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Dan Savage
Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
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Nov 21, 2017 • 49min
Savage Love Episode 578
A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile? A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. Should she send them to him? On the Magnum, listen in on our live show in Vancouver with Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity." Dan and Esther take long hard look at the history of human relationships and our culture's obsession with monogamy. YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED, MONOGAMY. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by , an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first order by going to .

Nov 14, 2017 • 46min
Savage Love Episode 577
It appears we have reached a cultural moment when we need "The Ten Dick Commandments." Dan chisels a few in the tablet. Gather round the circle listeners, as Dan invokes the serenity prayer to council a woman who is being trolled by her neighbor's WiFi network name. A trans man who has not yet begun his transition, is angry and frustrated that he can't find any gay men who are interested in him. Buck Angel, (a.k.a the Man with a Pussy) swoops in to give much-needed, rational perspective. On the Magnum: Get Thee to a Therapist, Go. A treasure trove of callers who perhaps could use the services of an actual professional. Or not. Whatever. Hey did you hear? We made 's list of the top 50 podcasts "right now." So there's that. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.

Nov 7, 2017 • 46min
Savage Love Episode 576
Fire up a giant J-bone, brothers and sisters cuz it's the WEED EPISODE. With professional marijuana enthusiast David Schmader -author of "Weed: A User's Guide." David joined us in our studio to talk about how marijuana can enhance sex, what strains are the sexiest, what to do if you NEED marijuana to get off, and more. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first order by going to . This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".

Oct 31, 2017 • 50min
Savage Love Episode 575
A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together as a couple. But her husband gets racked with guilt each time, and runs to tell his priest ALL ABOUT IT. What's his damage? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Mayor Betsy Hodges of Minneapolis about being on the vanguard of urban resistance. Keep fightin' Betsy! And, are you into having women burp in your mouth? This guy is... 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to Zeel.com and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/SAVAGE to start your free trial today.

Oct 24, 2017 • 55min
Savage Love Episode 574
A married woman is totally accepting of her husband's newfound love of cross-dressing. But! She wishes he wouldn't borrow HER clothes. Dan interviews high powered lawyer Carrie Goldberg about her work prosecuting online harassers, revenge pornography and domestic violence abusers. She is a hero. On the Magnum, how can a woman stop masturbating to thoughts of her ex? Finally, a father worries that his children's idea to go as "gay rights" for Halloween might be...misguided? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get $30 off your first meal by going to . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to .

Oct 17, 2017 • 54min
Savage Love Episode 573
A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years. But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it wrong? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Carsie Blanton, creator of a dirty, nasty, filthy card game that sounds really fun. Check it out at www.thefingtruth.com. And, a divorced man finds he keeps dating women who say they are down for casual relationships, but when push comes to shove, they are really playing "the long game." 206-302-2064 This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Winc- the wine club that helps you to find wines you'll love. Get $20 OFF your first order when you go to .

Oct 10, 2017 • 51min
Savage Love Episode 572
The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a documentary about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On the Magnum, a woman's male co-worker is getting pimped out against his will by his boyfriend. Dan brings on sex worker rights activist Mistress Matisse to discuss how to support the lad. And, a man in a 7-year triad, fears he will soon be replaced. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code savagelove. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

Oct 3, 2017 • 52min
Savage Love Episode 571
Darling? Whatever shall we do at our coming trip to the Bondage Bed & Breakfast? A married woman gets busted by her husband for camming. She doesn't consider it cheating, and it gets her so, so horny. How can she reconcile with her husband and still get her camming rocks off? On the magnum, Dan brings back our regular guest, Erika Moen to go over a HEAVY sex toy you all should add to your arsenal. And, a man's sister is a former prison guard who started dating one of the inmates. He doesn't seem like the best person, and the caller is very worried about what will happens we he gets out. Yikes. This episode is brought to you by Blinkist: over 2,000 of the best-selling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to to start your free trial today. This podcast is also brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at .

Sep 26, 2017 • 48min
Savage Love Episode 570
A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Would it be petty to mute her for a while? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." And, a woman's husband suddenly has a glamorous job with lots of fancy perks! She has been the bread-winner all this time, and feels resentful of all the fun her gets to have. How can she overcome these nasty feelings? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to . Thanks to Bombfell for supporting Savage Lovecast. Bombfell is an online personal styling service for men that helps find the right clothes for you. Get $25 off your first purchase at .

Sep 19, 2017 • 58min
Savage Love Episode 569
This show begins and ends with circumcision. A woman is dating her first uncut man and wonders if Dan has any... tips. Then, at the end of the Magnum, an uncut man who is into "pig play" (that's dick-stank- you're welcome,) wonders if he should get himself an adult circumcision. So there's that to ponder. A high school teacher and her pal wonder why the kids are so into hickeys. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Mark Joseph Stern, about the infuriating phenomenon of left wing anti-semitism. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a 10% discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Zeel- the best way to find top local, licensed and pre-screened massage therapists, to come to your home, anytime. Go to and get $25 off your first massage by using the promo code SAVAGE at checkout.