

The Connected Life
Justin and Abi Stumvoll
The Connected Life is a thought-provoking conversation about all the beautiful and messy ups and downs of life. Join Life Consultants Justin & Abi Stumvoll as they share vulnerable stories and practical wisdom that will lead you on a journey of connecting with yourself, others, and the world right in front of you. Their authentic, no-BS style will make you laugh, challenge you to dig deep, face your fears, and inspire you to love yourself and others more.
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Aug 15, 2022 • 1h 7min
189: Secrets to Romantic Attraction
Romantic relationships are rooted in attraction. For many couples it's easy to find themselves slipping in and out of attraction for each other. It's easy to feel scared of connection if we believe attraction is just an emotion you have or don't have, but what if it's much more than that. In this episode Justin and Abi shatter some of the mystery that shrouds romantic attraction. They break down reasons why people fall in and out of attraction and highlight simple, yet powerful solutions to make yourself more attractive to a partner, while igniting attraction for them. If you're wanting a more connected and passionate relationship, this episode will give you the opportunity to create the romantic partnership you've always desired! Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Aug 8, 2022 • 1h 15min
188: Finding Hope Beyond Healing
Tragedy, trauma, and loss can leave us feeling like we're living a life of deficit. It's easy to feel broken beyond repair and living a "normal" existence feels like nothing more than a dream for another lifetime. But what if it was possible to redeem what was lost while creating a thriving lifestyle that replicates your success? In this episode Justin is joined by his friend and fellow Life Consultant Tyler Leifeste. Tyler opens up about the death of his dad at an early age and the debilitating affects of that loss on his life. Together they discuss the intimate three and half year journey they shared and the challenges they faced as Justin dug in and supported Tyler through the healing process. With hope and joy, Tyler shares about his way out of his darkness into vibrant life and how he turned his tragedy into triumph as a consultant helping others find the restoration they long for. If you want a dose of hope for life beyond healing, this episode will inspire you to dream for possibilities that far outreach just getting better! Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Aug 1, 2022 • 1h 4min
187: Ownership: The Foundation to Reconnection
Disconnection can be rough, especially in relationships with years of history. For a lot of people it seems easier to sweep all the messiness under a rug. Eventually, however, the rug isn't big enough to hide the things we would rather ignore. When it comes time to get honest with ourselves, and the ones we love, it can feel impossible to clean up years of denying the reality of our circumstances. But, what if there is a foundation to rebuild a relationship better than before? In part two of this two part episode, Jonny and Pietze share about their attachment styles and how their lack of understanding of each other built barriers throughout the years. They expose some of their deepest fears that led to a chasm of disconnection. Jonny talks about his new found capacity to be a rock in the relationship, and together they describe how the humility of taking ownership was the bedrock for restoring connection better than ever before. If you've had a long term relationship, or friendship, this conversation will ignite hope, care, love, and understanding for areas in you connection that you didn't know you needed. Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Jul 25, 2022 • 1h 5min
186: The Path to Remembering Who We Are
Life can have a way of of bogging us down and leaving us feeling like the best of who we are is buried in the past. Through the messiness we experience, pain and loss have a way of causing us to forget the innocence, joy, and limitless perspective we once held in our youth. But what if there was a map that could not only restore us to our most authentic self, but it could show us a way to becoming who we were designed to be? In part one of this two part episode Pietze and Jonny, Abi's life-long bestie and her husband, join the conversation. Jonny shares his life changing epiphany about how he had lost the best parts of himself in the past. Through healthy introspection Jonny breaks down how this moment of enlightenment catapulted himself and his marriage into a new trajectory. In part 2 of this two part series you'll hear how Jonny's journey not only led to a more authentic expression of who he is, but how this altered their sex life in the best ways possible. If you're looking to get inspired about what life and relationships could really be like, this episode is for you! Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Jul 18, 2022 • 1h 6min
185: Having Successful Conflict
Conflict in relationships can be really messy. Sometimes it can be so difficult that circumstances leave the relationship beyond repair. But, what if conflict was an invitation to heal your past as much as the present? In this episode Abi sits down with her life-long best friend Pietze. Together they openly discuss a recent conflict they had that could've escalated to epic proportions without the proper tools. Fortunately for them it didn't. Through self-awareness, an understanding of shame and emotions paved the way for emotional repair that resolved the present while healing the past. If you've ever been hesitant about having conflict in your life, this episode will not only give you confidence to face difficulties head on, but it will give you hope for unresolved pain from your past. Don't miss this must listen to episode! Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Jul 11, 2022 • 1h 17min
184: Resolving Pain With a Father: A Live Healing Experience
One of the most common messages a man can inadvertently take from their father is the belief that we're only valuable when we perform well. Through even the best intentions this lopsided message can leave a child confused about love even into adulthood. Confronting our pain with a father can feel crippling and paralyzing. But what if the mere acknowledgement of a problem could catapult a willing person into the freedom they always hoped for? In this episode Justin and Abi are joined by Life Consulting Master Class student Dave. Dave opens up about the trials and tribulations he's faced walking away from the family business and the explosion of emotions that have followed. He shares about the expectations he couldn't live up to and the eye opening season that left him facing emotions he never knew he had. Dave bravely drops his guard and allows the Stumvolls to join him in a healing journey, reframing the way he sees himself and his father forever. If you've ever wondered what it looks like to practically heal from wounds in your past, you won't want to miss this LIVE healing experience. Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Jul 4, 2022 • 1h 22min
183: Repair: Creating an Atmosphere of Love
Confrontation with people we deeply care about can feel high stakes to say the least. In our anxiety it's easy to unintentionally communicate in ways that suck the sense of love right out the room. But what if the love we have for others can be felt and leave a lasting impact in the midst of incredibly honest conversations? In part two of this mini series Abi and Pietze continue the conversation with Pietze's parents, Doug and Janice. Together they talk about the powerful affects of creating an atmosphere of love free from blame and accusation. They share how acknowledging their triggers, and taking ownership for their own emotions turned the tide in how they relate. Through vulnerability they paint a picture of how they love one another and what their relationship looks like moving forward. If you're wanting hope for deeper connections and strength to live a lifestyle of honesty, this episode will leave you inspired to take brave leaps like never before! Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Jun 27, 2022 • 1h 2min
182: The Messy Journey to Repair
Whether we like to admit it or not, family matters to all of us and being honest with them can be difficult to say the least. Working through relational problems with our family can sometimes feel impossible. But, what if there are hopeful strategies that can deeply impact how we repair connection with each other? In part one of this two part episode, Abi and her long time best friend, Pietze, sit down with Pietze's parents to discuss their road to repair. Together the gang explores some of the more difficult parts of their past, the messes that were made seeking healing, and the reality of everyone's intentions along the way. If you need repair in your family, have lost hope for connection, or you're just looking for greater compassion and understanding for yourself and the people that matter the most, this episode will not disappoint! Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Jun 20, 2022 • 1h 12min
181: What Am I Feeling?
Masculinity sometimes has a way of getting a bum wrap for not caring or not being emotionally connected. For many men survival has been in learning how to shut up, keep your head down, and moving forward. More often than not, intimate relationships such as marriage, friendship, and being a father, have a way of exposing undeveloped emotional tools and lack of self-awareness. But does it really mean that men just don't care? In this episode Justin is joined by his good friend Jonny Duffield and their special guest Nathan. Nathan opens up about his life of logic, the judgment he held towards emotions, and the painful reality of why he couldn't access emotions that he inherited from his childhood. Together they dispel the myths about men and their emotions, while shedding light on reasons why they don't share their feelings. Nathan's story will give hope to men and women alike that even the most shut down person can find their way back to themselves and develop the language necessary to share about it with the world. Also, enrollment for The Pathway to Freedom 2022 is NOW LIVE! Head to https://justinandabi.com/courses/the-pathway-to-freedom/ to get enrolled and learn more!

Jun 13, 2022 • 1h 17min
180: Rejection and Redemption: A Live Healing Experience
Overcoming the loss of anything that matters to us can be incredibly difficult, especially when we've experienced loss before. Separating the past from the present can seem almost impossible when navigating our grief. But what if there is a path to clarity that can resolve the past and bring compassion to the present? In this episode Abi and her best friend Pietze sit down with special guest Shanna to navigate the freeze response Shanna recently had around her family. Shanna vulnerably shares her history of pain from disconnection in relationships and allows Abi and Pietze to participate in the repair process. Shanna's story is a story of miraculous redemption. Her life will inspire and give hope to anyone that is faced with overcoming the messiness of life. Don't miss out on this healing episode as it happens in real time!


