Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow

Ep 313: Kinky vs. Vanilla Navigating a Difference in Desires with Author and Therapist Stefani Goerlich. This was an epic discussion! Stefani is a certified sex therapist, a kink-affirming therapist, a master social worker, a media and intimacy consultant, an award-winning author, and a conference presenter. She's also a podcaster at Securing Sexuality. Her book With Sprinkles on Top is a sex-positive and compelling guide for people with a desire discrepancy in relationships, particularly between kinky and vanilla partners. She assists people in navigating relationships and specializes in gender, sexuality, and relationships in her practice. She also focuses on kink and mental health and how tech fits in, especially in a constantly changing digital world. We talked about how kink is relational, but she doesn't address the how-to's of kink but helps people communicate regarding consent, negotiation, and how to live out healthy power exchange roles and scenarios. She talked about the commonly viewed negativity surrounding kink ...it's "either the butt of a joke or a threat". People don't have good models of what a healthy consensual normative kink looks like. She defines kink as whatever is unusual in its place and time, which also varies greatly across the world. She discussed how novelty inspires our brain's arousal responses & we'd be bored if we were the carbon copy of our partners. She thinks hiding kinks is what leads to boring routine sex and dead bedrooms. She explained the scientific proof that kink can improve your life, increases the feel-good hormones in us, lower stress, increase closeness and improve bonding. There have been actual scientific studies to prove this! She also addressed how to navigate differences in a relationship and how best to prevent contempt and shaming of a partner. Connect with Stefani: www.boundtogethercounseling.com Podcast/conference: https://www.securingsexuality.com Insta: @BoundTogetherCounseling Mastodon: @Tzefira_Neviah@ioc.exchange BlueSky: @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social Book (affiliate link this podcast may receive an advertising fee for purchases made through links, which are at no added cost to the purchaser): https://amzn.to/3qAY3Am With Sprinkles on Top invites readers into playful and sex-positive exploration and affirms that vanilla and kinky people can thrive together in healthy relationships. RUAN'S BOOKS/AUDIOBOOKS: Neighborhood Sex Secrets: Buy links: https://books2read.com/u/3R5MZj https://amzn.to/3CVxzw8 Decadent Erotica: https://open.spotify.com/show/1lBhpFaZB6TPpN1mbeOwdi Ruan's Books, Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Planet X/Podnation Roku tv station: https://player.frontlayer.com/live/fl427618 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

Midlife MILF Next Door Rae Richmond, A Top Creator & OFStar on the Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow podcast. From bored and feeling no joy in a retirement community and still working in the corporate world, Rae had enough. She yearned to explore her life with greater expansion and enjoyment. Now she lives a dual life as a business professional by day, and as a sexy content creator by night. She's living the life of her dreams with her partner Cam and wishes to inspire other women to take their full empowerment by the reigns and live how they want, despite societal, cultural, and religious, restrictions. Follow her story in this podcast episode and find her across multiple websites. Including the steamiest ones! You know what I mean!!! Check her content out and be deliciously satisfied by this beautiful mature vixen! Connect with Rae here: https://linktr.ee/raerichmond777 Listen also on YouTube https://youtu.be/EXuvLVVXXTk ABOUT RAE RICHMOND: Rae Richmond is ready for her close-up: The midlife MILF next door is defying expectations as one of OnlyFans' top 50+ models, and, at long last, this sultry vixen is finally exploring her creative side with gusto after 30 years of diligently working within the buttoned-up confines of the corporate world. The Virginia native grew up "a bit sheltered" in a small town; a wallflower who didn't even go to her high school prom, Richmond worked part-time at a local bakery and dreamed of one day owning a bakery herself. Life had other plans: Richmond married young, had her first child at 21 and found work at a local real estate agency while raising a family. Now that she is single and her children are grown, Richmond says she's "finally exploring different facets of myself" through her onscreen work as an up & coming content creator who exploded on the scene and is now at the top of the platform. In her spare time, Rae enjoys working out, cooking and baking for friends and family, taking her two dogs, Daisy and Dax, on long walks and she is currently writing her autobiography. To learn more about Rae Richmond, visit Linktr.ee/raerichmond777 RUAN'S BOOKS/AUDIOBOOKS: Neighborhood Sex Secrets: affiliate links podcast may earn a small monetary reward for purchases Buy links: https://books2read.com/u/3R5MZj https://amzn.to/3CVxzw8 Request an ARC copy: https://booksirens.com/book/VPKVEZX/SYFXAK9 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsexsecretsarc Ruan's Books, Audiobooks, and FREE ARC for Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

Ep 310: Sex, Culture, Outrageous Adult Film Stories, and Living as a Queer Polyamorous Woman, Ms. Radio Sapphire and Podcaster, Meghan Sapphire. Meet Meghan Sapphire. Black. Queer. Polyam. Mehgan Sapphire is not your average radio personality. Since 2009, when she became the youngest on-air producer ever for Sirius XM, Sapphire has been heard on a wide variety of outlets, including CBS Radio and iHeartMedia, and worked behind the scenes in the adult industry since 2012 when Playboy asked her to be a host and producer. Currently, Sapphire is one of the premiere hosts of the Mōn app, a sex-forward platform for moderated conversations. Her world-famous podcast of 14 years, Sapphire's Earplay, is now in the top 2% of podcasts worldwide and boasts 98,000 listeners each month. In addition, you can hear Sapphire reporting traffic for Real 92.3 in LA and the Black Information Network on iHeartRadio. Spreading sex positivity and creating safe spaces for sex workers, Sapphire continues to be at the forefront of the audio world. Connect with her here: https://linktr.ee/msradiosapphire Our Chat! I loved chatting with Meghan! We talked about how there is "a war on sex" and we see it in culture, social media, the prudishness of some people, harmful narrow-minded opinions, and censorship. We talked about sexual repression and ignorance, biases, and the current state of hardships where not everyone accepts us all. She shared her crazy insane stories working for Playboy as a producer... all the spicy details! Oh, the tortilla story! OMG! The cereal "bowl", I'll never get over that one LOL! She spends her days editing adult films as the quality control editor, using her voice for radio, and as a voiceover artist. She also shared intimate details about her personal and intimate journey being a queer polyamorous person. Ruan's About to be released book: Neighborhood Sex Secrets: affiliate links podcast may earn a small monetary reward for purchases Buy links: https://books2read.com/u/3R5MZj https://amzn.to/3CVxzw8 Request an ARC copy: https://booksirens.com/book/VPKVEZX/SYFXAK9 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsexsecretsarc Ruan's Books and FREE ARC for Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Latest audiobook: She Dominated Him Out of a Speeding Ticket, narrated by Motorboatin' Matt of the 69 Whiskey Podcast and Ruan Willow (Officer Lucy Montoe). https://play.google.com/store/audiobooks/details/Ruan_Willow_She_Dominated_Him_Out_of_a_Speeding_Ti?id=AQAAAEBisSTxVM https://www.chirpbooks.com/audiobooks/she-dominated-him-out-of-a-speeding-ticket-by-ruan-willow Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

FFM Dressing Room Rendezvous Hookup Part 2. Alicia and Cameron are on a mission for exhibitionistic sex at the mall. Alicia is thirsting for her first girl-on-girl action. This thrills Cameron and he's all in. They are really hoping to find a willing third to add to their fun. They plan to visit a lingerie shop and search for someone interested in some dressing room fun. There's this salesgirl who is eyeing them up... Alicia gets what she's been waiting for and more! It's a delicious ending to a hot steamy sexy pleasurable union! This erotic audio story with erotic rom com elements was narrated by Ruan Willow and In My Hands Audio. This audio story will soon be published in the Anthology Decadent Erotica, which will be available on Amazon, Spotify, Barnes and Noble, Audiobooks, Kobo, Google Play, and more! Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

FFM Dressing Room Rendezvous Hookup Part 1. Alicia and Cameron are on a mission for exhibitionistic sex at the mall. Alicia is thirsting for her first girl-on-girl action. This thrills Cameron and he's all in. They are really hoping to find a willing third to add to their fun. They plan to visit a lingerie shop and search for someone interested in some dressing room fun. There's this salesgirl who is eyeing them up... Stay tuned! Part 2 will be released very soon! This audio story was narrated by Ruan Willow and In My Hands Audio. This audio story will soon be published in the Anthology Decadent Erotica, which will be available on Amazon, Spotify, Barnes and Noble, Audiobooks, Kobo, Google Play, and more! Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

Ep 307: Erotic Excerpt The Pussy Photo Shoot from Ruan's Erotic Novel Neighborhood Sex Secrets. Listen as Ruan narrates a portion of Chapter 3 in this podcast episode. Find the erotic romance fiction book on online sellers: Book Blurb: Alexa has missed out for long enough. Life with her ex had stuck her with a vanilla sex life. All the deep, dark fantasies she had hidden away began to bubble up once she became single. Her journey toward sexual freedom skyrocketed when she learned about neighborhood sex secrets at a pool party where she was suddenly calling two neighbors 'Daddy'. As she melted into the secret sex world emerging before her in the seemingly boring square mile of homes, she deliciously found herself assimilating into the hidden underworld of an alternative lifestyle. Her sexual explorations exploded as she let go of traditional societal conventions and chose to take chances. Instead of playing alone in her bedroom, she began to live out the raunchiest depths of her fantasies as her new partners set out to help her fulfill her sexual bucket list. Alexa spread her wings doing taboo acts in real life that, until then, she'd only watched on a screen or lived merely in her dreams. Her Daddies became her guardians, deliverers of her desires, and directors of sexual heights she never thought were possible. But then her new world gets threatened. Someone doesn't want her in the new triad of Daddy, Daddy, and good girl. Not only can the good guys turn bad, but bad guys also come back, and only the protected good girls can withstand the storms. Through it all, she finally understands one thing for sure, she is most definitely a good girl. A Daddy Dom/submissive story of control and submission that flourishes as mutual sexual freedoms. The book contains elements of mild BDSM, multiple partners, exhibitionism, cheating, experimentation, and lots of pleasure. Enjoy a story of fantasy later-in-life exploration into open sexuality. Neighborhood Sex Secrets: affiliate links podcast may earn a small monetary reward for purchases Buy links: https://books2read.com/u/3R5MZj https://amzn.to/3CVxzw8 Request an ARC copy: https://booksirens.com/book/VPKVEZX/SYFXAK9 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsexsecretsarc Ruan's Books and FREE ARC for Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ She Dominated Him Out of a Speeding Ticket, narrated by Motorboatin' Matt of the 69 Whiskey Podcast and Ruan Willow (Officer Lucy Montoe). https://play.google.com/store/audiobooks/details/Ruan_Willow_She_Dominated_Him_Out_of_a_Speeding_Ti?id=AQAAAEBisSTxVM https://www.chirpbooks.com/audiobooks/she-dominated-him-out-of-a-speeding-ticket-by-ruan-willow Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

Ep 306: Empowering and Prioritizing Women Back to the Body™ for Pleasure, Arousal, Wellness, & Orgasms with Pamela Madsen. Pamela Madsen, a Somatic Wellness Educator, with a Master's degree in Education, has worked with hundreds of women and couples on their own personal journey back into their bodies. Pamela founded Back to the Body, Inc and The Back To The Body Method™, now in its twelfth year. A pioneer in fertility and sex advocacy, she also was the Founder and first Executive Director of The American Fertility Association. Pamela is a veteran speaker, educator, and has been a blogger. She is the author of Shameless: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Still Got Home In Time To Cook Dinner (Rodale, January 2011), and was featured in Orgasmic Leadership: Profiting from the Coming Surge in Women's Sexual Health and Wellness by Rachel Braun Scherl. Pamela has been called a "vagipreneur". She is a fearless advocate for women's health and integrated sexuality who leverages her raw honesty and well-informed wit to help strip the stigma from women's wellness, female desire and pleasure, body image, and infertility. Website: https://backtothebody.org/ Study results about Back to the Body: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/14681994.2023.2209516 Shameless book (affiliate link where podcast may receive a small advertising monetary earning with sales at no added cost to buyers) https://amzn.to/3YjH5D7 We chatted about sexological bodywork, and the need for women to learn about arousal, desire, and their bodies. She introduced the idea coined by her author friend where there are "Dragons" at the door for women to deal with in trying to discover their sexuality and explore/succeed in life. She finds women who are in their 40s, 50s, & 60s... professional women both hetero and bisexual women... are exploring and expanding their sexuality, taking their sexuality by the reigns and finally paying attention to themselves... they want it all! And newsflash... "Eroticism doesn't age." She explained how nice it is for women to experiment with a female practitioner in a safe space, how women should stop asking for permission to be who they are and tend to their own needs and wants, and ask for support from their partner instead. Take charge! She strives to help women connect with all parts of themselves, thrive in community with other women, and encourages them to play and explore. Ruan:Ruan on Sapphire's Earplay podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sapphires-earplay/id425291233?i=1000622805333 Neighborhood Sex Secrets: affiliate links Buy links: https://books2read.com/u/3R5MZj https://amzn.to/3CVxzw8 Ruan's books and audiobooks; https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

Ep 304: Daddy and Step Daddy Stories of Power Play Erotica by Author G.G. Wylde. Enjoy the sassy fun hot indulgent, and sometimes a bit taboo, story themes of Daddy and Step Daddy erotica in these stories by G.G. Wylde, published on Medium. Ruan narrates the following stories: Edge of Pleasure The Daddy Club (to halfway through chapter 1, there are more on Medium) She Loved It When Daddy Cultivated Her Garden Before Planting His Seed Find them on her page on Medium at: https://medium.com/@gg.wylde1 Be sure to check out all of G.G. Wylde's hot stories on Medium and in the publication Wylde Erotic Cravings on Medium. Episode sponsors/Listener Deals & Discounts: Ruan is a Manscaped Ambassador get 20% OFF+Free Shipping with promo code RUANWILLOW20 at https://www.manscaped.com/ Ruan is a Kiirro Toys Ambassador get 10% OFF with code RUANWILLOW10 at https://www.kiiroo.com/ Check out Lilli's program that's open now called DATING U: The School for Magnetic Relationships. She's offering a special gift for my community where you can enroll in DATING U with 2 MONTHS free. Click here & enter code (RUAN) to try DATING U for 2 months & opt out whenever you'd like. Neighborhood Sex Secrets: affiliate links podcast may earn a small monetary reward for purchases Buy links: https://books2read.com/u/3R5MZj https://amzn.to/3CVxzw8 A Daddy Dom/submissive story of control and submission that flourishes as mutual sexual freedoms. The book contains elements of mild BDSM, multiple partners, exhibitionism, experimentation, and lots of pleasure. Request an ARC copy: https://booksirens.com/book/VPKVEZX/SYFXAK9 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsexsecretsarc Ruan's Books and FREE ARC for Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Try out Audible Premium Plus and get my audiobooks: https://storyoriginapp.com/linkcollections/a8698595-9658-4270-ba8d-7ea0455c1d1b Check out Ruan's recent interview on Sapphire's Earplay! Find it on podcast apps. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sapphires-earplay/id425291233?i=1000622805333 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

Ep 303: The Sure Thing A Femdom Body Worshipping and Foot Fetish Erotic Story. This erotica short story was written by author Jay Willowbay in response to a picture of my feet I posted on Twitter. He was enamored by my picture and was inspired to write this story, which was very sexy, exciting, and hot to be his muse!!! I'm honored he chose to write this story for me. This story contains femdom control, body worshipping, feet worshipping, humiliation kinks, and juicily drips with lust. I love it! Thank you Jay for sharing and what a good boy for gifting me the use of this story. Enjoy this short story and imagine the joy of being controlled by someone you desire! Jay Willowbay is the creator and editor of the Femdom Trilogy anthology comprising of the following books (affiliate links, if purchases are made via the links, this podcast may make a small commission on sales, which comes at no added cost to the purchaser and goes to help support the podcast. Thank you!): He Will Obey https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/hewillobey The Femdom Coven https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/thefemdomcoven Hearts and Flowers, Whips and Chains https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/heartsandflowerswhipsandchains Episode sponsors/Listener Deals & Discounts: Ruan is a Manscaped Ambassador get 20% OFF+Free Shipping with promo code RUANWILLOW20 at https://www.manscaped.com/ Ruan is a Kiirro Toys Ambassador get 10% OFF with code RUANWILLOW10 at https://www.kiiroo.com/ Neighborhood Sex Secrets: affiliate links podcast may earn a small monetary reward for purchases Buy links: https://books2read.com/u/3R5MZj https://amzn.to/3CVxzw8 A Daddy Dom/submissive story of control and submission that flourishes as mutual sexual freedoms. The book contains elements of mild BDSM, multiple partners, exhibitionism, experimentation, and lots of pleasure. Request an ARC copy: https://booksirens.com/book/VPKVEZX/SYFXAK9 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsexsecretsarc Ruan's Books and FREE ARC for Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Try out Audible Premium Plus and get my audiobooks: https://storyoriginapp.com/linkcollections/a8698595-9658-4270-ba8d-7ea0455c1d1b Find me on Substack: https://ruanwillow.substack.com/ You can follow me for Free on Substack or join my exclusive level. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

Ep 302: How to Open Your Relationship Without Burning It Down, Creative Monogamy, Create the Relationship You Want With Dr. Joli Hamilton. Joli is a relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines, a research psychologist, a TEDx speaker, a best-selling author, an AASECT Certified Sex Educator, and host of the podcast Playing with Fire. We talked about how we all like fire, spice, spark but we need to be smart in how we play with fire. She wants people to choose monogamy and not be trapped by it, or not choose monogamy and define their relationships how they want them, whether that be monogamous or non-monogamous. She helps people define and curate their relationships to be what they want them to be. There are no rules! She focuses on harm reduction, there are many ways to love. She points out that not all desires need to see the light of day, some are private and oftentimes your fantasy life is a way to try out new ideas and test the water before discussing with your partner. She addressed the fact that grief work needs to happen and be done when a couple changes their relationship or decides to try out opening their relationship. Those couples also need to grieve the imagined future. She talks about how people can deal with the question they may have--why am I not enough for you? She graciously pointed out that there are millions of ways to open a relationship and taking a stance that fear may be less important than exploration may be helpful. It's about a negotiated relationship, not a dictatorship or cookie cutter life dictated by culture/society. Denying conversations is to deny really knowing and learning about your partner how they are today, not yesterday, but today. Shame is so challenging to deal with, as are envy and jealousy, but she gives tools around these topics. Abusive relationships need to address abuse first before any other topics, she advises us to decide to work on the relationship or end it. Negotiation is the key to happy relationships and to decide where to be expansive and where to be exclusive creates a relationship co-created by both (or all) members of the relationship. She uses "Growth over comfort" and suggests all people should choose statements to align them and help them process/navigate emotions and feelings. She talked about creative monogamy, defined relationships (which can help people talk about their relationships with others), and how communication now can help us understand our partners as they are now since we all grow and change over time. She shared how to reignite your relationships by thinking about your definition of sex (she has a tool for this), how we should all strive to be a partner who celebrates our partner's weirdness but will also draw lines and boundaries. She touched on why unconditional relationship viewpoints can be dangerous. Connect with Joli here: https://linkin.bio/drjoli_hamilton https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/4Zc9TSb05tb https://www.jolihamilton.com/TYO Ruan's Books and FREE ARC for Audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow