you think these videos are FUNNY or SAD?You can read about Boy Room here!You can watch Boy Room here!You can get your own copy of All About Love by bell hooks for your side table here!Join our Patreon!Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.