Sex for Saints

This week I researched the power of touch.  There was plenty of information to back up my beliefs. Being touched is the first communication a newborn babe has with those that love them.  Skin to skin calms a crying baby, lowers adults’ heart rate and sends messages to the vagus nerve for relaxation.  These are just a few of the numerous benefits.  I also talk about ideas and solutions for those times when you are simply “all touched out.”  If you are a mother - especially to small children -you know exactly what I am talking about.  Sometimes learning to touch our spouse the way they want takes teaching and learning and communicating in love and compassion.  Test it for yourself. You will be amazed at the difference it can make in your relationship.

In this week's podcast, I tackle the subject of your sexuality.  What does it look like to you? What does it feel like? Our first impulse is to believe it is wrong or distasteful.  I am going to explain why I believe it is a beautiful part of who we are as children of God. It is part of our identity given to us by a loving Heavenly Father- to use wisely.  It can be pure and beautiful and full of goodness. It is a gift. I will discuss figuring out your desires in all aspects of your life and learning to speak your truth.

Does your spouse view pornography? Do you think he is addicted?  In this week’s episode, I interview Dr. Cameron Staley, a clinical psychologist who has researched pornography addiction.  Learn what he has to say about why your spouse looks at pornography and how you can best support them.

Do you use lube? Not only can it be fun to use but it’s also important for safer sex! Yep, using lube can not only help things go smoother but it can help prevent irritation, tearing, and infection.  But, it’s important to find the right lube for you.  Many lubes have toxic chemicals that aren’t meant for our delicate genital area.  In this episode, we talk about the different types of lubes, what works well for different purposes, and how to avoid lubes that aren’t safe for your body.

Sara Payne, a life coach dedicated to helping the wives of physicians navigate the complexities of their partners' demanding careers, shares insights on managing exhaustion and intimacy. She discusses common issues that arise when sexual desire takes a backseat to busy lifestyles. The conversation delves into reframing intimacy from an obligation to a shared desire, offering practical strategies and heartfelt stories to inspire couples. Sara emphasizes the importance of communication in nurturing relationships and enhancing sexual satisfaction.

Do you have a healthy marriage and sexual relationship? How do you know if you do or not? In this week’s episode, I am sharing the 6 Principles of Healthy Sexuality and what a healthy relationship looks like. This is a great way to see what areas you and your spouse can improve upon and strengthen.

Wives share their insights about intimacy and what they wish their husbands understood. Effective communication and mutual support are emphasized as keys to stronger relationships. The importance of foreplay and understanding women's sexual pleasure takes center stage, highlighting clitoral stimulation and the need for open discussions. Listeners gain practical advice for romantic gestures and strategies to enhance intimacy through shared responsibilities and emotional connection. It's a guide for husbands to foster deeper connections and improve their love lives.

Explore the journey to reconnecting with personal pleasure and intimacy. Discover how to shed guilt around sexual desire and embrace joy in your experiences. Delve into the often-unspoken relationship with pleasure, and learn about the concept of an erotic map. Reflect on desires and find ways to enhance intimacy with your partner. It's an enlightening conversation on what truly turns you on!

Does sex feel like a chore? Something you have to do to keep your husband happy? It sounds noble, but you are probably building up a lot of resentment in the meantime. Sex isn't supposed to be just about him. It's about you too. When we learn to step into our sexuality, own it, work on it, it changes everything. Your husband is happy, and so are you. Find out more and download your FREE worksheet for this week’s episode, podcast Episode 91 - Keeping Your Husband Happy    amandalouder.com/podcast/91   I’m looking for submissions for an upcoming podcast on what wives wish their husbands knew about them and sex.  So, what do you wish your husband knew?  What haven’t you told him? What are you afraid to tell him?  All submissions will be kept anonymous.  Please email submissions to podcast@amandaloudercoaching.com    

As I was studying my scriptures this week, I found some interesting parallels in the way we approach sex and the way the sons of Lehi approached their father’s vision and beliefs.  Are you more like Laman and Lemuel? Sam? or Nephi?