The Hard Or Soft Show

Tahoe and Loon speaks to people in the sex community about things men like and don't like about sex in an effort to learn, educate and broaden mens horizons around exploring themselves and their partners desires, wants, and needs.

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Oct 1, 2026 • 1h 44min

When They're Used To Something BIGGER 😳 I Sex, Intimacy and Compatibility

Nut Navy ROLLLLL CAAALLLLLLLL!!!!!This week on Hard or Soft, Tahoe, Courtney and Yesssterday are back — and somehow we go from Tahoe finding out his daughter is sexually active to wondering why MEN don’t have their own version of an OB/GYN. 😭 First, we get into love and vulnerability. Have you ever wanted to say “I love you” but stopped yourself? Even worse…have you ever finally said it and gotten NOTHING back?! We also talk about the little nonsexual things your partner does that inexplicably turn you on and the different ways people experience intimacy. Are you kinky, sensual, energetic, sexual — or a shapeshifter who needs a little bit of everything depending on the person and the moment? Then things get complicated. Have you ever found your mind wandering to somebody else while you’re being intimate with your partner? What happens when memories from a previous relationship still influence your current experiences? And what exactly is a sexual yearner? We also get into sexual compatibility and the insecurity that can come with dating someone who’s accustomed to something…different than what you’re working with. 😭 Then a woman asks an unexpectedly legitimate question: Why don’t men have a “dick doctor”? Women routinely see OB/GYNs, so where are men supposed to go with questions about sexual and reproductive health? And why are so many men reluctant to go to the doctor in the first place? PLUS — could the entire Hard or Soft / Nut Navy crew be taking a group trip to Hedonism?! 👀 We’ve also got Tweets of the Week, a new entry into the Urban DICKtionary, Courtney’s Kink of the Week, and Yesssterday returns with a Confession of the Week that might be one of the WILDEST we’ve gotten yet. And of course, we finish with The Hard & The Soft: THE HARD: Eye contact and connection during intimacy. 👀 THE SOFT: Ladies…presentation matters. 😂 Love, fantasies, intimacy, sexual compatibility, men’s health and entirely too much information. Welcome back to Hard or Soft.Socials:Courtney@Courtney_Shav on InstagramTahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and InstagramYessssterday@Yesssterday on Instagram and TwitterVisit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad freeVisit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor.Ads:GetTheButters Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOWVisit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoirErotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off)Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshowEmail us at [email protected] and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

Sep 23, 2026 • 1h 51min

How To Ride, Survive a Bad Sex Life And Keep The Spark Alive Feat @FantasyFitnessMD

Nut Navy ROLLLLLL CAAALLLLLL!!!!!This week on Hard or Soft, we’re joined by Toni (@fantasyfitnessmd) of Fantasy Fitness, and somehow we manage to turn relationship advice, sexual chemistry and riding lessons into one completely unhinged conversation. 😂 We start with something every long-term couple eventually has to deal with: How do you keep conflict from destroying the sexual attraction you have for your partner? And what happens when you’re with somebody whose sex drive is MUCH higher than yours? Then Toni tells us the unbelievable story of why TWO of her boyfriends decided to break up with her after they went to jail. Apparently incarceration had them doing some serious relationship reflection. 😂 From there, Toni explains how casually teaching friends bedroom techniques eventually turned into an actual Fantasy Fitness class, why people sign up, and what they’re hoping to learn. We also talk about building anticipation with your partner throughout the day, mismatched sexual desire, how much recovery time people really need between rounds, and whether bad sex is enough reason to GHOST somebody afterward. The crew also imagines what would happen if we all became OnlyFans creators and had to choose our own niche. Plus, there’s a new use for Meta glasses that nobody at Meta had in mind, Yesssterday introduces us to another one of his…creative techniques, and Tahoe has to answer for possibly ruining his friend’s experience by deciding to join the festivities. Toni also talks about the confidence and motivations that shaped her approach to intimacy, while the crew gets into communication, boundaries and what partners actually enjoy in the bedroom. A listener writes in to tell us about a “little” obsession of his.. And of course, Courtney is back with Kink of the Week. Relationship problems, sexual confidence, Fantasy Fitness, questionable decisions and entirely too much information. Welcome back to Hard or Soft.Socials:Toni@FantasyFitnessMD on InstagramHead to www.RidingForRookies.com to book a slot at one of Toni's Riding classesCourtney@Courtney_Shav on InstagramTahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and InstagramYessssterday@Yesssterday on Instagram and TwitterVisit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad freeVisit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor.Ads:Drive BoostGo to VB.Health and use code HARDORSOFT for 10% offGetTheButters Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOWVisit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoirErotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off)Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshowEmail us at [email protected] and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

Sep 16, 2026 • 2h 16min

BDSM, Kink & Open Relationships- The Rules Nobody Teaches You

Nut Navy ROLLLLL CAAALLLLL!!!!!!!This week on Hard or Soft, we’re joined by Dre for a deep dive into BDSM, kink culture, play parties, relationships and the history behind a community that a lot of people participate in — but may not fully understand. And somehow we start with Dre explaining why he’s out here using BOXING GLOVES to massage booty. 😂 From there, Dre takes us into the world of rope and body suspension, explaining the different levels of suspension, why properly distributing someone’s weight matters, and what draws people to the experience in the first place. Then we get into the HISTORY. Dre breaks down the roots of leather culture, BDSM and kink, including the influence of LGBTQ+ communities on the culture that exists today. We discuss why some longtime members of those communities are critical of a newer generation entering kink spaces, hosting events and adopting practices without learning the history, traditions and responsibilities that came before them. Then we bring everything back to relationships. Tahoe and Dre explain why they’ve chosen not to sexually engage with attendees while they’re hosting play parties. We talk about the best way to tell your partner you’re interested in someone else at a party, what happens when your kinks DON’T match your partner’s, and how to respectfully approach a couple when you’re interested in connecting with one of them. And then comes the conversation a lot of men aren’t prepared to have: How do men navigate their partners having other male partners? We get into jealousy, communication, boundaries, multiple relationship dynamics outside of a primary partnership, and whether wanting freedom for yourself means being prepared to give your partner that same freedom. This isn’t just a conversation about what people do in kink spaces — it’s about understanding the culture, communication, consent and history behind them. Welcome back to Hard or Soft.Socials:Dre@BeatsByDre on FetlifeGo to @HausofBliss on Instagram for event detailsCourtney@Courtney_Shav on InstagramTahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and InstagramYessssterday@Yesssterday on Instagram and TwitterVisit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad freeVisit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor.Ads:Soaking WetGo to SoakingWet.com and use code HARDORSOFT for 10% offGetTheButters Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOWVisit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoirErotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off)Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshowEmail us at [email protected] and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

Sep 9, 2026 • 1h 46min

What Makes Someone REALLY Good In Bed? Confidence, Anxiety & Communication Feat @SkipFromBK

Nut Navy ROLLLLLLL CALLLLLL!!!!!!!!This week on Hard or Soft, Courtney gets an unexpected business opportunity when a fan propositions her for feet pictures — and somehow that’s only the BEGINNING of where this episode goes. We get into why American women seem to love British men, which leads Tahoe, Yesssterday and Skip to announce their upcoming trip to London to find out whether English women have that same energy for American men. Then we’re talking about what actually makes someone GOOD in the bedroom. How soon should you start discussing sex with someone you’re dating? Why do nerds have a reputation for being surprisingly great lovers? And could something as simple as being able to admit when you’re wrong actually make you better in bed? We also have a real conversation about male performance anxiety and how anxiety can affect the way men physically show up in sexual and play-party environments. Skip opens up about how becoming part of the Hard or Soft / Nut Navy community has helped increase his confidence, and the crew discusses why some women can be so judgmental about men using sexual performance enhancements. Plus, we’re breaking down bedroom communication, sex positions that look like WAY more work than fun, Tahoe somehow ends up with Skip as his “astral penis,” and Skip tells us exactly what he likes — and doesn’t like — in the bedroom. Courtney returns with Kink of the Week, Yesssterday has a brand-new listener confession, and Tahoe makes an important announcement regarding Loon’s departure from Hard or Soft. Funny, informative, vulnerable and completely inappropriate in all the ways you’ve come to expect from Hard or Soft. Welcome back to the Nut Navy.Socials:Skip@SkipFromBK on all socialsTahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and InstagramYessssterday@Yesssterday on Instagram and TwitterVisit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad freeVisit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor.Ads:LoadBoostVisit Loadboost.com and use code HARDORSOFT to get 10% offGetTheButters Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOWVisit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoirErotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off)Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshowEmail us at [email protected] and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

Sep 2, 2026 • 1h 35min

Our Traumas Can Determine Our Kinks Feat Daddy Doyenne

Nut Navy ROLLLLLLL CAAALLLLLL!!!!!!!!This week Tahoe and Yesssterday sit with lifestyle domme and kink educator Daddy Doyenne to talk why they dont date straight men, the uncomfortablity Tahoe feels as a straight man being tip toeing around LGBTQIA and Cis womens traumas, should straight ppl and LGBQTIA segregate to maintain the peace, the origin of Daddys "demon" persona, what Daddys experience growing up was like and whather her family was supportive of it, establishing boundaries and knowing when to let ppl go, how speaking about these topics lets people know its ok to live in their truths and much more!! ENJOY!Socials:Daddy [email protected] on Instagram@Daddy_Doyenne on TwitterDaddyDoyenne.comTahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and InstagramYessssterday@Yesssterday on Instagram and TwitterVisit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad freeVisit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor.Ads:GetTheButters Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOWVisit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoirErotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off)Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshowEmail us at [email protected] and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

Aug 27, 2026 • 1h 41min

Great Sex vs Sexual Chemistry: What's The Difference? I Cheating, Pleasure & Bedroom Confessions Feat Kelly Moonstone

Nut Navy ROLLLL CAAAALLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!This week on Hard or Soft, music artist and producer Kelly Moonstone joins the crew for a completely shameless conversation about pleasure, cheating, sexual chemistry and what men and women REALLY expect from each other in the bedroom. Why do some people feel guilty after pleasuring themselves? And we tackle an even crazier question: Can cheating ever actually SAVE a relationship? Is infidelity always the beginning of the end, or can what happens afterward expose problems a couple needed to confront? Then it’s confession time: What’s something you did because you were horny that you had absolutely NO business doing? 😂 We also break down the difference between great sex and genuine sexual chemistry—because they’re definitely not always the same thing. Then the men turn the conversation toward women: What are five things women can do to be better in the bedroom? And why do some women expect men to bring their A-game sexually without putting that same level of effort into pleasing their partner? Kelly Moonstone joins us for all of it as we talk pleasure, attraction, effort, chemistry, cheating and the things people don’t always admit about their sex lives. Welcome to Hard or Soft—where nothing about sex and relationships is off limits.ENJOY!!Tickets for our Halloween party are NOW ON SALE!!! Email us at [email protected] to request the ticket link IF you have already been vetted or go to TheHardorSoftShow.com and fill out the vetting formSocials:Kelly@KellyMoonStone on InstagramCourtney@Courtney_Shav on InstagramTahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and InstagramYessssterday@Yesssterday on Instagram and TwitterVisit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad freeVisit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor.Ads:Drive BoostVisit VB.Health and use code HARDORSOFT for 10% offGetTheButters Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOWVisit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoirErotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off)Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshowEmail us at [email protected] and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

Aug 20, 2026 • 1h 40min

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